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it’s fine. in my 30s loads of people will get me

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These are so beautiful.

Credit goes to the wonderful artist: ChibiGreen

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STOP! before you decide you are irretrievably doomed, try one of the following options:

transition

bdsm

iron supplements

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once you stop caring about looking embarrassing, looking "like an idiot", looking stupid, and looking cringe, you get your life back. i'm saying this as a PTSD survivor with Dissociative Identity Disorder and severe generalized anxiety, not a neurotypical writing hokey fake positivity posts. i've been in these trenches for decades. i know what it feels like to constantly worry about how everyone else is looking at you and thinking about you. i wasn't living. i wasn't interacting with my life. i wasn't interacting with the real versions of people who were living and breathing all around me.

worrying about how other people perceive you is not living your life. you're living in a constructed version of reality that only exists in your head. the more you interact with it, the less you interact with the real, breathing world that is evolving and changing around you. we experience millions, if not billions of different and unique experiences throughout our lifetimes. every waking moment is a new experience waiting to be acknowledged and interacted with. you will never truly know how someone feels until you ask them- but the big question here is why does that matter to you?

someone else's feelings are theirs. they are deeply personal and have nothing to do with your own feelings. someone else's feelings do not change or overwrite your own. they are not a reflection of who you actually are. everyone has a different interpretation of people, events, and things. everyone. one person may think what you did was embarrassing, the person next to them may not have even noticed what you did or said, and the person next to them might have thought what you did was cool or even just normal. you don't know how they feel unless they tell you. let go of it. don't fuss over it.

worry about your life- your real life. the one you can impact and change, not the one that only exists inside of your own head. don't hold yourself back over potential thoughts and feelings. other people's thoughts are their own. they're allowed to have them. you can't turn people into thought criminals like that. live your life. you have to choose to move on in order to actually do so. it doesn't just come to you- anxiety doesn't just go away on its own. you have to choose to take these steps toward bettering your life. and you will thank yourself. trust me. it will be worth it.

your life is worth living, experiencing, and enjoying. you deserve a life that isn't cowering in fear.

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i think it’s interesting how that ‘if the [trans woman] doesn’t feel loved, she will leave’ thing from that inane vice article got spread around on here because maybe it was different in the 2000s in those scenes but from what i’ve witnessed trans women are generally the most willing to tolerate friction and mistreatment for scraps of social involvement even when they don’t have to

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Who's better dressed, Laurantis or Leavanny?

WHY the FUCK are we pitting two bad bitches against each other

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I really feel like there's a parallel between

people uncomfortable with fatness saying "overweight" as a euphemism, which avoids just saying "fat" by instead implying there is a "correct" weight which someone is deviating from, which is itself anti-fat

people uncomfortable with transness using [sexgender + body] phrasing as a euphemism (e.g. "male bodies" instead of "penis" or "female bodies" instead of "breasts" or whatever), which avoids just naming body parts by instead implying there is a "correct" assemblage of traits which someone is deviating from, which is itself anti-trans

the euphemism is for the benefit of the speaker, because they are uncomfortable with someone's body. they portray it as politeness, but it's extremely rude.

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The American consumer doesn’t actually want trucks and cars that are huge enough that you can’t see a six foot tall person over the hood. They make vehicles that big now to avoid environmental regulations related to engine efficiency

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Listen this is all really trivial discourse but it's really weird how I genuinely never said "transandrophobia isn't real" and yet I still got lumped in with the general sentiment of it

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Love the sight of a random "cis guy" with classic online signs of noncommittal identity and presentation increasingly showing up in my notifications on a website, like a small scared animal slowly and cautiously approaching your outstretched hand with food in it, testing if it's safe to take the offer. Love seeing the following list slowly include more of my trans friends. It's like. Yes, it's safe, you're welcome here

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i know all about allistic people. they really love loud sudden noises and bad textures

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Real screenshot

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