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If the fandom writ large would just ADMIT that they think Penis + Vulva is the inherently superior sex pairing, we'd at least be starting from a place of honesty about the amount of unaddressed homophobia around here, but instead we have to sit through all this indignant self-righteous ranting about how literal heterosexual sex is *~queer af~* and a more advanced form of gay than the basic cis homosexuals can comprehend

It's so tedious

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i support gnc women obviously and i sort of am one but the term “gender non conforming” drives me crazy sometimes. because it sounds Active to me, something i’m choosing on purpose, when it’s actually most of it is Passive. not shaving my legs is a passive act. it’s a Non-Action. i’m just not doing something and letting my body do what it does. but this makes me a nonconformist?

not wearing makeup makes me gnc. but it’s just my normal face. wearing pants makes me gnc. but it’s just comfortable and fits the way my body is shaped.

i am actually conforming. to being human! and female. because my human female body grows hair. and my human female body does not have makeup on it. and it is comfortable in simple clothing.

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If you want to insist on this “people who x” business, then you’re showing your ass when in the same fucking breath you say men.

At least be fucking consistent, but you won’t, because the only sin is identifying a woman’s problem and actually calling it a woman’s problem!!!!!

If it was so important to be inclusive of genders in every possible conversation, then you would have said “people with penises” or something.

But you don’t.

I have never seen it used, and then the same people will be like “don’t forget trans men exist!” When in most people’s estimation they are just “people who menstruate” and not men.

Which is why I remind people, it is just as much of a mouthful to say Women and AFAB Trans people but you won’t because a certain group will be livid.

How dare women as a group be named in a way that has nothing to do with trans women!!! God fucking forbid!!!!!!!!

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ur post gave me a flashback to the craziest experience I had on reddit someone was like "actually trans woman do experience menstrual cramps educate yourself" and I was like how can u do experience menstrual cramps without menstruation something that famously requires a uterus and ovaries ( I said it much nicer than this) and i got downvoted so much and had people calling me a fascist and bio essentialist lol. like to this day do not understand the value of pretending something that is by definition is biologically impossible is possible bc it might hurt someone's feelings to not do so

I knooow!! Like it's so insane.

Like to compare it to some other biological function, no one claims that trans women can actually, right now, get pregnant and give birth (they say it might be theoretically possible with uterus transplants, etc) but they don't claim that it is something that can happen right now, and no one cares about that part or thinks that trans women are less valid people or worthy for that, no one thinks it erases their identity at all!

So why periods? Why, of all things, why do they get so stuck on periods as a way to validate womanhood? I guess the actual answer is bc periods are still taboo and ~mysterious~ enough that not that many people know how they work so they can claim some similarity with the hormonal stuff? But still everyone knows that we call a period the time when we're bleeding, not the whole hormonal cycle but specifically that part so... what is the point?

It's insane and obtuse on purpose, like someone arguing the sky is green for the purpose of... what? What does that achieve, for trans women? Is getting into online debates about meaningless lies really a good way to advance the trans cause? Even if that bit of pretending alleviates someone's dysphoria individually, then cool for them in their personal life, but the rest of the world doesn't have to ignore reality to avoid hurting someone's feelings. But also "trans women don't have periods" shouldn't even be something that is capable of hurting someone's feelings in the first place!! It should be a tonally neutral non ideological statement.

We shouldn't even be talking about this!!

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I saw this on Twitter

you aren't allowed to be LGB in the LGBTQIA+ anymore O-o huh!?

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it's funny how queer doesn't even mean homosexual or anything now it just means "anything that would confuse or anger your conservative christian grandparents"

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men are so obsessed with women to the point where they will draw or stage photographs of what they think women’s lives are like when men aren’t around or even when no one is around, they are obsessed with corrupting the solitude of women with their watchful eyes, they think they can imagine or correctly understand the multitudes of womanhood through the lens of art because they believe themselves to be artists that are somehow above misogyny and have therefore gained a higher understanding of womanhood and women’s solitude.  men are literally obsessed with corrupting women in any way they can, be it by taking a woman’s “virtue” or by painting pictures that basically say even when women are alone, when women try to be free from society, when we are just lying in our beds or staring ourselves in the bathroom mirror, men are always always always watching. so like… male artists paint something else challenge

terfs dont touch this post

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call for submissions: survivors/witnesses of trans-identified male violence

i'm almost out of the current print of you told me you were different (intro/explanation)

i'm taking submissions of art & writing from women who were harmed and/or have witnessed harm by trans-identified male people to add to the reprint. all submissions are anonymous/under pseudonym.

art needs to be black and white and 8.6" x 5.6" at 300 dpi minimum (higher is better if possible)

there is no close date for these submissions right now as i'm trying to give plenty of time to work on submissions, because i know it's a difficult topic. i'll keep you updated on deadlines

please send submissions to uglytruthscollective@gmail.com

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can we start running people over again

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I do not feel comfortable being openly homosexual in the company of “queer” people. Even hinting that I experience absolutely no attraction to the male sex is stressful, because often this results in a bunch of questions that equally feel like bafflement and interrogation. “What about THESE men?” No, not them either. No men. “But this man identifies as a woman!” I am not wired to be attracted to pronouns. “What about this man? He’s femme!” He is still a man, and I am still a lesbian. “So just no men at all?” YES. What is so hard to understand about that? Why can’t you just accept that female homosexuality exists, that it isn’t an evil ideology, and that it’s just how I and many other women are born? Why can you accept and understand so many things, but draw the line at a woman having no interest in the male sex?

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Gay people get called assimilationist for saying being gay is normal, meanwhile the Left’s acceptance of us is entirely contingent on our sitting down, shutting up, and smiling while non-homosexuals gleefully occupy every space we’ve built for ourselves whilst calling themselves by the same name

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a conversation between lunargaze and bisexual-slime

LG: I always warn people that casually wearing a binder led directly to a crazy increase in dysphoria & the feeling that I needed surgery immediately. A huge amount of the reason I ended up getting a mastectomy was to stop having to feel the panic-attack inducing compression of a binder. B-S: 6 years of consistent binding left me with increased muscle and joint pain and shortness of breath. I stopped for good November 2020 and I don't regret it. It also increased by chest dysphoria and now that I've stopped binding, I've found easier and healthier ways of coping. If you really must conceal your chest out of dysphoria, I'd suggest a comfortable sports bra (do NOT get one smaller than your size. get the correct size) and looser layers and fabrics. This has helped me massively, as has foregoing bras completely, sports bras included. I'd encourage you to at least give this method a shot because it's genuinely been so beneficial and helpful for me.

LG: Absolutely. If I had the thought to just like, stop wearing bras at that point in my life I can’t imagine how different things would be for me right now.

And let me tell you, nothing made my chest dysphoria worse than a mastectomy :/ it breaks my heart seeing more and more people like me expecting the affirming whole-feeling result and just ending up with more issues.

BS: I've always had chest dysphoria but it's only been in the past couple of years I've drifted away from the surgical route in favour of physical exercise to get the result I want. I recognised my goals were not realistic and my chest would always cause me problems post surgery, plus I was scared I would regret such a major operation so I just decided against it and decided I would prefer to implement a work out routine because I've seen that kind of thing done with smaller chests (I'm an A) so it seemed like an easier option. My heart always breaks for women who have been fed an idealistic image of themselves that can only be attained through surgery and end up with more mental and physical problems than they started out with.

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