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one of the major problems with the "everyone is valid! pick whatever label feels best!" mentality is that it literally prioritises feelings of misinformed people over facts, history and material reality

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if you have to beg for someone to respect your boundaries then they aren’t worth your time.

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Men really need to stop trying to insert themselves into the lesbian label. Not everyone will fit into every label! And that's ok!!! Mspecs have so many OPTIONS, there's pan, bi, omi, bi+.......

Lesbians already get so much shit on dating appa, even putting that we're only interested in women we're still going to get assholes trying to convince us that we're wrong about our own sexuality

People trying to redefine the meaning of lesbian feels very similar to that.........

Not to mention there’s also sapphic, queer, achillean, neptunic, trixic… They have many options.

Men really love to insert themselves in everything, they hate knowing not everything is about them.

It hurts their egos knowing there’s people out there not attracted to them at all. And if they act shitty towards people who’re attracted to men but not attracted to them specifically, with lesbians their behavior tend to be worse.

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Fellow lesbians and other sapphics I probably made a similar post about this before but my advice is to please pay attention to the content you’re interacting with, more specifically when it’s a graphic scene/image of wlw.

Tumblr just recommended to me a post of someone here who’s supposedly a lesbian but I went to check their blog and basically all the content they interact with and posts about it seems to be clearly wlw scenes made for men.

@depressed-and-horny-lesbian (their blog if you want to check to try to understand what I’m talking about).

Unfortunately being a lesbian or sapphic is being very aware of content you’re going to see and interact with because unfortunately a lot (if not most) of sapphic content is made by men for men.

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I am once again furious there isn't a dyke version of grindr

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reblog to hit me with a cardboard tube

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"oh you're so lucky to be a lesbian and not have creepy men approach you" is one of the most ridiculous things you'll hear as a lesbian because the assumption that men will hear that you are a lesbian and immediately respect that and leave you alone is laughable, what actually happens is that men will hear that you're a lesbian and instead see it as a challenge and try to fuck you

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“What if a lesbian is dating someone who ends up figuring out they’re a man and the person is still attracted to them?”

It shouldn’t be too hard to understand. Lesbians are not attracted to men. In that case, if you’re still attracted to them then you’re attracted to men (unless you don’t see the person you’re dating as a man, which is pretty transphobic), and if you’re attracted to men that means you’re not a lesbian.

It’s very shitty with your partner if you still want to identify as a lesbian while dating someone who is a man. It seems like you’re not recognizing their gender.

A lesbian or gay stopping being attracted to their partner because they’ve transitioned to a gender they’re not attracted to isn’t shitty, it’s our sexuality, we don’t choose that.

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[Tweet from @/fozmeadows: "human gender and sexuality are very much like animal taxonomy, in that both look structured and simple on the surface, but once you start investigating, it turns out there's actually no such thing as a fish despite the fact that we all know what a fish is, and that's okay"]

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Day by day, I become more aware of the fact that this hellsite is a haven for the ADHD folks.

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I don’t care about convincing every cis person to drop their prejudices against trans people I care about taking away their power and ability to act on those prejudices in ways that harm us

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making new friends like

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btw you all have to stop talking about gargoyles when you actually mean grotesques. not because i actually care that much about using the correct technical terms but because those wretched beasts deserve your love and recognition too.