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"Emotionally immature parents often have the fantasy that their babies will make them feel good about themselves. When their children turn out to have their own needs, it can send parents into such a state of intense anxiety. Those who are extremely emotionally immature may then use punishments, threats of abandonment, and shaming as trump cards in an attempt to feel self control and bolster their self esteem - at their children's expense." Adults of Emotionally Immature Parents Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy D

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Hi I was wondering how do you deal with a toxic family member? How do you handle situations in which they are manipulative and gaslighting you?

Validate your own emotions and experiences

Practice emotional differentiation. Prioritize your own feelings and goals

Learn the psychology behind guilt-tripping, shaming, and people-pleasing & how it's used to manipulate/gaslight children of narcissistic & other types of emotionally immature parents

Implement the "grey rocking" technique during conversations (be "boring' and emotionally flat; don't give them the emotional reaction they crave)

Go as low contact as humanely possible (no contact is the best option). Never initiate a conversation unless its absolutely necessary (logistical issue, emergency, etc. if needed)

Keep them on an information diet. Don't tell them anything about your life that is not vital for them to know

Don't try to change their minds. Just say "You're right," and disengage

Set boundaries on conversation topics/them criticizing your character. Say "I'm not engaging in this conversation." Stop replying, hang up the phone, or walk away

Live your life with them out of sight, out of mind as much as possible. You deserve to live in peace and be happy, no matter what these toxic family members say

Hope this helps xx

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in another life, maybe.

+ the kiddos

a timeline where they actually work things out and get therapy and are just happy.

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aeon fluff week - day 8 - free day

i hate this wip so i gave up but here is a crumb of pregnant ada

I’ll probably redraw this at some point

tag list @aeonloves @a-phantoms-shadow @fleurdelily @kittenslady

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aeon fluff week - day 4 - vacation

i DUNNO beach day

tag list @aeonloves @a-phantoms-shadow @fleurdelily @kittenslady

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NOTHING could get me over this scene

WHAT NIGHT. LET ME SEE

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hello aeon nation

(and my grayscale method practice)

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Aeon 🎀

Art collab with my friend 🫶🏻

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3D models from the game files.

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Charming man...

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Tv girl

I'm come back

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RE6 LEON

made this quick study to fight my depression and it didn't work bc i couldn't make him justice T_T

maybe i should try Jake instead

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SEPARATE WAYS MY ASS.

It was supposed to be a Valentine's day art... but I struggled so much with Ada's face that I almost gave up. This week I came back to it and here it is :3 Hope you guys like my first Aeon art.

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Still trying to get comfortable using Procreate and brushes with my current obsession, which is obviously Resident Evil 2.

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Ada Wong | Resident Evil 4: Separate Ways (2023)

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Aeon Winter Week 30

Day 6 - Hot Chocolate (x No BOW AU)

More AUs! (cause I don't know how to stop myself..) this one is no BOW AU, so Leon is a cop and I haven't decided what Ada is (but she's not a spy here ;)) P.S : this will be my last aeonwinter piece, I will be resting on free day and catch up with all the ao3 winter fics ehehe! time to binge! . ⚠️Do Not Reupload⚠️