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What the fuck is wrong with this website that I can't find a gifset of Elton John's Gorillaz animation

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Hi, white women. This is a message for us!

We cannot keep using Black women’s pain as a teaching moment, or expecting them to carry the emotional weight of every “learning opportunity.

So this is your call-in:

Stop tone-policing Black women.

Stop centering your discomfort when racism is named.

Stop showing up only when you get credit.

And stop acting like solidarity is a badge and not a duty.

💡 Understand the Difference Between Allyship and Saviorism

Allyship is solidarity based on shared values and political goals, even if lived experiences differ.

White saviorism centers yourself and makes the oppressed group a backdrop for your own virtue.

🖤 1. Uplift, Don’t Override

Radical Black feminists aren’t new to the movement they are the movement. So:

Share Black radfem work directly: quote them, link to them, let them lead the thought.

If you're asked to speak, ask yourself: “Am I the right voice here?”

Example: Instead of “let me explain this issue Black women face,” say “here’s what [name] said, and she says it best.”

🤐 2. Sit With Being Uncomfortable

White feminists are often taught to center feelings over truth which leads to defensiveness when criticized:

Instead of “but I didn’t mean to,” try “you’re right, I didn’t see that, and I’ll reflect.”

Don’t interpret critique as attack. Interpret it as careful redirection.

Being called in is a gift. Saviorism reacts emotionally. Allyship listens and adjusts.

🧹 3. Do the Work in White Spaces

One of the most important things you can do is clean your own house:

Call out racist language, assumptions, or tokenization among other white feminists.

Don’t wait for Black women to “educate” step in and educate your peers.

Allyship isn’t just in mixed spaces it’s in all-white rooms, especially.

🤝 4. Follow, Don’t Lead

You’re not the protagonist. You’re the comrade. That means:

Let Black radfems define the priorities, the tone, the pace.

If you’re asked to help, say yes but ask how, don’t assume.

Do the tedious stuff too. Organizing, boosting, support roles not just the podium work.

🕊 5. Remember Your Role Is Temporary, Their Liberation Is Not

If your allyship disappears when it’s inconvenient? That was just performative.

Keep showing up when it’s boring, thankless, or not trendy.

Accept that you won’t always be seen as “one of the good ones” and that’s okay.

Liberation isn’t about you feeling good it’s about them being free.

TL;DR Version: Listen, uplift, de-center yourself, do the work in your own community, and stick around when no one’s watching.

If your allyship is just a pre-loaded “I’m not racist” get-out-of-jail-free card, then it’s not allyship at all it’s image maintenance. It’s:

🙃 Performance over substance

🤢 Guilt cosplay

😐 Weaponizing proximity to marginalized people as social capital

That kind of behavior isn’t neutral, it’s harmful. It makes genuine solidarity impossible, because it turns justice into a selfish defense mechanism.

We are not above this conversation. We are the reason it keeps needing to happen.

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Bath time 🧼

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I've been doing a lot of thinking about my family and how I was treated as a child, and honestly, my father has never seemed more amazing in my eyes.

I used to love Luigi(Mario's brother) when I was little. Like, he was my favorite character ever, and I had multiple plushies of him. Didn't give a fuck about Mario, vaguely tolerated Peach, but I loved Luigi.

On my first day of kindergarten, my dad gave me the number for his work phone and said it was Luigi's phone number. "If anything happens at school, call Luigi."And not even twenty minutes into my first day, I was having a panic attack. So I went down to the principal's office and called "Luigi."

Now, at the time, my father was in a meeting with his manager and his supervisor, along with most of his coworkers. And when I called, he picked up before he even left the room.

And he put on a very awful Italian accent and said, "Itsa me, Luigi! Whatsa the matter?"In front of his boss and coworkers. Without telling them what was going on. So they were absolutely bewildered, and he carried on like they didn't even exist. He only explained what was happening after I had calmed down and hung up, to which most of them responded with "Aww, cute."

I continued to call him whenever I got upset at school, and eventually his coworkers got in on it. I distinctly remember one of them impersonating Toad. I don't know why I'm telling you this, I just thought it might make you smile :)

this is so delightful I love your Luigi dad

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Quiet joys w/ Marge

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I’m sorry I usually rag on Beatles Reddit but this tale of Paul in the wild is sending me

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I wish queer kids would just admit that they think being straight is boring and lame and just fuck off somewhere and leave gay people alone instead of insisting on wedging themselves into something they don't belong.

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I think a lot of people have only a surface level understanding of bodily autonomy. I've talked to people who are pro surrogacy and pro sex industry because they think women should be able to do what they want with their bodies, including sell them. But under that model, you're selling away your own bodily autonomy. You cannot be fully in control of yourself while under financial coercion. You can't have the choice to end a surrogate pregnancy at any time when you rely on that money to get by, and the same for women in the sex industry. You cannot consent to sex when the alternative is not having enough money to pay rent. The buying and selling of bodily functions is a removal of autonomy, not an expression of it.

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😭😭

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HEY YOU.

look at these two gorgeous women

happy pride to the foundations of our community. ❤️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

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I think fandom has rotted the brains of a lot of women on this site and has turned them into pseudo MRA’s like they’re so enamoured with fictional men that it’s blurred the lines into reality. “uwu men are soft smol good boys they’re harmless. Global violent crime stats are a psyop 🥺” type shit. Yeah Castiel and Bucky might not hurt you but the irl man that’s been memorizing your daily public transit route absolutely will. Get your head back in the game, ladies!

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... Why are people supporting Iran's regime considering it arrests, abuse and executive women and LGBT people for just existing.

Like. Come on now.

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If this happened to a "transbian", I feel like the woman who ghosted would have been subjected to a lot more anger and even threats of violence. She certainly would have been heavily castigated by the yasslighters in the comments, if not doxxed.

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