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🔥 Hot take: Not everyone deserves your empathy.

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Narcissistic mothers on Father’s Day.

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The narcissist doesn’t hate you because you’re a “mean” person. They hate you because you won’t lie for their comfort.

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What made you finally realize that you’re not crazy, you were just being manipulated by the narcissist in your life?

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What other phrases would you like the MatriNARC to translate next? Tell me in the comments!

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Harsh truth: NOTHING you can say will get you the response you’re looking for when you’re trying to argue your point to the narc.

You know this already because you’ve probably said everything already and it’s gotten you nowhere.

There is no perfect comeback.

The best comeback is your SILENCE.

End the conversation.

Leave the room.

Hang up the phone (and don’t pick up when they blow you up).

Stop responding to texts (let them have a convo with themselves. If you literally just sit there and don’t react, they’ll contradict themselves soon enough and you will probably find it funny).

Obviously easier said than done but bottom line - the sooner you end the convo the better.

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Before you do whatever you think you need to do so the narcissist can’t say you didn’t do it... STOP. It’s a trap. They’re gonna find something else to accuse you of not doing within the next 5 minutes to 48 hours.

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Narcissists will confidently lie about how awful you are so you get triggered into giving them an emotional reaction, which is their goal. This is also done to put the focus on your "shortcomings" to distract you from their abuse. Don't confuse their confidence with reality.

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If you find yourself stuck racking your brain WHY the narcissist would do what they did, you can save yourself a lot of overthinking by shifting from WHY to WOW:

❌ WHY did the narcissist do what they did?

✅ WOW, the narcissist went out of their way to get an emotional reaction from me.

Want more examples? Comment your why's and I'll reply with the wow's!

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10 easy ways to get a narcissist to hate you:

1. Don’t give them an emotional reaction

2. Question them

3. Catch on to their lies

4. Stop telling them things

5. Stick to your boundaries

6. Think for yourself

7. Don’t view them as an authority

8. Stop paying attention to them

9. Realize you don’t need them

10. Start healing

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I don’t know who needs this reminder today, but narcissists aren’t abusing their targets in some kind of blacked out trance state they have no control or awareness of.

I know you’ve seen them switch from rage to charisma depending on their audience.

Only someone with real-time awareness & control over their behaviour can do this.

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10 things I hope you leave behind in 2025:

(Survivor of narcissistic abuse edition)

The narcissist in your life

Their enablers & flying monkeys

Guilt, shame and fear

The belief that you’re not enough

False hope that the narc will change

People pleasing

The expectation of any validation or acknowledgment from the narcissist

Trying to be liked by anyone who doesn’t appreciate you for YOU

Ignoring that gut feeling you get when you know you’re being love bombed by a manipulator

The idea that the narc will give you closure

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Never expect a narcissist to admit they did something wrong, it’s deeply disrespectful in their culture.

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Something I tell my clients all the time when they’re confused about pretty much anything the narcissist says or does: if you’re confused, you’re being abused.

Confusion is non existent or short lived in healthy relationships. Narcissists confuse their targets because confused ppl are easier to control.

Being confused doesn’t mean you’re misinterpreting, stupid, unable to understand things, etc. it means the other person is intentionally confusing you so they can control you.

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The story of my narcissistic mother’s death is coming to YouTube tomorrow. Tap the link below to get notified

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My scary Halloween costume this year 😆👻