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Yes, I hope you heal from the things you don’t talk about but I also hope that healing involves learning to talk about them.

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“When you remember that you are a unique and very important person created by a divine being we call God, and in "His" very image, then you relax well knowing that your life is a divine plan, and your job is to surrender and allow” – Dr. Mpalyenkana

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when I was barely holding on... it’s faith to God that saves me...

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If you need a sign

This is it. This is your sign. Doesn’t matter if you needed a sign to get out of bed, to eat something, to fight another day, to come out to the one you love or whatever you needed the sign for. This is your sign.

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My Heart Bleeds For You...

Depression and suicide has been a part my everyday ever since I majored in Psychology. These two may be the basic of mental health issues a normal person knows. It just so happened that I have a deeper knowledge about this but has no first-hand experience of how to handle someone who has this condition. It hit me when a member of an idol group I deeply adore and care for, lost his life battling depression. It hit hard, and it cut deep. He was my age when he lost the battle. Indeed, yourself is your hardest enemy.

It may be of a different context because he is in an environment where there is so much expectation and the competition is so steep. It is like he was in a jungle fighting to survive. Only the fittest remains. Unfortunately, even before we all find out who wins, he withdrew from the battle and left for good.

There are a lot of things to learn from him and his suicide letter. One, from a point of view of someone who had extra knowledge about the condition and hopes to help others through that knowledge, I believe his case was not handled properly. I feel like where he was coming from was not properly established and that the blame went down to his personality. It is frustrating to know that empathy was not there. That it was pure blame and that it gave the feeling that he is hopeless. Nothing is hopeless. It just takes extra understanding and widened perspective about how much these people are suffering.

It so heartbreaking to know that one case of this condition was not attended to properly hence he has sufferred alone. It must have been so frightening. He must have been so scared of himself. This I know for a fact even if I dont know him personally, he did not want to cause other people heartbreak and leave them but because it was so painful to carry on every second of his precious life, ending it was the only solution he knows. I know he tried to survive. As I watched how he was before at to present, you can see how much of life and joy his eyes lost.

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This may get 2 notes this may get 1000. I don’t really mind, even if it helps one person i’m happy.  I just want you to know that everything will be okay. I know you’re in a hard place right now where you think that maybe harming yourself or killing yourself is the only solution. But I promise you, there are other ways you can cope and there are reasons for you to stay on this earth.  Self harming isn’t going to solve the problem/s nor will it make you feel any better. I know you get a sense of release/punishment but it’s not going to help in the long run.  Remind yourself that every time you feel the urge to self-harm that it’s just a thought. You DO NOT have to act upon it.  Self-harming will affect you emotionally, physically and mentally. It will only help for about 5 minutes. Then something else can happen to trigger the feeling again.  Alternatives without harming yourself:

Holding/squeezing ice. 

Splashing your face with water. 

Getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).

Take a hot shower or bath.

Eat something sour. It will take your mind of the urge. (Lemon, sour lollies) 

Massage where you want to self-harm.

Get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm. 

Remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (Scars, harms organs, blood lose, leave memories etc…)

Describe what you are feeling. (Is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

Killing yourself will not help. It is not a solution.For whatever reason you are thinking about killing yourself, it is temporary and you can get help.  I know you probably think no one cares, you think you can’t handle the situation you are in or you feel helpless and alone.  But I want to remind you everything is temporary You have your whole life ahead of you. You have so many more years that you can accomplish things in.  For example; 

Having a family. 

Getting married.

To watch the sun rise. 

To watch the sun set.

To save someone else’s life.

Finish school.

Get your dream job.

To laugh.

To smile.

To go camping.

Travel to new places.

To wake up every morning to the person you love.

Friends.

Family.

To keep that promise you made.

To accomplish a goal.

To meet your idle.

To listen to new music.

Theme parks.

Video games.

Chocolate.

To be able to look back and say “I made it”.

Just a reminder; what you are going through is temporary.  In case you need to hear this:

You are loved. 

You are wanted. 

You are needed.

You are beautiful.

You are handsome. 

You are important. 

You are not alone. 

You are okay. 

You are strong. 

You are worth it. 

You are smart. 

You are not a failure. 

You are useful. 

You are going to be okay. 

I’m always here for you. I’ll try my best to help and make you smile.  You deserve to be happy and you deserve to know that you are not alone and there are people that can help. 

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There is that certain peace one can feel when you let God take full control of your life.

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Have You Discovered Your Life’s Purpose?

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ALLY all the way

I am a Roman Catholic. I obey and follow God and His teachings to the best of my ability. I uphold the values and give immense importance on the sanctity of marriage. But, I am also an ALLY... LGBT ALLY and I am proud of it.

This is not only because of several friends I have, who are members of the community, especially my two best friends, but it is also because I value equality.

They are among the most wonderful, kindest, most fun, and most loyal individuals I know. Thus, I believe they deserve and must experience equal rigths and priviledges just like straight people do. Sexuality should never be an issue when it comes to the exercise of equality and fairness.

On the pressing issue of same sex marriage, it should be clear, though, that it cannot be called as MARRIAGE. But, on the matter of two individuals of the same gender, entering a mutual agreement that is to be recognized under the law, I AM ALL FOR IT.

They are not at all different from us, straight people, WE ARE ALL HUMAN. Who am I to judge them when they are just after their right, to experience equality, which is their happiness, basically.

I just hold on to the belief that God created us equal, regardless of what so ever qualities. What’s important is that one live up to their purpose, do no man harm, serve God with their whole being, and do what makes them happy. These are what I know by heart, ‘cause it is what GOD planted in ➡️❤️.

#IAManALLY #PRIDEPh2019

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Just be.

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In Spite of the Circumstances, God Is With You

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You did well

I never knew how important it is to acknowledge oneself until I learned of people who got tired of life because they failed to give themselves some credit and love.

Appreciate your efforts and tell yourself you did a great job today, it is that essential, I realized.

We are so critical of ourselves, that the only thing that matter is the commendation of our others.

But shouldn’t it be enough that we give our all to whatever we do?

And do we need the opinion of other people on our work, let alone ourselves, as a person to confirm our worth and abilities?

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I was prepping this for todays event…but the weather did not permit us to.,nonetheless, this is my expression of support to my lovely friends from the LGBT community 🌈 PROUD ALLY here ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤💖 #pride2019 #IAManALLY

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Note to self…

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Suck it up, hold on tight, say a prayer, make a plan, and just do it. – John Mason
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