She/her - 30 - Bi - white German/American Reblogging whatever but tagging everything, happy to add tags and triggers as needed! Art blog: managodessart
It’s so strange to me when people try to portray butch4femme as a heteronormative dynamic.
Do they not know a butch will cook her femme a three course meal because butches are caretakers?
A femme will stand in front of her butch at the bar, acrylics bared like a lynx, ready to cut the throat of anyone who criticises her partner’s masculinity or questions their right to space.
A butch will spend quiet nights hunched over a laptop learning how to sew and then hunched over her femme’s favourite dress, fixing it as she sleeps?
A femme will take charge and tell her butch to lie down, go and have that shower, go and get that errand done, because she knows what her baby needs?
There is nothing heteronormative about butches and femmes seeing and validating each other in a way the world refuses to. There’s nothing wrong with butches and femmes slow dancing in the speakeasy they’ve created on the kitchen tiles, the only place that’s ever been created for people like them.
BDSM gets a bad rep as like a violent (male) dom pushing the boundaries of a reluctant (female) sub but in my experience it's a lot of subs with wildly elaborate fantasies screaming shit like "PUT MY ASS IN THE CHILI" while a new dom is like "Okay I think, we are reaching yellow for me,"
on my quest to redesign the um. behorned ladies. i'm replacing one of them beecause i think i can do better than old-rp-character-i-wasn't-otherwise-using.