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To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before (Movie)

Okay, this movie was adorable. Seriously, the aesthetics, story, and acting were all phenomenal. So, let’s get to typing!

Lara Jean Covey - INFP  “I don’t want all my firsts to be fake.”

Lara Jean is imaginative, often getting lost in her feelings and fantasies. Her whimsical, quirky vibe is classic Ne-Fi. Even as she becomes more popular, she stays true to herself without judging the popular group. She feels her feelings deeply, but has an incredibly hard time expressing them to others. This entire story wouldn’t have even happened had Kitty not mailed the letters, after all. Very Fi.  Plus, her style (and the entire aesthetic of the movie, really) is totally the sentimental yet fantastical feel of tertiary Si.

Peter Kavinsky - ENFJ “You say that you’re scared of commitment and relationships, but you don’t seem to be scared to be with me.”

In Peter, we have the classic popular jock who is actually super sweet and deep. First, he absolutely oozes Fe. He has no problem telling Lara Jean what he likes about her (”I like your hair down”, “I love that you’re not afraid of her”, “I love having a smarty-pants fake girlfriend”, “It’s so cool that we can talk about real stuff”), so we see him externalizing feelings quite a bit. Also, everything he does is focused on others’ feelings. He starts their fake relationship to make Gen jealous, then tells Lara Jean exactly what they need to do to make sure people think they’re together (the background pictures, posting on Instagram). He definitely has the Fe-Ni people strategy/manipulation down pat. We see more of Peter’s Ni in the form of focus and long-term planning. He really only focuses on one girl at a time. First, he turns down Lara Jean because he’s still into Gen. Once he has feelings for Lara Jean, he makes sure Gen knows it’s over for good. His planning skills are pretty clear when they make the contract, and he brings up the ski trip. He’s clearly thinking months into the future (and can we acknowledge how rare that is for a teenage guy?). At the very end of the movie, he says “Are you gonna break my heart, Covey?” Clearly he’s already thinking into the future of their relationship. Finally, Peter’s jock-ish, high-energy nature is very tertiary Se, which he leans into in order to fit in with society’s idea of what a man should be (Fe). My guess is that this is why most people think Peter’s an ESFP.

Josh Sanderson - INFJ “Then again, he’s a jock, and they’re slow learners.”

Josh’s Fe comes out early in the movie, as we see his answer change to the pee/Mountain Dew question based on whether Margot is there or not. He listens to Lara Jean’s problems with Peter despite their relationship being weird, and is upset by Lara Jean dating someone who he thinks is wrong for her. He really doesn’t seem to have romantic feelings for her, so his anger comes out of real care for her life choices. We also see the judgey side of Fe come out, with how much he seems to hate the popular crowd, Peter in particular, without really knowing them. His Ni pops up too, though it’s harder to spot, as most Ni is. Josh is definitely a long-term planner. I mean, it’s August and he already bought tickets to visit Margot for Thanksgiving (again, rare for teenage guys). And though he doesn’t get much screen time, he pops up at the end to give Lara Jean great advice after asking her questions that get her to explore her own feelings. Classic Ni-Fe.

Kitty - ENTJ “You’re 16, and I don’t think you had anything else going on.”

Kitty tells it like it is. No judgement or condescension, just facts. She has the harsh, intellectual, practical feel of Te (e.g. her obsession with how they’re going to get to school, “I guess I’ll order a pizza” during the Josh-LJ-Peter-Margot fight), but goes into Ni-style rants (”The goddess within says it’s a sacred rhythm that represents the deepest cycle of womanhood”). We also see the Ni and the Se in her when she sends out the letters. She has a plan (Ni) to get Lara Jean a boyfriend, and she isn’t afraid to act on it (Se).

Margot - ESTJ “I just thought you didn’t need me anymore.”

Margot is focused on roles, tradition, and rules. Lara Jean needs to get her act together, because she’s now the oldest sister in the house. Their mom said to go to college single, so she dumps Josh. It’s okay to drink, because the legal age in Scotland is 18. This type of thinking screams Te-Si. She’s practical, and quite unemotional. She quickly moves on after the Josh-LJ-Peter drama once her help is needed, almost immediately getting the “sex tape” removed from social media. It’s tough to tell whether Margot is an introvert or extrovert, as she doesn’t get a ton of screen time, but given that she seemed popular in high school and she already has a group of friends in college, I say extrovert.

Daniel Covey - ENFP “You made your old man very happy.”

Lara Jean’s dad is goofy, supportive, and non-traditional. He’s able to separate his doctor side and dad side (Ne), giving her condoms even though he doesn’t think she should have sex. We also see his Fiwhen he talks about her mom. He’s been missing her so much that he was unable to open up about her to his daughters. Being aware of his emotions but internalizing them is classic Fi. I guess we see where Lara Jean gets it from! Once he opens up at the diner, he clearly enjoys looking back at the memories (Si).