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Yoko Ono: Ceiling Painting (1966)

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La Collectionneuse (1967) dir. Éric Rohmer

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— ALIGNMENT.

you're at the right place right time💐

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emails I can't send tour & the eras tour lockscreens

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Bono, Tokyo, Photo by Anton Corbijn, 1993

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Bono, Tokyo, Photo by Anton Corbijn, 1993

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So as a rule, I try not to give anyone unsolicited advice unless they ask for it. I’ll go into this more later. I guess I have been officially solicited in this situation, to impart whatever wisdom I might have and tell you the things that helped me in my life so far. Please bear in mind that I, in no way, feel qualified to tell you what to do. You’ve worked and struggled and sacrificed and studied and dreamed your way here today and so, you know what you’re doing. You’ll do things differently than I did them and for different reasons.

So I won’t tell you what to do because no one likes that.

I will, however, give you some life hacks I wish I knew when I was starting out my dreams of a career, and navigating life, love, pressure, choices, shame, hope and friendship.

The first of which is… life can be heavy, especially if you try to carry it all at once. Part of growing up and moving into new chapters of your life is about catch and release. What I mean by that is, knowing what things to keep, and what things to release. You can’t carry all things, all grudges, all updates on your ex, all enviable promotions your school bully got at the hedge fund his uncle started. Decide what is yours to hold and let the rest go. Oftentimes the good things in your life are lighter anyway, so there’s more room for them. One toxic relationship can outweigh so many wonderful, simple joys. You get to pick what your life has time and room for. Be discerning.

Secondly, learn to live alongside cringe. No matter how hard you try to avoid being cringe, you will look back on your life and cringe retrospectively. Cringe is unavoidable over a lifetime. Even the term ‘cringe’ might someday be deemed ‘cringe’.

I promise you, you’re probably doing or wearing something right now that you will look back on later and find revolting and hilarious. You can’t avoid it, so don’t try to. For example, I had a phase where, for the entirety of 2012, I dressed like a 1950s housewife. But you know what? I was having fun. Trends and phases are fun. Looking back and laughing is fun.

And while we’re talking about things that make us squirm but really shouldn’t, I’d like to say that I’m a big advocate for not hiding your enthusiasm for things. It seems to me that there is a false stigma around eagerness in our culture of ‘unbothered ambivalence’. This outlook perpetuates the idea that it’s not cool to ‘want it’. That people who don’t try hard are fundamentally more chic than people who do. And I wouldn’t know because I have been a lot of things but I’ve never been an expert on ‘chic’.

But I’m the one who’s up here so you have to listen to me when I say this: Never be ashamed of trying. Effortlessness is a myth. The people who wanted it the least were the ones I wanted to date and be friends with in high school. The people who want it most are the people I now hire to work for my company.

Taylor Swift in her commencement address for NYU’s graduating Class of 2022 (May 18, 2022)

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“I’d like to say I’m a big advocate for not hiding your enthusiasm for things. It seems to me that there is a false stigma around eagerness in our culture of unbothered ambivalence. This notion perpetuates the idea that it’s not cool ‘to want it’ - the people who don’t try are fundamentally ‘more chic’, than people who do. And I wouldn’t know, because I’ve been alot of things but I’ve never been an expert on ‘chic’ - but I’m the one who’s up here so you have to listen to me when I say this: never be ashamed of trying. Effortlessness is a myth. The people who wanted it the least were the ones I wanted to date and be friends with in high school. The people who want it the most, are the people I now hire to work for my company.” - Taylor Swift, NYU Commencement Address.

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definitely my fav fit for this somi comeback

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You can get the two bonus tracks “right where you left me” + “it’s time to go” on the physical deluxe edition of evermore. There’s also an exclusive, digital booklet that comes with all digital downloads of the album including some super cool WOODSY PICS! Both available now

📷: Beth Garrabrant

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I have no idea about a lot of things these days so I've clung to the one thing that keeps me connected to you all. that thing always has and always will be music. and may it continue, evermore.

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there's something strange about the house next door...

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The third album theme I put together is called “folklore: the saltbox house chapter” 🌾 Listen here: taylor.lnk.to/saltboxhouse

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