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save me tboy with piercings

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hell yeah guys who take T in the stomach

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Getting high and jerking off in the church parking lot

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day 365. i’ve grown so much and got a stronger foothold on life than ever before. i have to thank the friends and family who have supported me unconditionally. looking forward to what the future brings, i hope more people will see how trans healthcare saves lives the way they do.

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‘DON’T TALK TO THE MEDIA ABOUT DIY HRT’

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‘Don’t talk to reporters’ mini series

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Photographed by Ron Galella, 1979-1987.

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Help Wanted (1981) // dir. Bill Clayton

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it's so exhausting how people are always so quick to remind everyone that butches AREN'T men. like it's the worst thing in the world. like "sure, maybe he uses he/him pronouns and wants top surgery/packs, but butches are WOMEN, or nonbinary basically-women, but never MEN!!"

and like. to be clear a lot of butches aren't men, and butches usually have very nuanced and interesting takes on gender and womanhood and butches shouldn't be called men when they aren't.

but. as a butch myself who has been butch since I was in 5th grade. sometimes butches are men, at least a little bit. and we have to accept that.

sometimes butches are men, and they are still butch. maybe even still a lesbian. whether they are partially men or fully trans men, we have to stop acting like there is a hard line between butches and trans men. we have to give butches room to exist completely. constantly barring butches from any sort of manhood puts incredible pressure on butches to NEVER be men, to always stay attatched to womanhood is some way. and butch trans men will repress our identifies to avoid being seen as traitors and disappointing our community. we see people talk about how butches ARE SO DIFFERENT from men and men are awful and disgusting and can never love a woman like butches do, and butches who are men in some way? hear that. internalize that.

and this is specifically focusing on AFAB butches, but butches who were AMAB and are kind of men? god save you. AMAB trans people, especially lesbians, are so pressured to distance themselves from any connection to manhood. AMAB butches are already hated on enough, and AMAB butches who are also men get hit with it even harder. there can't be too much room for butches to explore their gender because if they go too far and realize they might be men, it's treated as them Abandoning Womanhood and Betraying Lesbianism and everyone flips their shit over "butch flight".

Sometimes butches are men. Accept that. Stop creating a hard, impassible line between butchness and manhood. Give butches room to explore masculinity and, possibly, manhood without constantly reminding them that being a man is the worse thing they could be. Part of the beauty of queerness is the blurring of lines, and the love and connection and community we find in those blurred lines.

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it annoys me when sapphic women see an attractive woman and are like “i’m no better than a man 😳😔” like BABE you are allowed to see an attractive woman and want to fuck her!!! free yourself from the cottagecore PG13 narrative of sapphic attraction, look at her with lust in your heart!!!

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If you think that an agender person who was AFAB and an agender person who was AMAB are two separate genders then I inherently don't trust you about trans issues.

Someone's genitals or AGAB does not determine their gender, and I find it concerning how many people seem to forget this when it comes to non-binary people.

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From The Advocate, July 26th 1979. Illustrated by Gerard Donelan. Arguably the article that introduced “bear” into gay vernacular.