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A story from the line at McDonald's

Me: okay so my sexuality's a complicated deal so let's just call me queer as hell

Friend: nono I wanna know can't you explain it

Me: well ok mainly I am asexual which means I don't want to do the do nor do I long for it, so it has nothing to do with lack of confidence or anything like that, I simply don't find anyone sexually attractive

Friend: right right

Me: but I'm also bi romantic. The sexual and romantic attraction are different, and I still fall in love and want to have physical contact with my partner, I just don't need the hanky panky

Friend: right cause you have a girlfriend that's pansexual right

Me: exactly and as long as we're both happy with not doing the rumba naked, that's a valid relationship

Friend: I get it, I get it... I didn't know the entire sexual and romantic orientations were different

Me: yeah I know it was an eyeopener for me when I found ou-

Lady behind us in line: excuse me so sorry but I couldn't help but overhear but I didn't know half of what you just said and I was just wondering what that thing your girlfriend was is, pansexual?

Me: *awkward glance at friend* oh uh I'm not an expert or anything and uh ok so basically it's similar to being bisexual, but there's less value in what gender the one you're attracted to is, at least as I understood it. So a bisexual would be attracted to a person despite their gender, a pansexual wouldn't really care at all in a way uh I'm sorry I'm bad at explaining

Lady behind us in line: that's alright I can look it up myself later you gave me a general idea! So where did you find out these things, you're pretty young?

Me: well, Internet. Once you're a bit confused about what you might be you usually go looking for explanations...

Lady behind us in line: so uh in theory... It's fine if you don't know, I just want to check with you... Is there a thing called aROMANTIC? like you're asexual, is there a equivalent to the romantic orientation you mentioned?

Me: oh yeah, absolutely! You can be both asexual and aromantic, or aromantic and heterosexual, literally all combinations are possible!

Lady behind us in line: *smiles LIKE REALLY GODDAMNED GENUINELY* thank you so much, I did not know that. *fishes up phone from pocket* now if you excuse me, I'm going to call my mother and tell her I'm not crazy for never having been married or stayed with one guy for long despite being 50+ but still has three children! *steps out of line and walks off while dialing*

Friend: wow that was... Amazing

Me: see how happy she got? That's the power of right information.

And that's why I've been smiling since this happened.

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Hey I was havin a thought

Why are gender-based sexualities the only acceptable sexualities? Why is gender the only thing you’re allowed to form a sexuality around?

Like, when people try to pull shit like “I’m only attracted to X race,” people are quick to point out that that’s a fetish, not a sexuality. (Also really racist.) Same thing for sapiosexuality and anything else that isn’t attraction to a gender but to some other trait. Which, I mean, I agree that those things are fucked up and inappropriate.

But what makes gender different? Why is “only being attracted to men” not a fetish like “only being attracted to fat people”? Gender is a trait too, isn’t it??

I feel like this is relevant to the discussion about genital preferences! When people say “I prefer dick”, even if they don’t assign any gender to it, people are like, that’s a fetish, not a sexuality!!

I’m just confused about what makes gender different, that preferring a certain gender is correct and natural but preferring anything else is a fetish???

(to be clear, I’m not trying to legitimize those other things, im trying to deconstruct gender-based sexuality :v because I don’t understand it :v )

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Only a few days after the Trump Administration announced that it would not be including LGBT people or issues in the 2020 United States consensus, GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) produced its third annual Accelerating Acceptance report. 

http://www.glaad.org/blog/new-glaad-study-reveals-twenty-percent-millennials-identify-lgbtq

Here are their key findings: 

1. The Accelerating Acceptance 2017 survey shows that Millennials (people ages 18-34) are significantly more likely to openly identify as LGBTQ than generations before them. Specifically, Millennials are more than twice as likely (20% vs. 7%) to identify as LGBTQ than the Boomer generation (people ages 52-71) and two-thirds (20% vs. 12%) more likely than Generation X (people ages 35-51).

2. The survey also found that 12% of Millennials identify as transgender or gender non-conforming, meaning they do not identify with the sex they were assigned at birth or their gender expression is different from conventional expectations of masculinity and femininity -- doubling the number of transgender and gender non-conforming people reported by Generation X (6%).

3. While older generations (people ages 35+) of LGBTQ people largely use the words “gay” and “lesbian” and/or “man” and “woman” to describe their sexual orientation and gender identity respectively, Millennials appear more likely to identify in terminology that falls outside those previously traditional binaries.

4. The survey shows that while acceptance of LGBTQ people remains high, progress has slowed since the landmark Supreme Court ruling, with rates of discomfort declining on average by 3% from 2014-2015 but going unchanged from 2015-2016.

So next time someone says that the LGBTQIA community is a small, insignificant US demographic, fight back with the facts. We are here and we will not be silenced!

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#TransVisibilityDay

I have a message for all my Transgender family and friends today : “ You are beautiful and you are strong. You are loved and cared for. The road is long, but the victory will be yours in the end”

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Day of Trans Visibility

On this day of trans visibility, I would like to share the wise words of Alok Vaid-Menon, a gender non-conforming writer and activist.

“Visbility is not the same thing as justice. What has become increasingly evident is that the system is, in fact, much more willing to give trans people visibility than it is to give us compensation, resources, safety.

Here are some quick feelings about visibility on this day so enamored with it:

1) ��Trans” “Visibility” is an oxymoron. Trans is who we are, not what we we look like. We shouldn’t have to look like anything in particular in order to be believed for who we are. Visibility often is a form of (nonconsensual) labor that we have to in order to make our experiences coherent to others.

2) Trans Visibility is a cis framework. Who are we becoming visible for? Why do we have to become visible in order to be taken seriously? Non-trans people will congratulate themselves for our visibility but will not mention how they are the ones were responsible for erasing us in the first place. The trans movement isn’t about trans people moving forward, it’s about cis people catching up with us.

3) Invisibility is not the problem, transmisogyny is the problem. Trans people are harassed precisely because we ARE visible. Mandating visibility increases violence against the most vulnerable among us. The same system that will require trans people to be visible will not give institutional support to us when we are harassed precisely because we are visible.

4) Visibility often means incorporation. Often the only way we are respected as “legitimately” trans is if we appeal to dominant norms of beauty, gender, race, and establishment politics. Trans people should not have to be patriotic, change what we wear, undergo medical or legal transition, really should not have to do anything in order to be respected. We were and already are enough.

5) Visibility is easy. Organizing is hard. Sharing photos of trans people and calling us “resilient” and “beautiful” does little to address the persecution so many of us face. We cannot love ourselves out of structural oppression alone. How come media visibility of trans people has not resulted in the funding and support of our organizations, campaigns, and struggles?

Let’s push harder and demand more.”

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Yeah because they want to pretend like we don't exist!! This way they can deny us our rights and censor information about sexual and gender variance. Even though this move may seem trite, this knowledge could save a persons life. LGBT youth need to know that other people like them exist in the world; they need to know they are not alone. This kind of knowledge helps them move toward self-acceptance.

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Words like “inappropriate,” “mature,” and “sensitivity” send a particular message when associated with LGBTQ identities — and these are often words that we hear thrown around by right-wing politicians and conservative religious leaders who seek to censor, limit, or otherwise oppress queer and trans people. The overt sexualization of bodies that are not both cis and hetero is precisely how battles are waged against our rights, the reasoning being that such censorship and inequality is necessary to “protect the children.” Countless young LGBTQ people have been taught, through hearing exactly these kinds of messages, that who they are is something that, by its name alone, is shameful, perverse, and inappropriate. This hypocritical idea of protecting children by making those same children feel shameful about themselves is not a new one by any means, but that a user-run platform such as YouTube — one that has fostered connections between communities that have never before been available — is especially dangerous.

YouTube Restricts LGBTQ+ Content to “Protect Children” and Pisses Me the F*ck Off | Kristin Russo for Autostraddle  (via gaywrites)

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Reblog if you’re LGBTQIA, lebisbian, gay, asexual, bisexual, demisexual, pansexual, homosexual,  or if you support bigender, agender, transgender, or just really like fall out boys and girls. @bisexual dating

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Love for two

When she left and I felt like I had been broken in two but then he left also and I felt like I was ready to be one again. I loved his mind and her heart.  I loved the way he saw the world and the way she treated it.  Both of them had so much excitement for the future.  Him for what he would understand, her for what she would do.

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(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRfwYJY2mbs)

“I’m frustrated by this need to continually reiterate our ability to be monogamous but I’m also tired of needing to hide any tendencies toward, let’s say, polyamory as a bisexual person for fear of filling this stereotype . . . But now I feel like it’s swung to the other side where Bisexual people are trying so hard to not fit those stereotypes and to prove themselves as good members of the LGBTQ or straight community that we are not able to just be ourselves and I think it is time that we are allowed to just be ourselves.  Being attracted to more than one gender does not make you any less able to be monogamous but at the same time it doesn’t make you any less worthy if you are bi and don’t want monogamy”

YAHSYAHYAHS!!! There are people out there, Gaby Dunn, Laci Green, and others, who are out bi/pan/non-monosexual people who are also out as polyamorous but I think there is still a pull to proving that you are a ‘good bisexual’ by only being monogamous or roundabout-ly proving you are a good monogamous person by denying your bisexuality.  But there is nothing wrong with consensual polyamory or open relationships with clear communication.

It feels to me like there is so often a push toward the mainstream.  A societal ideal exists that good and valid relationships are straight, are married, last forever, have children, are monogamous, et cetera, and you can only deviate from so many of these checkmarks before your relationship is no longer deemed as valid.  Gay people in the US have struggled for the right to get married (with is valuable and wonderful and important) but in that we need to remember that you don’t need to be married to validate your relationship, and your relationship is not magically stronger when it gets the “practically straight, very safe for suburban neighborhoods” seal of approval.  Similarly, queer relationships are not more valid when they are monogamous or otherwise fit societal norms and expectations.

If you are bi and want to be in a monogamous relationship with one partner and you want to marry and have kids with that partner, that’s great.  And it is also great if you are bi and want to have 2 regular partners, guests once in a while, maybe have kids but you’re not sure, and never get married.

-katarie

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This is a tremendous fact! 1 in 137 Teens are Trans! Wow! Transgender teens are not an oddity; they are a significant part of our schools and we need to take care of them. 

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WIFEY FOR LIFEY, insta-captioned Lauren Morelli, one of Orange Is the New Black’s writers who just married Samira Wiley, who plays Poussey Washington on the show.

It was while writing for OITNB (which prominently features lesbian/bisexual characters and relationships) that Morelli realized she was gay, she told Mic in 2014. Essentially, she says, her life began to unfold in parallel to the show’s main character Piper, whose sexuality on the show is undefined but fluid.

“Now, when I am in the writers’ room or on set,” she said, “I no longer feel like I am stuck in the middle of two truths. I belong because my own narrative fits in alongside the fictional stories that we are telling on the show: stories of people finding themselves, of difficult paths and of redemption.”

The wedding was officiated by Samira WIley’s parents, who are co-pastors of Covenant Baptist United Church of Christ in Washington D.C.

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It is all the same in either case. If a child has been tested and is truly transgendered then it is never to early to reach out. Today no one should have to suffer as I did for 60+ years. Jamie13

If LGBT+ kids are too young to know they’re LGBT+ then straight kids are def too young to know they’re straight.

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A bunch of queer kids got together to throw a queer dance party outside Mike Pence’s house in DC his last night there and it was JOYFUL

WERK for Peace danced in the streets outside of Pence’s home in Chevy Chase, MD. Organizers explain on the event’s Facebook page that “the homo/transphobic Mike Pence has graciously invited us to shake our booties and bodies in front of/around his house in Chevy Chase. We plan on leaving behind [biodegradable] glitter and rainbow paraphinalia [sic] that he can NEVER forget.”