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interlocking fingers during the pin. holding hands during the pin. is driving me insane

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Hi, Ana! I was hoping you’d help me with an advice. I’m a 31F who hasn’t been in a relationship yet due to various family issues and anxiety. In the last 2 years I worked very hard on myself & managed to improve myself masively. When it comes to dating I’m both excited and terrified to find someone for myself. However, idk how to justify my lack of relationships or the fact that I don’t own my own house or even a car yet due to the fact that I had to help my mother and grandparents with money for their loans until this age.

How can I justify these things to a man I’m looking to start a relationship with bc it’s quite hard not to be feel ashamed at having achieved so little at 31 yo…

Hope you’re good! ❤️

Justify to a MAN?

DO you hear yourself?

Half of the royalty of Europe is educated, well bred, rich to sin, and they end up marrying someone that dropped out of high school, is a single mom, etc.

Literally, do you hear yourself? Justifying your beauty, charm, grace, WOMANHOOD to a man?

do NOT piss me off

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Hey Ana, there’s a guy at work who stares at me. There will be a part of the day where I look over and he is staring. Even through the cracks between the computer monitors from ACROSS the room. I even stared back at him once and he held eye contact. Do I confront him/how? If I say something ppl will act like I’m being delusional because how can I prove that he is staring at me and not just looking around? On top of it he’s a generally likable and helpful dude so people will think I’m overreacting . But I think he’s just very creepy towards me because I’m unmarried and attractive to him ( I’m one of the younger women of the same culture on the floor and I’m also lighter skin and have a curvy shape). It makes me feel exposed and uncomfortable.

if you have a coworker that's sitting next to you, ask them if they notice him staring at you. If you confront him, he's probably going to admit he has feelings for you and then you'll need a plan for that. You can go to HR to get ahead of it, even if he is helpful. Or you can start applying to other jobs. Or you can make it known to him specifically that you don't appreciate him staring at you and it's unattractive to you to feel watching, using his crush against him.

also? the lighter skin portion sounds a bit racist im ngl.

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Miss queen I’ve an interview for a marketing position for an oil and gas company tomorrow😭 how do you think I should prepare?

look up their Glassdoor, see if there's a FB group for employees! Ask ChatGPT to look up the company and estimate interview questions AND best answers! Good luck!!

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Hey si je, Grua je?

mos ki merak per mua 🫶🏼

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They blew up the woman who released the Panama papers which was just exposing rich people for hiding money away. People really thought trump would release the evidence of a child trafficking ring ran by the worlds most powerful people? Like are u stupid? The man that was flying around in epsteins jet just 1 year ago? The people of this country are so funny to me

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Hi mjalti! I hope you're having a good day.

I made a mistake 2 years ago that I keep punishing myself for still, and it feels like hell. I got into one of the best medical schools abroad, away from family. I learned the language, worked, had my family help financially for that day. I also went really young, and most of my life i spend being my narc parents' perfect child, with very little ability to emotionally regulate and taka care of my needs. Eventually I got really burnt out and depressed after a couple of years or prepping + a year of studying medicine and came back home to my parents. They encouraged me to come back, because "it would heal me to be near them". I know it was a horrible mistake now and I did myself a great disservice. Now im studying medicine again in my country, hoping to go back and earn my place again there. I was really young and naive, and trusted my parents a lot at the time, but they really just wanted me around for their own emotional needs. How does one just forgive themselves after that, knowing now I suffer not only that, but the consequences of being around narc parents as well?

Thank you for your time 🫶

You made the best decisions you could with the tools and understanding you had at the time. Their intentions are not something you need to pay for, they are something you need to take into consideration. You were young, burned out, and raised in an environment that taught you to ignore my own needs. Returning home felt like the only lifeline for you at the time and you didn’t know it would pull you deeper into pain. But you can see now that you weren't weak, just overwhelmed and conditioned to trust the people who raised you. You need to work on forgiving yourself for not knowing better then, because you're learning now. You're still here, still fighting for your future, and that matters more than any mistake.

Go back to med school. Eat shit and start over. You have that hunger and you've spent 2 years licking your wounds. YOU are not going to be able to be move past this until you achieve the things you wanted to do and then from that foundation, going to therapy and unpacking the genealogy of hurt.

Forgiveness is a divine trait but for you, I think you need to get your finances in order and launch yourself into your dreams.

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Ana, I'm feeling like my youth is slipping through my fingers, what do you recommend to make the most out of it and not become bitter like most people around me?

youth isn't an age!!!!!!!!

being youthful is a state of mind, a state of constant non-judgemental curiosity!! Keep that central in your heart.

People feel "old" no matter the age because of a lack of genuine, all encompassing curiosity.

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we got the upgrade babes xx

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IG @ Hirokolele’s Auntie Nani wears beautiful flowers Dendrobium Top , Protea flower bottom

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Why Albanian…,,,. 😰

Bc I had to be born somewhere? I guess?

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Need these tiles /couldn’t find the source .

Update : source found

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“A huge collection of Regency mother of pearl gaming counters and thread winders. Many fish-shaped, many with engraved monograms.”

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