nothorses

[nothorses]

✨Helpful tips for cis allies getting involved in intra-community trans discourse✨

Don’t

Do not do it

Stay in your lane

Shut the fuck up

I don’t care what your trans friend said

I don’t care which direction your trans friend who said you can is transitioning in

Ask yourself: given that this does not affect you and the people it does affect are doing just fine talking about it without you, what do you have to contribute?

Be wary of other cis people who try to get involved; a lot of cis people do this because they want to see which trans people they can be transphobic towards and still count as allies

If you suspect your cis friend is getting involved in order to see which trans people they can be transphobic towards and still call themselves a cis ally, the most trans supportive thing you could possibly do is shut that shit down immediately

There are enough problems facing trans people in the world right now, including where you live, that you have so many options for more productive and helpful things you could do to support trans people. This is not one of them.

Hope this helps ☺️

[nothorses]

Trans men do not benefit from patriarchy. This is exactly why you’re getting shit over this take. The patriarchy hates trans men and constantly tries to detransition us. What about trans men who don’t pass? Do they really benefit from male privilege?

Even stealth trans men do not benefit from patriarchy as their ‘privilege’ is contingent on no one knowing they’re trans. The second people know, that goes out the window. Not ONLY that, but stealth trans men face issues as well, such as access to reproductive healthcare. And like we’ve said multiple times: you’re leaving out men of color in this conversation. It’s such a white take which makes sense bc you’re white but it’s extremely ignorant. All men are not equal under the patriarchy, and not living up to the idea of what a man is has severe consequences for those who don’t. I seriously implore you to listen to especially black trans men on this topic. Black masculinity is very demonized under the patriarchy.

Instead of lecturing to trans men on how oppressed we aren’t, try to learn something and stop hiding behind “I’m just saying what trans women say”. Guess what? Trans women are not immune from having bad takes or parroting radfem talking points.

[nothorses]

I am baffled that the hatred of trans men and mascs has spread so much that it's to the point a cisgender perisex white man is comfortable telling trans men of color that we're wrong about our own experiences while still calling himself an ally.

[nothorses]

Yea, fuck no, cis men do not get to lecture trans men about our experiences or jump into trans community discourse like you get to have any authority on it or like we need YOU to explain what misogyny is to us. Are you fucking stupid? This is not your lane and you do not know what the fuck you are talking about. Shut your ass up, god damn.

[nothorses]

fucking gross actually the way a white cis man is using Black trans women as an excuse to hate on Black trans men like how do you think you’re anything other than a threat to Black people at this point if you think you can weaponise one part to talk over another. Get the fuck out of here wannabe white saviour you’re fucking dangerous.

[nothorses]

If you are cis and white, you should not be trying to tell black trans men what their experiences are. It's that simple. i know it must be difficult for a cis white man to accept that his opinion is valueless in this conversation, but that's no reason to throw multiple racist hissy fits about how the mean poc trannies are telling him he's fucking wrong

[nothorses]

The only place white cis men have in trans discourse is sitting down, being quiet, learning, and standing up for trans people against their fellow cis people.

That also means not blindly parroting hateful transphobic rhetoric from other trans people, because some trans people are transphobic (TRFs, Transmeds, Truscum, etc), as an example, if you were a white cis man and you had a trans friend who was constantly telling you that say, and I’m gonna make something up here that hasn’t happened, but say you have a trans friend who’s constantly saying people who don’t want to start HRT aren’t REALLY trans.

you would have no business thinking, repeating, or pushing that. You’re obligated to listen to the whole community, not just the ONE trans friend you have spewing bigoted rhetoric. This goes doubly so if your bigoted trans friend is white because then they should also be sitting down and listening to the poc in the community.

Cis White Men have no place giving their thoughts and opinions about how the kind of trans person they like less isn’t oppressed. They definitely don’t get to say they ‘have tboy swag’ while being actively transphobic and uplifting TRFs, stop, cis white boy, stop, etc.

Cis white women don’t either ftr, no cis person does, but this is about a specific event.

[nothorses]

[nothorses]

why would you ever outsource fun to chatgpt? are you stupid? you can make mediocre shit by yourself too.

[nothorses]

📢📢📢

[nothorses]

Y'know, I would care a lot less about the memeification of male pregnancy if there wasn't such a massive overlap between people who memeify it and people who throw a massive tantrum when trans men and mascs ask for even the bare minimum of inclusion in reproductive rights.

[nothorses]

I can't do much but maybe this will interest someone. This cookbook is by a classically trained autistic chef, made for people with sensory issues. It's sold 1/6th of its initial run because apparently no one wants to have an autistic person interviewed on TV.

Apparently it's also very funny.

Spread this around! I bet someone here can use this.

[nothorses]

embroidery from peacockandpinecones my friends and I have been losing our minds over all morning.

[nothorses]

Every post I make on mobile is typed with the tip of my penis

[nothorses]

it pisses me off SO bad how transphobes have so effectively used sports to launder transphobia and misogyny to people. like does nobody remember like ~5-10 years ago when it was a MAJOR feminist talking point to argue for desegregating sports and going by skill level instead of gender separation??? and now, because so many cis people hate trans people so violently and think we should be excluded from all aspects of public life, you’ve got a whole bunch of women who call themselves feminists laundering misogynistic talking points about how “women are just inherently weaker and worse at athletics than men :(( it’s just biology and women are inherently inferior :(( this is definitely not misogyny that’s unsupported by science, women are just weaker and worse at things :((“ like girl open your ears and listen to what you’re saying!!

[nothorses]

[nothorses]

drawing people i see in the city (59/?)