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Family Matters - Part 3

You stood in the corner of the room as you watched Father locked into his new leather gimp suit. Stepmother sat on the bed with him and rubbed her new lace up boots over his body. She felt guilty about neglecting him and decided the poor wretch would have some special attention. His muted moans were barely audible behind the heavy hood and muzzle, but you knew what was tormenting him. The invasive butt plug was stretching his ass and the pulsing was pushing him to a prostate orgasm, his shifting wouldn’t allow true stimulation, that would be too easy. To further taunt him, Stepmother was playing with his metal cock cage, occasionally holding her wand vibe to it. You were helpless as your own bondage hooked the collar to the ceiling. The latex straitjacket was hot and tight, your body was clad in stockings, red satin briefs and your feet were stuffed into stripper heels as your plug was buzzing away too. A pair of Aunt Katja’s panties were taped into your mouth and she was ripe with the juices of her perversions. Since the arrival of the Aunts, you and Father were usually locked together by your cages. The sadistic bitches permitted you to cum in your chastity, with the discomfort and humiliation that brought. Watching as the other was tormented into being a leaking and desperate slave.

“You see, Thomas. Father is having to win my trust and affection again. He hasn’t coped very well with your rise to being my favourite boy. Luckily, Silvana and Katja have plans for him…..perhaps he will enjoy them….or not.”

She gave a wistful look as Father grunted and strained as he finally became able to cum….his cock thrusting and leaking in the cage as his ass was fucked from the deep plug. His convulsions went on for what seemed like an age…but he finally slumped in his bonds. Resistance broken as he moaned and twitched in the aftershock of orgasm.

“Now, Stephen….that is my little gift to you. Let’s see how Thomas is doing.” She got up off the bed and walked toward me, her cold blue eyes twinkling as I squirmed under her touch. The front of the panties were stained with precum and she tutted. “Control is your problem, boy. But you will get there……we have an event to attend this afternoon. Katja has some friends who organised it and we are all invited along. As you will expect, there is a dress code……Father will be most suitable in his outfit….but you will need to change.”

Once you were changed, you headed outside while Aunt Katja’s friend arrived to pick you all up. Stepmother, Silvana and Katja were waiting. All three in full leather and boots. Silvana wore red, while Stepmother wore thigh boots, for the first time you recalled. They were breathtaking and in your new party outfit, your cock strained even harder. Father wasn’t there, but as you looked back to the house, a large trunk was sitting on the driveway. The additions of some extra touches to your outfit would be required, but that would be attended to on the journey. It was your coming out party……a proud sissy slave for your equally proud Stepmother. She strutted over to run her hands all over you….the tight latex felt amazing, even the flat panel chastity cup belonged. Your silver cuffs were loosely binding your wrists and you saw the jet black van appear around the corner. The men up front got out and greeted the ladies, all the time giving you a predatory look……they headed into the house with the trunk and your heart sank. You knew that Father was going to be loaded into it….transported with you to your destination.

The arrival at the club was discreet as you all departed the vehicle. Your wardrobe changes were complete as you were now led into the building by Katja’s associate. The unveiling of your latex drone attire was met with great enthusiasm and you tottered in those awkward ankle boots. The wide steel collar was attached to the leash and the huge fake tits pushed the waist corset tightly into you. The red lips were slutty as could be, but the ladies and the men in attendance were very interested in you. As for Father, he was indeed being taken to Bucharest the next day. His training would need to be much harsher and that would be handled by the Aunts. Stepmother and you would be just fine it would seem, your future was in her very safe, gloved hands…..

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** Chat 5 **

AnnabelleJ: You look SO HOT with your lips on that COCK.

LFTRM: 🥰 Thank you, Annabelle. But most especially thank you for my sissy treat.

AnnabelleJ: And your makeup looked quite good! Did you have to practice much?

LFTRM: ☺️ Yes. I, uh, had to watch some youtube videos. And then it took forever to wash off.

AnnabelleJ: Quite the eager slut, are you not?

LFTRM: Yes. Thanks to you, Ms Annabelle.

AnnabelleJ: Am I pushing you too hard? How much interaction can you handle?

LFTRM: THANK YOU SO MUCH for asking that question!! Yes, these last few days have been a HUGE rush, but other parts of my life might start to suffer if we continue at this pace. I think I can handle just 1 or 2 sissy treats per week, and maybe one "big one" every other week, or maybe as little as once a month. I'm sorry I can't devote more time.

AnnabelleJ: Very good. I will respect your limits. 💋 💋 At least as best I can.

LFTRM: Bless you.

AnnabelleJ: Now let's talk more about tasks. From what I remember of your instructions, you want some tasks which help you achieve your life goals. What are some of those?

LFTRM: There are so many! I'm working on a novel.

AnnabelleJ: What's it called?

LFTRM: Working Title: The Demon at the Center of the Earth

AnnabelleJ: Interesting. Maybe it should be a Demoness? We'll talk about that later. What else?

LFTRM: Well, I want to lose 10 pounds. Or 15.

AnnabelleJ: How much do you weigh? How tall are you?

LFTRM: I weigh 204 pounds and I'm 5'11"

AnnabelleJ: (calculating your BMI) So, you're overweight. The calculator says you should be at 180 pounds to be healthy.

LFTRM: REALLY?? Shit.

AnnabelleJ: Haha! 😂 😂 I won't tell you mine.

LFTRM: I would never think to ask!

AnnabelleJ: Good. Don't. NOT EVER.

LFTRM: <bows head> Of course not.

AnnabelleJ: Okay, so you need some more exercise and to lose weight and you need to work on your book. Alright. Hear are your tasks for this week. In addition to the lines, I want you to take a walk for a minimum 15 minute duration at least three times this week. And I want you to write at least 250 words on your novel by Friday. Write back to me when you've finished any of your tasks. Do you understand?

LFTRM: Yes, Annabelle. Thank you.

AnnabelleJ: Very good. You are such a good girl. Aren't you? You will eagerly do your tasks FOR me, won't you?

LFTRM: Yes. Yes, I will.

AnnabelleJ: That's my good girl. Until later. Ta.

[lookingfortherightmistress]

Running count: 5 so-called mistress accounts blocked.

The most recent was especially egregious - all stolen content from MayaMidnight - a famous NYC mistress.

Sissies: Stay safe out there! Check out my red flags!

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Sissies - Stay Safe Out There!

Oh gosh - interacting with mistresses is so dangerous! I am fortunate, so far, to have avoided any issues, but I just want to warn Sissies to stay safe!

Here are some of my red flags:

1. RED FLAG - If they use Kik & Google Hangouts -> DO NOT USE

Neither of these chat methods have any sort of verification. They could be anyone. THEY COULD BE MEMBERS OF FOREIGN HACKING CONSORTIUMS!!

Kik is a notorious cesspool of predators and Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM). DO NOT USE.

2. RED FLAG - They want your picture

They can use a reverse facial-lookup software to find you and blackmail you. Do not send your picture. This is not safe!

3. RED FLAG - They ask you to chat via a text message / or they want to talk to you on the phone.

They can use a reverse phone # lookup your phone number to find you to blackmail you. Double-red flag if they say "Chat only".

4. RED FLAG - They want you to send them money via Bitcoin

Where is that money going? You have NO IDEA. This is almost certainly a criminal organization or state-sponsored hacking team.

5. RED FLAG - They are too eager

Do they text you all the time? Are they constantly asking "why are you not texting back?" Are they impatient with your responses?

I know, sissies, that it's flattering to think that a Mistress really thinks you could be the perfectly little subby for her. But seriously? Think practically. Subs to mistresses are like 100 to 1. Maybe 1000 or 10,000 to 1. Real Mistresses are not going to be so eager.

6. RED FLAG - They have no original material in their Tumblr

Real mistresses will have real, original pictures. Like pictures of their dungeon, sissies, etc. (see #8 below)

7. RED FLAG - Their Tumblr is recent and shallow

Are they recently on Tumblr? Do they only have re-blogs and maybe some text items? Big red flag!

8. RED FLAG - They send you pictures for someone else

If they send you a picture, or if they have posted a picture which they claim to be a picture of themselves or original content, do a facial recognition search and an image search. If it's not them then STAY AWAY.

9. RED FLAG - They are threatening, trying to create urgency, or giving you ultimatums

Do they threaten you when you don't respond? Do they threaten to leave you? Do they give you sales tricks like 'do this or you'll miss this opportunity forever' ?

This is a triple-quadruple red flag if you have just been contacted by the Mistress. If she/he is saying these sorts of things within the first few days of getting in contact - RUN AWAY!

- - - - - -

Yes, we all want to be owned by a mistress or master. Yes we are subs seeking a loving, stern, demanding dominant.

But do you want to be a sub to a real, actual dom? Or do you want to be a sub to some sort of faceless criminal syndicate who only exists to scam you out of all your money and perhaps to ruin your life in the process?

Personally, if I've decided to ruin my life, I'll go to the local bar and get myself fucked over (financially and otherwise) by the first asshole shit-head I can find. At least it will be someone I know! And at least it will be an actual person - who probably needs the money - and not providing funding for a truly evil organization which is buying arms for terrorists, human trafficking, or state-sponsored terrorism.

Sissies BE SAFE.

[lookingfortherightmistress]

** Chat 4 **

AnnabelleJ: Another two hours of work for me. I am SO proud of you! You are a very productive pet! I can't tell you what a joy it is to see that money in my bank account and to know that it is from the hard work of my pet. It... makes me shiver with pleasure.

LFTRM: I am so glad!! I did it for you, and I can't tell you how much it means to me that you appreciate my hard work. It's.... everything. ❤️❤️

AnnabelleJ: Did you enjoy your task?

LFTRM: Yes, Annabelle, I did. I like working for you.

AnnabelleJ: And the panties?

LFTRM: Oh, that made it so much more special. Thank you, Annabelle. I was doing my work and having my meetings and all the time there was this secret. This secret that only I and my mistress knew. This secret that I was wearing panties underneath my clothes.

AnnabelleJ: Perfect! That's what I was hoping for! 🥰

LFTRM: Thank you!! 😍😍

AnnabelleJ: Now Paul, we need to have an honest conversation about your limits. How many hours a week can you afford to work for me?

LFTRM: Thank you so much for asking this question. I've been thinking about this a lot. I think I can afford to work for you for 1 hour a week on average. It's not much, I'm afraid.

AnnabelleJ: Do you think you can get that up to two hours per week? One of my goals is to earn enough from my pets that I can quit my job.

LFTRM: That is a worthy goal! The truth is that I can certainly afford 2 hours per week. But my wife manages the finances and she would start to question a regular payment like that.

AnnabelleJ: Well, see what you can do. You're a smart person and I bet you'll figure it out.

LFTRM: Is this FinDom?

AnnabelleJ: Do you want FinDom? Do you get turned on by being financially drained by a dominant?

LFTRM: No. I don't.

AnnabelleJ: (consulting your original post - 🙂) That's right. Payments are tasks, right? Not inherently sexy or bad. No, I think that, for you, payments are just periodic tasks that you do for me. No different than paying for weekly therapy sessions, amiright?

LFTRM: Thank you, Annabelle, that's exactly right.

AnnabelleJ: I want this to be a safe space for the both of us, Paul. I want you to express all your feelings and opinions. You should never hesitate to tell me exactly what you're feeling and if you're uncomfortable with any task that I give you. I want to take care of my pet so that you are a happy, content and productive pet for me for as long as possible. Hopefully, for the rest of your life.

LFTRM: Annabelle.... oh gosh. That paragraph... is amazing. Thank you. Bless you.

AnnabelleJ: I'm the type of owner who takes care of her pets.

LFTRM: Thank you, Annabelle.

AnnabelleJ: Now I believe you deserve a treat for completing your 2-hour work task. Do you have an anatomically correct dildo? With balls, veins and everything?

LFTRM: 😳 Yes.

AnnabelleJ: Perfect. Your treat is to have some sissy alone-time with your rubber cock. First put on some lipstick, because sissy lipstick lips on a cock is so sexy, don't you think? I don't care if you use your wife's or you have your own.

LFTRM: I have my own. <so embarrassed!>

AnnabelleJ: Haha! Of course you do! Put on your lipstick and put your lips around that cock. Make love to it and masturbate for me while thinking about how your mistress Annabelle has commanded you to suck this cock. Okay, Paul?

LFTRM: Yes, Annabelle. Thank you for my treat, Annabelle.

AnnabelleJ: Extra credit if you shave and use makeup to make your skin look as smooth and feminine as possible. And double extra-credit if you send me a picture. Crop it down so I only see your lips and the cock. Do you understand?

LFTRM: <heavy breathing> Oh.... yes. Thank you. It may take a few days for me to be able to do that.

AnnabelleJ: No hurries! We'll talk whenever you're available. Keep doing your lines!

LFTRM: Will do! Thank you SO MUCH.

AnnabelleJ: That's my good pet. Now go.

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** Chat 3 **

AnnabelleJ: Did you enjoy your treat, Paul?

LFTRM: Oh, yes. ☺️ It was intense.

AnnabelleJ: Excellent. Is it better because it's a reward from your mistress for a task well done?

LFTRM: Oh, 1000x better!

AnnabelleJ: And were you thinking of me when you orgasmed?

LFTRM: Yes. ☺️ I called out your name.

AnnabelleJ: Oh, how wonderful! Now tell me a little about yourself. And remember - there will be no secrets between a pet and her owner.

LFTRM: Oh! Okay. Well I'm married, no children, 56 years old. My real name is 'Paul'. I was born in Virginia but I now live in Delaware. I'm a computer software consultant / manager for a large IT consulting firm.

AnnabelleJ: What's your wife's name?

LFTRM: Sarah

AnnabelleJ: And does she know you're texting with me.

LFTRM: Uh... no.

AnnabelleJ: Oh, interesting. So I am the one in control of your secret, perverted side, is that it?

LFTRM: Yes. Is that okay?

AnnabelleJ: More than OK. Does your wife know you like to wear women's clothing?

LFTRM: She knows. But she doesn't want to have anything to do with it.

AnnabelleJ: Ah, that's a shame, but not unusual. Well then, let me tell you a little about myself. I'm divorced. I have a little girl who's not so little anymore. I work as an office manager for in an accounting firm, and I do this to gain a little extra income on my off-hours.

LFTRM: How wonderful! How old is your little girl?

AnnabelleJ: She's 5.

LFTRM: A cute age! I bet she's adorable.

AnnabelleJ: I suppose. 🙄 Certainly she is when she wants to be.

AnnabelleJ: Now Paul, I want you to work some more hours for me, okay? And remember, it's not just me that you're working for, but also my little girl.

LFTRM: That... helps, actually.

AnnabelleJ: I thought it might. Now I have two options for you: You can work for me tomorrow for 1 hour. OR, you can work for 2 hours while wearing a pair of panties. Which will you choose?

LFTRM: Oh gosh... two hours. I can handle two hours.

AnnabelleJ: Very good. Talk tomorrow!

[lookingfortherightmistress]

** Chat 2 **

AnnabelleJ: I saw the tip you sent me. Thank you SO MUCH. It was more than I expected! You are SUCH a good girl for completing your task so quickly! You are SUCH a good sub to pay me so quickly and with so little fuss!

LFTRM: ☺️ Thank you, Annabelle.

AnnabelleJ: No need to thank *me*. You're the one who did the work. It shows respect, when a sub like yourself, promptly pays her mistress.

LFTRM: You're welcome. ❤️❤️

AnnabelleJ: Was it different working for ME during those two hours?

LFTRM: Oh yes, definitely.

AnnabelleJ: How?

LFTRM: I set two alarms, one to start my work for you, and a second one when it was over. So, as soon as the first one went off, I thought, 'now I'm working for Annabelle.'

AnnabelleJ: And how did that feel?

LFTRM: I felt *owned*. I felt like your pet. I felt like my work had purpose and meaning. 🙂

AnnabelleJ: How wonderful. I bet you enjoyed that feeling.

LFTRM: Oh yes.

AnnabelleJ: I bet you'd like to have that feeling again, wouldn't you, Paul?

LFTRM: Yes, definitely. ☺️

AnnabelleJ: I think this is going to be the start of a beautiful relationship. ❤️❤️

LFTRM: I hope so! This is the perfect start.

AnnabelleJ: So now, according to your instructions, I should give you a treat? Like a pet?

LFTRM: Only if you feel I deserve one.

AnnabelleJ: Oh, I do. Very well. Your treat will be to wear a pair of panties. Do you have a pink pair?

LFTRM: Yes, I do.

AnnabelleJ: Excellent. Wear a pink pair of panties, and then I want you to masturbate in your panties while thinking of how fulfilling it is to do work for me. Will that be a good treat for you?

LFTRM: Oh yes. It will be a wonderful treat!

AnnabelleJ: Perfect. Now for your next task, I want you to write 'I obey Annabelle J' two hundred times on paper. See? It rhymes. 😁 But not all at once. Do 50 lines a day. Then take a picture of all 200 lines and send it to me. Will you do that, my pet?

LFTRM: Happily, Annabelle!

AnnabelleJ: That's my good girl. 💋💋

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** Chat 1 **

AnnabelleJ: I read your post.

LFTRM: Oh! Cool!

AnnabelleJ: So the way this works is that I give you a task and you perform the task? And then once you've done the task to my satisfaction, you get a treat?

LFTRM: That's right. That's perfect.

AnnabelleJ: Does this make you excited?

LFTRM: ☺️ Yes. Yes it does.

AnnabelleJ: I bet it makes you feel vulnerable too.

LFTRM: Oh yes. Vulnerability is so sexy.

AnnabelleJ: Indeed it is. Very well then. Tomorrow I want you to work for two hours *for me*, let's say, from 2pm to 4pm. You will calculate your wages, after taxes, and then send them to my tip jar, which you can find _here_.

LFTRM: Thank you, Annabelle? I will.

AnnabelleJ: Wonderful! Now I want you to work and be as productive as you can. After all, you belong to me, at least for those two hours, and I don't want to have a lazy pet.

LFTRM: I'll do my best.

AnnabelleJ: I know you will. 💋💋

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Interested in a non-role-play, on-line mistress relationship

I'm interested in a non-role-play online sub-mistress relationship which works like this:

1. The Mistress gives me non-sexy, but productive, tasks to do, with deadlines

2. I complete the task and tell her about it.

3. She gives me praise, and as a reward tells me to complete a sexy treat or reward

4. If I am unable to complete the task by the deadline, I am punished

5. Punishments are typically non-sexy things that I actually do not want to do.

Ideally, the relationship would be a caring and open relationship of mutual interest.

Example tasks are:

* Exercise

* Working for the mistress - e.g. sending her my wages for an hour or two of work

* Completing work assignments or parts of assignments

* Completing personal projects or parts of personal projects

* Home repairs

* Tasks which bind me closer the mistress (doing lines, writing letters to her, etc.)

Example treats / rewards are:

* Written, Verbal or video Praise

* Wearing women's clothing

* Sucking on dildoes

* Masturbating in various sexy ways, e.g. while saying her name, etc.

* Playing with toys

Example punishments are:

* Orgasm denials

* Writing non-sexy punishment lines

* Additional payments to the mistress

* Payments to charities

* Eating food I hate

* Simple Scolding

* Radio silence / no communication for a set period

Discussion of treats, rewards, payments, and punishments should be open and honest.

Finally, since this is not role-play, I would prefer if, at least initially, we would talk to each other like people using names, without mistress/sissy titles.

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A Template for a new Mistress / Sub Relationship

I dream about having a mistress, but not a mistress in the traditional sense - like you see on this platform. What I fantasize about is having a dominant, caring pen-pal and friend with an owner-pet relationship.

An Honest, Authentic Relationship

I seek an honest, authentic, non-role-play, dominant-submissive, on-line relationship as a submissive to a mistress.

I would like to be submissive to someone. I would prefer to be submissive to a person - not an icon or a role. I need and want to follow her orders. I further understand that there must be a financial component to this relationship. My goal is to integrate this financial component naturally into the relationship.

I am looking for a "pet-owner" relationship as a model for the relationship that I am seeking with my mistress. I want to be her pet. I want her to be my owner.

Note that I still want to be a human. I do not want to be made to bark or eat dog food or pee in the corner. I want to be a human pet - with all my human capabilities - for another human. "pet-owner" only refers to the sort of power exchange dynamic that I am seeking.

But as any pet owner knows, the owner has responsibilities. The owner looks after her pet's health and well being. The owner trains and works with the pet to become a better pet - healthier, happier, more obedient, less fussy. The owner may put the pet to work for her own possibly financial benefit.

Meanwhile, the pet is eager to please. The pet craves praise and affection from her owner. The pet delights in doing tasks for her owner and lives for her praise and her treats that successful task completion brings.

Finally, I want an honest & open relationship between two people. This is not role play. This is an "eyes-wide-open" power exchange, where the needs of both the mistress and the sub are out and open on the table and freely discussed at all times.

I want to create a new pattern for an on-line, mistress-sub relationship which is 100% real, safe and mutually beneficial for both sides.

Caring for Each Other

I dream of a mistress who actually cares about me. I would care for her and she would care for me, like any owner would care for her pet and like any pet would care for her owner. Because caring is sexy, and also the basis for a long-term relationship.

She asks questions. She takes time to know what I'm feeling and what my life is like. She asks 'how was your day?' and she responses truthfully when I ask the same questions.

She may care about me like she cares for a pet. You wouldn't go around abusing your dog, would you? Neither is it sexy to be abused by mistress - verbally or otherwise. Instead, a mistress should care for her pets and treat them well. But she should also tell them what to do, because that is the power dynamic of the relationship. She is the owner, and I am the pet. She calls and I come.

And so I would look up to her as if she were my owner. I would be excessively eager to please.

Not Role Play

A key element of this relationship is that it is not role play. The mistress is a person and I am a person. We talk to each other as people. Yes, there is power exchange, but not part of a fake scene that needs to be acted. People just act naturally as they would act and that is always OK.

As an example, almost every time I have interacted with a mistress she has demanded to be called 'mistress' from the very beginning. To me, this initiates the role play and puts my head into the wrong space. I would much prefer that we just call each other by our regular names as the relationship gets established and then let other titles emerge as the relationship deepens and grows naturally.

Earning my keep

As her pet, I would be expected to earn my keep for my owner / mistress. I would be like a work horse or show dog. This is not hidden, this is expected. This is freely discussed without embarrassment.

"Of course you realize that, as my pet, you will need to work for me," she will say.

"Of course," I would say. "If I wish to be owned by you, I would naturally expect to work for you to build your income, just like anything else that you own."

It would not be a "tribute" - like to a goddess. That implies a blind obeisance which is so un-sexy and exploitive. It's so much better, so much more honest, so much more real and authentic to say: For you I work. Because you care about me. Because I care about you.

The difference is that I would be working FOR her.

"Tomorrow," she would say, "I want you to work from 2 to 4pm - for me. Set an alarm, so that you will know that these two hours will be dedicated to earning money for me, as my pet. And everything that you earn will be sent to me. That will be two-hours of wages, from one day of the year, after taxes. In effect, I truly own you for those two hours, and I am renting you out to your company for those two hours, and I will collect all of the wages for those two hours, because you will transfer that money to me using the method that I specify. And you will work extra hard during those two hours, won't you? You will be extra focussed, because your work will have PURPOSE - it will be work FOR someone - it will be work FOR me. And I will not want a pet who slacks off when she's working for me. I will want a pet who works hard and is productive, so that pet will become more valuable to their employer, and, by extension, to me."

Of course, anything which involves a financial exchange is open for abuse, and this one is no different. I fantasize about a mistress who is open and honest about the exchange and understands my limits and capabilities and doesn't overtax them. This is no different from any pet owner. If someone abuses a pet by working them too hard, then they don't deserve to own the pet and the pet will either run away or be taken away. The same is true for my fantasy relationship. Abusive relationships are not OK.

Treats, Tasks and Punishments

In my ideal relationship, there would be an honest understanding of what is a treat, a task, and punishment. Let's dispel the lie that the pet is somehow wearing panties 'for the mistress', or is in anyway being 'forced' to wear panties. Sexy things like this which the sub really wants to do should be treats or rewards for tasks completed.

Treats are things that I actually want to do, secretly or otherwise. Like wearing panties, masturbating, using toys, etc. It is a treat to be told to do these things by a mistress. Treats should be given for tasks well done, as a reward.

Tasks are things that achieve some positive benefit, either for the mistress or the pet. Tasks can be things like chores, exercise, completing work assignments, charity work, working hours for the mistress, working towards life goals, etc.

Punishments are things the pet really, honestly does not want to do. Things like writing lines, eating food they hate, abstinence / orgasm denial, additional payments, etc. Punishments should be demanded when tasks are not completed.

Doing tasks with purpose

I am the sort of person who loves to please. I get physical pleasure from serving someone and being praised for my service. I am the little girl in grade school who raises her hand for every question and then blushes with pleasure when she's called upon and gets the question right.

When you ask your pet to do something for you, you reward your pet. You give them a treat. You give them a hug and a belly rub and say 'good girl'. I am no different. This is the sort of relationship that I want.

One of the things I hate about growing up is that now I am the boss. I am in charge. A lot of my fantasies revolve around not being in charge. About not having to make decisions. About not being responsible.

As children, we are given tasks by adults and then we are rewarded when we perform those tasks well. Good grades, doing well at chores, our creative endeavors - all of these are presented to an authority figure who evaluates our progress and gives us praise and treats (badges, stars, milkshakes, diplomas) for good performance. This relationship is ingrained into us at a very young age - and I think that many of us continue to crave that sort of relationship.

And that is, ultimately, the sort of relationship that I fantasize about having with a mistress. A relationship where I am given a task and then I am praised by an authority figure when I perform well at that task.

Tasks for the Sub

There are, fundamentally, three sorts of commands that an on-line mistress can give a pet. 1) Tasks, 2) treats, and 3) true punishments. #1 is discussed below. #2 and #3 are discussed later.

Tasks are commands which are not good or bad and which have some productive purpose. Typically they are given to help the pet to be a better person or a better pet for the mistress in some way.

Tasks are rewarded with praise and treats.

Example tasks to improve her relationship with her mistress:

* to become a more obedient pet

* to become more open and truthful for her mistress

* to overcome hangups / reluctances

Tasks to make the pet a better person:

* to exercise

* to learn more about other cultures / interests

* to develop her thinking skills / analysis skills / listening skills

* to be more tolerant of others - to understand others more deeply

* to be nicer, more charitable, more giving, more generous

* to become more focused, more motivated

* to improve the sub's own mental health and reduce stress

* do household chores or home improvements she's been putting off

* do anything else she should be doing (like calling mom) but which she doesn't do as often as she should

* to achieve her goals in life, whatever they may be

EXAMPLE 1: (creating trust and openness)

"Paul," my mistress might ask, "tell me a secret about yourself that you have told no one else."

EXAMPLE 2: (becoming more obedient)

"My pet. I want you to take out a pen and a piece of paper, and write: 'I promise to obey Miss Janice" 100 times. Then take a picture of it and send it to me."

EXAMPLE 3: (creating trust and openness)

"I don't want any of your life to be a secret to me. I want you to be a completely open book. Are you married? What is she like? Do you love her? How and in what way? Do you have children? How many, and what are their names? Where were you born? Tell me all about yourself - and do not hide anything."

EXAMPLE 4: (creating trust and openness)

"Tell me what embarrasses you." "Now tell me exactly why you find that embarrassing."

EXAMPLE 5: (exercise, improve health)

"Hey sweetie, I know you want to lose 10 pounds and I want that for you too. After all, we want you to be healthy, don't we? How about you start by taking a 10 minute walk for me today? Extra credit if you can do it three days in a row."

EXAMPLE 6: (becoming more charitable)

"Hey Honey, one of my favorite charities is X. Do you think you could afford to send them a $100 donation in my name? I know you told me you wanted to be more charitable. They really do excellent work and they'd put the money to good use."

EXAMPLE 7: (home repairs)

"I know you've been putting off fixing the drywall in the upstairs bedroom. My next task for you is to complete that repair before Monday. Extra credit if you complete it before the weekend."

Combining Treats and Tasks

Of course, tasks and treats can be combined, and should be as much as possible. This will only further encourage the pet to obey her mistress.

EXAMPLE 8:

"Hey, how's my girly-girl? I know how much you like to wear panties. How about you wear a nice pink pair today under your clothes as you work for me? Then set a repeating timer so that every thirty minutes you reach into your pants to stroke the fabric - just so you can remember what you're wearing all day long. And then, of course, I want to hear all about it when your day is up!"

Treats and Punishment

What I really want is to re-write the traditional (boring) mistress-sub relationship into something that's honest. Honestly describe what is a treat, what is a punishment, and what is a task or chore.

This can be a simple list and it can be simply asked for. Why bother with the lie?

"Paul, tell me what you like. What are your kinks?"

"Oh, I love to wear panties."

"That's a treat then. You will get to wear panties when you are a good girl, as a special treat. Tell me what else you like."

<Paul lists 1000 other things and ranks them by level of excitement>

Note that extra special treats would include anything that's personal from the mistress. Like snapchat video praise, or a snail-mail card, or a pair of her used panties.

"Excellent," the mistress would say. "Now we need some actual punishments for when you are lazy or disobedient or are unable to complete an assigned task for any reason. Of course, one punishment will be that you have to send me money. But other than that, what are some actual punishments?"

Of course, it is likely that the sub will find both punishments and tasks exciting because they are being done for their mistress. This is perfectly OK. Anything that a sub would not do on their own - without a mistress - can either be a task (if it is beneficial for the sub) or a punishment (if it has no other purpose than to deter future negative behavior). If the sub discovers, under the direction of the mistress, that the task or the punishment becomes sexually exciting - all the better!

Doing lines is one example. No sub would just sit down and write something 100 times for no purpose. But doing it at the direction of the mistress it takes on a whole new level of excitement.

For me, actual (non-monetary) punishments include nipple clamps, time-outs, pointless tasks with no actual purpose, eating lima beans, things that are boring, etc.

Note that an honest and open communication between the mistress and the sub is critical. The mistress could assign something they both agree is a treat, but then it may turn out that the sub doesn't actually like it. The sub should be honest about if they enjoyed the treat and how much. If they do not enjoy it, a second treat could be given and then the original treat is either abandoned or (if disliked enough) converted to a punishment.

This is an experiment

I have never entered into a dominant relationship as described above with any mistress. All of my prior relationships with mistresses have been of the more traditional kind. They have all been short, one-time, and, generally, unsatisfying. The ones which have been effective (I can only think of one), I had to end because it was negatively impacting my life too much.

What I would love is to find a mistress who would be interested in working with me to explore if creating the above sort of relationship could work in real life.

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[lookingfortherightmistress]

I imagine being this girl, out in public, dressed like this, my nipples and breasts attracting the worst kind of attention…

OMG, I love how her hard nipples poke out on those big tits. I love this idea of everyone in the room watching me for this.

[lookingfortherightmistress]

Happy Housewife.

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