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We are in negations for our contract and management is like … best I can do is increase your healthcare costs by $4.5k/year, take away paid parental leave, and give you an annual raise of half a percent

If this doesn’t end in a strike I swear to god

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If you as a leftist can understand that

the Trump administration is using the concept of violence against women to oppress transgender people and strip back civil rights

AND violence against women is a real societal issue that needs to be taken seriously, especially when women's safety and autonomy is directly attacked by the same right wing politicians claiming to care about it to further their agenda

Then you can also understand that

the Trump administration is using the concept of antisemitism to perpetuate oppress activists and strip back freedom of speech

AND antisemitism is a real societal issue that needs to be taken seriously, especially when Jewish safety is directly attacked by the same right wing politicians claiming to care about it to further their agenda

Right? ...Right??

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like, okay, consent does literally just mean agree. which is what enables this little rhetorical trick. because there's all this cultural emphasis on sexual consent, which is just expressed as consent, a lot of phrases whose intended meanings are "rape is bad" can be taken literally to mean "i should get to agree to everything that happens in my vicinity."

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20 weeks - halfway there! Baby is the size of a sweet potato 🍠 I’m feeling more fetal movement too! It went from once every few days to multiple times a day basically overnight. He’s getting stronger too - now instead of a little tickle it’s more of a poke 🫵

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On top of the stress of like…. being pregnant and becoming a parent for the first time, and my partner’s mental health struggles and being out of work, and me being the sole income earner rn… this upcoming week is the last week of contract negotiations at my job and I will be shocked if we don’t end up going on strike because they want to increase our healthcare costs by thousands and thousands of dollars per year 😵‍💫

I’m sure we will get through it somehow… but it is stressful

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literary kinsey scale time

i’m just curious what mix of fiction and nonfiction the average tumblrina is consuming

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do y'all think the parallel mouse America is like also dealing with resurgent mouse fascism or have they been doing better

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This is the stupidest game to play because there’s also plenty people who say “antizionists online are uniformly backing/supporting/promoting Hamas.”

And like, of course there are shitty extremists online. It’s grim as fuck out there. But that still doesn’t mean it’s accurate (or helpful) to paint entire ethnicities / nationalities with a broad brush. I have seen vile, hateful things said and done by people who are pro-Palestine, but I don’t project that shit on all Palestinians because I know that no group is a monolith and most people just want to be able to live their lives. “But this stereotype / prejudice must be true because it matches what I’ve seen!” is the logic racist grandpas use.

Maybe it’s just that my experiences are not universal and people really are isolated from immigrant and refugee populations, but part of what feels so crazy about leftist antisemitism is that my ‘social Justice 101’ included a lot of “don’t project a governments actions onto people” “don’t judge people by the most radical far right members of their ethnicity / religion” “it’s normal for people to miss and feel affection for a country they have ties to, they are talking about people/place/culture, not the government”

Because people seem so unaware of these really basic ideas, at least when it comes to Jews and Israelis

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Now I’m going to do nonfiction because I read a lot more nonfiction than fiction

Saw a literary meme thing that I thought was fun.

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Saw a literary meme thing that I thought was fun.

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so much of the french revolution is just various people going "surely committing THIS act of violence/murder will end all the suffering and bloodshed and usher in peace!" followed by a summary of how everything immediately escalated and got even worse afterward. and somehow this website's takeaway is "clearly acts of violence and murder are the only way to end suffering and usher in peace!"

I don't know guys I think we might actually have to actually put in effort and not conflate working toward a better society with seeking personal catharsis.

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The child is not even two pounds, he is in the intensive neonatal care unit. He is blind, may be unable to walk and he may not survive at all. Adriana Smith's mother, April Newkirk has affirmed that the decision to stop life support should have been the family's. The baby's name is Chance. Fuck Brian Kemp, I hope he gets sepsis.

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I’m reading Sarah Schulman’s Conflict is Not Abuse, specifically because I know it’s controversial among people on the left, and it’s been interesting. I can see how people don’t like certain things she says* or why it could easily be triggering. But there is worthwhile things in it too. A big thing is about how people who are marginalized in some way take it out on other marginalized people and how we are labeling normal human misunderstanding as inherently harmful/evil, and that we are losing out on meaningful community building because of it. And it is weird to be like oh this is the book people are freaked out by?

* I don’t like or agree with everything she says, I’m specifically bothered by how she expands her idea to geopolitics because while one country might have more military power over the other, people of that country can still exercise power (and abuse) over people from the more powerful country in the name of “resistance.” So like, I don’t think those abuses are just “conflict”

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no like fr the way that a lot of people look at israelis -- there's no group of people on earth i look at that way. literally no group of people where i'd look at posters of hostages from that group and go "that's obviously genocide propaganda i'm tearing it down." certainly not any group of people where i'd watch a video of their house blowing up and hear a woman crying for her dog in the rubble and point and laugh.

i can't even imagine having that response honestly. i can imagine apathy sure but glee? over people suffering? looking at a whole nationality that way? there's no way

i think that has to corrode your soul. i mean how can't it?

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Everyone is like “morning sickness gets better after the first trimester” meanwhile I’m out here vomiting like never before 😭

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I'm transmasc on T (no operations), and I've been inclined to attempt pregnancy but it is intimidating. It's relieving to see your updates thank you for sharing

I’m glad!! Earlier in my transition I didn’t considered it a possibility because of the social aspect, until I saw other trans masc people in my community deciding to become gestational parents, and it was like oh? My body can do this neat thing - and I could do that if I want? So part of my thing is that i want to share my experiences too.

Everyone’s situation is different obviously but I’ve been surprised at how much my gender has felt like a non issue. It just feels normal (well, as “normal” as being pregnant could feel lol). Like, yeah a lot of resources make assumptions about their audiences and don’t have inclusive language, but after 15 years of being nonbinary it’s not hard for me to filter that kind of stuff out. I also expected my family to be a little bit weird/confused about it, but really they are just excited.