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TYPES OF FEMALE DOMINATES

Female Dominate

Female dominance (femdom) refers to a BDSM scene or relationship in which a female is a dominant partner or top partner. A dominant female may have a number of different names, including a Dominatrix, Mistress or Madame. Female dominants often engage in BDSM activities such as bondage, ball busting, humiliation, face sitting, forced feminization, forced chastity, forced orgasm, and pegging. While femdom is specific to BDSM, any woman can give her partner a thrill by donning a corset and some stilettos and throwing a little female domination into the mix. Before engaging in any BDSM play, however, make sure that all players consent to the activities and follow all safety guidelines, particularly the use of a safe word.

Domme

One who asserts control or authority over another; the person in charge of a scene or play. A title for a Top, declaring a role one takes or wishes to take in a BDSM scene or sexual act. A female Dominant, it is mostly used as the title of a person engaging in or wishing to engage in an act where she takes on the role of the Dominant. (The difference between Domme’s and game players: A Domme creates the hunger, the need and the want in the one they want to dominate. A game player just looks for anyone that is hungry for them to dominate.)

Femdom Mistress 

Is where a woman fills a very strong and demanding role and exhibits strong gender role reversals. Males are usually large and more dominant in the natural world. Femdom is a demonstration of the strength of the woman and usually one of the more abusive dominants. Femdom is not only directed to men, but many times can include women in the submissive role, but almost always the Mistress assumes the male role even to sexual acts.

Mistress

A title/term for those that “live” as a Domme. A woman who rules others or has control over something. ( May also like to bark orders and watch you jump. ) In a BDSM scene, a mistress is a female dominant, or dominatrix, in a top/bottom relationship. The term is the female version of the term “master,” which refers to a male dominant. Consenting male and female submissives may be under the control of a mistress, who will often require that they perform any tasks she requests, including sexual activities. If a submissive is disobedient or does not please a mistress, the submissive may be punished. In BDSM literature, dominant terms, including “mistress” and “master,” are capitalized when written, while submissive terms, like “slave,” are not. The same is true when writing a dominant or submissive’s given name. This is done out of respect and honour for the dominant.

Poly Domme

This Domme can literally love more than one submissive at a time and always has the best interests of all of her submissives at heart. She may be a combination of all of the other Dommes listed here and her subs will reflect that. (NOT TO BE CONFUSED WITH A COLLECTOR)

Ritual and Protocol Dominant

A Domme who’s very pragmatic and likes concrete, tangible outcomes may favour rituals and protocols. They’re the kind of Dominant who might be able to step into the role of Empress…expecting you to simply hang around and be available for use. They are aware of subtle details in your appearance, attire, and demeanour and are likely to be very aware of body language during a scene.

S.A.D. - Smart Ass Domme

Also known as a Brat Domme. They like to poke, joke, and generally playful. They are known to do/say things such as The submissive begs to cum, the Domme looks perplexed and says “silly, you are already here.” “like seriously, if I wasn’t tied down….” This is some of the most fun Dommes to be around if you like to joke and are playful.

Sadistic Domme

The Sadistic Domme gets off on inflicting pain on you. MUCH pain. typically into some pretty heavy BDSM stuff, they are not for the weak of heart. During a scene, they will use and abuse you CONSENSUALLY and then afterwards if you find a good Domme, will do amazing aftercare and let you know how wonderful you are. There are four main types of Sadists. Emotional, Mental, Physical, and Sensual. A Domme may be any combination of these. From only one type to all four.

Strict Domme

They have standards they live by and will impose them on you. They like things done their way, no other way will be accepted. They manage their own lives smoothly, with to do lists which they often place before anything else. They have a solid sense of order and routine

Sexual Domme

Everything with them is sexual. Going out in public? put in an anal plug. Have to go to work today? don’t wear any underwear. I am coming over later? You better be naked on the floor and horny when I arrive. Everything is about sex.

The Submissive Collector

Tend to be ones who collect slaves, house and treat them like animals. They also have large groups but typically not treated as a family but rather a herd. They enjoy animal play and dehumanization to the fullest extent. (NOT TO BE CONFUSED WITH A POLY DOMME)

True/Real Domme/Mistress/Top

It has nothing to do with quality and technical knowledge doesn’t make for experienced. To call oneself true/real implies that any other form of dominance is less or false. There is no right or wrong way to be a Domme/Top/Master/Mistress, it depends on the desires of those involved.

Mommy Dommes

Are usually mature individuals who like to have young people assume the role of daughter or son. This is a relationship found on the extension and evolution of a “positive" incestuous relationship. Many times light discipline (spanking) and other forms of home “play” is included. but don’t let the title caregiver, mommy, or daddy fool you when you find a proper caregiver Dom they will show you who’s boss. They often engage in plays such as cg/l (caregiver//little) where you will mostly see ddlg (daddy dom/little girl) but there are also mdlg (momma dom/little girl), ddlb (daddy dom/little boy), mdlb (mommy dom/little boy), cglb (caregiver/little boy), cglg (caregiver/little girl) and any combination of these. They enjoy taking care of their submissive and disciplining them when they break a rule. In the world of BDSM role-play, a mommy is a dominant female figure who acts as another partner’s mother. More specifically, it is a type of age play in which a woman pretends to be an older woman taking care of her much younger child. The submissive partners in these relationships are often referred to as “littles.” During play, mommies may punish their littles in various ways, such as by spanking, or nurture them, such as by cuddling with them.

Age play and role-playing as a mommy is not related to paedophilia in any way, contrary to what some may believe. Individuals who have mommies or act as mommies are also typically not interested in incest either. This relationship is more about dominance and submission, as well as recreating the emotions and experiences of childhood.

Caring Dommes

They care about you, genuinely. Everything they do, They have Their sub’s best interest at heart. They try their best to be sweet AFTER a scene but do not piss a caring Domme off. that is a huge mistake. They can usually snap within an instant. Not necessarily into any kinks or anything else, They just want to see Their sub succeed and will do everything they can to see it happen.

Dominatrix/Pro-Domme

Usually, a professional that charges for their service. Does not include sex. A ProDomme is a woman who can be hired to perform BDSM services. “Domme” is feminized version of the word “Dom” which is used to refer to the dominant partner in a dominant/submissive BDSM pairing. ProDommes frequently get categorized alongside prostitutes when, in actuality, they typically focus exclusively on BDSM practices and do not engage in sex acts with clients.

A ProDomme typically conducts sessions consisting of BDSM “scenes” or roleplays in a dungeon or other such space that is dedicated for such a use. Depending on the nature of a scene, it may be possible to conduct it remotely via email, phone, or web cam. It is not uncommon for a ProDomme to develop a long-term relationship with a client. In this relationship, she may develop an understanding of their client’s fetishes and even their psychological needs. 

Financial Domination (FinDom)

Financial domination (FinDom) refers to being a financial slave. It is most commonly seen between a willing male submissive and a female dominatrix. It is a fetish that involves being humiliated or demeaned by a financial dominatrix (also referred to as fin-dom), in exchange for money or gifts. It does not necessarily involve sex. It is said to have stemmed from the observations and eventual practice of Miss Marx, a professional dominatrix, who saw how some men get an instant hard-on when handing woman money. She exploited this reaction and eventually began a cult fetish.

The subject of financial domination is often referred to as a money pig. The act of extorting money or gifts from people is referred to as money slavery or wallet rape. Extortion happens through verbal abuse and sometimes consensual blackmail. A man who willingly subjects himself to this abuse is said to justify it by describing women as worthy of his servitude. Fulfilling this desire may be okay if one has enough cash to spare. However, that money might be better off used to pay for a therapist should this fetish affect day-to-day function and other people.

Little Domme

A dominant who is also little. Littles are not exclusively submissive. There are many littles who are Dominants, just as there are caregivers who are subs. (I personally have a friend who is a Little Domme.)

Owner

A term used for those that “live” as an Owner of their property (usually slaves refer to theirs as their owner) Owner is a term for an individual who has accepted complete responsibility for another individual in the BDSM world. An owner may have ownership of a person identifying as a slave or as a pet. Despite the connotations of these words, slaves and pets generally enter into a relationship with an owner voluntarily and are free to leave at any time.

An owner governs all aspects of the slave or pet’s behaviour, dress, and punishments. These will typically be spelt out in a contract between the owner and the slave or pet prior to any activity between them. For example, an owner may stipulate that a “pet pony” always wears a bridle and hoof boots. The owner of a female slave may insist she always wears short skirts when clothed, for example, or that she never wears underwear. Owners are responsible for administering punishments when their pet or slave steps out of line. Conversely, owners are also in charge of pampering slaves or pets to reward good behaviour. Punishments and rewards may be an element of training, which owners are also responsible for administering during daily life. An owner may give a pet or slave a collar to wear as a symbol of the relationship. A pet or slave may also take on a name given to them by the owner to symbolize their new life under the owner’s control.

Switch

A switch is a person involved in BDSM play who chooses to play either a dominant or submissive. Partners may switch roles just because they want to, or to experience different activities. In a relationship between two people who identify as the same BDSM orientation, switching provides a way for both people to meet their BDSM needs. Switches may be looked down on by some people in their community for not being able to make up their minds.

In most BDSM play, one person takes on the role of the dominant, while the other plays a submissive. Being a switch means that a person can reverse rolls. Not everyone likes to be dominant or submissive all the time, and switching can afford the opportunity for partners to experience new sensations and levels of trust in one another. Most switches have been on the BDSM scene for a long time, have played both roles, and are confident in what they want out of a scene.

Domina

Domina is one of several possible titles for a female Dominant. It can be a self-proclaimed title, or it can be the honorific a submissive partner uses to address their top/Dominant. Although less common than the term Mistress, Domina is a popular title in the kink and BDSM scene. It is used to refer to a female Dominant partner.

Governess

In earlier times, governesses were viewed as teachers and disciplinarians. Today, the strict and punitive character of governesses are now a sexual fetish. Governesses were usually young, unmarried women in their early 20s or 30s who were employed as an authority figure over young children and young adults. Victorian-age governesses are often heavily connected to the Anglo-Saxon obsession and lust over flagellation. Bad behaviour was often corrected by a good spanking with young pupils learning how to bare their bottoms and assume the position for punishment. Today, the governess is a figure of fantasy in BDSM and erotica. The seemingly repressed and demure nature of the governess was commonly viewed in earlier literature as a form of sexual attractiveness. The youthfulness and supposed innocence of the governess was both attractive to the pupil and the employer. To the young student, the mature governess represented an older, mature sexual fantasy under which the governess had full control. To the employer, a submissive/dominant relationship existed between the two. The employer was often one of means and power whereas the governess often lacked finances and made a small living meaning that the employer often would be dominant over the governess. Modern erotica now explicitly describes the sexual seduction or relationships between governesses and young women and men.

Hotwife

A hotwife is an attractive married woman who has sexual relationships with other men, typically with the consent of her husband. This is commonly known as a cuckold. These women are sexually uninhibited and enjoy sex, both with their husband and with other partners. They enjoy the freedom and attention that comes with their lifestyle. A hotwife may also be called a slutwife. Usually, a hotwife’s husband is involved in her sexual dalliances in some way. Often he will join in, forming a threesome, or he will simply watch his wife having sex with someone else. These husbands are usually aroused by their wives interactions, but also motivated by their partners’ happiness.

However, there is a growing number of hotwives who pursue other men without their husband’s knowledge. These women may dress provocatively and flirt with other men while their husbands are around, laying the groundwork for extramarital affairs when their husbands are out of sight. Many hotwives wear an anklet as a public display of availability. This piece of jewellery is designed to show men that a married woman is sexually available, whether it’s with or without her husband’s consent. There are a number of online blogs where hotwives and their partners share their sexual exploits and fantasies. There are also blogs containing images and gifs of other hotwives, or models who could be hotwives, designed to appeal to people living or fantasizing about the hotwife lifestyle.

Double/Triple Domme

Double and triple domme sessions are BDSM-style sessions which involve one submissive client and more than one dominant participant known as dominatrixes or dommes.  A double domme session sees a single client interacting with two dommes while a triple domme session involves one client and three Dommes. For clients who book double and triple domme sessions being teased, tortured, and tormented by more than one skilled domme multiplies their arousal and pleasure.  Double and triple domme sessions may be arranged with professional masters or mistresses. These sex workers generally have a good relationship with one another and an understanding of their special talents and practices which helps enhance the experience for their clients.  Some double and triple domme sessions involve general BDSM practices while some focus on specific kinks such as sessions with foot fetish mistresses, kidnapping scenes, or lesbian cuckolding scenes.

Masturbatrix 

A Masturbatrix is a term used to describe a female dominatrix that specializes in the masturbation of their partner. In most situations, the Masturbatrix will deny or delay the orgasm. A Masturbatrix is similar to a dominatrix in that it involves a female who provides consensual teasing and torture of the other person in a sexual way. The Masturbatix often teases the other person during masturbation and denies sexual climax. The Masturbatrix might use different techniques to tease and arouse during masturbation, including different elements of BDSM play.

Humiliatrix

A humiliatrix is a specific type of female dominatrix that is particularly skilled in the art of humiliation. A humiliatrix might be skilled in either sexual/ erotic humiliation, or in real-life humiliation. A humiliatrix differs from a traditional dominatrix in that a dominatrix inflicts physical pain on the sexual partner while a humiliatrix inflicts psychological suffering. A humiliatrix might blackmail their partner, inflict stress, and mental anguish. She may also use physical humiliation techniques like face-slapping and spitting.

Keyholder (KH)

Keyholder is a term for an individual who holds the key to a chastity device. The keyholder has a position of great power, one that is often taken on by a dominant person in a BDSM relationship. Keyholders can be of any gender or sexuality, but most commonly, they tend to be heterosexual women who hold the keys to a male chastity device. The term keyholder is often shortened to the acronym KH. Because a keyholder controls access to a chastity device, they also by extension control the genitals of their partner. The keyholder controls whether the person wearing the chastity device can achieve sexual gratification and even has an impact on how and when they urinate and shower.

Many keyholders enjoy wearing the keys to the chastity device on a necklace. The visibility of the keys while hanging around one’s neck reinforces the relationship between the keyholder and the wearer of the chastity device, reminding the submissive of the keyholder’s power. Keyholders should respect the power they have and never abuse it. It’s important for keyholders to act within the boundaries established before the chastity device is put into place. These boundaries may include specifications about the length of time the keyholder will keep the keys and enforce chastity and whether the keyholder will make the submissive work for his or her freedom. Keyholders typically use the duration of their position to “train” their submissive to be a better and less selfish lover.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

Sensual Domination

Sensual domination is a new style of dominance which focuses on delighting all of the senses. When practising sensual domination, both partners agree to take turns assuming and giving up control so they can both enjoy sexual pleasure. Sensual dominance celebrates pleasure over pain and does not involve violence, aggression, or humiliation. Despite refraining from many common domination methods, a sensual dominant still aims to bring their submissive partner to subspace. As it’s easier for a submissive partner shifts out of pain than pleasure, sensual dominance often results in a longer period of subspace.

Sensual dominance is often seen as soft or mild dominance. Many of the tools of a sensual dominant are familiar to those used by vanilla couples dabbling in BDSM, such as blindfolds, oils, ropes, ice cubes, and feathers. Sensual dominance may also involve role play and a foot or shoe worship. The submissive partner is treated with reverence and praised rather than put down or humiliated. While mild pain may be involved in sensual dominance, it is never the focus of these kinds of scenes. Any pain administered is meant to complement the pleasure and never intended to push the submissive’s limits.

Sensual dominance can help couples experience greater sensual freedom and intimacy. Many practitioners of sensual dominance feel this style of domination requires more skill than traditional domination, as it requires more patience and a greater understanding of a submissive’s turn-ons and state of mind. Open communication before a play session can help make things more enjoyable for all participants. While sensual dominance is seen as a fairly mild form of dominance, it’s still a good idea to employ a safeword to ensure the interaction never takes the submissive out of their comfort zone.

Female Cuckold

The female cuckold, also known as cuckquean, is a female who derives sexual pleasure from looking at her partner (usually, but not exclusively, male) have sex with another person. As the cuckolding fetish is considered masochistic, it is considered a BDSM fetish. A female cuckold is a submissive woman who derives masochistic pleasure by looking at her partner have sex with another person. The pleasure comes from the humiliation and the mental anguish caused by the knowledge that your committed partner is enjoying another person more than you. Some theorize that cucks eroticize psychological humiliation.

Cuckolding is different from swinging or threesomes in that the cuckolded person does not participate. It requires a certain level of commitment between the two original partners, as, without an emotional connection, humiliation does not occur at the same level. Many cuckqueans are married. One apparent difference between male cuckolds and cuckqueans is that while cuckolds focus on the pleasure of their wives, cuckqueans tend to focus on the pleasure of the woman her partner is having sex with.

Cuckcake

A cuckcake is a female “bull” in an alternative form of cuckolding where the bull and at least one other participant are female. This involves a subset of cuckolding called cuckqueaning where at least two of the participants are female. A traditional cuckolding scene usually consists of a hetero couple with the man being submissive, and the woman dominant. Another submissive man, the “bull” has sex with the dominant female partner, often in front of the submissive (referred to in this case as the cuckold) while he is left helpless.

In a cuckqueaning scene the equivalent to the bull is female called a cuckcake. The submissive, or cuckquean, is consensually forced to watch the cuckcake have sex with the submissive cuckquean’s partner who can be either male or female.

Cuckqueen

A cuckqueen is a woman who is aroused by her partner engaging in sexual activity with another partner. The pleasure derived from the activity is masochistic in nature and might include a humiliation component. The term cuckqueen is derived from the term cuckold which traditionally means a man whose wife is adulterous. In this instance, the meaning varies slightly because the partner in question is not being deceived and is, in fact, complicit in the activity.

Cuckold

Cuckold, when used in a fetish context, describes the fetish of men who find masochistic pleasure in watching their wives have sex with other men. The man is complicit in the infidelity and often helps arrange the meetings. The couple need not necessarily be married, but there needs to be some kind of commitment between the two. As a fetish, cuckolding is a form of mental masochism that mostly involves mental humiliation. In a typical encounter, the woman has sex with another man while her husband watches. The husband is, of course, aware and willing. This lack of participation, this feeling of being left out, is what many cuckhold fetishists enjoy. Another aspect of the cuckholding fetish is competition. Some psychosexual theories claim that men will desire their wives more if they’ve just had sex with another man because this allows the men’s sperm to compete. While this theory is not widely accepted, some cuckholding fetishists feel this aspect applies to them. Cuckhold fetishism can exist along a wide variety of other BDSM-related activities, such as female dominance, voyeurism, denial and verbal humiliation. Cuckholding is different from swinging (there is not another woman to have sex with the husband) and threesomes (because the husband doesn’t participate). While their power should not be abused, key holders are also responsible for disciplining their submissives should they act out or break the rules while wearing chastity devices. Discipline could involve spanking, taking away privileges, or other deterrents for bad behaviour.

Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM)

Clothed female, naked male (CFNM) refers to a scenario, usually sexual in nature, in which a female is wearing clothes and a male is not. Clothed female, a naked male is a common theme in female domination, or femdom, scenarios. Being completely naked in front of a clothed dominant female helps emphasize the male’s vulnerability and submission as well as the female’s control. While the male is naked, the female is free to participate in a number of sexual acts, including erotic humiliation, erotic teasing, pegging, cock-and-ball torture and bondage. Clothed female, a naked male may be portrayed in erotic literature as well as pornographic movies and pictures. This term is often referred to by its acronym, CFNM, in the BDSM scene. You don’t have to be deep into the BDSM scene nor do you have to be an experienced dominatrix to introduce clothed female, naked male scenarios in the bedroom. 

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Los diez mandamientos de la sumisión: una guía para el hombre sumiso devoto

Obediencia por encima de todo: sigue sus instrucciones sin dudarlo, preguntando solo cuando sea necesario aclarar algo. Su palabra es definitiva.

Prioriza sus necesidades: siempre anticipa y atiende sus deseos, asegurándote de que su comodidad, felicidad y éxito sean tu principal objetivo.

Muestra respeto y gratitud: dirígete a ella con respeto en todo momento y expresa gratitud por su guía, cuidado y atención.

Mantén la honestidad: sé transparente sobre tus sentimientos, desafíos y progreso. La confianza es la base de la sumisión.

Comprométete con la superación personal: trabaja continuamente para convertirte en la mejor versión de ti mismo para servirla mejor, física, emocional e intelectualmente.

Practica la devoción diaria: incorpora rituales o actos de servicio a tu rutina diaria para recordarle tu dedicación y reforzar tu papel.

Protege su reputación y privacidad: nunca reveles detalles de tu dinámica sin su permiso. Represéntala siempre con dignidad y lealtad.

Cumple con tus deberes sin expectativas: sírvela incondicionalmente sin esperar recompensas ni reciprocidad. Tu satisfacción debe provenir de su felicidad.

Usa una jaula de castidad, incluso si estás soltero: una jaula de castidad simboliza sumisión y autocontrol. Sirve como un recordatorio físico de tu dedicación a la autoridad femenina y tu deseo de ser disciplinado, incluso sin una Ama.

Reafirma tu sumisión con regularidad: ya sea a través de palabras, acciones o rituales, demuestra constantemente tu compromiso con su autoridad y tu rol.

Ten Commandments of Submission: A Guide for the Devoted Submissive Man

1.Obedience Above All: Follow her instructions without hesitation, questioning only when clarification is necessary. Her word is final.

2.Prioritize Her Needs: Always anticipate and address her desires, ensuring her comfort, happiness, and success are your primary focus.

3. Show Respect and Gratitude: Address her respectfully at all times and express gratitude for her guidance, care, and attention.

4.Maintain Honesty: Be transparent about your feelings, challenges, and progress. Trust is the foundation of submission.

5.Commit to Self-Improvement: Continuously work on becoming the best version of yourself to serve her better—physically, emotionally, and intellectually.

6.Practice Daily Devotion: Incorporate rituals or acts of service into your daily routine to remind her of your dedication and reinforce your role.

7.Protect Her Reputation and Privacy: Never disclose details of your dynamic without her permission. Always represent her with dignity and loyalty.

8.Fulfill Duties Without Expectation: Serve her unconditionally without expecting rewards or reciprocation. Your satisfaction should come from her happiness.

9.Wear a Chastity Cage, Even if Single: A chastity cage symbolizes submission and self-control. It serves as a physical reminder of your dedication to female authority and your desire to be disciplined, even without a Mistress.

10.Reaffirm Your Submission Regularly: Whether through words, actions, or rituals, consistently demonstrate your commitment to her authority and your role.

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✋No, tu esposa no es convencional:

🙌Entendiendo su dominio sin explotar

Muchos hombres sumisos asumen erróneamente que sus parejas son “comunes” o que no están interesadas en la dinámica de poder simplemente porque sus esposas no aceptan de inmediato el dominio. Sin embargo, esta idea errónea surge del condicionamiento social y del miedo inherente a exponer una necesidad sexual o relacional no convencional.

❤️La atracción por las mujeres dominantes

Los hombres sumisos rara vez se casan con mujeres que sean genuinamente sumisas o “comunes”. En cambio, se sienten naturalmente atraídos por mujeres con fuerza, confianza y autoridad sutil. A pesar de esto, muchas mujeres no reconocen su potencial dominante debido a las expectativas sociales que priorizan el liderazgo masculino y desalientan la asertividad femenina en las relaciones. Las mujeres a menudo internalizan la idea de que el dominio en las relaciones es “antinatural” o “incorrecto”, dejando sus propios deseos y poder sin explorar.

❤️El impacto de la discriminación por sexo y la falta de comunicación

Cuando un marido sumiso expresa sus deseos de una dinámica de FLR o D/s, puede ser abrumador para su pareja. La sociedad suele etiquetar estos intereses como pervertidos o desviados, lo que hace que las mujeres se cierren o rechacen la idea por completo. Esta respuesta no surge del desinterés, sino más bien de una falta de comprensión y condicionamiento cultural de que el dominio debe alinearse con estereotipos extremos: látigos, cuero y personajes rígidos.

❤️Despertar su dominio interior

El dominio no se trata de adoptar un disfraz o representar un arquetipo; se trata de abrazar el poder y la confianza en la propia personalidad natural. Para cultivar esto dentro de su esposa:

Deje de enmarcarlo como un favor para usted: aborde sus deseos no como algo que ella necesita "hacer por usted", sino como una oportunidad para que explore sus propias necesidades y autoridad. Esto se alinea con un modelo orientado al servicio que prioriza su comodidad y crecimiento.

Cambie el foco a sus deseos: presente actos sutiles de servicio sin expectativas. Satisfaga sus necesidades en la vida diaria (ya sea cocinar, limpiar o masajes) sin plantearlo en términos explícitamente sumisos al principio. Esto le mostrará los beneficios de su sumisión como un estilo de vida en lugar de un capricho puntual.

Eduque sin abrumarla: presente los recursos con delicadeza. Sugiera libros o artículos sobre relaciones lideradas por mujeres que destaquen la satisfacción mutua y la conexión emocional. Evite inundarla con material cargado de fetiches que pueda reforzar estereotipos.

Fomente la confianza, no la presión: generar dominio lleva tiempo. Permítale explorar la dinámica a su propio ritmo sin esperar resultados inmediatos. Celebre sus momentos de liderazgo, sin importar cuán pequeños sean, y refuerce sus decisiones con gratitud y admiración.

Ofrezca seguridad emocional: haga que se sienta segura al experimentar con este estilo de vida. Hágale saber que los errores están bien y que usted está comprometido con ella, independientemente del resultado. El miedo al fracaso o al rechazo puede impedir que las mujeres acepten plenamente su lado dominante.

❤️Aceptando la transformación

Si se aborda de forma correcta, una esposa “normal” puede despertar a su dominio interior. Con paciencia, comprensión y dedicación desinteresada, probablemente descubrirá que no solo es capaz de ejercer el liderazgo, sino que prospera en él. Puede que la sociedad haya silenciado su voz dominante, pero con su apoyo, puede descubrir y celebrar su autoridad natural, transformando tanto su vida como su relación en una de empoderamiento mutuo y profunda satisfacción.

✋No, Your Wife is Not Vanilla:

🙌Understanding Her Untapped Dominance

Many submissive men mistakenly assume their partners are “vanilla” or disinterested in power dynamics simply because their wives don’t immediately embrace dominance. However, this misconception stems from societal conditioning and the inherent fear of exposing an unconventional sexual or relational need.

❤️The Attraction to Dominant Women

Submissive men rarely marry women who are genuinely submissive or “vanilla.” Instead, they are naturally drawn to women with strength, confidence, and subtle authority. Despite this, many women do not recognize their dominant potential due to societal expectations that prioritize male leadership and discourage female assertiveness in relationships . Women often internalize the idea that dominance in relationships is “unnatural” or “wrong,” leaving their own desires and power unexplored .

❤️The Impact of Kink-Shaming and Miscommunication

When a submissive husband expresses his desires for an FLR or D/s dynamic, it can be overwhelming for his partner. Society often labels such interests as perverted or deviant, causing women to shut down or reject the idea entirely . This response doesn’t stem from disinterest but rather a lack of understanding and cultural conditioning that dominance must align with extreme stereotypes—whips, leather, and rigid personas .

❤️Awaking Her Inner Dominance

Dominance is not about adopting a costume or performing an archetype; it is about embracing power and confidence in one’s natural personality. To cultivate this within your wife:

1.Stop Framing It as a Favor to You: Approach your desires not as something she needs to “do for you” but as an opportunity for her to explore her own needs and authority. This aligns with a service-oriented model that prioritizes her comfort and growth.

2.Shift the Focus to Her Desires: Introduce subtle acts of service without expectation. Fulfill her needs in daily life—be it cooking, cleaning, or massages—without framing it in explicitly submissive terms initially. This will show her the benefits of your submission as a lifestyle rather than a one-time indulgence.

3.Educate Without Overwhelming: Introduce resources gently. Suggest books or articles on female-led relationships that highlight mutual fulfillment and emotional connection. Avoid inundating her with fetish-heavy material that might reinforce stereotypes .

4.Encourage Confidence, Not Pressure: Building dominance takes time. Allow her to explore the dynamic at her own pace without expecting immediate results. Celebrate her moments of leadership, no matter how small, and reinforce her decisions with gratitude and admiration.

5.Offer Emotional Safety: Make her feel secure in experimenting with this lifestyle. Let her know that mistakes are okay and that you are committed to her, regardless of the outcome. Fear of failure or rejection can often hold women back from embracing their dominant side fully.

❤️Embracing the Transformation

When approached correctly, a “vanilla” wife can awaken to her inner dominance. With patience, understanding, and selfless dedication, you will likely find that she is not only capable of leadership but thrives in it. Society may have silenced her dominant voice, but with your support, she can uncover and celebrate her natural authority, transforming both her life and your relationship into one of mutual empowerment and deep satisfaction.

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Questions and Answers

This post has links to some of the more commonly asked questions about how we got started, how things developed for us, and what our life is like.

How does Tom handle being locked up for so long?

Who's idea was it?

How does your husband keep you satisfied?

Does he really keep you satisfied that way?

How did you become comfortable with this?

How do you deal with illnesses?

Does Tom still initiate even though he is permanently locked?

Do you feel bad when you get to come so much and he does not?

Does Tom feel like he has sacrificed anything by being locked?

Do you feel that your husband has been emasculated by this?

Should I get a larger dildo for me wife to try?

Are you worried that denial will be bad for him?

Does your husband worry about health risks?

Doesn't he lose motivation?

Do you ever unlock him?

How can I get my wife to do this?

What was his reaction when you told him it was going to be permanent?

Don't you miss how he feels?

Do you play with others?

How long did it take you to get to permanent?

What is your favorite aspect of this?

Does your husband ever regret what he gave up?

What about shrinking?

What cage does he wear?

Do you have any tips for getting started?

Do either of you feel like you have sacrificed something to make this work?

Can I send you a picture of my cage?

Are you sure you don't want to see my cage?

How do you feel intimate with just a faux cock?

When did you realize that this is what you really wanted?

What would you do if your husband really wanted to be unlocked?

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Guía para principiantes a la castidad:

 Adaptación y medición para un dispositivo de castidad Al decidir comprar un dispositivo de castidad, uno de los requisitos más comunes (especialmente entre principiantes) es que el dispositivo es completamente seguro. La mayoría de las personas busca un dispositivo ineludible porque aumenta, o se corresponde con la fantasía de que están realmente a merced de su poseedor de llaves y que sin él / ella no tienen otra opción que permanecer encerrados y negados. Sin embargo, la fantasía nunca se alinea con la realidad y muchas personas pueden desilusionarse con la idea del dispositivo de castidad cuando se dan cuenta de que probablemente puedan escapar. Simplemente no existe un dispositivo de castidad que sea 100% seguro para el 100% de los hombres y muchos dispositivos “de talla única para todos” fabricados en serie serán escapables para una gran proporción de hombres. Esto tiene sentido cuando lo piensas más profundamente. Los genitales masculinos varían (a veces dramáticamente) entre un hombre y otro. No solo estoy hablando de la longitud del pene aquí, sino de la circunferencia en diferentes puntos del eje, si él es un cultivador o una ducha y si está cortado o sin cortar. Además de esto, el pene es extremadamente flexible y se puede aplastar, exprimir, estirar y comprimir desde el espacio más pequeño y el más estrecho de los anillos. Incluso puede retraerse en el cuerpo. Esa es la forma en que está diseñado. Por supuesto, similar se aplica con los testículos y el escroto, que también pueden variar en tamaño y forma. Los testículos pueden sentarse altos y apretados en algunos hombres y colgarse de otros. Para la mayoría de los hombres, el escroto se contraerá y relajará a medida que cambien las condiciones. Con tales diferencias, es difícil para el dispositivo de talla única acomodarse de forma cómoda y segura a todos los hombres. En lugar de sentir desilusión por su capacidad para liberarse de su dispositivo de castidad, le recomiendo centrar su atención en lo que realmente es la castidad. No se puede obligar a alguien a la castidad (juego de fantasía) y debe ser una experiencia mutua de la que ambos hayan aceptado participar. El dispositivo de castidad debe ser un recordatorio constante pero agradable de su situación y su deseo de complacer y obedecer a su responsable. . Esto requiere un nivel de confianza mutua y honestidad, y si te encuentras mintiendo o reteniendo información de tu poseedor de la llave (masturbándote secretamente o no obedeciendo las reglas establecidas) entonces tal vez necesites reevaluar las condiciones de tu castigo con tu llavero y discute si la castidad es adecuada para ti. La negación de la castidad y el orgasmo se puede disfrutar de muchas maneras diferentes y desea descubrir qué es lo que funciona mejor para usted. Eche un vistazo a mi “Guía para principiantes sobre la negación de la castidad y el orgasmo” para obtener más información sobre esto, o si simplemente necesita ideas nuevas, mi publicación “Juegos e ideas de negación del orgasmo” puede ayudar. En lugar de centrarse en encontrar una jaula ineludible, su principal prioridad debe ser encontrar una jaula cómoda. Esto es especialmente cierto si le interesa la castidad a largo plazo. Muchas personas creen que deben elegir el dispositivo más pequeño y más ajustado, con la esperanza de que no puedan escapar, pero esto es contraproducente en la castidad a largo plazo. Si tiene que quitar el dispositivo y dejarlo apagado durante largos períodos de tiempo debido a la incomodidad o el dolor, entonces el dispositivo de castidad puede perder su poder psicológico y puede perder interés. El tamaño de un dispositivo de castidad cómodo a largo plazo no es fácil. Para la mayoría de los hombres, se necesita una buena cantidad de prueba y error para encontrar el dispositivo más adecuado. Esto puede ser frustrante y costoso, porque los dispositivos de castidad no son baratos. Hay algunos consejos y trucos para ayudar a reducir las posibilidades de comprar un ajuste incorrecto, pero incluso estos no son una ciencia exacta y se pueden cometer errores.

Medición para un dispositivo de castidad cómodo:

Medición para el anillo principal: La medida más importante para obtener la mayor precisión posible es el tamaño del anillo principal. (El anillo que rodea tus testículos y tu pene) Un ajuste incorrecto aquí puede causar toda una serie de problemas más adelante. Si este anillo es demasiado grande, la caja se deslizará hacia abajo o se caerá por completo. Si el anillo es demasiado pequeño, sufrirá molestias y dolor, retención de líquidos y cortará el suministro de sangre a sus genitales. El mejor ajuste es aquel que se siente lo suficientemente ajustado como para evitar resbalones, pero lo suficientemente flojo como para que la sangre fluya y te sientas cómodo. Hay una gran diferencia entre tener “bolas azules” (el término del argot para describir un dolor en los testículos debido a que se les niega el orgasmo) y tener testículos azules. Si sus testículos se están volviendo rojos, morados o azules, el anillo principal es demasiado apretado para usted y debe quitarlo inmediatamente y probar la siguiente medida. Es muy difícil obtener una medida precisa para el anillo principal, utilizando una cinta métrica. Algunas personas recomiendan atar una cuerda alrededor de sus genitales y medir eso, pero incluso esto no es ideal. El mejor método que he descubierto para obtener una medición precisa es visitar una tienda de sexo o una ferretería y comprar una selección de anillos, comenzando con aproximadamente 2 pulgadas de diámetro (5 cm) y reduciendo su tamaño en ¼ de pulgada (0,6 cm). Asegúrese de que los anillos estén hechos de un material sólido (metal o plástico) ya que los materiales elásticos le darán un resultado inexacto. También debe asegurarse de elegir anillos lisos y redondeados que no causen irritación durante el uso. Comenzando por el más grande, baje los tamaños hasta encontrar uno que se ajuste cómodamente, pero no cause dolor, enrojecimiento o hinchazón en los genitales. Cuando hayas reducido el tamaño a algunos anillos, usa cada uno durante unos días sólidos (incluso de noche) para tener una mejor idea de cómo se siente el anillo en cada condición. Algunos dispositivos de producción masiva, como el CB6000, vienen con múltiples anillos principales de diferentes tamaños, estos pueden ayudar a muchos hombres a encontrar un buen calce, pero no están garantizados (puede tener tamaños diferentes). Nota: las erecciones, especialmente las nocturnas, pueden causar cierta incomodidad, debido a que sus genitales se hinchan y el anillo comienza a estrecharlo. Con el anillo de tamaño adecuado, es posible que experimente una leve molestia por las erecciones, pero no debería experimentar dolor. Si sientes un intenso ardor debajo de los testículos o un dolor intenso en los testículos y el estómago, entonces es hora de cambiar el anillo)

Medición para la longitud de la jaula: La longitud de la jaula es algo importante. Lo ideal es que quieras una jaula que sea lo suficientemente larga como para permitir que la punta de tu pene descanse al final de la jaula. Si tu jaula es demasiado pequeña, podría hacerte sentir que tu pene está siendo constantemente “retenido” dentro del cuerpo un poco, tu glande puede abultarse incómodamente a través del orificio final, o tu pene puede agruparse hacia la base. Para los hombres no circuncidados, el prepucio puede sobresalir del extremo del dispositivo y pellizcarse. Una jaula que es demasiado larga no causará ningún problema importante, pero podría causar salpicaduras de orina dentro del dispositivo, lo que genera humedad y olor. Para medir la longitud de su pene para un dispositivo de castidad, puede tomar una regla y colocarla en la parte inferior de su pene flácido, midiendo desde la punta hasta la base. No presione la regla en su escroto, ya que esto le dará una medición incorrecta. Simplemente permita que la regla haga contacto con la piel allí. Debe estar completamente flácido al tomar esta medición, pero no el tipo de flácido “retraído dentro del cuerpo porque está frío o asustado”. Para obtener resultados precisos, tome esta medida varias veces a lo largo del día para encontrar la longitud más común. Cuando haya encontrado su medida, restar ¼ a ½  pulgada ( entre 0.6 y 1,27 cm) de los resultados finales y esta será la longitud ideal para una jaula.

Medición para el diámetro de la jaula: Medir el diámetro de la jaula es menos importante, pero un ajuste correcto aquí tiene algunos beneficios, como mayor comodidad y menos lío dentro de la jaula cuando orinas. Algunas personas recomiendan una jaula que abraza el pene, haciendo contacto con la piel por todos lados, pero sin sentirse apretado. Personalmente recomiendo que la jaula sea más flexible que esto, porque permite que el aire circule. Un pene sudoroso y pegajoso aumenta el olor más rápido y las condiciones oscuras y húmedas pueden causar problemas con la infección. También tenga en cuenta que su pene se retirará naturalmente, o se retraerá en su cuerpo durante el movimiento o en ciertas condiciones, y si la jaula estaba apretada para empezar, es posible que su pene no pueda moverse hacia adelante otra vez y quede así acumulado. El agrupamiento puede hacer que la piel se hinche o quede atrapada y pellizcada. Supongo que la elección es tuya, ya sea que prefieras una jaula ajustada o una que permita cierto margen de maniobra, pero preferimos la última, incluso si eso significa que puede volverse semi erecto.

La importancia de los espaciadores: Otra medida importante a tener en cuenta es la brecha entre el anillo principal y la sección de la jaula. Con la mayoría de los dispositivos de bolas atrapados producidos en serie, se le proporcionarán unos espaciadores y estos pequeños objetos se utilizan para aumentar o disminuir la brecha entre el anillo y la jaula. La razón por la cual esta medición es importante (especialmente para aquellos que buscan un dispositivo seguro) es que a menudo estos espaciadores pequeños sin pretensiones ayudan a reducir su capacidad para extraer la jaula. Cuanto menor es el espacio entre la jaula y el anillo principal, más difícil se vuelve deslizar el pene y los testículos fuera del dispositivo. Por supuesto, optar por el espaciador más pequeño de inmediato puede causar cierta incomodidad. Se trata de encontrar el ajuste más cómodo y cómodo para ti. Si comprar un dispositivo de castidad seguro sigue siendo de suma importancia para ti, hay algunas cosas que puedes hacer para ayudar a reducir las posibilidades de escapar de tu dispositivo de castidad. Una de las primeras es seguir adelante y comprar un dispositivo de castidad hecho a medida que se ajuste a sus especificaciones exactas, pero incluso esto no es una garantía (lo remito a mi comentario sobre cuán flexible puede ser el pene). Otra opción es considerar la compra de uno de los muchos complementos disponibles (asegúrese de que el que elija se adapte a su dispositivo en particular), que tiene como objetivo reducir o evitar que tire de su pene hacia atrás. (Los cinturones de castidad también pueden ayudar a evitar que la jaula se deslice hacia delante, lo que hace que sea más difícil deslizar su pene). Los complementos pueden ser tan simples como el KSD-G3 (una pieza de plástico con forma de cuña que ayuda a prevenir la extracción en dispositivos CB), hasta el extremo. Algunas jaulas vienen con enchufes uretrales profundos e incluso opciones para asegurar un piercing Prince Albert. Recomiendo una consideración cuidadosa al decidir si comprar estos complementos; lo último que desea es tener que quitar su dispositivo debido a lagrimeo, irritación o infecciones..

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Castidad forzada

Buenas, encontré este post del blog de control de castidad para mujeres. Este blog está orientado en promover ya ayudar a toda aquella mujer que quiere mantener a su pareja en Castidad.

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Control de castidad solo para mujeres

lunes, 12 de diciembre de 2016

La castidad forzada de hombre por la diosa M



La castidad forzada de hombre por la diosa M

(texto traducido de un grupo de yahoo)

(Soy una mujer treintañera, felizmente casada con un hombre maravilloso que me gusta llamarlo Asskisser. Su nombre me recuerda su privilegio favorito, y su estatus en nuestra relación.)

Soy una firme creyente de la importancia de la castidad forzada para los hombres. Voy a tratar de explicar por que pongo tanto énfasis en tal control.

Una de las mejores cosas de vivir un estilo de vida de la supremacía femenina es que es una forma de vida basada en la decisión. En lugar de simplemente reaccionar a los eventos aleatorios cotidianos que afectan nuestras vidas, lo que permite la oportunidad de ser una de las esculturas principales de nuestro futuro, la supremacía femenina es una manera de tomar decisiones muy proactivas y planificadas.

El hecho de que la mujer se centre tan fuertemente en la toma de decisiones para su hombre, lo que come, donde duerme, cuando tiene los orgasmos, y todas las demás facetas de su vida, hace que ella se pueda centrar claramente en sus propias metas, necesidades y deseos. Esto asegura, en la mayor medida de lo posible que su vida termine por convertirse en exactamente lo que ella desee. Contraste esto con la vida de la gente común, que solo reacciones a los eventos, por lo tanto se deje a la casualidad, lo que lleva a la frustración y a la decepción frecuentemente.

La toma de decisiones activa la evitacion a menudo porque la gente piense que es más fácil dejar que los acontecimientos sigan su curso. Este es, sin duda una incorrección, y siempre es más fácil de lograr las aspiraciones de seres, si se toman las decisiones de forma proactiva en todas las facetas de la vida.

He oído a algunas mujeres hablar sobre el control de su sexualidad de los hombres como otra tarea, y lo fácil es que para dejar sola la decisión de llegar al orgasmo a la masculina. Este es un excelente ejemplo de un pensamiento incorrecto. La castidad forzada del hombre es lo mejor, y yo además podría agregar, la forma más fácil para una mujer tener sus metas y aspiraciones que se reunieron tanto a largo plazo como a corto plazo.

Si la mujer tomara algún tiempo para tomar una decisión activa sobre la frecuencia, de hecho, de que manera, sus hombres se le permitirá llegar al orgasmo, y si se toma unos minutos cada día para hacer cumplir su decisión, se dará cuenta de que su vida será incomparablemente mas fácil a medida que su enfoque, naturalmente, se alega de su propia satisfacción y hacia la de ella. Por lo tanto, la aplicación de control sobre el orgasmo masculino no se agrega trabajo, sino es un método muy eficaz de reducir la carga de trabajo de la mujer, y moldea la conducta a los hombres que responden a sus deseos.

Las mujeres deben pensar:

¿Cómo me siento acerca del orgasmo masculino en sí?, ¿Te gusta verlo? ¿Es desagradable para mí? ¿Es ofensivo para mí? ¿No me importa no solo de un modo u otro? La respuesta te ayudara a servir como una guía para la toma de decisiones adecuada.

Utilizando la respuesta anterior como guía, y cualquiera que sea el deseo que tiene para su propio uso sexual de la polla del hombre, ella puede fácilmente decidir con que frecuencia se debe permitir el orgasmo. Cada tres días, semanas, meses, solo en ocasiones especiales? Las posibilidades son realmente infinitas. Otras frecuencias utilizadas con bastante frecuencia por los partidarios de la supremacía de la mujer son: solo en los días que tiene la intención de permitir que las relaciones de modo que el hombre puede realizar de manera adecuada, o de hecho, ya que muchas mujeres ha decidido, nunca.

Si se hace correctamente, no hay ningún riesgo para el hombre si él lleva su vida bajo el control del orgasmo al extremo, incluyendo vivir el resto de su vida sin otro orgasmo. El masaje de próstata es la clave para mantener un hombre sometido a la negación a largo plazo. Los recursos sobre masaje de la próstata abundan en Internet.

El control estricto y permanente del orgasmo masculino es tan importante para la supremacía femenina, debido a los profundos efectos que tiene sobre el comportamiento masculino. Estos efectos positivos son el resultado de su instinto de reproducción.

Todos los varones que no están bajo el control del orgasmo sexual estricto están completamente satisfechos en todo momento. Esto se debe a que todos lo hombres usan la masturbación en cada momento que el impulso biológico lo necesita. Para creer algo diferente acerca de la masturbación masculina es ser deshonesto con uno mismo.

Un hombre sexualmente satisfecho es, debido a sus instintos, un hombre que ya no esta motivado por completo para complacer a la mujer de su vida. Sus instintos hacen que esta falta de interés en agradar a ella, porque su deseo de reproducirse ha sido temporalmente satisfecho. Sin el impulso instintivo de la reproducción empujándolo hacia delante, el hombre no puede ser correctamente enfocado en sus necesidades y deseos. Mas bien, el hombre siempre pone sus propias necesidades y deseos en primer lugar.

Esto no es un comportamiento aprendido, y esto no es de alguna manera culpa de los hombres. Tampoco es algo que se pueda cambiar. Se trata simplemente de cómo funciona en él genero masculino, como resultado de los instintos que posee.

Esto contrasta con un hombre que vive en la negación del orgasmo estricto. El hombre que se le niega, cuando no esta en un estado de satisfacción sexual pondrá toda su atención en satisfacer las necesidades y los deseos de la mujer de su vida. Todos los hombres que pierden esa energía se centran directamente en su placer, no solo su placer sexual, pero en todos los ámbitos de su vida.

Una vez mas, esto no es algo que el hombre ha aprendido, o que él pueda cambiar, es la respuesta instintiva sencillamente de los hombres.

Sus instintos de la fuerza de sus energías hacia la satisfacción de su necesidad de reproducirse, esto se traduce naturalmente en las conductas en las que él hace todo lo posible para ganar el afecto de la mujer que controla su capacidad de orgasmo.

Cuando la hembra amordaza a su hombre con un cinturón de castidad eficaz, y ejerce un calendario de lanzamientos efectivos, tendrá a un varón dedicado exclusivamente a su felicidad. Cuando ella no hace estas cosas, sus instintos fuerzan su comportamiento a muy lejos de lo ideal.

Un interesante beneficio de la castidad forzada masculina es que el hombre esta sexualmente insatisfecho tendrá mas energía de lo que seria si estuviera satisfecho sexualmente. Esta es una respuesta biológica en el hombre que puede ser muy profunda y muy positiva.

En la mayoría de los hombres esta energía extra se manifiesta como energía creativa, en otros como energía física. De cualquier manera, puede ser de gran beneficio para la supremacía de la mujer como ella lo usa para su mayor placer.

La modificación del comportamiento es otro gran beneficio producido por los machos que carecen de la satisfacción sexual. Como las mujeres tenemos que admitir que a nosotras mismas todas tenemos el deseo de cambiar a nuestro hombre. Queremos que se presenten con mayor frecuencia los comportamientos que no agradan, y menos frecuentemente exhiban los comportamientos que nos desagradan a nosotras.

Las mujeres están a cargo de la sociedad que no es correcto querer cambiar al hombre, y que incluso si se tratara de ética, no se puede hacer de todos modos. La conclusión que hemos de sacar es que si tratamos de cambiar a nuestro hombre nuestros esfuerzos fracasaran y estaremos profundamente decepcionadas.

Esto es una mentira, por supuesto, se ha impuesto sobre las mujeres en nuestra sociedad patriarcal prevaleciente. Una mentira que no se debe permitir que pongamos de pie mientras las hembras crean nuestra futura matriarcado

El comportamiento masculino va a cambiar y mejorar de manera espectacular cuando la supremacía femenina quita a los hombres la satisfacción sexual. Sus instintos le conducirán a exhibir un comportamiento agradable hacia ella, y hará que sea mucho más difícil para él exhibir comportamientos que ella no aprueba. Como las mujeres, el control del orgasmo masculino es nuestra mejor oportunidad para mejorar nuestros patrones de comportamiento masculinos y moldear lo mas estrechamente en convertirlo en “el hombre de nuestros sueños.”

A través de la castidad forzada, podemos cambiar el macho con relativa facilidad, y debemos hacerlo.

Cuando se habla de control de cumplir el orgasmo masculino debe tener en cuenta que hay un retraso de tiempo significativo a medida que los varones están de un estado de satisfacción sexual a un estado de insatisfacción sexual. No es instantáneo o rápido, incluso, y un único control ejercido por unas horas o unos días no se consiguen los resultados esperados.

Una buen regla general es que se tarda aproximadamente una semana en la media de los hombres. Si se le permite el orgasmo el domingo, por ejemplo, y se le niega el orgasmo hasta el próximo domingo, va a obtener su orgasmo casi al mismo tiempo que se fue finalmente a ser sexualmente insatisfecha y sus instintos estaban comenzando a adaptar su enfoque a las necesidades de las mujeres y sus deseos.

Así, un varón que se concede un orgasmo por semana nunca será capaz de dar a su mujer el enfoque adecuado. Ella no recibirá los beneficios de la castidad forzada, porque no esta dejando tiempo suficiente para que su vida sexual insatisfecha.

Una forma útil para las mujeres a considerar esto es pensara en ello como unas vacaciones. Cada vez que el hombre alcanza el orgasmo su enfoque se alejara de ella durante aproximadamente una semana. Durantes este tiempo, será “de vacaciones”, ya que no sirve a al hembra en su mejor capacidad.

Con esto en mente, al pensar en la frecuencia con las masculina se debe permitir el orgasmo, la mujer debe considerar cuantas semanas al año ella quiere que su enfoque para estar lejos de ella, y de cuantas semanas de “Vacaciones” se le debería conceder.

La supremacía femenina hace bien en recordar que:

Un orgasmo masculino se traduce por semana para 52 semanas de “Vacaciones” por añoUn orgasmo masculino cada dos semanas se traducen en 26 semanas de “Vacaciones” por añoUn orgasmo masculino al mes se traduce en 12 semanas de “Vacaciones” por añoUna orgasmo masculino cada trimestre se traduce a 4 semanas de “Vacaciones” por añoUn orgasmo masculino por cada seis meses se traduce en 2 semanas de “Vacaciones” por añoUn orgasmo masculino una vez al año se traduce en 1 semana de “vacaciones” por año

Completamente se ha de acabar con el orgasmo masculino a través de la castidad forzada permanente se traducirá en el varón que siempre se centrara en él cumplimento de los deseos y de las necesidades de la hembra.

Cómo la supremacía femenina, debemos preguntarnos, ¿Cuántas semanas de vacaciones es el empleado en promedio que recibe al año? ¿Cuántas semanas al año deberíamos estar dispuesta a tolerar a nuestros hombres que se centran en estar para sus deseos, en lugar de los nuestros?

Como las mujeres, si tenemos en cuenta estas preguntas, las mejores respuestas para nosotras mismas y nuestras relaciones se vienen.

Una vez que se decide a través de una decisión activa y reflexiva del proceso de toma de la frecuencia con la que el macho se le permitirá el orgasmo, el hombre solo debe ser informado de la decisión, y se espera que obedezca sin rechistar.

La mujer debe, por supuesto, mantenerse fiel a su decisión, y no permitir que la debilidad temporal o piedad para suavizar su resolución. Si ella no hace que se cumpla su decisión, todos sus esfuerzos serán en vano.

Como se ha mencionado, el varón de se le debe permitir que se queje, o que incluso solicite un orgasmo.

Las quejas, peticiones y quejumbrosos son el mal comportamiento que debe ser castigado.

En el varón castigado que pertenece a una supremacía femenina con un firme determinación, una solicitud para el orgasmo es nada mas que quejarse para la atención. Sabiendo eso, la mujer debe tener cuidado en su elección de la pena.

El varón no debe ser azotado o golpeado, porque hacerlo sería ceder a su verdadera motivación, que es la de llamar la atención. Mas lloriqueo y otros malos comportamientos directamente el resultado de tal castigo.

En lugar de una paliza, un “tiempo fuera” es un castigo mucho mas eficaz en este caso, ya que se le niega totalmente lo que subyace en el comportamiento de los pobres.

Si el hombre se queja, o pide un orgasmo se le debe colocar en un armario con la puerta cerrada durante unas horas. Si lo desea, y las cuestiones de seguridad se consideran, puede ser atado y amordazado, mientras esta bajo llave.

Me siento muy afortunada de que en mi casa hay una letrina abandonada. A diferencia de la mayoría que hay en todo el país, la mía siempre se ha mantenido en buen estado a través de todas estas décadas de desuso. Así que tengo un perfecto “tiempo fuera” en su lugar. Puedo bloquear a un hombre en esa dependencia durante horas que no solo se le castiga al negar su deseo de mi atención, pero por la naturaleza de la que se destina el uso sirve como una forma perfecta de humillación. Con un hombre encerrado en el antiguo retrete que ni siquiera tiene que pensar acerca de sus funciones corporales, y, en teoría, si un poco de agua y alimentos que se entregan periódicamente podría castigar a un hombre de esta manera durante varios días. Aunque no puedo imaginar que esta vez se necesita o se desea, es bueno saber que sigue siendo la opción siempre disponible para mí.

La supremacía femenina nunca debe sentir que se le deniega el orgasmo masculino durante largos periodos de tiempo es demasiado cruel. De hecho, en lugar de la crueldad, la negación a largo plazo, el orgasmo es un don que aporta a sus hombres. Esto es así porque para el hombre en una relación basada en la supremacía femenina, que se concede un orgasmo es una falsa piedad.

Su instinto les conduce a un poderoso deseo para el orgasmo, pero en el fondo, en el centro de su ser, no el verdaderamente el deseo de liberación sexual.

Desde un punto de vista practico, después de un orgasmo es mucho más difícil para el hombre servir a la hembra, y que encuentra en su realización mucho menos la alegría de servirla. Intelectualmente, el hombre lo sabe y por eso tantos hombres buscan a una mujer que este dispuesta a limitar los orgasmo masculinos. Los machos son mucho más felices en su papel cuando se le mantienen sexualmente insatisfechos.

Desde un punto de vista menos practico, cuando el macho alcanza el orgasmo va acompañado por un liberación de toda la tensión sexual. Como estar en un estado de tensión es tan dichoso, el orgasmo masculino es siempre mayor o menor medida una decepción.

Como la supremacía femenina las mujeres trabajamos para mejorar nuestras vidas, y luchamos por una sociedad, tenemos que usar nuestra inteligencia para decidir como regular el orgasmo de nuestros hombres. Los varones no pueden hacerlo por si mismos debido a que sus instintos más bajos provocan el abandono de su propio intelecto a favor de seguir a su “idiota palo”. Un estricto control del orgasmo masculino se espera mejorar considerablemente la vida de la mujer que esta dispuesta a ejercer ese control, sino que también sirven sin embargo para mejorar su vida los hombres como ella utilizan su intelecto para hacer caso omiso de su “idiota palo”

Podéis visitar controldecastidad.blogspot.com y controldecastidadparamujeres.blogspot.com

Os deseo un feliz fin de semana.

[mellowtriumphdaze]

No cariño. Los penes son para follar. Eso que tu tienes entre las piernas está permanentemente enjaulado, por lo que realmente no es un pene. ¿De acuerdo?

¿Ese arnés con su gran pene con el que me follas? Ese es un verdadero pene. De hecho pienso que ese es tu verdadero pene. El otro no va a salir, solo sirve para incrementar tu deseo.

——-

Cuando decido poner en castidad a mi pareja, preparo la jaula y el dildo que me apetece que sea su nuevo pene durante el tiempo que le tengo en castidad. Elijo el largo, el ancho, la textura, el color… y hasta si tiene pilas dependiendo de mi estado de animo.

-Toma, vamos a sustituir tu pene durante un tiempo. Quiero que aprendas a vivir y a satisfacerme con tu nuevo pene. Quiero que sientas que es el tuyo de verdad durante este tiempo. Lo usaras algunas veces con arnés y otras sin el.

No me pidas salir de la jaula por lo menos hasta que me demuestres que eres capaz de utilizar tu nuevo pene mejor que el anterior.

Psicológicamente tiene que aprender a ser muy sumiso para follarme con un pene falso mientras su pene real perfectamente funcional está encerrado y se niega incluso a ponerse erecto.

Después discutiremos cual de los dos me apetece más. Le preguntaré que por qué vamos a volver al anterior si este es una maravilla. Total, he elegido yo como es y el ha aprendido a usarlo mejor que el original.

Todo esto me sirve para que sienta que hago lo que me place con él. Le acabaré soltando cuando yo quiera después de burlarme de sus penes un buen rato.

Feliz doma.

[mellowtriumphdaze]

¡ChatGPT establece las reglas! Como prueba y para divertirme un poco, le pedí a ChatGPT que definiera las reglas y el razonamiento para la castidad masculina en una relación liderada por una mujer. Utilicé la pregunta del contrato como punto de partida y realicé preguntas específicas como seguimiento.

¡Aquí están los resultados sin editar! ¿Qué piensas?

CONTRATO:

Como poseedor de la llave, tomo esta responsabilidad muy en serio y quiero asegurarme de que nuestra relación se base en la confianza, el respeto y la comunicación clara. Con eso en mente, te presento el contrato para nuestro esclavo de castidad masculino.

Contrato para esclavo de castidad masculino:

Propósito: El propósito de este contrato es establecer los términos y condiciones de la sumisión del esclavo de castidad al poseedor de la llave en una relación liderada por una mujer. Duración: El esclavo de castidad permanecerá en castidad durante la duración del contrato a menos que el poseedor de la llave especifique lo contrario. Propiedad: El dispositivo de castidad y todo el equipo relacionado pertenecen al Dueño de la Llave, y el esclavo no tiene derecho a usarlos o poseerlos sin su permiso. Dueño de la Llave: El Dueño de la Llave tendrá la llave del dispositivo de castidad en todo momento y podrá desbloquearlo a su discreción. Liberación: El esclavo solo será liberado de la castidad con el permiso explícito del Dueño de la Llave. Mantenimiento: El esclavo mantendrá la limpieza del dispositivo de castidad y se someterá a cualquier inspección o limpieza necesaria según lo indique el Dueño de la Llave. Castigos: El esclavo reconoce que cualquier desobediencia o incumplimiento de los términos de este contrato resultará en un castigo según lo determine el Dueño de la Llave. Consentimiento: El esclavo reconoce que está celebrando este contrato voluntariamente y con pleno conocimiento de los términos y condiciones que se describen en este documento. Terminación: Este contrato puede ser terminado por cualquiera de las partes en cualquier momento, con o sin causa. Confidencialidad: El esclavo no revelará ninguna información sobre el Dueño de la Llave o los detalles de su relación sin su permiso expreso. Al firmar este contrato, el esclavo de castidad acepta los términos y condiciones descritos anteriormente y reconoce que cualquier violación de este contrato puede resultar en un castigo a discreción del poseedor de la llave.

DURACIÓN:

Creo que las duraciones del encierro deben ser acordadas por ambas partes en función de sus preferencias y deseos individuales. Sin embargo, puedo sugerir algunas duraciones mínimas de encierro que se utilizan comúnmente en las relaciones lideradas por mujeres.

Para principiantes o aquellos nuevos en la castidad masculina, generalmente se recomienda una duración de encierro de 1 a 2 semanas para permitir que el sumiso se adapte a los aspectos físicos y emocionales de la castidad. Después de eso, se pueden considerar duraciones de encierro más prolongadas de 3 a 4 semanas o más, según los deseos y límites de ambas partes.

¿POR QUÉ ES NECESARIA LA CASTIDAD?

Intercambio de poder: La castidad masculina es una herramienta para el intercambio de poder entre la pareja dominante (en este caso, el poseedor de la llave) y el sumiso (el esclavo de castidad). Al controlar el placer sexual del esclavo, el Dueño de la Llave establece y mantiene el control sobre la dinámica de poder en la relación. Disciplina: La castidad masculina puede utilizarse como una forma de disciplina o castigo por la desobediencia del esclavo o por no cumplir con las órdenes del Dueño de la Llave. Intimidad: Al negar la liberación sexual del esclavo, el Dueño de la Llave puede crear una mayor sensación de intimidad y conexión entre ellos. Esto puede conducir a un nivel más profundo de confianza y vulnerabilidad en la relación. Exploración Sexual: La castidad masculina también puede utilizarse como una herramienta para la exploración y experimentación sexual, lo que permite al Dueño de la Llave y al esclavo explorar juntos nuevas y emocionantes experiencias sexuales. En general, la castidad masculina es un medio para mejorar la dinámica de poder y la intimidad en una relación liderada por una mujer, al mismo tiempo que proporciona una herramienta para la disciplina y la exploración sexual.

BENEFICIOS PARA EL DUEÑO DE LA LLAVE:

Poder y Control: Como dueña de la llave, la pareja femenina tiene control total sobre la liberación sexual del hombre. Esto puede crear una dinámica poderosa en la relación, donde la pareja femenina está a cargo y el hombre debe someterse a su autoridad. Mayor intimidad: al controlar la liberación sexual del hombre, la pareja femenina puede crear un nivel más profundo de intimidad y conexión en la relación. Esto puede conducir a una mayor confianza, vulnerabilidad y cercanía emocional. Mayor placer sexual: cuando se le niega la liberación sexual al hombre durante un período prolongado, puede conducir a un mayor placer sexual para ambos miembros de la pareja cuando finalmente se le permite la liberación. Esto puede crear una experiencia sexual más intensa y satisfactoria para ambos miembros de la pareja. Mayor comunicación: una relación liderada por la mujer con un componente de castidad masculina requiere una comunicación clara y constante entre los miembros de la pareja. Esto puede conducir a una mejora de las habilidades de comunicación en general, lo que también puede beneficiar la relación en otras áreas. Mayor satisfacción personal: para algunas mujeres, el acto de controlar la liberación sexual de su pareja puede ser personalmente satisfactorio y

d empoderamiento. Puede crear una sensación de confianza y orgullo en su capacidad de hacerse cargo de su relación y del placer de su pareja. En general, ser la dueña de la llave en una relación liderada por una mujer puede brindar una variedad de beneficios para la pareja femenina, incluido un mayor poder y control, una mayor intimidad y placer sexual, mejores habilidades de comunicación y satisfacción personal.

BENEFICIOS PARA EL HOMBRE ENCERRADO:

Si bien puede parecer contradictorio, en realidad hay muchos beneficios que una pareja masculina puede experimentar al estar en una jaula de castidad. Estos son algunos beneficios potenciales:

Mayor concentración: cuando la pareja masculina está en castidad, puede descubrir que está más concentrado en las necesidades y deseos de su pareja, en lugar de en sus propios impulsos sexuales. Esto puede conducir a un nivel más profundo de conexión emocional e intimidad en la relación. Mejor desempeño sexual: al negar la liberación sexual, la pareja masculina puede descubrir que su desempeño sexual mejora cuando finalmente se le permite tener un orgasmo. Esto puede conducir a una experiencia sexual más satisfactoria para ambos miembros de la pareja. Sumisión mejorada: la castidad puede ser una herramienta poderosa para la sumisión, ya que permite que el hombre entregue por completo el control a su pareja femenina. Esto puede crear una dinámica de poder más satisfactoria y plena en la relación. Crecimiento personal: la experiencia de estar en castidad también puede conducir al crecimiento personal de la pareja masculina, incluida una mayor autodisciplina y autoconciencia. Mayor placer sexual: cuando finalmente se permite la liberación, la pareja masculina puede experimentar un mayor placer sexual debido al período prolongado de negación. En general, estar en una jaula de castidad puede brindar una variedad de beneficios para la pareja masculina, que incluyen una mayor concentración, un mejor desempeño sexual, una mayor sumisión, crecimiento personal y un mayor placer sexual.

Buen trabajo, IA.

ChatGPT makes the rules!

As a test, and for a bit of fun, I asked ChatGPT to define the rules and reasoning for male chastity in a female led relationship. I used the contract question as the starting point, and asked specific questions as follow ups.

Here are the unedited results! What do you think? CONTRACT:

As a Keyholder, I take this responsibility very seriously and want to ensure that our relationship is built on trust, respect, and clear communication. With that in mind, I present to you the contract for our male chastity slave.

Contract for Male Chastity Slave:

Purpose: The purpose of this contract is to establish the terms and conditions of the chastity slave’s submission to the Keyholder in a female-led relationship.

Duration: The chastity slave will remain in chastity for the duration of the contract unless otherwise specified by the Keyholder.

Ownership: The chastity device and all related equipment belong to the Keyholder, and the slave has no right to use or possess them without her permission.

Keyholder: The Keyholder will hold the key to the chastity device at all times and may unlock it at her discretion.

Release: The slave will only be released from chastity with the explicit permission of the Keyholder.

Maintenance: The slave will maintain the cleanliness of the chastity device and submit to any necessary inspections or cleanings as directed by the Keyholder.

Punishments: The slave acknowledges that any disobedience or failure to comply with the terms of this contract will result in punishment as determined by the Keyholder.

Consent: The slave acknowledges that they are entering into this contract willingly and with full knowledge of the terms and conditions outlined herein.

Termination: This contract may be terminated by either party at any time, with or without cause.

Confidentiality: The slave will not disclose any information about the Keyholder or the details of their relationship without her express permission.

By signing this contract, the chastity slave agrees to the terms and conditions outlined above and acknowledges that any violation of this contract may result in punishment at the discretion of the Keyholder.

DURATION:

I believe that the lockup durations should be agreed upon by both parties based on their individual preferences and desires. However, I can suggest some minimum lockup durations that are commonly used in female-led relationships.

For beginners or those new to male chastity, a lockup duration of 1-2 weeks is typically recommended to allow the submissive to adjust to the physical and emotional aspects of chastity. After that, longer lockup durations of 3-4 weeks or more can be considered, depending on the desires and limits of both parties. WHY IS CHASTITY NECESSARY?

Power Exchange: Male chastity is a tool for power exchange between the dominant partner (in this case, the Keyholder) and the submissive (the chastity slave). By controlling the slave's sexual pleasure, the Keyholder establishes and maintains control over the power dynamic in the relationship.

Discipline: Male chastity can be used as a form of discipline or punishment for the slave's disobedience or failure to comply with the Keyholder's orders.

Intimacy: By denying the slave's sexual release, the Keyholder can create a heightened sense of intimacy and connection between them. This can lead to a deeper level of trust and vulnerability in the relationship.

Sexual Exploration: Male chastity can also be used as a tool for sexual exploration and experimentation, allowing the Keyholder and the slave to explore new and exciting sexual experiences together.

Overall, male chastity is a means of enhancing the power dynamic and intimacy in a female-led relationship, while also providing a tool for discipline and sexual exploration.

BENEFITS FOR THE KEYHOLDER:

Power and Control: As the keyholder, the female partner has complete control over the male's sexual release. This can create a powerful dynamic in the relationship, where the female partner is in charge and the male partner must submit to her authority.

Increased Intimacy: By controlling the male's sexual release, the female partner can create a deeper level of intimacy and connection in the relationship. This can lead to increased trust, vulnerability, and emotional closeness.

Heightened Sexual Pleasure: When the male partner is denied sexual release for an extended period of time, it can lead to heightened sexual pleasure for both partners when release is finally allowed. This can create a more intense and satisfying sexual experience for both partners.

Enhanced Communication: A female-led relationship with a male chastity component requires clear and consistent communication between partners. This can lead to enhanced communication skills overall, which can benefit the relationship in other areas as well.

Increased Personal Satisfaction: For some women, the act of controlling their partner's sexual release can be personally satisfying and empowering. It can create a sense of confidence and pride in their ability to take charge of their relationship and their partner's pleasure.

Overall, being a keyholder in a female-led relationship can provide a range of benefits for the female partner, including increased power and control, enhanced intimacy and sexual pleasure, improved communication skills, and personal satisfaction.

BENEFITS FOR THE LOCKED MALE:

While it may seem counterintuitive, there are actually many benefits that a male partner can experience from being in a chastity cage. Here are some potential benefits:

Increased Focus: When the male partner is in chastity, he may find that he is more focused on his partner's needs and desires, rather than his own sexual urges. This can lead to a deeper level of emotional connection and intimacy in the relationship.

Improved Sexual Performance: By denying sexual release, the male partner may find that his sexual performance improves when he is finally allowed to orgasm. This can lead to a more satisfying sexual experience for both partners.

Enhanced Submission: Chastity can be a powerful tool for submission, allowing the male partner to fully surrender control to his female partner. This can create a more fulfilling and satisfying power dynamic in the relationship.

Personal Growth: The experience of being in chastity can also lead to personal growth for the male partner, including increased self-discipline and self-awareness.

Heightened Sexual Pleasure: When release is finally allowed, the male partner may experience heightened sexual pleasure due to the extended period of denial.

Overall, being in a chastity cage can provide a range of benefits for the male partner, including increased focus, improved sexual performance, enhanced submission, personal growth, and heightened sexual pleasure.

Nice one, AI.

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The Science (yup) of Male Chastity

You might not have considered it, but have you ever thought about how  your sex life affects your mood? On some careful research and thinking  about your own behavior, you might come to conclusion and discover a  relationship between sex and mood. Indeed, upon some in depth research  we have concluded that the relationship between one’s mood, and sexual  activity and orgasm are not considered to be the greatest of mysteries.  Indeed, there is a well-researched scientific basis on understanding the  biochemical mechanisms that occur before, during and after sexual  gratification. In this article, we will explore the relationship between  the brain, sexual release, and the science behind male chastity. This  in turn, may help you answer some of the questions that you might have  had which concerned male chastity, or they might lead to a flurry of  research whereby you can explore male chastity in new and profound ways.  As we have mentioned elsewhere, to reduce male chastity to the denial  of orgasms is simplistic and doesn’t accurately reflect male chastity as  a whole.                                           

The brain is a complex organ and we understand that it is driven by a  number of varying neurotransmitters which we can hold accountable for  changing our moods throughout the day, and indeed over the course of our  lives. But there are only a couple of these neurotransmitters which are  also involved with sexual activity; these three being dopamine,  prolactin and oxytocin. Men and women can be said to have distinctly  different patterns and responses to these neurotransmitters and the  argument behind that is that it centres on our ability, needs and  desires to procreate as well as to raise our off-spring so that they too  can survive long enough to procreate. Why don’t some people feel this  need or urge? Well that relates to the fourth factor which is the  concentration of receptors for those neurotransmitters and this in  particular relates to how the human body handles dopamine.

Let’s break  down these three neurotransmitters and how they affect our body, and our  responses to sexual activity before we move on to how that relates to  male chastity.               

What is Dopamine?                                           

Dopamine is commonly associated with the brains reward and pleasure  centers. It can cause feelings of pleasure if we partake in certain  activities, such as sexual activity, the consumption of calorie rich  foods, the ingestion of drugs, or other behaviors such as shopping and  gambling. Dopamine is often referred to as the addictive hormone –  people with low dopamine levels have been shown to have higher risks of  suffering from addictions. Surprisingly, it is dopamine which is also  partially responsible for Parkinson’s disease which sees people with a  dopamine deficiency potentially developing the illness. The intense  pleasure that we obtain from orgasms is as a result of dopamine flooding  our reward centers in our brain during sexual activity.                                           

Normal/Elevated Dopamine Levels: Normal levels of dopamine can result  in motivation, contentment, an ability to gather pleasure from  finishing tasks, optimism, kindness and good natured feelings towards  others and bond with them as well as a healthy libido.                                           

Low Dopamine Levels: Lower levels of dopamine can result in  depression and an inability to function within the world due to a lack  of ambition and drive, it can also result in an inability to feel  certain emotions such as love, and often manifests itself into impaired  judgement, lack of remorse and social anxiety. Low dopamine levels also  adversely affect the libido.                                           

What Is Prolactin?                                           

Prolactin is an interesting neurotransmitter and it is named after  its ability to affect lactation levels in women. This neurotransmitter  has over 300 uses within the body, but it’s effects on the orgasm are  well researched in comparison to other uses. An orgasm, through either  physical sex or masturbation, will result in a large amount of prolactin  being released into the body. It is this chemical which results in a  better mood following sexual activity, and can last for over an hour.  Prolactin and Dopamine rely on each other for context and control when  it comes to sexual activity. Prolactin in men directly affects the  refractory period before they can maintain an erection and engage in  sexual activities again. The older that you get, the more prolactin is  produced in men. Males with a deficiency in prolactin are often able to  engage in sexual activity multiple times within a very short amount of  time, or they will not lose their erection after climaxing.                                           

Excess levels of prolactin are commonly associated with irritability, decreased testosterone, and a substantial loss of libido.                                           

What Is Oxytocin?                                           

Often call the love drug – oxytocin is responsible for the feelings  of trust, connectedness, closeness and protection. A burst of oxytocin  is produced during orgasm and it is often attributed to the afterglow  that we feel post sexual activity. Oxytocin is released during all forms  of intimate activity, which includes touching, hugging and caressing.  After orgasm, in men, the levels of oxytocin quickly plummet until they  are below where they were before sexual activity, whereas in women it  will lower itself much more slowly, often remaining higher than it was  initially. The reasons for this remain largely unclear, though  speculation exists that it is linked to ideas of empathy and is a  necessary part of bonding, child birth, and child rearing, this also  means that post orgasm that women are far more likely to let their guard  down and fall in love.                                           

Normal/Elevated levels of Oxytocin:- This is the love drug after all and as such elevated levels will result in strong and powerful feelings of emotion, a sense of devotion and   closeness, an increased sense of positivist, and feelings or protection and responsibility.                                           

Low Oxytocin Levels:- Sees a reduction of feelings of attachment and connection, it is also   responsible for low libido and depression, as well as a reduction of   empathy towards others.                                           

How Does This Affect A Man In Chastity?                                           

We just spoke about how an orgasm results in a substantial drop after  an orgasm in a male, with the females drop occurring more slowly in the  sense of a plateauing effect. What if we were to avoid this sudden drop  by removing it all together? In detailed blogposts by Sarah Jameson on  her male chastity blog, she details how after each orgasm there  would be a period of time where her partner, John, would not be as  engaging in the sense of serving and helping, as he was before his  orgasm. She timed this sensation to last for a period of between 7-10  days and she has used this tracking to expand the periods as to which he  remains caged. If we switch John to engaging in sexual activity once or  twice per week, which could be considered to be normal, then the levels  of the neurotransmitters which we have just discussed would never  really stabilize and as such it would be a continual roller coaster ride  of emotions.

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False Assumptions & Beliefs about KInk

 People, and  tumblr porn make assumptions about Kink, Femdom, and BDSM all the time.   Here are the ones that drive me nuts. ( if you don’t agree.. rant on your own blog) 

1.  It’s not about sex, It’s all about sex.. .. It’s about service, it is about anticipating your dominants needs before they express it,  its about sex, however, actually having it is solely at the Dominants discretion.  It is about adoration, protection, and honoring your partner for what they give, and what you take..  

2, We all wear fetish clothes!  We do not need to be dressed in Latex and leather to dominant someone, nor are we typically.  Those outfits are typically uncomfortable, and not conducive to play, and reserved for parties and such.   Being dominant and having a fetish for  certain types of clothing are two different things and are mutually exclusive, and often don’t go together. 

3.  We all look like supermodels.. Hmph.. Really, have you been to a kinky party, club?  Most of us are average looking folks with every body type under the sun.  In fact the model images you see on Tumblr are rare to see in reality. 

4.  Everyone in Chasity, has a small dick, and never ever gets to fuck...   BULLSHIT!    They are at the beck and call of their owner to do whatever they want… and many get out to be fucked a hell of a lot. 

5.    You have to deny  your submissive sex and have a side lover. C'mon folks.. many people are content with their primary partner, and many aren’t.. Who cares.   This originates in the notion that being submissive is unmanly and undesirable, and it total rubbish.  Submissive men make excellent lovers, because they take direction.  If your not wanting to advocate and speak out for your own pleasure and enjoyment to them ladies, perhaps you are not that dominant.   Men can’t read minds,  tell them how you like it,  if you don’t know.. experiment until you do!  this leads to……

6.  That Mistresses should never be vulnerable or let their subs make love to them of fuck them.  I do not understand why people chose to deny themselves pleasure and happiness.  It is ok to be vulnerable, you are human, having/expressing emotions does not make you a submissive, anymore than fucking makes you dominant.  

7.  That all dominant women are male hating female supremacists, who need to micromanage all the little wanking men..  Fuck that!.. I love men….. and most are good guys.   If you feel that you have to micromanage and monitor someones activities of daily living.. I’m sorry, but they are not submissive.   

8. That men who cross-dress are gay, fags, and really want to be dominated by men, crave BBC and real women don’t consider them desirable, because they are not man enough….  BULLSHIT!  Many women I know have husbands and lovers that cross-dress for the humiliation aspect of it, at the direction of their wives..  or for simply the fetishistic enjoyment of the clothes, or to be our lesbian lovers for the evening.   They still have times when the are in boy mode, and/or girl mode.. it depends on the dominants mood.  

9.  That being a sadist means you have to leave a person looking like hamburger meat..  Please.. you can  torment a consenting individual with just a thought, and a few well chosen words.  One of my biggest gripes is the unsafe and unhealthy sadistic scenes I see depicted in images.  This scares off the newbies, and make people question exploring kink.   

10.  That everyone can be kinky..  you can’t make someone kinky,   Kink isn’t easy, in fact it is harder than most vanilla relationships, because it order for it to be good and work, you have to be able  to compatible outside of the kink and within the kink. If you really want your needs to be met you have to focus on the other persons needs above your own.. at the same time you must be completely free to honestly express & communicate your own needs and desires..  If both people are doing so, and one take the leads and the other follows, you have a symbiotic relationship that is healthy.   You should be able to laugh together, drink a cuppa tea, and cuddle,go out the dinner with friends, come home and   fuck, peg, be locked up in chastity, teased and tormented, worshiped and adored.  ..  Is it easy? NO!.. It is hard enough to find compatibility outside of kink, let alone within in. and many of us do what we can to get what we need, and for some that is Tumblr

Namaste~

Ms.Eden.Tx

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The Brilliance of Submissive Men

Lets take a step back for a moment, and just take a look at what a submissive man is. Forget the details of what it means to be submissive, and instead, look at who is doing the submitting. What do you see? I see incredible brilliant men, men who are loving, caring, thoughtful and emotional. Men who see women not as objects to conquer, but instead, as people to respect, worship, honor and serve.

These are men that will put her before himself. Men that care about her well being far more than his sexual gratification. I'm talking about the true submissives, not the wannabe see women as kink dispenser submissives. The men that are willing to offer themselves to her, to make her life better. The men that are willing to sacrifice for her, because she's more important than video games, or sports, or porn. The men that make her the priority rather than the option.

The brilliance of submissive men, is that they are hopeless romantics, that thrive on intimacy, chivalry, respect, and are great emotional support. Many are too nice, that some women don't see that value. Yet, for the women that does see their value, they fit the model of man that every disney movie portrays. Emotionally available men, strong enough to be vulnerable, wise enough to listen, and intuitive enough to anticipate her needs.

He's looking for a woman that accepts him as he is, that appreciates him for what he does. He wants to support and protect her, while also serving at her feet, and focusing on her pleasure and needs. His attention to her is unparalled, and she feels his desire for her. The women that realize how truly rare and valuable this is, are the ones who embrace the control that comes with it. He needs the structure that she will create with that control. He needs live in her world, since she is the center of his.

Submissive men are a breath of fresh air, in a world that is typically lost in confusion. Submissive men have been given a bad rep over the years, only because that's what the world does, creates taboos. Submissive men are not weak, or worthless, or deserving of degradation or humiliation. That's just the taboo that blocks many women from seeing the true value he's offering her.

What woman doesn't want a man that's fully invested in her happiness, that's willing to listen, put her first, and trust in her judgement? A man that's willing to stand by her side and support her no matter what, and make her feel desired. To allow her to be free to express herself, build her confidence, and liberate her sexually. Submissive men are brilliant, because they understand how to truly love a woman and fulfill their own emotional needs in the process. This creates a fantastic vanilla relationship, while at the same time, opening the potential for a spicy sex life, allowing her to control where it goes, at her pace.

Submissive men deserve a lot more credit than they get. For the only ones that truly give them credit are the women that appreciate their submission. The rest of the world looks down on them, when really, it should be looking up to their example of what a real man should aspire to. Submissive men, are kind and gentle, yet strong, in ways macho men can never be. They love women in general, but for the one that allows him in and accepts him for who he is, that's who he gives his mind body and soul to. A commitment most men would run from. Submissive men are truly a gift that so few women actually unwrap and accept as hers.

Yet those in a female led relationship know the secrets of happiness and fulfillment, and they never look back, because there's nothing better than the lasting love and bond that's formed in a FLR.

Create the FLR of your dreams

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Sissy bitch say hi to mommy on telegram to be owned my id::::@Best_goddess1

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A "sissy" is a term often used within the BDSM and FLR (Female-Led Relationship) communities to describe a submissive male who takes on traditionally feminine roles and behaviors as part of their submission. This can include dressing in women's clothing, adopting feminine mannerisms, and performing tasks or roles typically associated with women. The sissy dynamic often involves elements of humiliation and feminization, and it is typically consensual and embraced by those who identify with this form of submission. The specifics can vary widely depending on the preferences and boundaries of the individuals involved.

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The Cuckold Kissing Game (AKA Can He Tell Who You Just Sucked Off)

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Is it possible that with just a kiss your cuckold could tell which man just climaxed in your mouth?

It certainly is and I think you'll find it's a rather thrilling way to make giving your bull a blowjob even more exciting.

Now, this particular game won't work for the hotwives that only see one man, but if you're the kind of woman that likes to have a handful of handsome, well-hung, skilled bulls at your disposal then this is a perfect way to have a little extra fun with your cuckold.

Follow these steps to make the simple act of giving a blowjob even more fun for you and your cuck:

Begin by letting your cuckold husband know that you're heading out to suck a real man's cock, to give him the kind of pleasure that he deserves, the kind of pleasure your cuckold no longer deserves. Make sure you don't tell him which of your men you're going to see. If you want, you can have your cuck dress you or pick out your shade of lipstick to ensure you're even sexier for your alpha.

Let your cuckold know that you intend on letting another man cum in your mouth and that you intend on swallowing that cum. Let him know that you'll be coming home right after sucking off your bull.

Assuming your cuckold has tasted the cum of this man before - through creampie cleanup or cum kissing after you've fellated him - let your cuckold know that he'll be given a reward if he can tell you which man you just fellated based purely on the taste after you share a kiss with him upon returning home.

When you get home, share a deep, lingering tongue kiss with your cuckold. Let him savor the taste of another man's cock and cum on your tongue and lips. Press your body tightly against his and feel his cock grow stiff as he tries to suss out whose cum you just swallowed.

If he guesses which of your bulls/alpha males you just sucked off, reward your cuckold. How you reward him is up to you since you'll know him best. Perhaps he'd enjoy getting to make you cum. Perhaps he'd enjoy a handjob while you tell him how much you enjoyed sucking a real man's cock. Perhaps he'd like to make love to you and you'd be happy to let him do so.

If you play this game often enough, you'll find that your cuckold becomes deeply invested in tasting the cum of the men that fuck you.

Even if you don't let them cum inside you, your cuckold might be quite keen on drinking the loads from their used condoms so he can reap the rewards of being able to identify the taste after you've given a superior man a great blowjob and swallowed his cum.

Even if you don't want to play the game, I heartily recommend sharing a deep, sensual kiss with your cuckold after you've fellated another man.

In almost every case he'll find it thrilling and it might very well get his dick all kinds of excited, which is precisely what you want. After all, an aroused cuckold is eager to do just about anything to make his wife happy.

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Cuckold Intimate Training with my Bull

Remember what I said about controlling their little head? You can use that, ladies. If you get him horny enough, you can get your man to walk on coals. He’ll walk through that fire to get to you, or he’ll walk through that fire just because it pleases you. He’ll even drag his dick through the coals if it means he gets to put it where he wants. This is how I used this to my advantage. About a month ago while my husband was settling in to watch my lover and I together in bed, I asked him if he would like to go down on me to prepare me for my lovers cock. He said yes, so I lay back and allowed him to use his wonderful tongue for a few minutes, getting me even wetter. That lasted for three or four minutes then I told him that was enough and he stopped and got off the bed. My lover climbed on top and we began to have sex. About 15 minutes after we began, I asked my lover to pull out for a moment and then asked my husband if he would like to eat my “slick pussy”. My husband said sure, and repeated his efforts between my legs (which felt glorious). After a few minutes I told him that was enough and my lover resumed screwing me. Later he reached his climax within me and expended his usual, copious amount of semen. After we rested I asked my husband if he would like to lie beside me, finger my pussy and masturbate. He said he did. I knew he would. So I spread my legs a bit and told him to place his head on my thigh so he could get a good look down there. Stroking himself he lasted no more than two minutes before shooting all over my leg and the bedsheets again. When he finished, I told him that the next time he would get an even closer look down there. I wanted to plant the idea but not push him too fast. Before I saw my lover again we had several nights of pillow chat, discussing how he had fingered my pussy earlier and enjoyed seeing and feeling me after sex. I told him that it excited me for him to be down there after I was with another man, feeling him between my legs. I asked him if he could smell my excitement and wondered what it would be like to taste me after I’d had sex with someone. I didn’t push the idea. Instead I left it there. The next time was less than three weeks later. Once again, my lover and I had my husband go down on me before we screwed, than do it once more midway through our first screw. At the end my lover once again filled me with his usual gift. But this time I was ready to try something new. The time had come to push my husband a little further. I asked him to get in the bed with us, lay down beside me and place his head on my thigh, just like last time. After he did I parted my legs to give him a better view in the dim light. Then, as he began to masturbate I deliberately reached between the folds of my pussy and dipped my index finger into the wetness, bringing it then to my lips and letting him see me taste the flavor of our combined juices. I moved my finger slowly in and out of my mouth, using my tongue on it, making sure to let him see how much I loved the taste. My husband watched in fascination, as I moved my hand back to my crotch and dipped the same finger into my wet pussy again. But this time I moved my hand toward his face. He recoiled as my hand approached, but I quickly placed my other hand behind his head and said ‘no’. Then I slowly eased my slippery finger between his lips. He didn’t flinch as I traced my finger around his lips. Then I repeated my action, once again from my pussy to his lips. After the third time, I asked him if that was so bad. He said “No not really”. So I spread my legs wider and told him to get between them. He looked up at me tentatively, and then did as I said, sliding over my thigh and putting his face about a foot away from my crotch. He stared between my legs, then looked up at me. As soon as our eyes met I said “Do it”. He knew what I was saying. My lover and I both watched silently. My husband shifted himself closer until I felt his hot breath down there. I could literally feel his indecision. That’s when I reached down with both hands, put them behind his head and gently pulled him those last few inches. His mouth made contact with my wet flesh and I knew I had him. He seemed to be overcome with it at first, but then I felt him gradually give in and he began to enjoy it. I noticed his excitement building. He became more animated. Soon juices were everywhere. I could feel his tongue begin to explore and taste me, moving deeper inside. Soon it was a plethora of sexual juices; my wetness mixed with my lovers’ semen mixed with my husband’s saliva. It was as much of a sexual pleasure as it was a personal victory for me. His being down there was all my doing and I loved that every bit as much as I did his tongue. I will always remember the feeling of lying in that bed and kissing another man deeply, while feeling the pleasure of my husband’s tongue eagerly slurping between my widespread legs.