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i want to be good. and do good. and be nice to people. and make people happy. and have good and healthy relationships with people. i want to learn to forgive and i want to understand other people. i want to be loved and adored and i want to love and adore

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You are wanted. You are loved. You are needed.

Inspired by the wonderful @sheisrecovering

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How I deal with anxious days

Sometimes I wake up and just feel shitty. Or some days just turn out to be awful. Here’s how I deal with days like this:

Get warm and cozy -How you get warm and cozy depends on your surrounding. If you’re home, then make yourself some tea or cocoa and cuddle up in bed or on a couch. If you can’t try to put on something comfortable and warm and again, get yourself something warm to drink.

Comfort food -This one might be tricky for stress eaters and binge eaters like me so be careful with what you eat. I like to get myself a home made meal like soup or peppers baked with cheese or my favourite cooked potatoes with blue cheese.

Journal -Lately I have finally gotten into journaling about my feelings. I used to have trouble with it cause I kept filtering myslef. Now I know how to journal and how to use it as a tool to calm my mind down.

Realise you’ll be okay no matter what -Life has a lot of unpleasant things but the only thing that can stop you is death. Realising that even the worst outcome of what usually makes me anxious won’t kill me, releaves a bit of said anxiety.

Clean your surrounding -Cleaning is one of the activities that help you turn your brain off and clean surrounding is always better than a messy one. Unless cleaning causes you more overwhelm, go and clean your room.

Hobbies -If you have the enegry to do something, do something you love.

Comfort shows and video games -Sometimes I can’t even force myself to do art or read so I go for the easy distraction. I have very specific shows that always help me calm down or I like to play video games.

Do not stay alone -I’m an interovert and I appreciate time alone but when it comes to this I beg you be with someone if you can. It can be a parent, a friend or significant other. 

Idols -Look for inspiration in people you look up to. I like to watch Mark’s videos because he feels familiar and he makes me laugh.

Music -Listen to your favourite music. Get lost in it.

Meditation or relaxation techniques -If you feel like you can’t calm down no matter what, look up some relaxation technique and do that.

I hope you can draw inspiration from this and have a nice day!

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Autumn Lockscreens //

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It’s important to have parts of yourself that are just yours. Parts that no one else gets to see, a side of you that’s secret. Because then, no matter what, there’s something that you’ll always still have, that will always be just yours. Inside jokes with yourself, secret places that you never take anyone. This keeps you sane and this keeps you real and this ensures that the most important person in your life will always be yourself.

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“But she will stand up again, like a phoenix flying from its ashes, like a butterfly that was once caged on itself.”

— ma.c.a // And she will live again

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Father’s Day …

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Words by C.S. Lewis

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This boy I knew in high school had a black and white blog that was rather sad and when he met his girlfriend he started posting in color and I think that’s what love is

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“If I love you I have to make you Conscious of the things that you don’t see.” - James Baldwin

Ferguson October