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Sitting in a car eating is not a date. Walking in the park is not a date. Going to a drive through is not a date. Coffee “dates” aren’t dates.

A date is an intentional activity. It shows someone cares enough to take time out of their day to plan, and to think about what both of you might enjoy. It is one of the first tangible expressions of their desire to spend time with you.

The activities mentioned before are examples of quality time. Quality time is important in a relationship. Not in the early stages of courting, but when you are in a full fledged relationship. Why would you spend quality time with someone you have no commitment to yet?

Dates have to be planned. If he decided to go get food and called you at the spur of the moment, it’s not a date! If he texted you at 11am to come get lunch at 1:30, that’s not a date! Dates are intentional!

People like to make fun of couples who schedule date nights and such, but they’re the only ones who have it right. Quality time is important. I’m the first one to say that I’ll tag along with M just about anywhere. But those aren’t dates. Dates are the events he puts into my calendar three weeks in advance with a note about the place and dress code.

You’re not dating if you’re getting random invites to places. Cut your losses and go be with someone who is so excited to be with you that they plan activities that they hope you’ll enjoy.

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Success in the Bowl ✨

Sometimes all you have to do is outlast the old you! Usually when humans start a new venture, they complain at how hard it is. The truth is that the potential you have is fighting the woman you used to be. When doubt enters your mind, ignore it! That’s the old you calling. Understand that the feeling of doubt will subside. But if you quit, that feeling will last forever!

Before you quit ANYTHING (esp. the bowl) I want you to think about this:

Every year girls enter the bowl. After 6 months, 50% of the girls drop out. They either weren’t cut out for the game or swerved into the fast lane.

8 months after that, another 10% drop out. Who cares why…they’re gone. 5 years after that, girls tend to sway into other forms of sex work or fall on hard times and boom 💥 another 25% drop out or get a regular job.

That means that 15% of the girls you see ‘trying to sugar, actually make it to the real bowl! This Instagram and Tumblr shit is nothing compared to the big leagues. You ever notice that the top notch SB’s and trophy wives are OG’s? That’s because the first test of the bowl is TIME. Get your feet wet, build your wardrobe, go to school, save some money up. This game isn’t for the weak or uncommitted. It’s mental and I think you have what it takes!

This is a competition between your old self and the potential you have to be. You need to know without a doubt that you deserve this life. Even if it takes you longer than you expected. So don’t quit sis! Be patient and strategize. The long game will get you long money !

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If you’re scrolling through tumblr trying to distract yourself from something you don’t want to think about or you’re looking for a sign that everything will be okay, this is it. So, breathe. Relax into this moment. You’re alive & that’s all that matters.

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100 "Non-Allowance" Questions to ask your Pot or SD:

A few examples, and in no particular order:

1. What has influenced your decision to want an SB?

2. How long have you been searching for one, and which sites did you use?

3. Have you had any negative experiences with Sugaring? Either in your search for one, or in your previous arrangement?

4. Are there people that you don’t like? What characteristics was it about them, that you didn’t like/enjoy?

5. Where do you consider to be good places for an SD/SB to be romantic?

6. What are some ways that you get embarrassed in public?

7. Are you ever bored? What type of people bore you?

8. What are good leisure activities that you would like for us to try together?

9. Are you okay with me dating others while we are in an arrangement?

10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?

11. Where and when did you meet your wife/girlfriend? What drew you to her?

12. What sort of future financial plans and goals do you have?

13. What is your biggest goal in starting an arrangement?

14. Have you thought about the ramifications of your actions on your family, co-workers and friends?

15. Tell me what precautions you are going to take to ensure that our arrangement is kept private?

16. What you would do if we ran into someone either of us knew, while out together?

17. What would you want me to do?

18. What are the most important things in life? What do you value?

19. What questions would you like me to answer?

20. What are your bad/good habits?

21. What is your opinion of me being a different nationality or following different religious briefs than yours?

22. What would you do to leave a positive impression on our first date? And future dates?

23. What would your perfect arrangement consist of?

24. What is your opinion of us abstaining from sexual intimacy within our arrangement, even though I am not a virgin?

25. Can you explain to me how a Sugaring arrangement is different than a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship?

26. Do you believe that its possible to have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?

27. Do you still have feelings for an ex, wife, girlfriend or previous SB?

28. How long did your previous arrangement/relationship last?

29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?

30. What are your expectations of intimacy and sexual relations with me? How do they differ from your previous SB etc.

31. Should I be fearful, jealous or envious of any of your previous arrangements, and the different opportunities that you have shared with them?

32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

33. What is your opinion about me hanging out with other Sugar Babies and their SD’s, or in places that SD’s frequent?

34. Do you think that someone’s past matters in a current arrangement?

35. How would you react if I told you that I can not meet your daily needs for communication?

36. Do you believe in privacy, even while being open with each other in an arrangement?

37. Do you have any opinions about me working a part time job? What if it takes my time away from you?

38. Do you have any hobbies that you’d like for us to share?

39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs? Do you currently?

40. Do you have children? What do you think the impact would be on them if our arrangement was made public?

41. What communication methods do you prefer? What are the most private and effect modes?

42. What is something weird about you, or that you’re afraid to tell me?

43. Tell me something about your work, that isn’t common knowledge.

44. If your friends or co-workers don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?

45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it? Would you do it again if you knew you wouldn’t get caught?

46. How long would your ideal arrangement last?

47. Do you have a criminal record, or any contraction of diseases?

48. I don’t, but would it change your opinion of me if I had one?

49. Are you willing to lose time from your family and friends, in order to see me?

50. How did you discover Sugaring?

51. Do any of your friends have Sugar Babies?

52. What do you think about continuing the search for an Sd/SB, after you’ve recently started an arrangement with one?

53. Do you think love within an arrangement is possible?

54. If your job (or wife) started to have a negative impact on our arrangement, what would you do?

55. How do you handle feelings of jealousy or resentment?

56. Do you have any regrets in life or in past arrangements?

57. What is your ideal vacation/weekend get away?

58. Will we be taking any together?

59. What are your expectations of my free time and our time spent together?

60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

61. What are some things that you take pride in?

62. What is the most difficult component for you, in an arrangement?

63. What happens if we exchange pictures, and down the road decide not to continue our arrangement? How will they be used, shared, kept or destroyed?

64. Would you be ok with me making plans with my friends, on a night that you are free to see me?

65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?

66. If you could change something about females in general, what would it be?

67. What is your opinion on the arts? Do you want to visit museums and galleries together?

68. Do you read the newspaper? How do you stay up on current events?

69. What are you looking for in the long term and short term?

70. If you had three Sugaring rules, what would they be?

71. Which aspect to Sugaring scares you or makes you the most nervous?

72. Are you typically late to events and dates, or end up rescheduling at the last minute?

73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?

74. What are some places that we will definitely need to avoid being seen together?

75. What are some places that we would be safe to visit/experience together?

76. What is the best advice you ever received?

77. What advice would you give to me, regarding Sugaring and life in general?

78. If you had a previous arrangement, why did it end?

79. Are you still friends with that person?

80. Without getting too personal, what were some good moments in that relationship?

81. What were some of the craziest things that you’ve done with her? And some of the sweetest?

82. What will you have accomplished at work one year from now and within our arrangement?

83. If you/we could go on a road trip where would you chose to go? Would I have a say or just be expected to come along on a whim?

84. Are you prepared to respect, and are you comfortable with accepting my school and study schedule?

85. Have you thought about using code names, or certain apps that will keep our communication/contact private?

86. Can you tell me 3 good points about me?

87. What are your expectations of me in our arrangement?

88. What happens if I can not agree or live up to all of them?

89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much? Do you get discouraged easily?

90. Is there anything I could do to make you think that I am an ungrateful or selfish person?

91. What would you do if our communication and dates were limited to set days and periods of times during the day/week/month?

92. Do you like to go window shopping, or are you the type who needs to buy an item?

93. After I had asked you for our first date, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? Why?

94. What are some activities or places, that you would like to do/go on for dates that you haven’t been before?

95. What are your views on open arrangements? Do you know what an open relationship is?

96. What are your future/5 year plans with your wife or girlfriend? Maybe more kids, more travelling etc. How can I help you to achieve this?

97. Is money more important to you or are the relationships you share with people more important?

98. What are some things that you are either passionate about, or anger you?

99. Do you believe that long distance arrangements can work? What about those that are not long in distance but long in the duration between dates?

100. What are your thoughts relating to Sugar Babies as Sex Workers?

This isn’t an end-all-be-all list, as it would go on and on forever…but rather just an idea to get the ball rolling.

Please add on if you want!

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Do you see yourself leaving the bowl anytime soon?

Absolutely not. This is a lifestyle, not just a source of income.

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ULTIMATE SB TIP.

1. Always cross your t’s and dot your i’s. By this I mean always tie up every loose end. That POT that hasn’t text you in two weeks? Shoot him a simple message like “I always tie up my loose ends so I just wanted to confirm that you were no longer interested in an arrangement with me?”

Always a good thing to do. Some of these men are genuinely busy and it can be good to show your interest. If they said ‘no’, NEVER be rude, always say ‘Well all the best, I hope you find/found what you were looking for.

(Your SB name x)’

Or something along those lines.

2. You never know who you could need tomorrow or what the future holds. Some of these guys can be very douchy, yes, but always maintain your elegance. Even if you want to criticise, do it in a way where you are still kept together. Never degrade yourself in conversation, if he wants to argue you can end a conversation like: “I don’t think this will work/It’s a shame this won’t work but I genuinely wish you all the best. I hope you find what you’re looking for.”

These are wealthy and influential men, even if an arrangement isn’t on the cards, either it could be in the future or you never know, he could help you in something else. I recently got offered an amazing internship by a POT I had problems with. He could be annoying but I was never rude. Sugaring can be great for networking in general, these men you meet may help you or may know somebody that could help you also to become successful. There is no harm done in being polite.

3. Hardly lower your standards. I say this because hundreds of SB posts say you should only have one standard (let’s say we’re talking about allowance), and never stray from that. I both agree/disagree with this. But we have to be smart and pragmatic. For example if I was offered £6000 a month by a guy I DESPISED, I probably wouldn’t do it. Or if an SD I had more fun with or preferred his company but gave me a slightly lower allowance. I’d probably take him but that’s just me. There’s a reason why many posts tell you to have other sources of income. You are not indispensable to these men. You have to seize control and never let salts or just stingy POTs lowball you too much.

Men expect the SB to be the desperate ones. Many of them feel entitled. He gives you an allowance offer you don’t want? Surely after charming him (either through texting or more effectively, in person) send him a “I’m afraid I don’t think this arrangement would work. However, you’re a lovely guy and I’ve genuinely enjoyed your company. I wish you all the best and I hope you find what you’re looking for.”

This shows instantly you know your worth and you won’t take shit. If he says goodbye - so be it. There really is more fish in the sea but sometimes guys will be annoyed by the thought of losing you and the fact you didn’t bat an eyelid at ending your relationship with them. Many will compromise on your allowance.

OR

even better a lot of them will let you go and I PROMISE in a few hours, even weeks/months, they’ll send you a message wanting to rediscuss or meet or whatever.

I’m always having POTS come back to me 😘💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾

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ESCORTS

Are there any escorts out there who would like to stay a group chat or just talk? I’ve been super stressed out lately and I just need someone who understands

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Honey you make money from being a whore, your opinion is not valid

Girl you’ve probably never even seen a comma in your account balance. Just to clarify, I make your rent in a couple hours from being a whore. I get fucked and receive gifts and vacations and you most likely get fucked for ignored texts. You WISH you could be me. Has a man ever given you anything besides a yeast infection and a cheeseburger? I thought so.

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I'm so new to being a sugar baby. Any advice?

Time management. 

Most men want new babies because they are easy to manipulate. 

Never meet a POT in a hotel. 

Create a list of priorities for spending. 

Sugaring should not consume your life.

Don’t ever have unprotected sex doesn’t matter how much.

Dedicate time to yourself (spas, meditate, favorite hobby)

The initial offer is always low.

Never give your banking information.

Always carry $50-$100 just in case of emergency.

Never let your sugar daddy know your house. 

Always carry a weapon. 

You have the ultimate power as a sugar baby. 

Don’t have sex for $1000 or less. 

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I promise you these work, just try it! Thank me later 💋

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Im trying out the water for being an SB on tinder, 24 but i look 17. Im happy for dinner and services after, but i dont know how much i should be charging- the whole night or per hour? What if he doesn't want to give me his full name to do a background check on. Xx

This question…it’s a problem. It really is. Let me explain…

That’s not being an SB and these men KNOW that. These men EXPLOIT that. 

What you’re doing when you’re operating in such a way as an SB is devaluing yourself. 

I’ve seen the men’s lounge on ECCIE. There’s a thread specifically about sugar babies, where they talk about how they get them to do the same things for escorts for less money. These men are the men you will likely encounter. These men are not SD’s. They will not treat you like a real SD will treat you. They will likely never spoil you or take you on trips or buy you designer goods or pay your bills. They these things Golden Pussy Syndrome. 

Do. Not. Play. Their. Game.

The best advice I can give you is to become an escort. Under the title of being an SB, you can spend hours with a guy, go to dinner and then fuck him and walk away with $200. You can do the same thing as an escort and walk away with $1000. Be a smart hoe. Don’t play their game. 

These per-date “sugar” relationships are bullshit and they need to stop. 

The whole concept is literally just a way that men have played us to get their way. If you think I’m bullshitting you, what do you like about this arrangement? You spend a few hours and walk away with some cash? If you want that money to keep coming steadily, you’re going to have to fuck for it. And you’ll be making less money. 

The point here is; think about how you want to organize and run your business before you start because regardless of what you call yourself, you are still running a business. 

Do you want to invest the same amount of time with a guy and make less money? Or would you rather advertise as an escort, do the exact same things, and get paid more for it?

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The Full Potential Challenge

Ever wonder what your life would be like if you lived up to your full potential? Would your body be healthier? Your skin clearer? Bank account bigger? I think about these things all the time, and, judging my a previous post, you guys do to. Below is a chart designed to help all of us live up to our full potential. I’ve broken it down into time frames to help keep you from getting overwhelmed. Write the chart down and hang it someplace where you can see it all the time. I will be starting this challenge tomorrow, 9/8. I’ll check in with you guys every Sunday to track my progress. I have specific goals in mind for myself, and you guys should make some too! I really want to know how you guys are doing. Tag your progress posts with #sbfpc so I can track it and take a look. Let’s get to it!

EVERY MORNING

Stretch. First thing. Really give your body enough time to wake up. Touch your toes. Roll out your shoulders. Do not hit snooze!

Do your full skincare routine. I have mine detailed here, but do whatever works for you and your complexion. Be gentle and consistent. 

Brush your teeth and floss. I used to be a big floss-skipper too, but you’d be amazed at how dig of a difference it makes. Rinse with a whitening mouthwash. I use one by Crest, and I notice a major difference in my teeth’s overall whiteness in just a few days.

Give yourself enough time to get ready. Whether you’re a wash-and-go kind of girl, or someone who spends an hour doing a full contouring routine before class (and either one is fine!), make sure you aren’t rushing. If you need to wake up a few minutes earlier than normal, so be it. Rushing sets an awful, stressed-out tone for the rest of the day. Allow yourself to be relaxed before taking on the day.

Eat something. I’m not going to say eat a big breakfast, because some people (myself included) just can’t eat in the morning. But you should eat, or at least bring a little something with you to work or school. If you can’t eat a full breakfast, grab a fruit! You won’t be as hungry come lunch time, making you less likely to gorge yourself.

Shower. You can do this at night, in the morning, whatever. Again, this is something you should allow some time for. I don’t wash my hair every day, but I do condition it every day (from the ears down). Scrub yourself with a delicious-smelling body wash. If you shave, make yourself as smooth as a dolphin, dude. If you don’t, then don’t and don’t ever ever ever let anyone make you feel bad or weird about it. When you get out of the shower, wrap yourself in a fluffy towel and totally slather your sexy self with lotion. Top to bottom. Do it as soon as you can post-shower so it can really sink in. 

Put leave-in condition throughout your damp hair and comb it through.

Put on an outfit that makes you feel good! So important!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Take a look at your daily to-do list. Knock out the most pressing stuff first. Take pride when you cross things off your list.

Make your bed! Oh my god, make your bed. Do it. Do it. Do it. 

EVERY AFTERNOON 

Follow the “touch it once” approach. This is a truly life-changing thing. When a task is in front of you, no matter how big or small, just do it right then and there. How many times have you gotten a work email or homework assignment and thought, “Eh, I’ll do it later”? And then later never comes? Once something pops up, do it once. Squash it and be done. Cross things off your list and feel like a badass.

Try to go for a walk at lunch. Even one little lap around the block or campus will reenergize you like nobody’s business. 

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Be present. This is so hard for me too, but you have to make a major effort to be present in whatever you’re doing. Be engaged and plugged-in and just exist in the moment. Give 100 percent.

Be friendly to friends and strangers. A smile goes a long way.

Eat something. Eat what you packed for lunch (see below) and take a break from working while you do it. You need “you time”!

EVERY EVENING

Take your makeup off as soon as you’re in for the night. Wash your face with your full routine and let your skin have a break. 

Workout. You can also do this in the morning. Whatever works for you. Make a great playlist and go hard af. Get your cardio in. Get your strength training in. Earn every freaking sweat bead forming on your forehead. Earn your shower!

Knock out your homework. Life is infinitely better you don’t have anything hanging over your head. Half the time, the energy and emotion you spent dreading/putting off your work is ten times worse than the work itself.

Make a list of what needs to be done tomorrow. It’ll set you up for success the next day, and you won’t forget anything!

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Lay out your clothes for tomorrow. This will save you SO MUCH TIME in the morning omg I can’t even tell you how important this is.

Eat something great. And once you’ve decided to be done eating for the night, be done. Brush your teeth so you can’t eat again.

After brushing, do a whitening treatment. Whether it’s classic baking soda, a Crest white strip, or a laser. Do something. And floss! Retainers in too, ladies 0:)

Relax! Take a few hours to do what YOU want to do. Scroll through Tumblr, binge on some Netflix, FaceTime gossip with your friends, anything. Do whatever makes you happiest. 

Shut the electronics off an hour before you want to go to bed. Put your phone on sleep mode. If you stare at the screen, it will keep you awake and alert and you won’t be able to fall asleep. A good night’s sleep is crucial for weightless and general happiness lol

Do a quick sweep of your room and see if there’s anything you can put away real quick. A clean space is a happy space.

Crawl into your bed (aren’t you happy you took the time to make it?!) and read a book by lamplight for a while. When you start to feel sleepy, go to sleep. Don’t push it. You kicked ass today and you deserve rest. 

EVERY WEEKEND

Do something with your friends. It just has to be one thing. Even if you’re just hanging out at the coffee shop, spending time with your squad will make you a better, happier person.

Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!

Do something just for you. Set your laptop up in the bathroom and watch a Netflix marathon while you take a bubble bath. Buy an old school bottle of Mr. Bubbles ($3 at Target!) and really just soak. Relax. Light a candle.

Do something creative. You can read a book, write, blog, draw, code, anything. It just has to be something that speaks to your passion.

Track your progress. Just do this once a week so it doesn’t become all-consuming. And remember that non-scale victories are just as important as shedding pounds.

Take the time to be grateful. Tell your friend how much you admire her taste in music. Mention to your mom how much you love her cooking and how happy you are that she takes care of you. Thank your teaching after an especially interesting lecture. When you do something awesome, take a moment to admire yourself. Be grateful for even the little things.

Anything I missed? Reblog + add yours! Don’t forget to tag your progress!