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saw this cute post and now I'm not going on reddit for the rest of the day. quit while you're ahead

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I've noticed something while observing the behavior of the adults around me. When talking to children, they tend to default to baby talk regardless of their age. They at best directly ignore what the child wants/needs (boundary wise e.g 'Don't talk to me' 'Don't be disrespectful!') and at worst go out of their way to FORCE them to do stuff (manhandling, for example). When a child and adult are talking, the adults tend to sort of... loom over them, and if a kid gets upset, more times than not the surrounding adults call them dramatic or tell them to walk it off.

And, it strikes me as odd when they look at me and get surprised because the kids enjoy being around me. Literally all it takes is respecting their boundaries and treating them like equals. I got on my knees to meet their level once and I talked to them like a person and the way their eyes lit up nearly knocked me over. I ask if they'd rather be left alone and they say yeah and they almost seem SURPRISED that I just... take that. I leave them alone.

Kids are inexperienced and developing, yes, but the way they're treated is so... normalized? If we treated an adult like that we'd be called abusive. How it any more different just because they're smaller and less knowledgeable?

Anyways my point being, maybe the kids WILL be alright if you just treat them with Basic Respect

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saw a video that was like “everybody comment what you did today so we can see how everyone experienced something different” and the comments have me tearing up on this train. what the fuckkkk. the human experience

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the insane experience of missing a fictional character . like you can always go back and reread the book , replay the game , rewatch the show or movie , you can always go back & see them , but you can never experience them & their story for the first time again . its absurd to miss them because they'll always be there , but you'll miss when there were still new things for them to say .

for a small time they were real & growing and changing and you hung onto every new word, but now all they can do is repeat the same story forever&ever & they're not real anymore because you know everything they're going to do. & you miss them. its fucked man...

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you're the only one who understands me mr strobbery

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you can go back to the past but nobody’s there

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[taps my chest] this bad boy can fit so much love and fear and compassion and anxiety and tenderness and grief and empathy and heartache and capacity for affection and loss etc in it

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They should invent a method of asking for reassurance that nobody secretly hates you that doesn't make people secretly hate you.

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You’re definitely the whole package.. you just might be at the wrong address.

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whats a stereotype for your country that you absolutely do. mine is that i unironically go "eh" and apologize a lot and i often drink maple syrup straight

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propaganda i am not falling for:

always moving on. some goodbyes need to rot a little. some griefs need to be held in the mouth like a stone.

beauty defined by algorithms. beauty exists in crow feet and smile lines

pretending to be chill. i’m not chill. i care deeply and inconveniently. i read into things. i write poems about eye contact

beige apartments with no soul. give me bookshelves and incense and loud art

sneaky links and unclear intentions. i want devotion. and also clarity

treating books as decor. read them. dog-ear them. argue with them in the margins

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Just so you know, a normal response to a child breaking something is to first check to see if they got hurt and then if they’re old enough make them help clean it up. And then afterwards explaining to them how to avoid doing that in the future. At no point is yelling necessary to make them understand why they shouldn’t do that.

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what propaganda do you think dostoevsky would have fallen for 😟

loving people so hard it humiliates you

building your identity on your ability to endure

falling in love with people you morally disagree with

walking alone at night just to feel morally conflicted under the moon

performing goodness like a tragedy

staring at your reflection until you either see god or go insane

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Franz Kafka, from a letter featured in Letters To Friends, Family and Editors

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hear me out cake, but instead of ppl i want to fuck it’s songs that kind of fit The Character if you squint and tilt your head just right and have a beautiful mind

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