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A Conversation about Tattoos

Pastor: When people have tattoos, it gives off a vibe of a certain stigma.

Me: And what kind of stigma is that?

Pastor: You know... being wild, rebellious, apathetic, and against the grain. And if it gives off that kind of stigma, then Christians should stay away from that.

Me: Why does it give off that stigma? Because some non-Christians who have tattoos are that way? And if that's the case, then why should a Christian be judged by his appearance solely off the stigma that non-Christians have created for said appearance?

Pastor: You just have to flee the appearance of all evil. And if tattoos bring a certain stigma, then stay away from it. Christians with tattoos are almost indistinguishable in appearance from non-Christians with tattoos. We have to be different from the world.

Me: But it doesn't have a certain stigma to everyone. Just those who are uncomfortable with it, like yourself.

Pastor: ...

Me: Ok, think about this. You said that Christians with tattoos are almost indistinguishable in appearance from non-Christians with tattoos. Therefore, we have to separate. Now, on Sundays when you preach, you were a suit and tie, correct?

Pastor: Right.

Me: So, what if, to some person who saw you at, let's say, a gas station before you got to church. They had no clue who you were. But, they saw your suit and tie. Now, in reality, you are indistinguishable from a business in appearance when you have that attire. What if someone saw you and thought, "Man, look at that businessman. Businessmen lie, cheat, steal, and are just terrible people. I bet he's a terrible person." Would that be a fair assessment?

Pastor: Of course it wouldn't.

Me: However, you do the same with those with tattoos. However, the object of the stigma has changed. It's gone to "people with tattoos" to "people with suits and ties". Just because some non-Christians who have the same appearance as you have given that appearance a bad stigma, whenever you appear that way, people may associate you with that. Your suit and tie doesn't make most people uncomfortable, but just because it may give a bad stigma to a few people, does that mean that it's inherently bad and that Christians should stay away from it?

Pastor: Not at all. The person in the gas station just made an unfair judgment about me by my appearance before she even knew me.

Me: Exactly. It's the same with tattoos.

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Ditte Krommelbein

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I think

I never get on here anymore. I don't write anymore. I feel like if I really start to write out my feelings ill become depressed. I know parents have to love you as their child but I legitimately wonder if my parents love me. I'm in the bathroom and my mom comes up and is like you live here rent free and what do you do to help. I feel like you don't ever do anything. You didn't help make supper last night (but I did the onions and of course she forgot that). What did you do while we were at church. You didn't clean anything. On and on and on. A&Z lived here rent free when she was sick and it's never been used against her. My mom send money to As baby mama when he was being a piece of shit dad. Oh wait he still is a piece of shit. Oh wait they still pay his fucking phone bill. They just quit paying his damn car insurance last year. Wow way to go 29/30 and you still depend on your parents but do they hold it against him no. He's a fucking democrat with no morals and they don't hold anything against him. I helped you raise your kids. I did errands for you, cooked, cleaned, laundry. Always expected never thanked growing up. I'm just the fuck up kid. I haven't accomplished anything. My mom sent money, flew down and visited, took presents/sent presents. She hasn't gotten B anything. No baby shower present, no present after being born. Like sorry mom but a car sticker and a clearance pack of bows do not count as a present for your grandchild. She never asks to hold her. She never just sits and holds her. Is she not good enough for you. Fine treat me like shit I don't care. But don't do not act like my child isn't good enough for you to love and treat the same as your other grandkids. I mean we didn't do a damn family ornament at Christmas cause my dad didn't want to put my nieces half brother on it but my mom did and she's like he's just as much as our grandchild as our biological ones. I'm seriously about to say something to her about the way she doesn't act like a grandma to B. Like on her and shower cause I can't grade with one hand. How the hell did you homeschool, oh yea your older kids helped with the babies all the time. I'm glad I have plans today. Cause I hate being where I'm not wanted. Fuck low income jobs. But sorry I don't want to live off the government.

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What are the signs of emotional abuse?

Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that they useless or inferior or devaluing their thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what they want.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting - A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt their perception and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

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