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IN ALL SERIOUSNESS THOUGH callout posts are for seriously dangerous people not 15 year old survivors who made one misinformed joke and then apologized for it so like. uhhhhh calm down

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hi heres my callout post for luna @kanocourse....... theyre my friend and i support them

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CALLOUT

@kanocourse made one mistake and then apologized, so please banish them to hell forever. Also please bear in mind not the entire exclusionist side is like this.

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YEAH LIKE..... people are still attacking you and saying youre a bad person who thinks rape jokes are okay when you already apologized and have made it really clear you dont think rape jokes are okay and you only said that because you misunderstood something why are people dragging it out so much ??? and theyre like “you could have triggered someone” iirc you even tagged it??????? you tagged it. so that people who were uncomfortable. didnt ahve to see the post. why cant people just leave you alone

this keeps dragging on like 1) the joke only affected me, if you were offended that’s your problem 2) i misunderstood and thought yants was saying my sexual abuse was my fault which, being a coercion survivor, is a really touchy subject for me 3) its literally a coping method for me to joke about my issues, this is extremely common (think of depression/anxiety memes) 4) ive already apologized and explained myself idk why yall are so angry over this, go outside and solve a real problem

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personally i dont even think there needs to be an a?? both saying it stands for asexual and saying it stands for ally open up the community to cishets + i understand ally being for closeted people but like... if cishets misunderstand they can jsut Come Right In and if we keep saying ally is for closeted people then theyd just be outing themselves by including themselves in lgbt under that

can one of you discoursers help me out here

wtf does the a stand for…..whats the truth…….ive seen ok arguments from both sides and frankly im just confused

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sorry to butt in but all of the links definitely work and bring up very good points lmao

id rather play with my best friends 6 year old brother than respond to racists calling me a bad person for my coping methods

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hi i;m fictosexual demiromantic and sapioplatonic and if you dont think im lgbt you can go fuck yourself  like i never could becasue im a real person i am forever doomed to never jerk off please help i also hate myself because im a fucking idiot and cant be friends with myself because im sapioplatonic these are the real hardships that we face in todays society but you can never realize it because youre too focused on your silly “sga and trans people”

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im demiromantic fictosexual and sapioplatonic so yes very gI CANT FINISH TYPING THIS NSJVLMDFKV

someone get into drama with Me come on do it

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someone get into drama with Me come on do it

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yikes :/

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ASEXUALS BEWARE!!!!!! THIS AD IS EXTREMELY APHOBIC!!!!!!!! it forces us pure asexuals to see Tittys please blacklist the url before it causes any more harm than it already has uwu!!!!!

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also when did The Aphobes sexually harass minors when was that a thing????? if u ask me forcing minors into ace/”allo” labels is worse than anything ive seen from the exclusionist side meanwhile ive seen legitimate ____sexual aromantic headcanons for child characters

Wow, it sure is swell how aphobes want to keep the LGBTQ+ community safe, wait no the LGBT community, ok no actually the lgbqpn community, ok actually just whoever they’ve decided is acceptable this week.

Gosh, do I ever feel safe knowing the aphobes are there to sexually harass minors and encourage people to commit suicide and concoct elaborate smear campaigns to discredit the people who disagree with them.

Gee, it sure is great how so many of them are also TERFS, biphobes, panphobes, truscum, etc. Can’t imagine why that would make anyone feel unsafe.

Golly, what reason could anyone have to dislike such an accepting, respectful, kind group of people.

/s /s /s /s /s /s /s /s ad infinitum

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1 time i new an acey who asked people to tag sex positivity and i still think about that every day

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also if you think it is in any way morally justifiable to be Uncomfortable Around Lesbians or whatever......go to hell

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can gogurt become gay culture

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my experience with ace tumblr

this is a very long story so im gonna put it under a readmore, its Worth The Read though

so, im 15 years old, and im a lesbian. when i was, like, 11, i didnt know that i was a lesbian, though, and thats where this story starts, because that’s the year that i made an account on tumblr dot com.

let me preface this by saying that i know that i shouldnt have been on tumblr at age 11 or 12, but im 99% sure everyone reading this will have had an account on some website when they were technically too young to. maybe it wasnt tumblr, maybe it was deviantart or something. idk. anyway, i had an account on tumblr.

also when i was 11 is around the time that i was first exposed to the lgbt community via various things. like, before that, i knew that people of the same gender could get married or whatever, but this was the first time that someone came into our class to talk about being lgbt, and some of my internet friends were gay, and stuff like that. this was the first time that i realized that lgbt people were real and that i could be lgbt. like, they were not some other, alienated group of people, they....totally existed.

fast forward to when i was 12. Here is a screenshot from my about page from that blog.

how did it get from that to this??? how did i go from being 11 years old and realizing that the lgbt community was something i could potentially be a part of to “i’m asexual and quoiromantic”? (also, please disregard the incorrect use of the word femme there, i was 12. trust me now i know its specifically for lesbians) long story short, i started getting involved in ace tumblr and their overcomplicated labels.

i was on a part of tumblr that always talked about “the allosexuals” and how they only ever thought about sex and that if you dont want to fuck every single person you meet You Are Somewhere On The Asexual Spectrum. basically, my 12-year-old self unknowingly used this as a way to avoid acknowledging that i was a girl who liked girls. i thought, “oh, orientation can describe not just who you like, but how you like them. this makes things a whole lot more easy!”

no. it cant. thats not how orientations work.

lets break down the terminology i used.

asexual means not experiencing sexual attraction, obviously. i dont think i should need to explain this, but 12 year olds are not really supposed to look at people and think “i want to fuck that person”. that like. doesnt happen. almost ever. like, some people in my class were getting into watching porn or whatever around that point, but nobody was like.... deciding they wanted to have sex with people at age 12. at least, not in the sample size of my small grade 7 class.

iirc, quoiromantic means that you cant distinguish between romantic and platonic feelings. doesnt that......doesnt that also just describe typical 12-year-old behaviour? especially from a 12-year-old who’s a lesbian and struggling with compulsory heterosexuality? like.... hmmm.

also as i side note i love “i like femme-presenting people” like. sweetie. honey. you like girls. youre a lesbian. h oney. you dont even have a preference for where someone is on the futch scale you just like girls. Bapy. i was such a fool.

ANYWAY, “asexual quoiromantic” basically describes.... what things are supposed to be like for a 12 year old. thats just . like. natural. feelings are complicated at that age, once again, especially when youre a lesbian but dont realize it yet.

because of how much the ace tumblr mindset stuck with me, i didnt acknowledge that i was A Lesbian who Only Liked Girls until around the middle of grade 8. it was a lot of other things besides ace tumblr that contributed to this, and i would argue that it was probably mostly the fact that i was just raised in a society that basically says the destiny of every girl is to one day fall in love with a guy and get married and stuff.

but what ace tumblr did contribute to is the fact that i’m pretty much just now realizing, years later, that i’m allowed to be interested in sex. sex isnt inherently gross. sex isnt dirty. if you want to have sex, thats ok. being on ace tumblr was terrible for me because there was a lot of stuff shaming people who are interested in sex, or acting like they’re weird or it’s the only thing they think about. because like....thats not how it works. thats not how sexual attraction works. it doesnt consume your life, its just another part of it. and i am finally, just now, realizing that that’s okay and not inherently gross!!! finally!!!!! getting involved in ace tumblr stunted that part of my development really badly.

people need to realize that ace tumblr stuff reaches young kids who are trying to figure out their identity, and if those kids are sga it can really really hurt them. people need to think about that. i’m not trying to attack someone, but a lot of the messages that ace tumblr spreads about what being “allosexual” is are really harmful and shitty.

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hey inclusionists

im gay