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Your best is what you can do without harming your mental and physical health, not what you can accomplish when you disregard it.

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having to come to terms with the fact that love is not an everlasting performance in which you attempt to retain the attention of your significant other but rather a release of control and putting faith into them and trusting them to choose to stay with you no matter what you have to offer

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sorry for ignoring you ive been going insane

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There’s a difference between 1) bypassing our emotions and pretending everything is okay when it doesn’t truly feel that way and 2) feeling and honouring our emotions and then from there, knowing we have the power to create a new experience and a new outcome that re-writes our trauma. Recognising your inner power is not bypassing.

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I don't know if any of you had the same experience as me, but I tried therapy when I was a teenager living in an abusive household and thought it was a waste of time. Ultimately my biggest problems (dad) were beyond my control and no amount of coping would make them better. Now that I'm an adult with actual control over my life and don't live with my dad anymore therapy is MUCH more helpful.

If any of you had bad experiences with therapy when you were younger it may be worth it to try again now.

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If you have trouble self-soothing in your relationship, the next time you’re feeling low and want your partner to regulate your emotions ask yourself this:

What would I do for myself right now if my partner couldn’t be here?

It’s okay to co-regulate with a partner, but if you have troubles with codependency/anxious attachment, learning to self-soothe is a beneficial skill for you and your relationship.

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Happy holidays to everyone whose holiday isn’t what they want it to be. whether it is illness, poverty, distance from loved ones or something else that’s making things tough for you this year, i hope that you can find peace and warmth. i hope that your year will end and start on a brighter note

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You don’t have to be at 100% battery all the time, and you also don’t have to drain your battery to 0 every day. Some days can just be lower energy and that’s okay!

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none of that shit is welcome here

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Don’t live your life for your family, your friends, your partners or anyone else. Care for them, love them, but don’t ignore your true purpose in fear of their reactions or judgements.

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I will be okay

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my advice: go outside at night. look out. count the fireflies, the bats, the glow eyed cats. look up. find a new star. blow a kiss to the moon. she needs love too. look down. lift a rock. see a frog, a fungus, a forgotten note. don’t just walk. look, listen, learn.

five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, one thing you can taste. you’ll be ok. you always have been.

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something I’ve learnt as I’ve grown older which has bought me so much peace, is that not everyone will understand you and that’s okay. a lot of people lack the life experience, emotional intelligence and empathy to ever understand your life and the choices that you’ve made. you don’t need to prove anything to anyone. you know your truth and anyone who chooses to make baseless judgements or misunderstand you, isn’t worth arguing with to convince them otherwise. this goes for family, friends, or even just random people on the internet

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A lot of our parents are walking around with undiagnosed mental illnesses and that shit is traumatizing. Let’s have that conversation.

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Sometimes self care is unfun. Sometime it’s really unpleasant.

Crying in therapy because you finally opened up

Waking up early to reset your sleep schedule

Eating healthy food

Getting moving when all you want to do is sleep

Washing your face and brushing your teeth

Doing the dishes

Self care isn’t always fun and cute but that doesn’t mean it isn’t important

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soft reminders:

you have value even when you can’t get out bed.

you will always have inherent worth, unaffected by your level of functioning or productivity.

you are deserving of love, kindness and time.

you are worth the ‘burden’ of getting help and recovering.

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