There are lots of things in life that bring me pleasure. A perfectly roasted chicken. Unicorns. Glitter. Tootsie rolls. Fairy lights. Getting an A+. A really good action movie with lots of explosions and guns and violence and goofiness. Debating ridiculous philosophical and political and other stuff with my best friends. Traveling. Getting the perfect messy bun. Literally, the list goes on and on and on.
But nothing brings me pleasure the way that his pleasure does, the way my Domās pleasure does. And Iām not just talking about sexual pleasure ā Iām talking about all kinds of pleasure. Sucking his cock and taking it all the way down my throat over and over until he feeds me his cum and tells me what a good girl I am for him and getting to revel in the fact that Iāve given him such pleasure that he couldnāt help but cum brings me such tremendous pleasure. But you know what else brings me pleasure? Knowing how pleased he is when I serve him his favorite dinner. Knowing how much it pleases him when I fold his t-shirts the right way. Knowing how much he loves and gets pleasure out of watching me sing along (badly) to my bubblegum pop playlist while I wash the kitchen counters. Watching his face light up when I meet him with a drink and a smile when he gets home from work. Kneeling at his feet and leaning against his leg so he can pet my hair while he reads or watches TV and giving him the comfort of knowing Iām there, knowing I kneel for him, knowing I serve him, knowing I love him, knowing that Iām his with that very simple act.
And when itās sexual? The way he chuckles when Iām tied to his bed and writhing beneath his touch and whimpering and begging for release? It makes me smile inside. The way it turns him on to deny me? It makes me even wetter. The sick and twisted joy he gets out of ruining an orgasm or denying me one? It makes my girl parts tingle and makes me beg even harder. If he didnāt get pleasure out of the things he did to me? It wouldnāt be the same. I get turned on because of his dirty words and his talented fingers and the way he fucks me until I canāt think straight, sure ā but, even more, I get turned on by knowing how much pleasure he gets out of watching me whimper and moan and beg and cry and do what Iām told.
Itās all kinds of pleasure. Any pleasure I give him, any way I please him, any way I make his day better or make him happy or make things just a little bit easier for him brings me pleasure. It pleases me to make him feel good. It makes me happy to know that Iāve made him happy. It makes me feel whole and safe and happy and good to bring him pleasure. It lights me up inside. Thatās why I serve him ā because pleasing him is what makes me the happiest I can be.
2. Because I crave structure and I crave it from him.
I am a person who craves structure. No, I donāt just crave it ā I need it. I do better with rules and limits and a schedule in place.
But hereās the thing ā I donāt do well with following the rules and limits and schedule when itās wholly self-imposed. I can create a structure to follow when I have something to answer to (for example: a job). But when I am wholly left on my own I struggle to maintain that balance and those limits and that structure. I do well with picking one thing to focus on and setting up the structure for that (for example: gym and diet) ā but when it comes to creating a structure for my overall life I get overwhelmed and tend to withdraw to a day of procrastinating and ignoring the schedule that Iāve tried to put in place for myself.
I am a person who does better when I know someone else has expectations of me. I have such passion and talent and drive ā but I struggle with figuring out where to channel all of that without having something to work toward. And my brain works at such a speed and in such a way that instead of being able to focus in on a few options or possibilities I just see all of the options and end up in a never-ending loop of everything I could do and not knowing which to pick. So having someone to help me wade through that, help me set in place the limits and parameters and structure to figure out how to focus that drive and passion and talentā¦ It makes it easier for me to know how to order my day, for me to plan what to get done when, for me to accomplish things and go to bed feeling like Iāve been productive.
So I crave someone who is willing to take on the very heavy responsibility of helping me create a structure for my life and then holding me accountable when it comes to sticking to it.Ā
3. Because I donāt always do whatās best for me and when that happens I need someone I can trust to point that out to me.
Itās true. I have a habit of spiraling and, when I do, sometimes I can recognize it and set myself back on track and pull myself out of the hole. But sometimes I make a bad decision. And then I make another. And before I know it Iāve set myself on the path to a cycle of self-destructive behavior.
And then that happens, I need someone who can gently but firmly sit me down and talk me through it and help me set myself back on the right track. I want him to help me set limits. To help me set-up the rules. To, once again, help me create that structure - or alter the structure thatās already in place.
I need him to be my voice of guidance when I canāt guide myself. I want to know that he has my back. And I want to know that heāll put limits in place for me when I canāt do it for myself.Ā
4. I need someone to hold me accountable.Ā
I am a people pleaser. I like to please people. And, true, if my mental health struggles and therapy have taught me anything itās that you canāt live your life entirely focused on pleasing everyone around you. But having a set person in my life who has agreed to be in a relationship with me where he holds me accountable and gives me rules and structure and sets expectations for what he wants from and requires of me gives me a way to feed that people-pleasing need without going overboard and feeding my anxiety.
But itās more than just feeding that people-pleasing need. Itās about being held accountable. Itās about knowing that if I say Iām going to do something or if he asks me to do something or if he sets me a task or a rule or what have you ā that heās then going to follow-up to ensure that itās done and, if itās not, that there are going to be consequences and those consequences are going to come from him.
Itās part of the structure that I need. And I donāt want to put this on someone who doesnāt want to provide that kind of structure or who doesnāt want to take on that responsibility ā Iām looking for someone who gets a sense of fulfillment out of taking on that role. Who enjoys providing me structure, who enjoys holding me accountable, who enjoys leading me. Because knowing that he enjoys that helps me feel pleasure, helps me feel calm, helps me feel at peace.
I need to be held accountable. I need to know that there will be consequences for my actions. And I need to know that that accountability and those consequences will come from the person that I respect and trust most.
5. Because I want a relationship thatās a give and take.
So much of what you see on tumblr has to do with the Dom being responsible and taking on all the control and having to set in place all the rules, limits, and boundaries, and having to be responsible for the welfare of their sub and on and on and onā¦
But thatās not a real D/s relationship. At least not to me.
A real D/s relationship is about a give and take. Both (or all) parties take on responsibility. Both parties are responsible for watching out for the other, for caring for the other, for protecting and respecting and loving the other. Both parties are agreeing to act like adults, to handle disagreements with maturity and within the parameters set-up, to respect the limits and boundaries and rules put in place.Ā
Your Dom takes care of you, yes. Your Dom agrees to hold you accountable. Your Dom agrees to lead you and pleasure you and take on responsibility for providing for your needs. But you take care of your Dom as well. I am responsible for watching out for him, for making sure heās happy, for ensuring that heās reaching his full potential and that Iām helping him in whatever way I can. I am responsible for talking to him, for telling him what I think and how I feel and for making sure that I share my problems and worries and issues with him. I am responsible for remembering that he canāt read my mind. I am responsible for asking him if heās okay. I am responsible for listening when he needs to share his problems and worries and issues with me. I am responsible for taking care of him. I am responsible for loving him and respecting him and being the best I can be for him.
Because when he agrees to take on the responsibility of being my Dom ā I, at the same time, am agreeing to take on the responsibility of being his sub. Because the responsibility of a D/s relationship doesnāt belong to just one party ā itās shared between both of us. Itās a partnership, a team, a unit. Itās a power exchange. An exchange. Which means thereās give and take. And I want that. I want to give my partner as much as he allows me to take from him. Because thatās the only way that both of us can remain healthy and whole.
6. Serving gives me pleasure.
Serving him gives me pleasure. Making a home not just with him but for him. Making it pretty, making it pleasing, making it a warm and happy place to come back to every night. Making him dinner. Doing his laundry (but not the ironing!). Making sure his shirts are all hung-up in the proper place when they come home from the dry-cleaner. Bringing him his favorite drink at the end of a long day. Washing him in the shower. Worshipping his cock. Keeping our home clean. Making sure I pick up his favorite snacks at the grocery store. Making sure he remembers to grab a water before he leaves the house for the gym. Serving him in so many ways.
Doing the little things (and the big ones!) that makes his life happier and calmer and altogether just a little bit easier ā that makes me happy. Knowing that Iām helping him and making it easier for him to go through his day makes me feel complete.
And I know a lot of people will read this and ask what heās doing to make my life easier and happier and calmer ā and the answer is this: heās doing so much. Heās holding me accountable. Heās providing my structure. Heās giving me a healthy and safe outlet for fulfilling my needs to please people and to serve. He loves me. He helps me make sure that I take care of myself ā and takes care of me when I canāt do it. He gives me just as much as I give him. In his way, he serves me too. Itās a different kind of service than I give him. But itās still service. Like I said, itās a give and take.
7. Because kneeling for him brings me tremendous peace.
I suppose this could fall under service but itās such a distinctive act that brings such tremendous fulfillment and peace that I felt like it deserved its own number.
It really is that simple: kneeling for him brings me peace. Kneeling for him makes me feel safe. Kneeling for him is fulfilling. Kneeling for him is a privilege. Kneeling for him is calming and pleasing and a position of both pride and complete and utter joy.
I love kneeling at his feet. I love kneeling in front of him. I love kneeling in the center of the room so he can watch me. I love kneeling simply because itās where he wants me to be. Itās like meditation and prayer and supplication all rolled into one. I enjoy taking a position of worship on my knees. I enjoy worshiping him. I enjoy bestowing that honor on him time and time again. And I feel so tremendously lucky every time he allows me the privilege of kneeling at his feet.Ā
It makes me feel safe, it makes me feel whole, and it makes me feel lucky to take my position at his feet. Because it is a physical, positional reminder of who owns me and it gives me the time to reflect on exactly why I picked him.
8. Because I donāt want to be in charge.
It really is that simple. I donāt want to be in charge. I am in charge of so much in my day-to-day life. I take on so much responsibility. I care for my friends, I care for my family, I feed the people I care about, I have tremendous responsibility in work, I am responsible for teaching new hires, I am responsible for providing advice on this blog (and yes, I am aware that is a self-imposed responsibility). And thereās more ā so, so much more.
And when Iām done with that I donāt want to make decisions. I donāt want to have to make the rules. I donāt want to have to be responsible for what happens next. I want to be told what to do. I want to be told what is expected. I want to be told how to please someone and how to do it right. I want to submit myself to someone elseās control. I want to hand myself over to him and his decisions and his direction. I want that peace. I want that safety. And I want to end each day with that sense of fulfillment.
9. Sexually, I find far more pleasure in cumming for him than I do in cumming for myself.
Orgasms are great. I love orgasms. I really fucking love to cum.
But cumming for myself just doesnāt give me the overwhelming sense of pleasure (emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually) as cumming for him does. When he tells me how to get there, when he tells me what to say, when he makes me beg and cry and whimper and scream and tell him all of my darkest, dirtiest, most depraved fantasies while I try my hardest not to cum without permissionā¦ When he makes me wait for it, makes me edge over and over and over, making me hold offā¦ When he finally tells me to cum. When he finally gives me permission. When he finally tells me to let goā¦ Itās unlike any other feeling. Because I know I have earned that orgasm. Because I know heās allowing me to have that orgasm because Iāve pleased him so much that Iāve earned the gift of it.Ā
Orgasms are great. They really, really are. But orgasms are even greater when theyāre a gift from him.
10. Because I love being told no.
I do. I love the reminder of who is in charge. Or who I have trusted with my welfare and my care and my pleasure and my safety. I love knowing that heās paying attention to me. I love knowing that heās watching what I do. I love knowing that heās making sure Iām staying within the lines ā because it reminds me every single time of how committed he is to me and to our dynamic and to the promises that weāve made to each other.Ā
And I love knowing that heās in charge. And that he knows heās in charge. And that he wants to remind me heās in charge. Because it makes me feel safe. And, tbh, it makes me pretty damn wet.
There are so many gifts from a D/s based relationship. Each of us receives the gift of Dominance and feels our own submission uniquely. But, the most basic answer for me comes down to brain chemistry and wiring.
I kneel before Him, focusing on instructions, the sound of His voice. I feel myself slip into that submissive mindset and let the world become a distant echo until there is only Him.
BTWā¦.
All that āboring structure and protocolā we follow daily is the necessary foundation and constant reinforcement of our dynamic that makes this mindset as deep as it needs to be. In the brilliant words of @instructor144 āItās not all spankings and blowjobs!ā
Every command has a purpose. Every submissive posture is a trigger. Every learned, practiced call and response quiets my brain. I become a canvas for Him to create what He desires. And yet, what He desires is my release. It never fails. My submission frees me to become that wanton, hungry slut.
But, my Vanilla world upbringing and my type-A āBarbie Fucking Badassā personality REQUIRES His strength and the erotic pain he gives me.
āMAKE ME!ā Thatās what is requiredā¦
I need Him to make me: make me feel, make me crave, make me wanton, make me plead, make me confess my need for cock like my next breathā¦
There is very real risk in the Vanilla world for any woman that lets that debauched greedy cum slut take over and drive her. But with my submission, He has command and control of me. I trust Him to keep me safe while āmaking meā that raw driven wild animal in heat. I trust Him to take His pleasure in His creation and still leave me a quivering, contented, wet mess.
So, I guess the better answer to āWhy Submission?ā is MAKE ME ā because thatās what sets me free ā¾
There are so many gifts from a D/s based relationship. Each of us receives the gift of Dominance and feels our own submission uniquely. But, the most basic answer for me comes down to brain chemistry and wiring.
I kneel before Him, focusing on instructions, the sound of His voice. I feel myself slip into that submissive mindset and let the world become a distant echo until there is only Him.
BTWā¦.
All that āboring structure and protocolā we follow daily is the necessary foundation and constant reinforcement of our dynamic that makes this mindset as deep as it needs to be. In the brilliant words of @instructor144 āItās not all spankings and blowjobs!ā
Every command has a purpose. Every submissive posture is a trigger. Every learned, practiced call and response quiets my brain. I become a canvas for Him to create what He desires. And yet, what He desires is my release. It never fails. My submission frees me to become that wanton, hungry slut.
But, my Vanilla world upbringing and my type-A āBarbie Fucking Badassā personality REQUIRES His strength and the erotic pain he gives me.
āMAKE ME!ā Thatās what is requiredā¦
I need Him to make me: make me feel, make me crave, make me wanton, make me plead, make me confess my need for cock like my next breathā¦
There is very real risk in the Vanilla world for any woman that lets that debauched greedy cum slut take over and drive her. But with my submission, He has command and control of me. I trust Him to keep me safe while āmaking meā that raw driven wild animal in heat. I trust Him to take His pleasure in His creation and still leave me a quivering, contented, wet mess.
So, I guess the better answer to āWhy Submission?ā is MAKE ME ā because thatās what sets me free ā¾
There are so many gifts from a D/s based relationship. Each of us receives the gift of Dominance and feels our own submission uniquely. But, the most basic answer for me comes down to brain chemistry and wiring.
I kneel before Him, focusing on instructions, the sound of His voice. I feel myself slip into that submissive mindset and let the world become a distant echo until there is only Him.
BTWā¦.
All that āboring structure and protocolā we follow daily is the necessary foundation and constant reinforcement of our dynamic that makes this mindset as deep as it needs to be. In the brilliant words of @instructor144 āItās not all spankings and blowjobs!ā
Every command has a purpose. Every submissive posture is a trigger. Every learned, practiced call and response quiets my brain. I become a canvas for Him to create what He desires. And yet, what He desires is my release. It never fails. My submission frees me to become that wanton, hungry slut.
But, my Vanilla world upbringing and my type-A āBarbie Fucking Badassā personality REQUIRES His strength and the erotic pain he gives me.
āMAKE ME!ā Thatās what is requiredā¦
I need Him to make me: make me feel, make me crave, make me wanton, make me plead, make me confess my need for cock like my next breathā¦
There is very real risk in the Vanilla world for any woman that lets that debauched greedy cum slut take over and drive her. But with my submission, He has command and control of me. I trust Him to keep me safe while āmaking meā that raw driven wild animal in heat. I trust Him to take His pleasure in His creation and still leave me a quivering, contented, wet mess.
So, I guess the better answer to āWhy Submission?ā is MAKE ME ā because thatās what sets me free ā¾
Where to find each other after Dec 17th: Tumblr NSFW Exodus Database (The one Moses dreamed about)
Dear all,
Many of us are wondering how to find each other after Dec 17th. Those who delete their Tumblr accounts after this date might be hard to find as it is likely we are going to split over different platforms.
To prevent this, I have create a place where each of us can leave a note on where one could be found after Dec. 17th. It is here:
https://fr.surveymonkey.com/r/2FTCZMK
You can give your current blog name, along with the URL(s) where to find you after Dec 17th. I will provide the results (or a link to it) to the community after dec 17th on the same URL. So far this is more of a quick and dirty notes wall than a real database, but Iāll figure out a way to provide results in a neat (and secure!!) form by then. Until then I keep the results sealed away from predators. Any comment or suggestion is welcome.
If you like this idea, please reblog and share!
If you want to be in the list, click the link above and fill the form!
If youāre going to love a babygirl youāll want to know a few things, especially if youāre going to be her Daddy.
She needs to feel safe. It canāt be an illusion and she canāt be told that sheās safe. She has to feel it, know it and believe that her heart will be protected by your actions and not just your words.
She needs affection and attention. Not because sheās needy or insecure, but because she enjoys being loved on and sharing affectionate, intimate moments with her Daddy who she adores.
She loves to give the same in return and needs you to make time to allow her to do just that.
She wants to feel like youāre proud of her and she wants to be corrected when sheās done something wrong. Because making her Daddy proud means the world to her and when she does, she wants to know how much of a good girl she is.
If you think sheās beautiful, make it be known by the way you touch her and look at her, not just by telling her so. If you love her true, make it known with every action you take as you protect and cherish her heart and allow her to feel your love every single day.
If youāre going to love a babygirl, then simply be a Daddy worth all of her love and sheāll give you her all, if you do.
There are lots of things in life that bring me pleasure. A perfectly roasted chicken. Unicorns. Glitter. Tootsie rolls. Fairy lights. Getting an A+. A really good action movie with lots of explosions and guns and violence and goofiness. Debating ridiculous philosophical and political and other stuff with my best friends. Traveling. Getting the perfect messy bun. Literally, the list goes on and on and on.
But nothing brings me pleasure the way that his pleasure does, the way my Domās pleasure does. And Iām not just talking about sexual pleasure ā Iām talking about all kinds of pleasure. Sucking his cock and taking it all the way down my throat over and over until he feeds me his cum and tells me what a good girl I am for him and getting to revel in the fact that Iāve given him such pleasure that he couldnāt help but cum brings me such tremendous pleasure. But you know what else brings me pleasure? Knowing how pleased he is when I serve him his favorite dinner. Knowing how much it pleases him when I fold his t-shirts the right way. Knowing how much he loves and gets pleasure out of watching me sing along (badly) to my bubblegum pop playlist while I wash the kitchen counters. Watching his face light up when I meet him with a drink and a smile when he gets home from work. Kneeling at his feet and leaning against his leg so he can pet my hair while he reads or watches TV and giving him the comfort of knowing Iām there, knowing I kneel for him, knowing I serve him, knowing I love him, knowing that Iām his with that very simple act.
And when itās sexual? The way he chuckles when Iām tied to his bed and writhing beneath his touch and whimpering and begging for release? It makes me smile inside. The way it turns him on to deny me? It makes me even wetter. The sick and twisted joy he gets out of ruining an orgasm or denying me one? It makes my girl parts tingle and makes me beg even harder. If he didnāt get pleasure out of the things he did to me? It wouldnāt be the same. I get turned on because of his dirty words and his talented fingers and the way he fucks me until I canāt think straight, sure ā but, even more, I get turned on by knowing how much pleasure he gets out of watching me whimper and moan and beg and cry and do what Iām told.
Itās all kinds of pleasure. Any pleasure I give him, any way I please him, any way I make his day better or make him happy or make things just a little bit easier for him brings me pleasure. It pleases me to make him feel good. It makes me happy to know that Iāve made him happy. It makes me feel whole and safe and happy and good to bring him pleasure. It lights me up inside. Thatās why I serve him ā because pleasing him is what makes me the happiest I can be.
2. Because I crave structure and I crave it from him.
I am a person who craves structure. No, I donāt just crave it ā I need it. I do better with rules and limits and a schedule in place.
But hereās the thing ā I donāt do well with following the rules and limits and schedule when itās wholly self-imposed. I can create a structure to follow when I have something to answer to (for example: a job). But when I am wholly left on my own I struggle to maintain that balance and those limits and that structure. I do well with picking one thing to focus on and setting up the structure for that (for example: gym and diet) ā but when it comes to creating a structure for my overall life I get overwhelmed and tend to withdraw to a day of procrastinating and ignoring the schedule that Iāve tried to put in place for myself.
I am a person who does better when I know someone else has expectations of me. I have such passion and talent and drive ā but I struggle with figuring out where to channel all of that without having something to work toward. And my brain works at such a speed and in such a way that instead of being able to focus in on a few options or possibilities I just see all of the options and end up in a never-ending loop of everything I could do and not knowing which to pick. So having someone to help me wade through that, help me set in place the limits and parameters and structure to figure out how to focus that drive and passion and talentā¦ It makes it easier for me to know how to order my day, for me to plan what to get done when, for me to accomplish things and go to bed feeling like Iāve been productive.
So I crave someone who is willing to take on the very heavy responsibility of helping me create a structure for my life and then holding me accountable when it comes to sticking to it.Ā
3. Because I donāt always do whatās best for me and when that happens I need someone I can trust to point that out to me.
Itās true. I have a habit of spiraling and, when I do, sometimes I can recognize it and set myself back on track and pull myself out of the hole. But sometimes I make a bad decision. And then I make another. And before I know it Iāve set myself on the path to a cycle of self-destructive behavior.
And then that happens, I need someone who can gently but firmly sit me down and talk me through it and help me set myself back on the right track. I want him to help me set limits. To help me set-up the rules. To, once again, help me create that structure - or alter the structure thatās already in place.
I need him to be my voice of guidance when I canāt guide myself. I want to know that he has my back. And I want to know that heāll put limits in place for me when I canāt do it for myself.Ā
4. I need someone to hold me accountable.Ā
I am a people pleaser. I like to please people. And, true, if my mental health struggles and therapy have taught me anything itās that you canāt live your life entirely focused on pleasing everyone around you. But having a set person in my life who has agreed to be in a relationship with me where he holds me accountable and gives me rules and structure and sets expectations for what he wants from and requires of me gives me a way to feed that people-pleasing need without going overboard and feeding my anxiety.
But itās more than just feeding that people-pleasing need. Itās about being held accountable. Itās about knowing that if I say Iām going to do something or if he asks me to do something or if he sets me a task or a rule or what have you ā that heās then going to follow-up to ensure that itās done and, if itās not, that there are going to be consequences and those consequences are going to come from him.
Itās part of the structure that I need. And I donāt want to put this on someone who doesnāt want to provide that kind of structure or who doesnāt want to take on that responsibility ā Iām looking for someone who gets a sense of fulfillment out of taking on that role. Who enjoys providing me structure, who enjoys holding me accountable, who enjoys leading me. Because knowing that he enjoys that helps me feel pleasure, helps me feel calm, helps me feel at peace.
I need to be held accountable. I need to know that there will be consequences for my actions. And I need to know that that accountability and those consequences will come from the person that I respect and trust most.
5. Because I want a relationship thatās a give and take.
So much of what you see on tumblr has to do with the Dom being responsible and taking on all the control and having to set in place all the rules, limits, and boundaries, and having to be responsible for the welfare of their sub and on and on and onā¦
But thatās not a real D/s relationship. At least not to me.
A real D/s relationship is about a give and take. Both (or all) parties take on responsibility. Both parties are responsible for watching out for the other, for caring for the other, for protecting and respecting and loving the other. Both parties are agreeing to act like adults, to handle disagreements with maturity and within the parameters set-up, to respect the limits and boundaries and rules put in place.Ā
Your Dom takes care of you, yes. Your Dom agrees to hold you accountable. Your Dom agrees to lead you and pleasure you and take on responsibility for providing for your needs. But you take care of your Dom as well. I am responsible for watching out for him, for making sure heās happy, for ensuring that heās reaching his full potential and that Iām helping him in whatever way I can. I am responsible for talking to him, for telling him what I think and how I feel and for making sure that I share my problems and worries and issues with him. I am responsible for remembering that he canāt read my mind. I am responsible for asking him if heās okay. I am responsible for listening when he needs to share his problems and worries and issues with me. I am responsible for taking care of him. I am responsible for loving him and respecting him and being the best I can be for him.
Because when he agrees to take on the responsibility of being my Dom ā I, at the same time, am agreeing to take on the responsibility of being his sub. Because the responsibility of a D/s relationship doesnāt belong to just one party ā itās shared between both of us. Itās a partnership, a team, a unit. Itās a power exchange. An exchange. Which means thereās give and take. And I want that. I want to give my partner as much as he allows me to take from him. Because thatās the only way that both of us can remain healthy and whole.
6. Serving gives me pleasure.
Serving him gives me pleasure. Making a home not just with him but for him. Making it pretty, making it pleasing, making it a warm and happy place to come back to every night. Making him dinner. Doing his laundry (but not the ironing!). Making sure his shirts are all hung-up in the proper place when they come home from the dry-cleaner. Bringing him his favorite drink at the end of a long day. Washing him in the shower. Worshipping his cock. Keeping our home clean. Making sure I pick up his favorite snacks at the grocery store. Making sure he remembers to grab a water before he leaves the house for the gym. Serving him in so many ways.
Doing the little things (and the big ones!) that makes his life happier and calmer and altogether just a little bit easier ā that makes me happy. Knowing that Iām helping him and making it easier for him to go through his day makes me feel complete.
And I know a lot of people will read this and ask what heās doing to make my life easier and happier and calmer ā and the answer is this: heās doing so much. Heās holding me accountable. Heās providing my structure. Heās giving me a healthy and safe outlet for fulfilling my needs to please people and to serve. He loves me. He helps me make sure that I take care of myself ā and takes care of me when I canāt do it. He gives me just as much as I give him. In his way, he serves me too. Itās a different kind of service than I give him. But itās still service. Like I said, itās a give and take.
7. Because kneeling for him brings me tremendous peace.
I suppose this could fall under service but itās such a distinctive act that brings such tremendous fulfillment and peace that I felt like it deserved its own number.
It really is that simple: kneeling for him brings me peace. Kneeling for him makes me feel safe. Kneeling for him is fulfilling. Kneeling for him is a privilege. Kneeling for him is calming and pleasing and a position of both pride and complete and utter joy.
I love kneeling at his feet. I love kneeling in front of him. I love kneeling in the center of the room so he can watch me. I love kneeling simply because itās where he wants me to be. Itās like meditation and prayer and supplication all rolled into one. I enjoy taking a position of worship on my knees. I enjoy worshiping him. I enjoy bestowing that honor on him time and time again. And I feel so tremendously lucky every time he allows me the privilege of kneeling at his feet.Ā
It makes me feel safe, it makes me feel whole, and it makes me feel lucky to take my position at his feet. Because it is a physical, positional reminder of who owns me and it gives me the time to reflect on exactly why I picked him.
8. Because I donāt want to be in charge.
It really is that simple. I donāt want to be in charge. I am in charge of so much in my day-to-day life. I take on so much responsibility. I care for my friends, I care for my family, I feed the people I care about, I have tremendous responsibility in work, I am responsible for teaching new hires, I am responsible for providing advice on this blog (and yes, I am aware that is a self-imposed responsibility). And thereās more ā so, so much more.
And when Iām done with that I donāt want to make decisions. I donāt want to have to make the rules. I donāt want to have to be responsible for what happens next. I want to be told what to do. I want to be told what is expected. I want to be told how to please someone and how to do it right. I want to submit myself to someone elseās control. I want to hand myself over to him and his decisions and his direction. I want that peace. I want that safety. And I want to end each day with that sense of fulfillment.
9. Sexually, I find far more pleasure in cumming for him than I do in cumming for myself.
Orgasms are great. I love orgasms. I really fucking love to cum.
But cumming for myself just doesnāt give me the overwhelming sense of pleasure (emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually) as cumming for him does. When he tells me how to get there, when he tells me what to say, when he makes me beg and cry and whimper and scream and tell him all of my darkest, dirtiest, most depraved fantasies while I try my hardest not to cum without permissionā¦ When he makes me wait for it, makes me edge over and over and over, making me hold offā¦ When he finally tells me to cum. When he finally gives me permission. When he finally tells me to let goā¦ Itās unlike any other feeling. Because I know I have earned that orgasm. Because I know heās allowing me to have that orgasm because Iāve pleased him so much that Iāve earned the gift of it.Ā
Orgasms are great. They really, really are. But orgasms are even greater when theyāre a gift from him.
10. Because I love being told no.
I do. I love the reminder of who is in charge. Or who I have trusted with my welfare and my care and my pleasure and my safety. I love knowing that heās paying attention to me. I love knowing that heās watching what I do. I love knowing that heās making sure Iām staying within the lines ā because it reminds me every single time of how committed he is to me and to our dynamic and to the promises that weāve made to each other.Ā
And I love knowing that heās in charge. And that he knows heās in charge. And that he wants to remind me heās in charge. Because it makes me feel safe. And, tbh, it makes me pretty damn wet.
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