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doomscrolling is not activism

doomscrolling is not activism

doomscrolling is not activism

"don't look away" is a meaningless phrase. who are you benefiting by inundating yourself with misery porn?

DO something about things you care about. Go to a protest for something you believe in, if you can. Donate money to a cause if you have it to spare. Volunteer your time to help people if you have the energy. Write a letter to your political representatives if that's something you can do. These are meaningful ways to try to make change in the world.

And then? don't feel bad about insulating yourself from horrible news. Don't make yourself look at images that make you feel sick. Don't read endless things that depress you. Because frankly it gets harder to actually do the more you doomscroll. Reading constantly about things you can't change because they're happening at a systemic level or on the other side of the world is paralyzing. It makes you less able to help where you can.

I'm not saying be willfully ignorant. I'm not saying pretend horrible things aren't happening. I'm saying don't destroy your mental health going in-depth and cycling through horror after horror on your phone. I'm saying there is no virtue in making yourself experience other people's traumas because mere awareness is not activism. you inflicting suffering on yourself is not activism.

doomscrolling is literally sapping your energy and focus away from doing anything useful to help other people. you can burn yourself out without ever lifting a finger by exposing yourself to all the bad news in the world and who does that help? no one.

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So my fossil hybrid watch is getting the boot because the back started caving in and that caused it to stop charging - this is the second time it’s happened - and anyway I got one of garmin’s hybrid watches and I’m really digging the more advanced tracking features?? Like, I take it all with a grain of salt because my goal is to observe my activity levels as opposed to surveilling them, but it is mostly telling me that I need to rest more, and that’s good for me to hear lol.

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Jackie Baby 💜💜💜 I love him

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Use of “Pop” vs “Coke vs “Soda” to Refer to Sweet Carbonated Beverage in US Over the Years     

via u/ColorfulImaginati0n

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Nothing happened to trigger this but I’m just so mad at my dad and just … sad about our relationship. It’s really unsatisfying though because it’s basically me having an argument in my head because I never see him. I’m sure he is blissfully unaware I have any issue.

We had made plans to play the new Pokémon snap together the afternoon of grandma’s (his mom’s) funeral. It would be good to spend time together and we played the original Pokémon snap on the N64 when I was a kid. It was going to be good. Then it became “actually I’m going to grab a drink with some friends first.” Ok. They went to a bar that is weird and conservative, but he is oblivious to that sort of stuff and how maybe his two trans kids might not want to join him! (Another example - in 2020 he moved to Florida and continues to think it is paradise). We hung out at my mom’s. 7:40 I finally hear from him asking if we still want to get together and game. Not really … being that you’ve been drinking for the last six hours… that doesn’t sound fun to me and it’s been a long ass day and I’m ready to sleep for a hundred years.

And I’m just thinking more of like… my experience growing up. My parents divorced when I was in 4th grade. He had custody of us every other weekend, and we loved visiting him, but! He didn’t even take us as often as he could have! And so many weekends he would drag us to some weird friends house and have me babysit while they went out. We were always sleeping on some random couch while the adults came back and were super loud and rowdy all night. And as a kid I didn’t question this, it was all I knew. But now I know people who share custody of their kids and they want to spend all the time they possibly can with them! Doing things with friends and their kids, totally fine! Many fun times can be had! but like, you haven’t seen your children in months and you’re going to leave them to go out to a bar with your friends?? Then sleep most of the next day?? Hello??

Last two times he called me - first one was to wish me a happy Chanukah and say he loves me, but he was drunk and repeating himself over and over again. Most recent time he was also drunk and wanted to tell me about how the song “Brass Monkey” came on and “don’t you remember that song??” and he was not coherent enough to actually have a conversation with. I try to frame it as like “that’s so nice he’s thinking of me” but ?? if anyone else only called me when they were incoherently drunk I’d stop answering.

I don’t know man. He’s not a bad person, but I just wish he was a better dad.

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Ordered this guide from a used bookstore and someone left a bird photo in it 🥹 love thinking about someone snapping a critter pic to id it later because we are all still doing that same thing!

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I also think that my partner skews my perception of how curly hair should behave because he is low key ringlet georg, who wakes up with 10,000 smooth and uniform curls everyday

Hi! I saw your post about your hair and wanted to ask- have you tried gel yet? I have an argan oil one that's super cheap that my curls just love; they get really sproingy and bouncy when I scrunch out the cast from it and they don't feel as fragile

Also, it's not a fluke! You just have beautiful hair and you have to accept it, I'm sorry

When I first started treating my hair as curly I used a gel but it was so heavy, so I switched to mousse but it end up looking messier too. I think I’ll look for a gel that works with finer hair!

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Hi! I saw your post about your hair and wanted to ask- have you tried gel yet? I have an argan oil one that's super cheap that my curls just love; they get really sproingy and bouncy when I scrunch out the cast from it and they don't feel as fragile

Also, it's not a fluke! You just have beautiful hair and you have to accept it, I'm sorry

When I first started treating my hair as curly I used a gel but it was so heavy, so I switched to mousse but it end up looking messier too. I think I’ll look for a gel that works with finer hair!

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It’s depressing how on subs related to trying to have kids, SO many women are putting off children that they desperately want because they feel like they need to lose weight first.

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This probably means I need to wash my hair more often but every time I wash it I’m just shocked that it is curly. The curls have gotten a bit curlier but they are sooo fragile that they feel like a fluke??

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I also ordered this wallpaper for the accent wall from target. The picnic color is warmer in person, it looks a little darker and bluer in photos, so I think they will go together well

Painting has happened ! Very pleased with the color choice.

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Painting has happened ! Very pleased with the color choice.

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Pasque flower in my friend’s garden 🥰

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I just registered to go to a birding conference 😈

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Little amulet fish friend tat by @mollacule or mo.stabs on IG tyyy

From the Tanakh, Tehillim Psalms 121-7:

שִׁ֗יר לַֽמַּ֫עֲל֥וֹת אֶשָּׂ֣א עֵ֭ינַי אֶל־הֶהָרִ֑ים מֵ֝אַ֗יִן יָבֹ֥א עֶזְרִֽי׃

1- A song for ascents.

I turn my eyes to the mountains;

from where will my help come?

עֶ֭זְרִי מֵעִ֣ם יְהֹוָ֑ה עֹ֝שֵׂ֗ה שָׁמַ֥יִם וָאָֽרֶץ׃

2- My help comes from the LORD, maker of heaven and earth.

אַל־יִתֵּ֣ן לַמּ֣וֹט רַגְלֶ֑ךָ אַל־יָ֝נ֗וּם שֹׁמְרֶֽךָ׃

3- He will not let your foot give way; your guardian will not slumber;

הִנֵּ֣ה לֹֽא־יָ֭נוּם וְלֹ֣א יִישָׁ֑ן שׁ֝וֹמֵ֗ר יִשְׂרָאֵֽל׃

4- See, the guardian of Israel

neither slumbers nor sleeps!

יְהֹוָ֥ה שֹׁמְרֶ֑ךָ יְהֹוָ֥ה צִ֝לְּךָ֗ עַל־יַ֥ד יְמִינֶֽךָ׃

5- The LORD is your guardian, the LORD is your protection at your right hand.

יוֹמָ֗ם הַשֶּׁ֥מֶשׁ לֹֽא־יַכֶּ֗כָּה וְיָרֵ֥חַ בַּלָּֽיְלָה׃

6- By day the sun will not strike you,

nor the moon by night.

יְֽהֹוָ֗ה יִשְׁמׇרְךָ֥ מִכׇּל־רָ֑ע יִ֝שְׁמֹ֗ר אֶת־נַפְשֶֽׁךָ׃

7- The LORD will guard you from all harm; He will guard your life.

יְֽהֹוָ֗ה יִשְׁמׇר־צֵאתְךָ֥ וּבוֹאֶ֑ךָ מֵ֝עַתָּ֗ה וְעַד־עוֹ��ָֽם׃ {פ}

8- The LORD will guard your going and coming, now and forever.

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The crunchy dad vibes radiating off this image

Now I’m just looking at pictures of myself holding other people’s babies. Having such a normal one 10/10