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More of the mesmerizing @ohmygoddesslivvy

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I read in one of your other answers that if Tom one day regrets his permanent chastity sentence you have to be willing to continue to deny him. So if that day actually does come and Tom wants to be unlocked so bad will you let him? Or is there not turning back now?

I get asked this a lot and there are different levels to this question. If we were making love and he just blurted it out then I would definitely tell him No since I'd figure it's just the horniness getting to him. I mean, he's never done that but I could imagine it happening in the heat of the moment. But if he told me that over coffee or after dinner then I'd take him more seriously.

There's the fantasy aspect of what we do and then there's the real life aspect. I have been locking him up for long periods of time for almost 25 years. We both have always teased each other with fantasies of going for years or maybe forever. But now we are going into our 5th year of this and it has become a mental and emotional change for both Tom and I. Obviously a bit more for him but for me this has become such a normal way of life that I honestly don't even think about it. Him being caged is "just the way it is" now.

But along with him being caged goes some things that I don't think would remain if I unlocked him. He lives with this constant buzz of desire for me. He wakes up and spoons me every single morning. He holds me and spoons me every night to help me get to sleep. Even if he's in a bad mood from work all it takes is a minute of fondling his cage to change his attitude. And when we make love he is so totally focused on me and my pleasure in a way that I don't think would be possible if he were not caged permanently. He has learned to match his arousal to mine and when I'm finished he says that he feels satisfied. And when we aren't in bed (which really is most of the week) he is usually affectionate and attentive. There are so many good things that have come from this that you can understand why I would not want this to stop.

And I would have to consider how stopping this would affect my husband. He has gone through some periods where he says that the idea has been almost overwhelming to him, and I get that he has had to make the biggest mental and emotional adjustment for this. But he thanks me all the time for keeping him locked. Like just today I got a random text from him in the middle of the day telling me that he was thinking about me and how hot it has been that I'm still keeping him locked. He knows that he is living out our fantasy! If he asked to be unlocked would he regret it after a few weeks? I think he would.

So on some level I think that I'd have to deny him if he asked, not just because of how it would affect my life but also out of concern for his own happiness.

Probably if he really really wanted out we would have to have several conversations about it over a few weeks to make sure that was what he really wanted and was not just having an other spell where he feels overwhelmed. But I would also do my best to convince him to remain locked for me because I can see how good our relationship has been since we started this.

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@MrsVanillaEdge I’ve made it so good for you, that you honestly prefer this way now. That’s how I know you’re serious about making this permanent. 💖🔒

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@that-tom-allen We need to do a follow up to this one of these days.

What brand and kind of lube do you use for your dildo and what temp. do you warm it up?

🔏 Tom here. As Mrs Edge passed into menopause, we've gone through various lubes for the Vixskin models. Couples approaching our age should be aware that after the change, women start losing the natural lubrication, and their tissues start thinning a bit, making intercourse less comfortable. For us, the search was on to find mild lube that didn't dry out too quickly while not affecting the sensitive, thinning tissue. Also, it needed to be safe for the silicone skin of the Vixskin.

A couple of products come to mind. Sliquid Organics held up pretty well, did not get overly sticky and cleaned up easily with warm water.

We also tried the lube recommended by Vixen Creations, Slippery Stuff (the gel version), which was also very mild, lasted for a while before getting sticky, and cleaned up well with water.

We are finding that even those lubes dry out a bit too much for our activities, so we are currently trying organic coconut butter. It melts at body temperature, is longer lasting, and the cleanup isn't too bad. And of course, it's safer to use on silicone.

We don't warm the coconut butter because it will melt. The Vixskin a is already heated to between 100 and 120 F (37 to 48 C).

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@tom--allen lol - she looks strict. ❤️🔒

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I read in one of your other answers that if Tom one day regrets his permanent chastity sentence you have to be willing to continue to deny him. So if that day actually does come and Tom wants to be unlocked so bad will you let him? Or is there not turning back now?

I get asked this a lot and there are different levels to this question. If we were making love and he just blurted it out then I would definitely tell him No since I'd figure it's just the horniness getting to him. I mean, he's never done that but I could imagine it happening in the heat of the moment. But if he told me that over coffee or after dinner then I'd take him more seriously.

There's the fantasy aspect of what we do and then there's the real life aspect. I have been locking him up for long periods of time for almost 25 years. We both have always teased each other with fantasies of going for years or maybe forever. But now we are going into our 5th year of this and it has become a mental and emotional change for both Tom and I. Obviously a bit more for him but for me this has become such a normal way of life that I honestly don't even think about it. Him being caged is "just the way it is" now.

But along with him being caged goes some things that I don't think would remain if I unlocked him. He lives with this constant buzz of desire for me. He wakes up and spoons me every single morning. He holds me and spoons me every night to help me get to sleep. Even if he's in a bad mood from work all it takes is a minute of fondling his cage to change his attitude. And when we make love he is so totally focused on me and my pleasure in a way that I don't think would be possible if he were not caged permanently. He has learned to match his arousal to mine and when I'm finished he says that he feels satisfied. And when we aren't in bed (which really is most of the week) he is usually affectionate and attentive. There are so many good things that have come from this that you can understand why I would not want this to stop.

And I would have to consider how stopping this would affect my husband. He has gone through some periods where he says that the idea has been almost overwhelming to him, and I get that he has had to make the biggest mental and emotional adjustment for this. But he thanks me all the time for keeping him locked. Like just today I got a random text from him in the middle of the day telling me that he was thinking about me and how hot it has been that I'm still keeping him locked. He knows that he is living out our fantasy! If he asked to be unlocked would he regret it after a few weeks? I think he would.

So on some level I think that I'd have to deny him if he asked, not just because of how it would affect my life but also out of concern for his own happiness.

Probably if he really really wanted out we would have to have several conversations about it over a few weeks to make sure that was what he really wanted and was not just having an other spell where he feels overwhelmed. But I would also do my best to convince him to remain locked for me because I can see how good our relationship has been since we started this.

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