i've been reading a lot of books about urban naturalism recently, and the one big thing they all talk about is how you HAVE to stop seeing nature as something that happens somewhere else. nature is not just charismatic megafauna and state parks and mountain ranges. nature is that abandoned lot that's growing native milkweed in it. nature is the murder of crows that lives in your block. nature is the moss growing on your roof and the dandelions growing in the sidewalk cracks and the song birds at your neighbor's birdfeeder. and you should care about it! you should notice it! that's YOUR nature!
a really key part of any healthy relationships is nonsexual biting. it’s really important to just bite each other sometimes. it will keep your relationship alive biting is the stuff love is made of
what i think a lot of people seem to misunderstand about people who were abused during childhood is that we have different "common world knowledge" and "life skills" than non childhood abuse victims. we either weren't taught certain things, or we were taught them incorrectly. like, no, i don't know how to do this normal, everyday thing. i don't know how to be a human, i was never taught to be a human.