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Final Reflection

I believe that personal development has opened my eyes to both my flaws as a person as well as my good parts. It has allowed to me to gain a better udnerstanding of myself and those around me. I have learned skills that will help me in the future to empathize and love better. I now possess knoweldge on emotional intelligence, attachment, and conflict management which will all become significant aspects in my future especially communication becomes more and more integral the more time passes.

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Conflict Management

I am right

I know I am

You are wrong

I know you are

 Take my word as fact

Anything else would be infantile

To dispute me is futile

But if you decide otherwise, you are sure to be reviled

 I live for every argument, for I know that I will prevail

I will never concede

I will never falter

For I am always correct, and you are always wrong

 Life is a battle

Why treat any aspect of it as anything different

But I am tired of fighting

So tired

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Attachment Style

I consider myself and anxious ambivalent. I am someone who is generally not afraid to show love affection but one who also overthinks quite a lot on my own relationships. I tend to make a mountain out of a molehill when it comes to certain things, for example, when someone interacts with me while they are in a bad mood or some other influence and says something they really don’t mean I tend to take it as their true feelings or thoughts and I reevaluate our relationship. I am constantly in fear of all my friendships or relationships being under constant threat of jeopardy be it because of myself as a person or even the most minor slip up that I may make in the future. And it is because of this that I almost always feel as though that the only person I can truly reliably trust on is myself with the exception of a few exceptional people. This is represented in the drawing. The President of the United States of America, Joe Biden, shaking hands with the King of Saudi Arabia while each holds a weapon in their hands. This represents the strained relationship of the two nations, while they may be considered friends at an official capacity, as shown with their shaking of hands, they each have their anxieties about each other, hence the weapons, which in my opinion, perfectly encapsulates my attachment style.

When I love someone, I tend to latch on and never let go when it comes to my attachment, I don’t consider myself a needy person, but my happiness is intertwined with my attachment with others. I have no problem being alone, but being alone is that, lonely, I find that I am only ever truly happy when I am in the company of the people I care about and love,  and I show this love through companionship and communication, I am one who almost never says no to an opportunity hang out or be with my friends or other loved ones, and I am also not one to be afraid to tell someone how I feel or say “I love you”, even in a non-romantic context.

I think that biggest issue with the way I approach relationships in current time is the “anxious” part of my anxious-ambivalent attachment style. My biggest failures when it comes to my relationships almost always stem from my tendency to overthink and inability to consider my relationships in a secure fashion. I must acknowledge that my true relationships are set in stone and not things that can crumble at a few words, I must also learn that I am loved by the people I love and that they don’t secretly hate me deep down, this’ll allow me to be more secure in my attachment.

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Emotional Intelligence

1. The most prominent emotions from a person being bullied would likely be anger, sadness, and confusion. If I was bullied I would do things that relieved stress such working out, playing games, writing, but all of this is simply straying away from the root of the issue, if I relieved my stress one day only to be bullied again the next then the problem wasn't truly solved. In order to ultimately manage your emotions the problem of the bully must be rectified through whatever means necessary. It is important to understand the diffrentiation of our emotions because they are at the core of our every day lives and understanding them and their differences allows us isolate these emotions and solve them accordingly.

2. I remember the first time I had ever felt truly wronged by someone. It was someone I was close to at the time so this didn't feel like a simple wrongdoing, it felt like a betrayal. My first response was to take revenge, I remember collecting anything I could that could be used as material against them and planning to send said material to  loved ones of this person. I went through with the plan to a partial extent, I remember feeling very satisfied afterwards and while the anger was still there it was more muted now.

3.

- I think I need to be more aware of what I am saying, I am told that I tend to say things without a filter and this has led to people getting hurt.

- I need to learn to not let my actions be taken over by my emotions.

- I need to improve on building habits based on dsicipline rather than motivation.

- I have to learn to recognize that others can be very sensitive people.

- I have to stop caring about what makes other people happy especially if this becomes a detriment to myself.