I came to this realization years ago but: Korea loves Kpop girls, but don't love the actual girl.
They love the persona: the aegyo, the sexy stage, the bubbly songs, the submissiveness of female idols.
However, when these girls; these women (because I feel like some of them aren't even seen as that) are vocal about feminism, inequality, self love, or take any control over their lives; they are demonized in an instant. If someone leaked pictures of them that were supposed to be private, they are slut shamed, attention whores, ugly, or not that talented to begin with.
And this isn't restricted to kpop. This isn't restricted to Korea itself. But this is a factor, one of many, that messes with someone's mental state. Which could lead to things like suicide.
This quick "shoot down idols for being slightly flawed or human" is prevalent to both genders. We've lost idols from both genders. But there will ALWAYS be a different standard for women because they are supposed to be the pure innocent person that fits the societal gaze.
At the end of the day, if we do not break that mentality thrusted at us that these female idols (and all idols too) are simply here to be Barbie dolls and not human beings, then we run the risk of losing another idol.
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— hangyul as your boyfriend
pairing: boyfriend!hangyul x reader
a/n: requested + tried my best to make this <somewhat> accurate and sorry if these seemed a little shorter compared to my others!
let’s start this bad boy with a backstory!
you and hangyul began dating before even knowing that you guys were officially dating
if that makes any sense?
the two of you acknowledged each others feelings
would take each other out on dates
hang out 24/7
and even kiss
but the thing was that
you guys never had a title for one another
…
until dongpyo questioned you two out of pure curiosity
“are you and hangyul dating?” dongpyo’s thoughts flew right out of his mouth as he pointed his index finger at you two, who just so happened to be sitting extremely close to one another
“what do you mean?” you threw another question at dongpyo, somewhat trying to avoid this whole situation
“i mean, the two of you are always together─ you both have to be dating at this point.”
hangyul and you brushed off dongpyo’s interrogation
but you couldn’t help but to constantly think about it
what were you and hangyul?
you two sure weren’t friends
because friends simply don’t make out with each other
at the same time
you two weren’t dating because hangyul has never “officially” asked you to be his lover
“hangyul, i have something to ask you.” you pulled onto the sleeve of his shirt, forcing yourself and even hangyul to stop walking
“sure.” he turned around to fully face you. “what is it?”
you sighed heavily as you thought about it once more in your head before proceeding on. “what are we?”
hangyul was taken aback by your sudden question. “i thought you were my girlfriend/boyfriend.”
?? (⊙ヮ⊙) ??
you don’t recall hangyul ever asking you out???
similar to hangyul, you were surprised by his answer. “huh? you’ve never said anything about that, nor have you asked me out before?”
this whole entire time
hangyul thought you both silently (and naturally) came to terms with this
but you’re over here like no?? literally no?? what goes on in your head???
with that being said
hangyul walked closer to you
breaking the gap in between you two
as he reached out to hold onto your hand and asked
“i’m sorry about that. y/n, will you be mine?”
and thats how you two officially started dating ଘ(੭*ˊᵕˋ)੭* ੈ♡‧₊˚
you made sure to call dongpyo that following night to tell him about everything that had just happened
dongpyo, on the phone: SO HANGYUL THOUGHT U TWO WERE DATING WHILE U THOUGHT NOTHING OF IT?? SO WHO’S FAULT WAS IT????
maybe both of your guys fault because of the lack of communication
the type of person to take you to go play basketball (since that’s one of his favorite sports)
and then purposely throw the ball at the back of your head
just for some laughs
you: what the fuck?
hangyul: :’)
however
he is also the type of person to take you to the han river at midnight
as the two of you would just sit in the grass
talking about your worries in life
while hangyul rests his head on your lap, using it as if it was a pillow
sometimes, when you two go on dates
he brings dohyon along without notifying you
you: hanGYULLL … and dohyon?
hangyul: he begged me to bring him
dohyon: hi, y/n! hangyul told me that you guys were going to watch lion king and i also wanted to watch it too so :D
you don’t really mind since dohyon is like your son
or maybe he’s that annoying little brother who says stuff like “mom said that u have to take me too”
whenever the two of you are alone and are watching a show on netflix
hangyul would take his finger and trace imaginary circles against your skin
he does this subconsciously since this is just a tiny habit of his
super clingy, but doesn’t want to admit it ! ! !
he would follow you wherever you go
you’re not allowed to leave without him attached to your hip
he makes fun of dohyon being a baby when he’s also baby #babyception
you both are super close to one another
so close that hangyul has an extra key to your house (if you live alone)
while you have a key to his place
he always seems to walk in unexpectedly
and would shout out “hello! your boyfriend has arrived!” every single time
“hangyul, it’s one in the morning ─ whAT ARE YOU DOING HERE”
soft kisses ? ? ?
lmao u wish
his kisses are usually rough
and fast paced
he doesn’t give you enough time to breathe
yet, his kisses still makes you beg for more u____u
one of his major weaknesses is that
he has a difficult time expressing his feelings
therefore, you don’t really hear “i love you” / “i like you” / or any other similar phrases
despite being like this
you know that hangyul is deeply in love with you
and you’re in no rush to hear those short words
regrettably, hangyul wishes that he can overcome this obstacle of his
because even he 100% knows that you deserve all of the love in this world
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