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even angels make mistakes

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my lover being pansexual is probably one of the things i love most about him

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I don’t make sense I’m not that kind of girl

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i love my girls

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Hey, I hope this isn't an odd question, but how do you navigate being a feminine Black girl? Many people-both non-Black and Black-have called me weird and suggested that I aim to appear White or Asian due to my soft aesthetic and mannerisms, which is not true. It’s frustrating because it seems they are linking masculinity with Blackness, and that’s just unfair. I hope I’m not reaching, and I don’t believe I am, but I think it’s quite unfair and damaging. Why are we anticipated to behave or dress in a specific manner, and when we fail to do so, we face criticism? :/ Even when we do, we still face some type of backlash. I feel exhausted and overwhelmed, and I hope you understand my perspective.

hi, you’re not reaching at all & i completely understand.. i’ve experienced this many times in my life. if you dress alternatively ur weird, if u speak “properly” ur trying to be white & if u date outside ur race u hate urself and ur own LOL

i’ve faced very bad racism & have been told i’d look better if i wasn’t black, my aesthetic didn’t fit me etc. it is unfair & hurtful. as black women we will always face criticism no matter what we do, or what form we take but all that matters is us & the people who love us; as long as u love what u see that’s all that matters. those people are very idiotic & small minded!!! so it would rly do us no good in caring what they think, we ignore them. don’t ever let them discourage u from being ur true self, princess.

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Be selfish with your time. A lot of people don’t deserve it.

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Ive seen you give great advice to others so I wanted to ask your opinion on a situation Im in if its not a bother? I met a cute guy online but Im scared to show him what I look like right now because Im a bit afraid that he might ghost me after seeing me. Im trying to build my confidence by practicing makeup and working out, I do want to show him pictures but not until I feel more confident :( Does that make me manipulative?

it’s not a bother at all! i don’t think that makes you manipulative at all. i think you just have clear boundaries & if you’re not ready, you’re not ready. i think it would be manipulative if you were lying about something but i don’t think that’s what’s happening :-))

just make sure he’s fine with waiting if anything just to be safe

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babydoll, angel that could do no wrong

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have i shown up in ur dreams yet?

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i had a very good day today! i love my friends