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This tiny princess was welcomed to the world on Friday, December 16th, at 9:26am via emergency c-section. She weighted 2lbs and was 13 inches long (tall girl!).

She was only 25 weeks, 4 days along.

My life has been violently turned completely upside down, but we are just so happy to have this tiny angel in our life and are amazed at the tight grip she already has on our hearts.

If you could spare a prayer or two for her, we would be ever grateful. There is a long, painful road ahead of us…

❤️

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TIPS FROM MOMS??

Okay moms of all kinds.. still pregnant moms.. new moms.. wise moms.. structured moms.. strict diet for my toddler moms.. kids are running through the house with paint covering their shirts moms.. baby is up at 3 am again moms.. grape juice on my new carpet moms.. Army moms.. Milspouse moms..

What advice do you have for a newbie? While i’m not pregnant (yet) I feel God will bless us with a family when or if the time is right. My husband wants natural children and I want to adopt. Either way it goes.. a mom is a mom. So what tips do you have for me? And I welcome all sorts of tips from pregnancy, labor, baby years, teen years.. etc I welcome ALL. What do you ladies have in store for me?

God Bless!

AZ

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I have loved you at your darkest.

Romans 5:8 (via abibleverseforeachday)

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Every single emotion you have should be processed in prayer.

Tim Keller (via kindly-karlirose)

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Whaddayaknow

Beautiful Sunday here. Another day another dollar for the Army as my husband is you guessed it.. gone again! He works hard for our family. Just wish I could have him for more than 24 hours. I’m selfish and want that time with him.. even on his off days he has to be there sometimes. *Sigh* The to-do list today isn’t lenghthy though. Maybe lunch with a friend.. maybe a little laundry and cleaning.. maybe some binge watching on Netflix.. maybe a shower lol we will see what God has in store. My pups could probably use a bath! Hope everyone is having a very beautiful day while knowing just how blessed we truly are. 

God Bless,

Ashlee Zesati

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Spoiled dog?

Currently listening to my dog cry outside because she wants to come in. I truly do not know if she’s just spoiled and wants to be inside or if maybe she’s just scared? She probably cries every time she’s been out for about 4-5 minutes. Anyone else have these issues? #BLESSEDFORTHEMBOTH <3

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Army Life and Marriage

To me.. being a wife in the army is like an ice cube. In the summer.. you love ice cubes. They are refreshing and help cool you down in a drink when you get hot. However.. in the winter.. you don’t want ice cubes, right? You want hot coffee. Ice cubes just make you more cold.. i.e. army wife life for me. The army takes care of my family. It does. It also keeps my husband away from me for days.. sometimes months.. and for others even years. “That’s not so hard” some of you may think. For me, honey.. it is. Husband is gone.. gets home.. is exhausted.. sleeps most of the time he is home.. gets up and eats dinner.. and before I know it he is right back to work it seems. I am happy he is alive and well. No doubt! I’m not comparing my life to one of a woman/man whose husband/wife never came home. Will be praying for them tonight. 

A moment for all who have been sent to Heaven

Alrighty we shall return to our conversation. The crazy schedule was hard for me to adjust to. Imagine.. someone never even remotely been in the army lifestyle jumps right in and I felt so alone. (I can remember just crying in the bath over probably a stupid fight that seemed big at the time. It’s all too real.) Don’t get to spend much time with my new hubby and when I do- he sleeps! I remember he missed Valentine’s Day this year because of work so we made our own Valentine’s Day the next day, I believe. My husband came home in the morning and brought me flowers and candy i think, and a huge card! It was so sweet. Then I think he had to go back to work. Comes home.. goes to bed. We were supposed to go to dinner and he slept through it. At the time I was so upset. This was a special night. I just wanted a special night with my husband.. and he’s sleeping through it. I was so SO upset. And because of this.. my husband was later upset. Why? Because the man had done so much for me earlier and it was overlooked because he slept through dinner. And did I try to wake him up? I don’t think so, honestly now I don’t remember. Now I can look back and be like, ok child.. your husband works extremely hard and was so tired.. sleep was probably what he needed over an expensive dinner. You can have dinner later. It isn’t so much the holiday as the presence if that means anything to you. I still get upset when he sleeps our time away, but now I feel like it’s easier for me to understand. Even when I did work.. my little 8 hour shift doesn’t compare to his 48 hour shift with maybe 3 to 8 hours of sleep. Also as a new wife everything was just that.. NEW. So learning to be a wife AND an army wife. Can you say CUHH-RAZY? Because that is what it still is and we have been married over a year. I know I know.. a year isn’t a long time. Got it, fam. Got it. This social butterfly became quite the recluse! I have every opportunity to go out and socialize with other wives but I don’t. Instead.. [TIP FOR RECLUSE WIVES LIFE ME].. I was added to a wives Facebook page and I think I eventually just posted and said something like.. “Hey. Does anyone want to get coffee?” Guess what.. I made new friends like that. And one happens to live maybe 20 yards from me! I also became friends with my nextdoor neighbor. My husband had left for another country so it was time to make some friends, y’all. Milspouses understand and there is someone out there who WILL get coffee with you(maybe lunch if you don’t like coffee,lol) . If you can’t find anyone.. then message me. I can (clearly) talk and talk, lol. So we have 1. Army has husband’s time.. 2. Putting yourself out there.. and we are on to #3. 3 Getting a job. I made friends that way and liked my job kinda. Was I using my degree? Not too much, but a little. A job is a job when you have bills to pay. I was blessed to have a job and i loved the people i worked with. It was good to get out of the house too. Staying inside just gave me more time to be mad at my husband for stuff probably. I think one of the hardest things about this all has been being away from my family. Some people aren’t close with their fam and an adventure is awaiting! I am close to my family.. however we aren’t that far for now- thankfully. I call my mom often and my good friends are still my good friends. 

What I want new milspouses like me to get out of this is just keep moving, guys. It is hard. Don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t. If it’s easy for them.. well fine and dandy. Good for them, truly! But for ladies/spouses like me who opened the door to chaos.. it is hard, Felicia! It gets better. Pray about it. Talk to God!!!!!!! Again.. just keep moving. Talk to God. Reach out to other spouses. Read blogs. Clean your house. Talk to your husband.. NOTE: He is having to adjust too. For me, I was and am selfish a lot. I think about me, me me, me. I didn’t think.. this man had ALSO uprooted his life, moved, has to meet new people AND get to work, he’s away from his family too, he’s taking on the stress of a new place/position/family/responsibility and is doing it and maybe not even complaining. They struggle too, spouse fam.. we need to understand and appreciate them. Appreciate it, y’all! Okay ending this with fact .. You can do this! Pray. Talk to God. Talk to your spouse. Call your mom/dad/sister/brother/grandma/grandpa/cousin/friend.. and get through it because you CAN get through it!

God Bless,

AZ

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Time to get real.. #marriageishard

Social Media.. Movies.. Stories.. TV shows.. you name it- They can mask real life. That’s what they do.... masks real life. It shows you the good, bad, fake, fairy tale.. etc. It shows us fake life. It gives us fake hope. Is life wonderful? Of course it is. Is it perfect? No. Life is hard. I’m gonna get real with y’all though and talk about marriage for a second. Do some have an easy marriage? Sure.. my guess.. maybe 3% out of 500% lol I don’t know i’m not in every marriage in the world.. just mine. IF you are that 3%.. this blog isn’t for you probably. I’m here to tell you that it’s hard in MY experience. From here on out you’ll be reading MY experience. MARRIAGE IS HARD. Army marriage is REALLY HARD. I’ve had my own battles in life to learn to keep my guard up a tiny bit, because let’s be real (once again) you truly never know. I was a total disney baby and lovey movies kind of teen. I wanted the relationship where our husbands bring us flowers for no reason.. take us on surprise beach trips and show us a love like no other. [Side note: my husband is wonderful.] We want to feel safe. We want to think nothing can go wrong. Our spouse is perfect for us and because of that everything will always be a smooth boat ride.......... WRONG. Think about life without a spouse.. on our own we are rough and messy sometimes. Now imagine someone else coming into your life.. that’s rough and messy x 2. But for fairytalers like me.. I was caught off guard. My husband should be able to read my mind, know what I want all of the time and know what makes me happy and mad. That’s what a husband is supposed to do, amiright? No guys.. I was not right at all. My husband shows me constantly that my idea of what a good relationship is, is in fact not what I have watched on TV for years and years. Don’t get me wrong. A husband may know a wife better than any human on earth.. but they are a husband. Not a slave. Just because they know you hate Law and Order SVU doesn’t mean they still won’t watch it. Just because you keep the house sqqqqueaky clean does not mean that they won’t leave their clothes wherever they may fall at the time. Get where I’m going with this folks? Marriage is two human beings trying to figure out how to live together while loving each other. It can get complicated. Little things will eat away at you when they constantly happen. It’s life. You are trying to live with another human that could very well be your opposite. Being married is not easy. It’s a constant uphill battle. If you are struggling.. please know you aren’t alone. Also know divorce isn’t the answer. It is definitely and easy way out and may seem golden at the time. Keep holding on to that promise you made to God. [Sidenote 2 this does NOT go for spouses being abused. Please find help if you are abused!] Maybe get some counseling? Sometimes a different party that doesn’t know either of you can  help. A fresh opinion can be nice. My next blog is for milspouses if you’re interested. :) I love my husband. He is a wonderful man. But guess what.. MARRIAGE IS STILL DIFFICULT. We fight. We yell. Guess what? We also laugh. We also smile. At the end of the day it comes down to God. Love and trust that He is here for you. Pray. Times get difficult. Talk to your spouse about your feelings.. if that doesn’t resolve.. think about counseling. If you ever need an ear.. I am here folk.

God Bless,

AZ

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Been a while!

To any of my like 3 followers.. sorry it’s been a while. Having a rough night so what better time to start back blogging? Some people find their breath with crying.. working out.. a phone call.. whatever! I love Jesus and know I can always talk to HIM! Writing helps too.. I’m a writer. I just am. I know this because some people struggle and struggle and I can just write for days. I’m actually in the process of writing a book. We will see how that goes. I keep being lazy and spacing out the time when I actually do write. lol God Bless

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“Time spent in prayer is never wasted.”  -  Francis Fenelon #WTSInspire

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Don’t talk shit about people’s teeth. Seriously.

Speaking as a major dental hygiene enthusiast…

Great-looking teeth come from two things: luck and money (which is also a function of luck).

Dental procedures tend to be very, very expensive, and are almost never covered by insurance.

Healthy teeth aren’t necessarily big, straight or bright white. Depending on what someone’s natural teeth are like, achieving that look may require a significant downgrade in their dental health; unnecessary crowns and veneers cause damage.

Do not underestimate genetics’ role in determining teeth’s appearance, or how prone teeth are to problems. Genes and early development, i.e. things people get zero control over, can outweigh all else.

A wide range of chronic conditions impact oral health and teeth’s appearance, too, and may contraindicate various types of work or raise procedures’ cost even more.

Finally, for many people and many reasons, celebrity-looking teeth just aren’t a priority (even when they’re attainable; some people might want, y’know, a new car instead).

Regardless, don’t be an asshole. Not even very attractive teeth look good on those.

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Clear your mind here

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Realization.

There are so many people in this world that have it so terribly. No food. No water. No love of family or friends, just God which is enough. We take for granted how blessed we are and today I’m saying THANK YOU LORD for all the blessings you give to my family and me. I know that I personally do not deserve this wonderful life. Thank You, my KING. 💛💛