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I actually love hearing about reformed people's stories. I love hearing about people who were in toxic communities or people who used to objectively be dickheads talking about how they got out of that. How they made themselves better.

I hate how most people's initial reaction to stories like that are things like:

"How could you have ever done those things?!" "Oh my god, you believed those things?!" "Well it doesn't un-do the harm you did!"

People incessantly advocate for change but then refuse to allow people who have changed the grace of being acknowledged and given opportunities and chances.

I love hearing about ex-antis talking about how they don't spend their days being angry and sending death threats anymore.

I love hearing about ex-homophobes who realized there's no magic law about what is "natural."

I love reformed bullies talking about how they made amends with their victims and spend their days being considerate of others.

You can't scream about wanting people to change but then expect them to spend the rest of their lives stuck in the past and on who they used to be. You can't expect people to spend the entire rest of their lives grovelling and apologizing and demeaning themselves.

Instead of clinging to who they were, latch onto who they are.

Ask how they got out of it. Commend them on changing. Enjoy that there's one less cause of harm in the world.

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"Suppose someone comes in, what would they say?"

"I don't care."

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I love how Guy is so obviously pretending to be casual whilst waiting for Thomas but you can tell he's nervous af from his tense expression

and then Thomas walks towards him and tells him "I've done it" and oh my gosh his little face while he's processing the information!!

and then of course they stand there beaming and giggling at each other like the adorable idiots they are gah I love them so much <3

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TED LASSO (2020 - 2023) Season 3 | Episode 9

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🤔

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Damn I need this kind of energy in my life

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reminder that trans men also fought for your rights and refusal to acknowledge this is tantamount to denying historical fact

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It’s summer and that means the kids are going to camp! Last week the kids were at gymnastics camp at the place they take lessons. This week they’re at kosher culinary camp at the local Chabad.

The difference could not be more stark.

Last week, I drove up outside the front doors for pick up and drop off, shouted their first names through the window of my car, and either received a thumbs up at drop off, or had the kids walk out unaccompanied at pick up.

This week, I had to walk them inside (adults have to present ID to be allowed in the building) and check them in with two separate sets of adults. I had to present ID again (separately from getting into the building) to be allowed to pick them up. If someone who is not their legal guardian is going to pick them up, paperwork needs to be filled out in advance.

Last week, the only people outside the building were a couple of teenagers in orange vests to make sure the littlest of kids got inside the building ok.

This week, the only people outside the building were security guards with walkie talkies on one hip and very obvious pistols on the other.

My kids are signed up for three different Jewish camps this summer. All three of them have sent emails outlining the security measures in place to protect the children. No details, because the more people that know the details, the easier it is for someone with ill intent to discover and subvert them, but I know that there will be armed security personnel at all three camps and they will be coming with on field trips. I know that staff at all three camps have been conducting safety drills in the weeks leading up to camp, and I know that all three camps are partnered with local and federal law enforcement to stay up to date on any threats or recommended security changes.

I have never received information like this from any non-Jewish camp. I have received information like this from every Jewish camp.

This is what Jews are talking about when we say that antisemitism impacts the way we live our lives even when we are not being directly targeted by antisemitism. Summer camps shouldn’t have to hire armed guards to keep kids safe. Going to camp at the JCC should not put you at greater risk for violence than going to camp at the YMCA. Requesting that non-Jews help us live in a world where that’s true is not a ridiculous thing to ask.

And before anyone tries to say “Oh just because you feel like you’re not safe that doesn’t mean you’re actually not safe,” I’d like to point out two things. The first is that the Chabad my kids were at today has received multiple bomb threats in the last couple of years. We feel like we’re not safe because people have made it clear that they would like to attack us. We are, in fact, actually not safe.

And the second is that even if we were actually safe, and all the people out there who were saying that (((Zionist))) institutions should be attacked were just running their mouths and were not going to act on it (disproven by recent (and not recent) violent attacks, but we’ll accept the premise for the sake of argument), isn’t it pretty messed up that antisemitic actions have made Jews feel like this is necessary? Like, if one person in a couple was constantly so verbally threatening to their partner that the partner was 1) fearful for their safety and 2) felt it necessary to reach out to law enforcement, we would rightfully call that abuse. Why can we easily recognize that behavior as being immoral in that scenario, but find it acceptable in the local/national/fucking global treatment of Jews?

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This may be the worst use of LLMs anyone has attempted, ever. Up there with recognizing mushrooms.

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"You live on in me. as a husband, as a ranger.."

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“Why was Buck ever with Tommy? He’s so old and ugly!” Well shockingly, 33 year old bisexual Evan Buckley finds certain things attractive that a 23 year old lesbian would not. Like men. Men in their forties even.

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they went off with this

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i love when you just click the share link on a picture on your phone and you get a bunch of batshit insane options. yeah let me email this selfie to the periodontist office. let me send this to my boss on teams. perfect suggestions.

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The sheer entitlement some people, including cis people and trans women, feel to transmasc bodies never ceases to horrify me.

Telling trans men not to transition because they will be ugly. Telling trans men their breasts are so (insert adjective here) and why would they ever waste them? "Warning" them that they could end up with male pattern baldness or facial hair, as though masculine features are a nightmare scenario instead of something they want. Sneering that they must actually want to be feminine anime boys, as though it's an implicit truth that not even trans men do or should want masculinity- as though it's a given that all they would ever want is femininity even while striving for masculinity. As though it's a given that masculinity is something so vile and repulsive that not even a trans man would want it. As though it's a given that trans men are just too dumb to know what they really want, and need other, non-transmasculine people to explain what they are actually signing up for.

The sheer entitlement of thinking you are allowed, on the basis of what you find more attractive (a pre-transition trans man vs a post-transition trans man) to suggest someone refrain from seeking lifesaving healthcare. The lack of awareness to do this while refusing to see that this is no different than the disgusting "save the boobies" campaigns used for breast cancer awareness. The sheer infantilization of thinking trans men don't actually understand what they're doing and the sheer minimization to claim that isn't actually what they want.

Transmasc bodies, both pre and post transition, deserve admiration just as much as transfemme bodies. They shouldn't be mocked for their "peach fuzz", they should be encouraged and cheered for it. They shouldn't be mocked for hair loss, and their bottom growth should never be sneered at. It's fine not to vibe with masculinity, but the least you could do is pretend to be happy for a trans person who is experiencing gender euphoria for the first time in their life, even if those changes would induce dysphoria in you.

If you tell a trans man they would be "so pretty" if they never transitioned, you are a transandrophobe, a more general transphobe, and you know what? You're just in general a bad person. How dare you put your perceived right to the aesthetic enjoyment of looking at a trans man's body over their right to livesaving healthcare.

Trans men deserve better.

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"Trans men never contribute to anything"

Wrong. You just like to frame historical trans men and transmasc as "women who had to dress up as men to escape patriarchy" just so you can claim to be some "progressive feminist".

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James Barry was a trans man, pick another feminist historical figure, and stop erasing trans history.

He was not a woman ahead of her time.

He was not your feminist icon.

Stop disrespecting his death wish and let him be dead as a man. He wished to be a man. He lived as a man, and he died as a man.

So just shut the fuck up!