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I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 14 years of dominating my Subs ….. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.

This when it was just 4 years of dominating my bf when I started dominating 🥰

Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.

Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, let’s get to it!

approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.

DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION

This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.

Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:

High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.

Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc. Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.

* Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.

* Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.

* French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I'll go into later.

* Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.

* Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you've got a great outfit for lounging around the house.

* Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.

* Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!

* Women's bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.

* Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!

Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as dearadina as possible. penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there's some physical to it as well, but just being forced to "deal" with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:

• Deepthroat training. Let's eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon.

Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he's not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it.

Don't be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he'll be drooling all over himself soon enough.

Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don't be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he'll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn't fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he's going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he's going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his nave a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That's OK. Don't be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate ("yeah, show me your tongue" "hands behind your back and open wide bitch" "give me that throat"

"that's a good little cocksucker")

EDIT: I've received several questions about this point.

I'll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I'm not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it's meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he's on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don't let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won't get there without proper training.

• Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. eventually your goal should be forceful pounding.

Make him feel what its like to really get fucked.

While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn't have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.

* Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.

* Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I've fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,

Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I'll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he's completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.

Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I'll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I'll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)

Spitting. We're getting a little more extreme here.

Don't be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he's making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face.

He'll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you're criticizing his performance to spit in his face.

Golden showers. We haven't worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don't know if I want to.

Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.

Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you're worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) | really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1.

You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.

1. You degrading him.

* Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.

* Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.

* Combine insults. Example: "You're a little limp dick cocksucker." "You're a little cum eating bitch, aren't you?"

* Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying "get on your knees and suck my dick", say "Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch." Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, "Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked." Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say "get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit".

* Tell him what you're going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you're going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.

* Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don't be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn't licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.

* 1. Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.

* • Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn't even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don't believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.

* Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn't take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn't get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn't).

* Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.

* Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he's never told anyone before. (He'll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)

* Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn't involve violating other people Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn't anyone around, I'll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.

* Wearing plugs or other toys in public.

And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do......

Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he's eating it or its going on his face. I don't care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn't want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat.

There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he's going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he's absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:

* Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.

* Make him have a ruined orgasm (I'll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn't a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.

* If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.

* While he's wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.

* Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.

* Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.

* However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I'll have him "play" with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.

* EDIT: Ladies, he's going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I'll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won't want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn't get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I'll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, P'lllet go and watch. I'll wait about 20 seconds and ……

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Kinky Would You Rathers

Would you rather be given an enema or have a urethral sound used on you?

Would you rather give oral while being fucked or receive oral while being whipped?

(Female) Would you rather sleep with a vibrator in both holes or with nipple clamps suspended the the ceiling so you can’t roll over?

(Male) Would you rather sleep with a vibrator in your ass and a vibrating cock ring on or with nipple clamps suspended the the ceiling so you can’t roll over?

Would you rather be bent over and fucked or pushed against a wall and fucked?

Would you rather be fucked by five people continually all night or be denied any sexual action for a month?

(Female) Would you rather use a dildo or your fingers to give yourself an orgasm?

(Male) Would you rather use a pocket pussy or your hands to make yourself cum?

Would you rather wear a diaper or have to ask to go to the bathroom every time?

Would you rather have anal beads or nipple clamps used on you?

Have your partner tease you all over your body with hot wax or ice cubes?

Would you rather only ever have sex in a bed or only be able to have sex anywhere but a bed?

Would you rather sleep in a cage or chained to the side of a bed.

Would you rather never give oral again or never receive oral again?

Would you rather spend a day sat on a fat dildo or a day in suspension?

Would you rather be blindfolded or gagged?

Would you rather wear nipple clamps or clamps on the tip of your cock?

Would you rather wear nipple clamps or a clamp on your clit?

Would you rather be hit a few times with a cane or lots of times with a paddle?

Would you rather be put in predicament bondage for an hour or light bondage for 5?

Would you rather be edged ten times or have two ruined orgasms?

Would you rather spend the day with a large almost painful plug in your ass or two with a small one that you have to edge yourself with every time you use the restroom?

(Males) Would you rather be led around on a leash connected to a locking butt-plug or to a cock and ball ring?

(Females) Would you rather be led around on a leash connected to a locking butt-plug or to a clover clamp on your clit

Would you rather have two cocks up your ass or one in your ass and one in your mouth?

Would you rather be milked dry then given a dry orgasm or be allowed two ruined ones?

Would you rather be denied an orgasm or be given so many it hurts?

(Male) Would you rather wear a cock ring and a vibrating buttplug for an hour without being allowed to cum, or a cock ring and large, long buttplug that stroked your prostate for an hour without being allowed to cum?

(Female) Would you rather have a butt plug and a dildo inserted for a 3 hours without being able to cum or vibrating ones in for an hour without being able to cum?

Would you rather wear a breast harness or a crotch rope?

Would you rather have a small soapy enema or a large plain one?

Would you rather have ginger placed in your ass or tiger balm on your gentiles?

(Female) Would you rather be hit on your anus or your clit?

Would you rather be zapped with a wand or touched with stinging nettles?

Would you rather spit or swallow cum?

(Male) Would you rather have your balls stretched or crushed?

Would you rather be made to wear ballet heels all the time or to crawl all the time?

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Night of fun with @mistr3ssk 😈

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Ten Rules for a Successful Mistress

Control the orgasm, and you control the male.

To make any fantasy work, you must build suspense in your submissive.

Stimulation plus frustration equals service and submission.

Every submissive will try to test the limits of your Rule. Never let him get away with anything. He needs you to be both firm and consistent.

Physical pain alone cannot satisfy a submissive (a masochist, yes).

The more aroused your submissive is, the more pain he can take.

The more effective your psychological Dominance, the less pain you will need to inflict to control and satisfy your submissive.

All punishment is a balance between intensity and duration. More intense pain should last less time. If you want to prolong the punishment, the less intense the stimulation.

Submission increases with time. As long as you maintain firm control, the longer a session lasts, the more thoroughly submissive your male will become.

Your control and pleasure are inextricably intertwined with the submission and pleasure.

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Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”. Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures. They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom. Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”. With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner. Is this really true, though? Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”? Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night. While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually. This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive. So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”. We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why? Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there. So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy �� we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”. Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women. Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered. Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy. It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy. It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again. Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”. I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t. That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us. These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”. It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways. Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”. Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge. This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation. Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc. These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here… The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you. His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed. I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were. I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.

We’re women. We are strong and capable and we are smart. And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be. Where do we want to be? We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

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