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Many 'allies' version of accepting trans men means stuffing them into a box where they must be unseperatable from cis, instead of reshaping the 'men' category to be inherently inclusive to trans men

'trans men must be ____ because they're men' ❌

'men can be _____ because trans men exist' ✅

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Disability tip that works for me (someone with fluctuating symptoms, brain fog and memory issues)

I meal prep salads. I buy the ingredients I want in my salad (I'll talk about some good combos below) and then when I have the energy and lesser symptoms, I will chop the ingredients and portion them out for meal prep. And then absolutely smother that shit in dressing. I'm a sucker for caeser but honey mustard, garlic and herb etc are also incredible!

Then just chuck it in the fridge and eat within 7 ish days (these salads are also not for freezing so be aware of that).

Then you can eat the salad on its own or with tortilla chips or in a wrap or a sandwich or whatever you may have the energy and spoons for.

It's really helped me with executive dysfunction because I don't have to choose what to eat and I don't have to cook.

OH AND PUT THEM SOMEWHERE VISIBLE!!! Out of sight means out of mind!

Good combos (in my opinion) (customise to YOUR taste)

"Standard" salad. Lettuce, cucumber, tomato, carrot. This is the least amount of ingredients but there's not much variety.

Sweet salad. Cucumber, carrot, tomato, bell pepper, sweetcorn, apple. Good if you don't like how lettuce tastes, because a lot of the ingredients are sweet.

Mediterranean salad. Cucumber, tomato, bell pepper, apple, onion, chickpeas, lettuce, salad cheese, or feta. This is so good and is my go to.

Green salad (I personally like blending this). Kale, chickpeas, arugula, spinach, swiss chard. I like drizzling this with honey and sea salt.

Caesar salad. casear salald is amazing. croutons. chicken (i use quorn). lettuce. cucumber. tomato. a lil bit of pepper and sometimes corn

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what gives the lie to “silence is complicity” or its cousin “silence is violence” is that people are silent about tens, hundreds, thousands of atrocities happening right at this moment because they do not know they are happening/there is simply not enough time in the day to condemn all the evil in the world.

do you think the people saying “silence is complicity” really believe what they are saying, which implicates them too, or do they feel entitled to a stranger’s take? is it a way to build coalition or bully people? is it, at best, a poorly thought out phrase (and there are many such cases!) or is it lying through teeth?

does anyone really believe that saying the right words absolves you? that that’s all there is to it and nothing more?

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i feel strongly about this

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johnbozinov on ig

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I am begging you guys to get your news from somewhere other than social media. Of course social media can be valuable, but it is NOT a replacement for actual news outlets that have reporters, researchers, fact checkers, experts to interview, and years of background.

Do not learn everything you know about Iran from tumblr or Instagram or tiktok. Information is important and accuracy even more so. No one is immune to misinformation and propaganda (from MANY angles) and we have to do better.

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Source: Millennial Memes by Existential Extremes on FB

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This>>>>>>>>

People just don't get it

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Priorities.

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Honestly, if you're a kid and an adult tells you "they're just trying to get a reaction out of you :)" as a response to being told that some younger kid is tormenting you, that should count as full permission to punt that little shit. Like I would never hit a child, but if you're seven years old and a five-year-old is being a cunt at you and adults just tell you "oh they just want to find out what happens if they keep doing that", wouldn't only be fair to let them know what happens if they keep doing that?

Siblings should never be left responsible of raising each other, but if adults have decided that they are allowed to fuck around, wouldn't it only be your right - or even downright duty - to let them consequently find out?

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When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.

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So many people do not understand the relationship between climate change and cold weather.

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A good rule of thumb for AI is "would you trust a trained pigeon to do this?"

"We trained a pigeon to recognise cancerous cell clusters and somehow they're really good at it" okay great, that's something that could plausibly be a thing.

"We trained a pigeon to recognise good CV:s and left it in charge of sorting through all our job applications" uh perhaps consider not doing that.