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is anyone else also doing ultimately fine + dying of stress + it’s not that bad + if i don’t wake up tomorrow hotter and better at every hobby its fucking over for me

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Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

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i am my own person and will be okay no matter what bc i trust myself

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Does anyone want to provide me with a hideout in the inescapable event of me failing my exam and being too embarrassed about it to go back home?

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scribbellz

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maybe it will be ok. maybe this is just a chapter of my life. I’m figuring things out. I’m feeling everything as I should. I don’t need to have answers yet. I’m allowed to take it one day at a time. I’m allowed to try again and again. none of this is a waste. I’m growing more each day.

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2025. 01. 31 | Featuring the younger child.

It's been kind of a rough month but I think things are looking up.

I have some intense dental work to be done to keep my teeth healthy (bad genetics :/), but I won't lose any of them. I also have good dental insurance to cover a lot of the cost.

My Dutch course is considering switching to one three-hour class per week instead of two, which requires more self-study, but something that'll make my weekly schedule less hectic once I start my PhD.

One of my arms have healed and I'll consult a physio for my other one. I also have health insurance that will cover six sessions this year.

HR has finally sent over the documents I needed to fill out and send, meaning Feb 15 may be a likely start date for my contract! This is such a relief and brings me a lot of joy.

I haven't needed to touch my savings since Jan 2 and I'm hoping to keep it this way.

I couldn't have managed this on my own and have a lot of gratitude for my partner to get me through these rough moments honestly.

Speaking of partner, our application for marriage has been officially set for a nice date this summer! :)

The days are starting to lengthen, which is giving me Life.

I didn't realize my body was under so much stress and it's coming out in injuries/infection, which are all gradually healing. I haven't done any intensive exercise for a few weeks and have been prioritizing rest and sleep, so I'm hoping to be in shape for the start of my contract. I guess this happens when you hit your 30s.

I'm excited for these upcoming months. I finally feel like my life is moving forward doing exactly what I want to be doing. How lucky is that?

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It’s sooo humiliating when you’re like, good and kind and open to other people and they don’t respond well

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I know it's been a while since I've offered unsolicited advice to college students. But I've had a couple of experiences recently that impel me to say this: part of what your professors expect (well, hope for) from you is courtesy. Think of it as professional courtesy, if you like. This goes at least double for graduate students.

"Are you mad at me?" asked a student recently, regarding poor communication around deadlines. Because (obviously) we have a good relationship and I like the kid, I kept myself from scoffing at the notion when I said "Of course I'm not mad at you; here is what better communication would look like, and why it's desirable." We are not mad at you. We are not your parents. I cannot emphasize enough: we are not your parents.

Part of this professional courtesy, in my view, includes clear communication about your own desires, ambitions, and goals. This helps you respect your professors' time, and helps us use it well in your service. I've had students (yes, plural) use hours and years of my time before excluding me from their thesis committees. The fact that this is allowed to happen also has something to do with my colleagues. Also yes, the students were male. Multiple other students in the department have had faculty members, including me, rearrange our schedules entirely around alleged thesis projects they have then abandoned. One of these students came into my office recently, apparently to use my knowledge of secondary literature as a replacement for a basic library catalog search string. It's just... it's tiring. Yes, I am working on changing the professional/cultural norms of my department. In the meantime, PSA.

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im suffering from a horrendous disease called being in your 20s

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having a freeze response to stress is so funny in the context of normal adult stressors. millions of years of evolution are trying to tell me that the email will not find me if i stay very still and do nothing

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EARNEST POSTING. while everyone is still working on new year’s resolutions i want to make sure everyone knows about the FREE serial reader app.

if you are trying to read more classics/public domain works but for whatever reason struggle with incorporating reading into your daily life, or you’re just intimidated by huge books, serial reader is a great tool to make reading more approachable. it works much like dracula daily in that it sends you one excerpt at a time (usually about 10-15 minutes of estimated reading time). awesome for commutes, lunch breaks, quick bedtime story, etc.

it’s very customizable. you can change fonts, themes, and you can even take notes and highlight. you can also sync with other reading apps like goodreads (no storygraph yet……. we can hope!). the base app is completely free, but there is a one-time optional upgrade fee of $2.99 USD if you want some extra features. this is all developed by one guy, so the money goes to supporting the creator - although i’m sure apple takes their cut 😑.

there are a ton of works to choose from, currently something like 800+.

you can now also add your own .epubs to break up your own books into daily serials! very cool, serial reader!

this was the best app i added last year so i just want to pass it on. happy reading! :)

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i hope that in 2025 u get to take more walks, read more books, connect with more people whom u love and who love u, achieve ur goals (even if ur goals are having no goals and just living in the moment), exercise fun hobbies, move from a place of self-direction, and weave together a beguiling assortment of beautiful little moments. remember that no feeling lasts forever. love u

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a soft reminder: even though you might be disappointed in how you did this year, you still made a lot of progress. you tried and tried again, so many times. every little thing you achieved. every breakdown you got up from. every moment of happiness you encountered. every little act of self care and kindness you did. it all matters. they all helped you grow. they are all small victories to be proud of. it's not always clear to see, because day to day everything feels the same, but I promise you've come a long way since the beginning of the year. so please be extra gentle with yourself when looking back. be proud of yourself too, if you can. you did well.

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i’m printing this out and i’m putting it on the mirror so i can confront myself with it

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