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Fetal skeleton and snake ritual dagger in bronze.

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“Women don’t have rights in Iran, they are homophobic in Iran!”

A black woman’s dying body was used to incubate a fetus because the state said so and the Supreme Court, regurgitating debunked talking points, ruled that trans kids could be denied gender affirming care that is proven to save lives. Does that justify a foreign power bombing New Jersey indiscriminately? Like some of y’all don’t give a fuck about LGBTQ Iranians or women in that country because I never saw a people get free through just having their shit blown up

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I’m Amir, just 12 years old — but life in Gaza made me grow up too fast. I no longer dream of toys or school… I only dream of bread and safety.

The war destroyed our home. We sleep hungry. We wake up afraid. And though I’m just a child, I carry the responsibility of caring for my whole family.

Please… share my voice. Let the world see us. A little compassion, a small donation — it could mean food for my siblings. It could mean hope.

✅Vetted by @nabulsi, @el-shab-hussien, my number verified on the list is ( #209 ) Here

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you say "we can't concretely label historical figures as gay or trans because those labels are part of our very specific contemporary culture and wouldn't have lined up with how people in the past understood themselves" and no one bats and eyelid. you say "for those same reasons, we also can't say that historical figures were straight or cis by our standards" and society goes wild.

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“i asked chatgpt” “i asked grok” okay and i asked louis de pointe du lac if he ate the baby

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sorry to say this but this "bisexual women who date men are not queer enough" narrative is getting really fucking old, alright? I don't give a flying shit about Jojo Siwa and Billie Eilish however the fuck you spell her name but i don't want to hear another single person saying "can't believe they started dating men!!! it's pride month!!" cause god forbid a queer woman falls in love! oh the outrage!!! fuck YOU "but it's just a joke" I DON'T CARE! what's the fucking punchline??? bisexuals are only queer when they're in queer relationships?? they should always be in a queer relationship at least one month a year??? what the fuck bullshit point are you trying to make. I'm so tired of this, y'all aren't funny. bisexuals are bisexual every second of every day of their fucking life and who they're in a relationship with has nothing to do with it. we are queer enough and we always have been, if you disagree with me you can fucking block me also eat shit and actually i take it back I'm not fucking sorry

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I'm not going to question why anyone thought iran was in moscow but what's with the random dots in the middle of the ocean

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playing poker with my friend and he lays down a straight flush but it has two kings so i tell him that’s wrong but it’s pride month and the gay flush is allowed during this month

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Hey, just so anyone whose mind isn't rotted by video essayists knows: The anti-LGBT film Lady Ballers produced by the Daily Wire was supposed to be a documentary. The original plan behind the film was that they were going to actually get a bunch of men to dress in drag and enter into women's sports, then record the results.

However, the barrier of entry for trans women to qualify for admission into women's sports proved to be prohibitively high, and they couldn't find any men willing to go the extra mile in undergoing hormone therapy and transitioning to the point they met the criteria for admission.

The Daily Wire accidentally disproved and discredited the entire concept of "men in women's sports", and were forced to turn the film into a shitty piece of comedy fiction instead.

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Did a brand new kind of bowling shot today

we called it the "trust the Force Luke" shot or the "through God all things are possible" shot

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i’m sick and tired of people pretending that burger isn’t delicious just to clown on americans. america deserves the ridicule, but why’s burger catching strays? burger did nothing wrong

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my therapist: “you need to unlearn the belief that failing to completely explain every statement you make will cause people to misinterpret and hate you. that’s generally not how people think, and it’s just your OCD talking.”

tumblr when you word a post slightly vaguely/poorly:

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Happy pride month to my dad. When I came out as bi to him, this man googled what it ment, look at me and said "ohh. Yeah. You get that from me. You'd have far more siblings of I only shaged women." And went right back to his work emails.

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My tip for trying to compartmentalize your emotions or desires is to realize when you're using hyperbolic shorthand for an actually realistic desire. I know realizing even that can be difficult sometimes but let me demonstrate

"I wish I was popular" -> I want to be noticed and engaged with, and I need reassurance and the feeling of connection

"I wanna delete my blog and ghost my friends" -> I want to act out in a visible way that expresses how frustrated I am / I feel overwhelmed with connections and need time to cool off

"I wanna do something reckless/dangerous" -> I feel trapped in obligations and am buckling under stress, I need a sufficient outlet and more freedom to exist in peace

Obviously there may be different kinds of feelings or needs under your particular impulses, these are just some fairly common examples of what you could be feeling. The harder part is trying to figure out what it is that causes this impulse, and even harder might be if you don't have control over the situation, and are unable to have your needs met. It's not always your fault if you're feeling bad, but realizing where it stems from can help you seek out new paths to relieve it. This is something I've learnt working in therapy.

The toddler in your heart has valid needs. But it is a toddler and will scream and cry about it. Learn to sit by until it's done and then ask if it wants a juice box or a hug

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I came up with this three-way table to help me (and now you, if you want) to rate things out of 5 stars. I was thinking of books and films when I made it, but you can probably use it for other stuff.

The idea is that you rate the thing on how much stuff you loved and how much stuff you hated, and those things weight against each other. There's only one way to get 5 stars or 1 star, so those should end up as the rarest ratings, wtih 3 stars being the most common.

'Spicy' means that the thing inspires emotion, whether positive or negative, while 'bland' means it doesn't affect you much either way.

An example of a 3-star (spicy) - for me personally - would be the Twilight series, because there's plenty of garbage in there but also some things that are like crack to me. I can't think of an example of a 3 star (bland) because by nature they don't stick in the mind.

(This also assumes giving 0 stars isn't allowed. That'd throw it out of whack...)