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if a woman asks you to hurt her, only acceptable response is “I could never do that to you”, not tell the police “she wanted it” when she’s black with bruises and wounds you put on her, not claim “it was consensual” when they’re carrying away her dead body

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I'm gonna be blunt, if you think someone wanting rapists and pedophiles castrated or dead is a 'reactionary' mindset, I'm gonna assume you're a rapist or pedo of some sort.

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It's sad when women call themselves hoes, whores, and sluts. You're not reclaiming a slur, you're humiliating yourself.

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“The LEGO Movie was my favorite movie of 2014, but it strikes me that the main character was male, because I feel like in our current culture, he HAD to be. The whole point of Emmett is that he’s the most boring average person in the world. It’s impossible to imagine a female character playing that role, because according to our pop culture, if she’s female she’s already SOMEthing, because she’s not male. The baseline is male. The average person is male. You can see this all over but it’s weirdly prevalent in children’s entertainment. Why are almost all of the muppets dudes, except for Miss Piggy, who’s a parody of femininity? Why do all of the Despicable Me minions, genderless blobs, have boy names? I love the story (which I read on Wikipedia) that when the director of The Brave Little Toaster cast a woman to play the toaster, one of the guys on the crew was so mad he stormed out of the room. Because he thought the toaster was a man. A TOASTER. The character is a toaster. I try to think about that when writing new characters— is there anything inherently gendered about what this character is doing? Or is it a toaster?”

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Bojack Horseman creator Raphael Bob-Waksberg commenting on how weird gendered defaults in entertainment are, and why we should think twice about them. Excerpted from this longer original post. (via janicexxx)

MEN ARE SHIT.

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if you believe gender doesn’t exist and all human brains are the same then start referring to everyone as they/them

if you’re so “gender critical”, then why are you so insistent on gendered pronouns?

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in consensual sex you can stop at any time for any reason

in consexual sex if something happens that makes you feel uncomfortable or weirds you out, you can walk out of the door and get out of there without any consequences, without having to explain yourself

in consensual sex you never have to explain why something is uncomfortable or why you don’t want it done to you

in consensual sex if you even think about wanting to stop, you don’t have to think twice before saying it out loud

in consensual sex nobody should ever be telling you “you’re spoiling the mood” or “don’t be like that” when you’re unwilling

in consensual sex, nobody should ever be talking you into something you said no to

in consensual sex, nobody should be trading future favours in return for you agreeing to something you don’t want to do

in consensual sex, you should never be forced to demonstrate how much you trust your partner by letting them do whatever they want 

in consensual sex you never have to shut down your instinct that something is wrong 

in consensual sex, nobody should ever be doing something to you that you mentioned, implied, or explicitly stated you don’t like being done to you

in consensual sex, you should never be made to feel guilty or not good enough

in consensual sex, you should never have to expect emotional abuse, insults, pressure, guilt and shame if you refuse to participate or do as you’re told

in consensual sex, nobody should ever try to push, break, or crush your boundaries

in consensual sex, nobody should ever make you feel like you need to reconsider or push at your own boundaries

in consensual sex, you shouldn’t feel fear, not at any point

in consensual sex, you shouldn’t feel like your relationship with this person depends on what happens in bed

in consensual sex, you should never feel like it’s not okay to say no to something

if you can’t say this is true for your sexual experiences, it wasn’t consensual sex. 

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Women do not simply have faces, as men do; they are identified with their faces. Men have a naturalistic relation to their faces. Certainly they care whether they are good-looking or not. They suffer over acne, protruding ears, tiny eyes; they hate getting bald. But there is a much wider latitude in what is aesthetically acceptable in a man's face than what is in a woman's. A man's face is defined as something he basically doesn't need to tamper with; all he has to do is keep it clean. He can avail himself of the options for ornament supplied by nature: a beard, a mustache, longer or shorter hair. But he is not supposed to disguise himself. What he is "really" like is supposed to show. A man lives through his face; it records the progressive stages of his life. And since he doesn't tamper with his face, it is not separate from but is completed by his body—which is judged attractive by the impression it gives of virility and energy. By contrast, a woman's face is potentially separate from her body. She does not treat it naturalistically. A woman's face is the canvas upon which she paints a revised, corrected portrait of herself. One of the rules of this creation is that the face not show what she doesn't want it to show. Her face is an emblem, an icon, a flag. How she arranges her hair, the type of makeup she uses, the quality of her complexion—all these are signs, not of what she is "really" like, but of how she asks to be treated by others, especially men. They establish her status as an "object."

—Susan Sontag, “On Women.”

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There's this common pattern, where every time a woman is murdered or comes forward about being abused, without fail, men's first thought is "she must've done something to deserve it". They jump at the opportunity to endlessly justify each other's crimes. They don't have an ounce of empathy, and just figure whatever befell her was probably well deserved. Because rape, abuse and murder are weapons that can be used to punish disobedient women at will.

Amber Heard, Tana Monogeau, the woman who accused Neil Gaiman (and the women in the podcast who exposed the allegations.) These women are not liked and so instead of believing them when they come out about abuse, you attack them. You do not care about women and you do not care about rape or abuse survivors. If you think a woman must be 100% perfect morally, legally, and politically to you is not believing victims, you wish to use them for your own agenda. And if it doesn't fit your agenda, you don't think they deserve justice.

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Right? Being unmarriageable to men is a badge of honour. If a man ever wanted to marry me I'd be like "damn what am I doing wrong?" lmao

I don’t understand why men think being married to them should be a goal.

"She's unmarriageable" "She's not marriage material" Yeah bro nobody fuckings wants to be the kind of woman you wanna marry

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It has got to be a psyop. The backlash against feminism has been ongoing since the beginning and so devastating that it's now been co-opted by choice "feminism" with an emphasis on putting men's needs at the forefront. We're scrabbling to even define things. We're essentially being pushed back to square one. It can't be a coincidence.

so much to say w this one

yes, we do actually have to protect women's spaces...why wouldn't we??

claims sex based oppression isn't a real thing, blatantly ignoring all the history and sources that say otherwise and the other tries saying the word "female" is a terf dog whistle as if it's a bad word.

trans women are males, so no they do NOT get an opinion on abortion because they will never have the option to carry a child and I would LOVE to know what kind of misogyny a male has faced.

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men be like “women won’t get this joke 😈” and the joke in question is pedophilia and sexual assault

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they banned epidurals in korea??? so they really just hate women

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“Around 830 women die every day due to preventable pregnancy complications. The world is missing an estimated 90 to 100 million women due to the extermination of female – not feminine – infants. In such a situation, to boldly declare that you “see no sex difference” reveals both ignorance and privilege. We’re back to the idea that female people cannot be credible witnesses to their own lives.”

— Glosswitch, “When Did Liberal Men Start Thinking it Was Acceptable to Tell Feminists How to be Feminist?” (via lavenderbunnies)

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CHICANA FEMINISM

“Neither Saints, Nor Whores, Just Women”

“Silence Kills”

A member of the Brown Berets, a Chican@ movement. Forming after inspiration from The Black Panthers. They fought for: Education Reform, Farmworkers Rights. Fought Against: Police Brutality & The Vietnam War

Brown Berets were sexist but women in the movement fought off sexism in the Brown Berets and general society

“My life has value. My body has no price”

“I didn’t come out of your ribs. You came out of my pussy”

“Leave your porn addicted boyfriend”

“Pornography is propaganda of hate against women”

“Dead men don’t rape”

“Without abolition, there is no liberation”

“I want you free”

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being okay with women liking pussy isn’t enough. you have to be okay with women who like pussy and only pussy and will never ever interact with a dick. or you're still a homophobe.