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BDSM 101: More Common Misconceptions about D/s Relationships that are made by D/s Practitioners
People who pursue power dynamics for dysfunctional reasons have evolved many toxic ideas surrounding the BDSM lifestyle, which are often repeated and imitated by new and less experienced kinksters. Here are more such misconceptions:
1. A dominant can take out their daily anger and frustrations on their submissive by beating them to take the edge off.
Impact activities and punishments should never be delivered in anger. Hitting a partner who doesnāt benefit to ātake the edge offā is abuse.
2. Dominants keep submissives so they can make them do unwanted work and chores, allowing them to kick back and enjoy a task free life.
If you are a sub who likes domestic tasks, you may get pleasure and fulfillment in sharing this type of dynamic with someone, but if dishes and laundry isnāt your idea of service, donāt let your dominant partner use your relationship to enable their lazy lifestyle.
3. A kept submissive cannot leave their dominant until the dominant releases them from service.
Submission is a voluntary action. Subs can submit or break their submission at any time, and for any reason.
4. D/s scenes are about constantly pushing a subās limits, and encouraging them to overcome them.
While couples may decide to have scenes that are designed to push limits, a typical BDSM scene should play within well established safe zone activities. Limits are personal boundaries, and a dominant who knowingly goes after your limits without discussion should be red flagged for abuse.
5. Itās up to adult kinksters to teach the lifestyle to minors so they are ready to participate by the time they are 18.
Minors should explore vanilla relationships until they have lived long enough (at least 18 years) to earn and be able to defend their own consent. Adults should not expose minors to BDSM and D/s dynamics. If you are a minor who is being taught BDSM and D/s dynamics by an adult, you are being groomed and abused.
6. Pain corrects submissives.
A masochist enjoys pain. Many submissive people are masochistic. Therefore, for many subs, pain is not corrective. Masochistic subs who are punished with pain may act out in order to receive more pain from their dominant. Pain can be a consequence for a non masochistic sub, provided it is not a limit.
7. There is nothing more to being a dominant than saying youāre a dominant.
Words are meaningless without action. Know a dominant by their actions - not their self ascribed title.
8. Once a dominant explores CNC with a submissive, the submissive loses their safe word.
A submissive should always retain their safeword. Having a way to stop scenes is never more important then when you are exploring non-consent/rape. Without a way to express your consent is in danger, exploring the fantasy of rape can quickly become an actual rape.
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Big bow, little stuffie!
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Itās always āI wanna see your titsā. Itās never āI wanna see your stuffiesā š
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SMH, subs will really sit there and be like "why r u bein so mean š„ŗš„ŗ?" As if they're not secretly enjoying every last second of it.
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As someone who has been living with severe suicidal ideation my entire life I wanna tell you all something, you donāt have to stay alive for yourself. People will say itās a bad idea to live for external things because theyāre temporary, and itās true living for yourself is ideal but if youāre not to that point yet thatās ok too.Ā
Iāve lived for my dog for the past 4 years, before that I lived for my snakes, before that I lived for my cat. You can live for whatever needs you and whatever matters to you. Live for your best friend, live for your plants, live for your pets, live for your animal crossing town. Live for whatever keeps you alive and the day will come when you can live for yourself.
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so you are interested in bdsm, huh? whether it be because you read a book like fifty shades of grey *shivers* or you are just curious, here are some links to help you start out!
What does bdsm stand for/what is it?
BDSM
What is bdsm?
So what is bdsm?
The difference between bdsm and abuse
Bondage
What is bondage?
Bondage and Restraints 101
Rope bondage 101
Bondage for beginners
DisciplineĀ
BDSM techniques
Discipline v. punishment
are they the same thing?
Discipline
Dominant/Dominance/Dom/Domming
Dominance 101
How to be a dom
How hard can it be?
Everything you could want to know about being dominant
Submissive/Submission/Sub/Subbing
Submissive 101
How to be submissive
Intro to subbing
So you want to be submissive?
Sadism/Sadist
Sexual Sadism
Sadism 101
Sadism in BDSM
Sadism 101
Masochism/Masochist
Sexual Masochism
Understanding Masochism
Processing Pain
The joys of being a masochist
Types of Dom/Sub Relationships
Types of relationships
Dom/Sub types
Different types
A quick beginnerās guide to subs
Is BDSM always sexual?
Asexual and kinky
Asexuality in BDSM
What is non sexual play?
Nonsexual dom/sub
Is the man always dominant and the female submissive?
Sexually Dominant Women and the Men who Desire them
Femdom idea guide
Appeal of a male sub
The good girlās guide to female dominance
Iām a feminist and submissive. Is that wrong?
What itās like being submissive and feminist
Why im sexually submissive and feminist
Feminist sex submissive
Being a feminist submissive
Can i be trans/do i have to be straight to be into bdsm? Heck no! bdsm does not discriminate the kink/fetish community is one of the most accepting communities. so go on and be yourself we wont hurt you (unless you want to be)
So whatās wrong with fifty shades of grey?
50 things wrong with 50 shades of grey
Whatās wrong with fifty shades of grey?
The troubling list of things wrong with 50 shades of grey
7 realities of bdsm that 50 shades of grey ignores
*please note there is nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality and fetishes. there is nothing wrong with enjoying 50 shades of grey as long as you recognize that Christian Grey is not the role model for a good dom
Sub drop/ Dom drop
Sub space, aftercare, and sub drop
Dom drop
The emotional side of sub drop
To dom space, dom drop, and beyond
Aftercare
Aftercare for dominants
Aftercare
Aftercare 101
Aftercare for submissives
Signs of an abusive bdsm relationship
Can i be abused in a bdsm relationship?
Field guide to the creepy dom
Warning signs of a bad dom
Abusive subs
Places to meet people interested in bdsm
fetlife
bdsm dating sites
fester
bondage pal
Where to get toys
pleasure chest
amazon
etsy
liberator
frisky buisness
adam and eve
babe land
pure romance
amazing
too timid
BDSM on a Budget
BDSM on a budget
Sex toys you can make at home
Budget BDSM
Budget BDSM 101
Misc.
The paradox of dom/sub relationships
Advice to newbie subs on dominants
The relationship between a sadist and masocist
101 ways to make your slave/sub feel owned
Beginnerās guide to d/s
BDSM training academy *for both doms, subs, and switches
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Not just sex peeps
Although personally itās a lot of sex š¤«
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Youāre so precious!
Thank you!!!! I love your blogš
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Hello š do you wear diapers?
No, but I might try them at some point. Currently not in the headspace to feel comfortable with that.
Hope you have a great day
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Hi sweetie! Are you feeling smol today? Youāre not? Thatās okay. I noticed that you havenāt felt smol lately little one. Itās okay if you struggle to regress. It doesnāt mean that youāre not a valid regressor. You will regress again. How do I know? Well, I just know sweetheart. I know that you will regress again and maybe it wonāt be today or tomorrow, but you will regress again. Do I pinky promise? Yes baby. I pinky promise. Is it okay if I give you a hug? I think you need a hug. Iāll give you as many hugs you as you want. Iām not going anywhere.
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Who is Ur best stuffie friend and how long have U had them for?
Iāve taken a hiatus for the longest time from here, but now that Iām back Iāll answer!
My Bestest stuffie friend is my stuffie Hershey. Heās a little teddy bear that Iāve had for 4 years
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