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A dip in your imān has to be one of the most heaviest feelings ever. Added to that the pain of hurting your loved ones, even if its unintentional.

Off of here until I regain myself, and become less ignorant with my actions. I'm so far away from being the ideal man; times like this bring you down so hard while you're on that journey of improvement.

May Allāh forgive all of us and me for our carelessness.

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Marriage is such a goal for me. A healthy & loving marriage, with someone who is my best friend.

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Being a male, I can say on our behalf, some men are actually trash in the way they treat their wives. What's more irritating is that they don't even have a reason as to why they behave that way, they just look for what they want in the marriage, and are absolutely inconsiderate about everything else. That's not a marriage tbh, it's a man being selfish, and putting the life of an innocent woman in a deadlock.

What's worse, these men are also exposing their kids to it, which they will absorb, and carry with them throughout their lives.

I don't even know how they're able to do it wallahi

I'm just happy knowing Allāh will dole out the punishment these type of "men" deserve.

May we fear Allāh in our treatment of women.

MANNNNNNNN

Disrespecting/not appreciating the woman that makes your home and works so hard juggling between kids and serving meals to you is the worsssstttttttttt

And all they some men do is complain about every small thing man

And women are so degraded in some homes they never speak up against it

Makes me want to pull my hair out

May Allah bless us with righteous spouses

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Our school makes the most illogical decisions; an aerobics class together with boys and girls??? Not to mention the crappy music along with it. Genuinely irritates me, the whole anti Islamic set up, can't wait to leave this place man jeez

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Men are the Leaders of their Homes

There’s no denying it, Allah has made men the protectors and maintainers over women. They’re the amirs of their families and they have their rights, as any other leader, including obedience.

We see a lot of gender disparity between Muslim men and Muslim women these days about women being rebellious to the fact and the men advising them with the ayat and the narrations about the nature of relation between men and women. I’m going to advise the brothers today, because of the position Allah has placed them in, in efforts to help bridge that gap because the bigger picture doesn’t consist of one gender winning over the other, but to have successful & harmonious lives together.

Consider yourself in the positions where you are a constituent and have limited authority: at your workplace perhaps, your relationship with your ruler in your country, at your local masjid with your imam. How would you want them to be towards you? Some of those positions of leadership are earned based on experience and meritocracy but others aren’t. Is it fair for your leader to automatically assume you are inferior to them in your abilities to make decisions, your intellect, the areas which you have expertise knowledge of because of your involvement in them which are foreign to them? Or is it their responsibility to guide you towards the bigger picture goal of the company/community/country? Is it their reasonability to look after your needs and serve you in the way you are entitled?

So as a man, when it comes to your wives and your families, be good leaders. It is so key to learn what it takes to be a good leader; what different leadership styles are, where they are all applicable and in which cases they are best suited for, and most importantly, what kind of results they yield. Don’t act entitled because you were born with your male bits. Don’t throw around the “because I’m a man and I’m your husband” card at your wife when you want her to do something she is resistent of. Its not just about her obedience towards you, its also about not creating resentment towards you in her heart, its about giving her your character to respect not just your authority, its about having a home where you are loved and admired and your family is on their own willing to submit to you because they know you are competent, smart, reaponsible and will keep their best interest in mind as opposed to using your authority over them to serve your own personal agendas and satisfy your personal needs.

Dont make decisions for your wife’s as if she is a child and can’t think for herself. Involve her. Advise her. Give her autonomy in areas where she knows better than you because yes, there will be areas she will be smatter than you are, she will have more hands own experience or it will be mainly her who will have to deal with the consequences of those decisions so let her take the lead. Good leaders know when to delegate and when to centralize decision making. If you’re asking and demanding things from her which cause her undue stress and hardship, if you’re unaware and oblivious of the things she has to go through because of your demands, her love for you isn’t going to increase. Your stature in her eyes isn’t going to be elevated.

At the end of the day, your wife is your life partner, treat her like it. Don’t hold your authority over her because that will make her feel inferior and humiliated. Elevate her, give her respect, make things easier for her as much as you can, share her responsibilities, be her friend.. show emotional intelligence. Show empathy. Show consideration. Being with a strong woman shouldn’t make you feel castrated. You should be secure with your masculinity enough to give her that strength, independance, autonomy, knowledge, guidance, support, and love. Even the most domninating women will be submissive to a man who they trust. Be someone she can trust with her life, her body, her children; give her that security. That’s how you build strong healthy relationships. That’s how you be one unit working towards guiding your family towards jannah and leaving a positive impact on your community and future generations. Its not through dictatorships.

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Fulfilling breakfast date 😋💛

あまおうタルト🍓

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“O Allah I want my love for you to grow everyday. Ameen”

— (via islamicrays)

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اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْنَا مِمَّنْ حَفِظَكَ فَحَفِظْتَهُ، وَمِمَّنْ اسْتَنْصَرَكَ فَنَصَرْتَهُ، وَمِمَّنْ اسْتَهْدَاكَ فَهَدَيْتَهُ

O’ Allah make us among those who were mindful of you, so you protected them. And make us among those who sought your assistance, so you gave them victory. And among those who sought your guidance, so your guided them. 

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When one hurts you, another will come to love and care.

Be patient.

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May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala increase our provision.

Allahumma Ameen

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O Allah, put barakah in my time.

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That feeling when you make a mistake you convinced and promised yourself you wouldn't, is literally heartbreaking.

I mean I did something like this on a test I took today (I know it sounds silly), but it made me think hard.

Sometimes in life you end up doing things you never even thought you would, and no matter how cautious you are, what's written for you will find you.

Important thing is, not to let go of that guilt in you, I don't mean that you should mull over it, but that don't ever lose this special mechanism that grounds you in reality. The moment we lose the ability to analyse and see our mistakes, is when we're really in trouble.

May Allāh forgive us all for our shortcomings, Ameen.

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@PARENTS !!!!! thank you

Marrying young is underrated. Growing together is underrated. Starting with nothing and building an empire together is underrated.

You don’t have to wait until you’ve established yourself to get married. It’s about making a life together, despite the difficulty and stress.