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My roommates have what I perceive as a toxic relationship. He is in constant control over her she's no aloud to workout unless he tells her she can, she's not aloud to watch watch TV shows or movies (netflix hulu disney plus or cable) without his approval, we are a big video gaming household, she is not aloud to play any game without his immediate approval, he found out that we had played mario cart on my game system on my tv and she got yelled at for playing the game without him, if he is playing a game she is required to stop what she is doing and watch him if she misses somthing or has questions she gets yelled at for not paying enough attention. She is required to prepare all of his meals without fail if she fails she is yelled at and forced to pay for a grubhub meal for him. She has to do all the cleaning, he lives like a slob no matter what so there is always somthing to clean. She is not aloud to eat any snack food. She payes for all the food for both of them and all cleaning supplies. All of his money is used for him and him alone. All affection is initiated by her and he constantly points out her failings, if she says or does somthing that "upsets" him he guilt trips her. A good example, the other day we were hanging out in the gaming room talking about the origin of a game title and she asked him if he knew and he said no so she responded with, oh well it's not like you know everything I was just curious, to which he responded well I'm sorry you think I'm a fucking idiot you shouldn't talk to me like that. She got quiet and didn't speak for a few hours but looked like she knew she did somthing wrong.

The other problem is they can both be incredibly selfish people. It is 100% my way or the highway with them and they both get pissed off and take it out on everyone and each other when they get outvoted on house matters such as being aloud to open windows while we are in the house, he says no because we can get robbed (again while we are in the house) the rest of the house said yes because we dont want to play for the A/C when its 75 degrees out and really nice and he lives in the basement which is already 10 degrees cooler than the rest of the house and has windows for ventilation as well. After he was outvoted he turned on the A/C in the middle of the night and argued when the bill came in high and we all refused to pay the extra because he did somthing that as a house we agreed not to do. She is incredibly needy and needs constant reinforcement that she's doing a good job. Her parents never taught her to cook and whenever he wants somthing special she expects me to drop everything I am doing and immediately help her no matter what.

They also recently got a new cat and made up a bunch of new rules regarding it and the basement. Our laundry room and game room are in the basement so we have to go down there to do laundry and play group games, some people keep there computers in there at all times but I wont because I don't trust there selfishness, no one is aloud to go down to the gaming room unless one of them is home and says you can go down and I will not be told that I can not use my own property They will only allow 1 other person besides themselves down there at a time as to not scare the cat. So if one of the other housemates is downstairs and someone else has to do laundry then the person downstairs has to stop what they are doing and go up to let the other person go down.

Also I believe what they are doing with the cat is borderline animal abuse. It's not aloud upstairs which means it never sees the sun or even knows when day and night is so it constantly reverse cycles and they complained that it keeps them up at night.

One of the other roommates has a cat also and the too cats are not aloud to meet because they sont want there cat to grow up as independent as the 1st cat. So if the 1st cat bolts downstairs while we are trying to get through the door with our laundry then we get screamed at for letting it happen. Their cat hasn't tried to climb the stairs yet because it keeps getting sprayed by the water bottle and screamed at every time it tries.

I want to say somthing but I feel like it's not my relationship so I have no right to say anything. Should I say somthing?

So we have 1 year left on our lease and in 9 months I am going on a 1 year deployment. As I have a military contract I can get out of my lease as soon as my deployment notice comes up the only problem is that it would screw over the rest of the household and raise there rent but I am very tempted to do so because he wants me to pay " my equal portion" of the bills while I am underway and I am not paying for somthing I am not using again. When I got back from my last 3 month mini deployment he made me pay for the utilities and such that I was not there for but he said well you agreed to pay for your portion but if I'm not there then there is no "my portion". I can move all my things to storage. Should I get out of the lease right before I leave so that I won't have to deal with him. Or just pay the 3 additional months of rent and bills just to appease him?