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little bert waving the love of his life mary poppins goodbye 

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cuddling would be cool right now

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My only goal for 2015 is to be happy

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#sassoff

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Jesus sat down and ate with sinners, prostitutes and tax-collectors, did he not?

Doesn’t mean he approved of what they were doing, but it also didn’t keep Him from loving them.

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Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.

The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com

I love this post SO MUCH. 

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This is absofuckinglutely true. Predators deliberately find the women they can manipulate out of a “no” in order to pick the most vulnerable women to coerce. If you see a guy doing this to someone else, step the fuck in. Amplify her “no” if you see her struggling to assert herself to someone pushy.

I’ve done this for a total stranger. When I said “I think she said no” he started acting sort of aggressive and told me to mind my own business, but she was looking at me with panic and when I asked if she knew him she said no. After it was clear I wasn’t budging he left, and after he left she told me she had been uncomfortable and didn’t know what to do, and that he’d grabbed her inappropriately.

Protect each other. Not everyone is able to voice a “no” firmly and repeatedly. Learn the skill and protect others who are still learning it.

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Remember it’s not rude to say no to force feeding because that’s what it is.

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Winter in New York by Carin Olsson

Please don’t delete the link to the photographers/artists, thanks!

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i never understood how in movies the parents didnt believe in Santa but he was actually real like who the fuck did the parents think put the presents under the tree like what

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When i was little i wanted to grow up to be a disney princess but im pretty sure i just became Yzma 

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Within the past few days I've been told everything I've done wrong in the last three years. And while it's sad and exhausting, it was necessary. All this time I've tried to be the best friend possible, but I ended up being the worst. I forced people to call me their best friend when I was not, I tried to force people to love me, I've been mean and cruel and nothing I have done is okay. It amazes me that I am not completely alone. I'm unhappy and so is everyone else around me. Because of me. And I don't know how to change this. I don't know how to change myself. And this is killing me.

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I’m so impressed by girls who can put together a really cute outfit and do their hair and makeup really nice every single day like if I manage to shower and eat breakfast it’s a victory

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this is an appreciation post for anyone who has ever tolerated me

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And I’m still hurting.

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Penguin falls down resulting in best sound ever [x]