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How about in 2024 we stop it with reading books with the goal in mind to finish the book so you can add it to your list of read books and start reading books slowly and intentionally with the goal to rip it into pieces with your mind and be touched by it and formed by it and changed by it

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I realise there is only so much advice you can follow. Ultimately, you have to live. That means making mistakes. You can’t go through life expecting that wise words will be enough. Sometimes you have to suffer to learn the lesson.

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“You become what you surround yourself with. Energies are contagious. Choose carefully. Your environment will become you.”

— Unknown

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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but please don’t break promises you make to yourself just because it’s you the promise is being made to. You told yourself you’d go on a walk tomorrow morning? Do it. You said you’d get more consistent with your skincare routine? Make it happen. You promised yourself you would work on establishing boundaries regardless of who’s on the other side of them? Follow through with that. Don’t wake up the next day and go “well I don’t HAVE to do this” “it wouldn’t hurt to postpone this” “this isn’t a big deal” because it literally is. Every promise broken is another nail in the coffin of your self-actualization. It’s another major roadblock to developing healthy self-love and self-respect. Weigh promises you’ve made to yourself the same way you would weigh promises you’ve made to others.

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So you love her then turn yourself into soil curve around her, strong and gentle be the safe, nourishing cradle into which she pushes her roots the enclosing ecosystem where she stretches, opens and blooms be her ground, her stalwart foundation never ever betray her need to rest in your essential embrace and she will pour her nectar on you every day, like a libation to her only god.

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physical intimacy prompts

holding hands during a stressful situation

smiling in-between kisses

touching foreheads

cheek kisses

slow dancing

intertwining fingers

comparing hand sizes

resting your head on your partner's lap

piggy back rides

standing on your tip toes to reach your partner's lips

kissing your partner's wounds

forehead kisses

falling asleep on your partner's shoulder

bridal carries

spooning

rolling over in bed, switching positions during a kiss

embracing your partner

intertwining fingers when making love

pulling away from a kiss, deeply looking into each other's eyes, appreciating being here with each other before diving back in

nudging into the crook of your partner's neck

being carried/tucked into bed, after having fallen asleep on the couch waiting for your partner to come home

saying ''i love you'' in-between kisses

nose boops

back rubs

tracing fingers down your partner's chest

hand on chest during a casual conversation

bumping into each other

hugs that last longer than they should

showering together

hands around the waist

straddling your partner's thighs

helping your partner undress

playing with your partner's hair

falling asleep to your partner's heartbeat

resting a hand on your partner's back

squeezing each other's hands

sitting in your partner's lap

cupping your partner's face

tickling

linking arms with each other

exploring each other's lips

caressing your partner's face

brushing your lips together, lingering for a moment

jumping into your partner's arms

wrapping legs around your partner

tucking a strand of hair behind your partner's ear

pulling your partner into your lap

hugging from behind

lifting your partner off the ground

holding hands across the table

holding hands under the table

bear hugs

caressing your partner's hand

laying a hand on your partner's thigh

literally sharing a sweater

slapping your partner's butt

tummy kisses

feeling each other's pulse

glancing at each other's lips

falling asleep while cuddling on the couch

climbing back into bed, onto your partner's body to wake them up

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Sea otters will often cover their eyes with their paws to help them sleep during the day

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Feelings of a past life

💭J’ai écrit ce texte le 9 août 2019, édité aujourd’hui le 26 novembre 2020. J'avais besoin de le partager.

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What is going on in my brain

Or is it my heart

Or my lungs

Because I cannot breathe nor can I think

I know what I want and

I know what I need but

How do I tell him

Without hurting myself in the process?

I need him

But I need attention and affection more

Does he need me? Does he want me?

He does not tell me unless I ask

And he does not show me unless I do

My brain is hurting for thinking too much

And my heart is exhausted from loving for two

It is hard to breathe because

I am gasping for his love

Is this the love I deserve?

It is been a year, yes

A year of me compromising

Pleasing him

Living for him

Where do I start living for myself

Without feeling guilty?

My anxiety is through the roof

I am sad all the time

And I want to disappear

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I needed this. Maybe you need this too. 🖤

This is for everyone out there who ist still struggling while it feels like everyone else has found their path already. It is normal, it is okay. Trust me, it might seem like everyone around you has their life figured out, but in most cases that is not true. Everyone is lost, everyone is searching for their place and it is okay if you take a little longer. It is okay if you do not know what you want to do in the future, if you do not know which job suits you, if you are overwhelmed by all the options. If you feel stressed and constantly pressured, I want you to take a deep breath. I know how it feels to live with that weight on your shoulder that you have to study, find a job and make money; it is exhausting. But darling, it is okay to exist in the hurt, in the unknown for a while (or for a longer). I know you might not see it right now, but you will find your path eventually. You will, I promise. I am so proud of you for holding on, for pushing through this uncertainty. I am so proud of you for surviving to see another day. It will be okay.

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Langston Hughes, from ‘Tired’ featured in Selected Poems

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Mon père m’a dit qu’il m’aime.

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"Ça m'a atteint le coeur comme un feu de foyer en plein hiver." On en a vécu des affaires. Des joies, des peines, des chicanes, des retrouvailles. On a changé énormément, avec le temps, toutes les deux. Et notre amitié est maintenant plus solide que jamais. Une femme à qui je peux me confier, à qui je peux tout dire. Et qui SAIT que je serai toujours là pour elle. Pas de mensonge, pas de bullshit. Les relations comme ça on en trouve pas à tous les coins de rue. Une amitié en or. 💞

“If someone does not want me, it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.”

— Nayyirah Waheed

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La soirée parfaite entre amies pour toi c'est quoi? ^^

La soirée parfaite entre amies, selon moi, c’est simple, c’est comme une date:

Un bon souper, que ce soit à la maison ou au restaurant;

Un sleepover avec film d’horreur en pyjama;

Une soirée gossip avec un bon verre;

Lorsqu’on est en bonne compagnie, la plus simple des soirées peut devenir parfaite ! <3 

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With the right person, you won’t have to ask them to care.

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Free

I was trapped in my own head

Chained by the words you told me

I stayed for the wrong reasons

And left when I realized

I loved me more

Than you ever could

 Now the air is lighter

The sun is warmer

And I don’t want to cry

Every time I hear the birds sing

Because now I am free

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"You have all your life ahead of you." Ok but how much time is that ? Life is short. Life is NOW. Do everything with love. Laugh everyday. Do what makes you happy. Tell them you love them. Say what's on your mind. Be kind. And take care of yourself. Listen to your heart. Love yourself first.