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sometimes when I’m talking to someone I’ll notice I’m not making eye contact so I force myself to make eye contact and then I feel uncomfortable so I look away but then I’m thinking so hard about eye contact that I don’t know where to look and then I feel uncomfortable so I force myself to make eye contact and then I feel uncomfo—

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Being autistic is like. You go into adulthood having cultivated and mastered all these social cues that come so naturally to neurotypical people. You then begin to question if you really ARE autistic because of these skills, failing to take into account all the years you’ve had to endure from bullying and social ostracization simply because you weren’t naturally equipped with them

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2021 is literally over and i’ve only enjoyed a total of 3 days & 2 hours ..

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End of Year Meme

First things first, did you have a good year?

How old did you turn this year?

Do you feel your age?

Did your appearance change in anyway?

Post your favorite selfie.

If you traveled, where did you go?

Which fashion trends did you love?

Which fashion trends did you hate?

What was your favorite article of clothing this year? Post a pic if possible?

What song sums up this year for you?

What album came out and has been on heavy rotation since then?

What was your favorite movie of the year?

Did an actor/actress catch your attention for the first time this year?

Favorite new TV show?

Which new ship/fandom has taken over a lot of your time, attention, and tears?

What food did you try for the first time?

Did you make any big permanent changes this year?

What was one nice thing you did for someone else?

What was one nice thing you did for yourself?

Did you develop a new obsession?

Did you vote?

Did you move?

Did you get a job?

Did you get a pet?

Do you regret not doing anything?

Do you regret doing something?

Have you done anything that scared you?

Did anyone/thing make you so mad it stayed with you for days?

Did you lose anyone close to you?

Did you fall in love?

Did you fall out of love?

Did you start a new relationship?

Did you go through a break up?

Did you have to cut ties to someone?

Who was important to you this year but wasn’t important last year?

Who wasn’t as important to you this year as they were last year?

If you could have a do over on one thing you did, would you take it?

What was the best moment of the year for you?

What was the worst?

Did anything happen that you were sure would change you as a person but it really didn’t?

Did anything happen to you that you were sure wouldn’t change you as a person but it did?

What are you most proud of accomplishing?

What have you learned about yourself this year that you didn’t know in the years prior?

Did your opinion of anyone change for the better?

Did your opinion of anyone change for worse?

If you make resolutions, did you complete them this year?

If you make resolutions, what will your resolutions be for the coming year?

If you could go on an adventure during the remaining days of the year, where would you go and what would you do?  Who would you go this?

What do you wish for others for the coming year?

What do you wish for yourself?

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Listen I'm aware you all want a piece of this. I understand I'm a hot commodity here on tumblr dot com. But even setting aside wealth and immortality, my husband squeezes the absolute fattest ass you've ever seen through literally billions of chimney flues every December 25th. And every other night of the year, he's with me. And somehow you hoes think you can teach me a trick I haven't seen before? Dream on.

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On Thanksgiving, I witnessed something I think was one of the best parenting moments I've ever seen.

I've been adopted by my coteacher's family, and since I have no family around where I live for the holidays, she invites me to her house. I go to birthday parties, soccer games, family events, the whole deal.

Her young son (he just turned 5) was swinging around a toy on a string in circles. She asked him quite a few times to stop because he was too close to people and it could hurt them, but he still continued to do so. While he was swinging it, it smacked her pretty hard in the leg, hard enough to leave a bruise later.

Right away, her husband ordered him to apologize, and with a rather less than sincere voice, he said "sorry."

She looked at him dead straight and said, "I don't accept your apology."

The kid was floored. He just stood there and didn't know what to do. Her husband asked her why she said that, and she said, "He's not sorry. He doesn't know what he did wrong or how to fix it. He just said it because you told him to. So, no, I don't accept his apology."

After a few seconds, she walked away. The kid just stood there, confused and not knowing what to do. So, we at the family dinner table, walked him through what happened.

"She asked you to stop so no one would get hurt, and you didn't listen. And now, someone got hurt."

"Do you think saying sorry made it stop hurting?"

"Do you feel bad about it?"

"What can we do to fix it?"

And he agreed he should stop swinging around the toy and went to a different room so no one would get hurt. No more forced apology. Just action.

Eventually, about an hour later, he offered a sincere apology to his mom and gave her a hug. Only then did she accept his apology and told him why. Not because he said he was sorry, but because he stopped once he realized what he was doing did hurt someone, and he went on to fix the problem.

So many parents force their kids to apologize, and she's told me time and time again it always makes her feel uncomfortable because usually the kid doesn't regret their actions or want to apologize. Parenting isn't always pretty words and being gentle. Sometimes you have to prepare them for real-life situations, and unconditionally accepting or being understanding of their actions isn't always the best way to go.

Not only is this teaching him how to genuinely apologize for his behavior and do better, but it also makes him realize words are just words until action is taken. That's the only way things get fixed.

Is there gray area? Absolutely. Is this always going to work? Absolutely not. But, is it a step in the right direction to teaching children how to genuinely apologize? Most definitely.

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being non-binary is sooooo exhausting... everyone wants a piece of you, you’re hot, you’re funny, you’re cooler than ice cold, you dress impeccably... smash that reblog button if you too think non-binary people deserve to be given 1000000 dollars in cash.

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Venus, Mars and moon.

Image credit: Peter Barvoets

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current favorite tweet

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i wish i could purr so my friends know im still happy even if m not saying anything

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merry crisis

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Human beings are probably the most incredible thing since creation, but we are still just animals. Katherine Blower Illustrator Designer.

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one of my favourite vintage tumblr traditions was when you would reblog a post that was like “send me an anon describing yourself and i’d say if i’d date you” and then all your friends would flock to your askbox in droves to misleadingly describe like, waluigi and shit, and see if you’d fall for it

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yellow is generally the population’s least favourite colour which is interesting to me. i have a theory that yellow is generally more appealing to people the Less saturated and deep it is, the more warm and less cool it is, and that faded pale yellow is more pleasing to the eye than mustard. can you all participate in a casual experiment and tag or reply with which shade you like best from this yellow shade chart. i’m hypothesising daffodil will be popular as an answer

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steven universe lockscreens