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Thursday April 6.

This Barbie is a Today on Tumblr post.

Hi Barbie!

Hi Ken!

Now we've got that out of the way, it really looks like we are just gonna have to party. I mean, how else are we going to pass the time until July 21, 2023 (or thereabouts)? You've probably seen the all-singin', all-dancin' trailer for #barbie (and if you haven't, you absolutely have to see it right this very moment), but it's safe to say that it looks fun, fun, fun. There is a lot of pink, a lot of good-looking people greeting each other, repeatedly, with either Barbie or Ken, a lot of dancing, a lot of silliness, a lot of perfectly-delivered lines ("I literally go nowhere without them!"), a lot of perfectly-shot shots (the shoes, the flying car) and simply more innuendo than we know what to do with. The year, 2023, and the world is Barbie's—so cometh the hour, cometh the camp. And you better be with us, or we're going to have to beach you off.

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yes carrie killed over 400 people ok. thats bad i know. but have you considered that i feel really bad for her :(

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men who gift their wives/partners kitchen stuff for their birthday/christmas/etc should die

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Happy to announce I passed my shelf inspection today! (yes, the inspector was very qualified.)

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Castle Tristenoira exists in three different times simultaneously, looming above the Lake of Red Tears, home of "Aggie" the undead sea serpent (Dana M Knutson box art for Ravenloft supplement Castles Forlorn by Lisa Smedman, TSR, 1993) After Barovia, Forlorn was the second realm to appear in Ravenloft's demiplane of dread.

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Finished off the febroary prompts! Cats n cats n cats

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“Bi women aren’t really attracted to women they just talk about how women are ‘pretty’ and then date men” 

Have you considered that bi women are afraid to be open about truly desiring women because we’re already seen as overly sexual and predatory and our attraction to women is reduced to a fetish rather than a real expression of our sexuality? And that we’re afraid that if we so much as HINT at attraction to women beyond “they’re pretty” we’ll be confirming people’s perceptions of us as hedonistic sluts who fetishize and objectify women rather than loving them in a ~good, pure, morally correct way~ (aka, not being bi).

Every Single Thing i see people complain about wrt bisexuals is something they caused by being biphobic. “Why don’t bi women ever seem like they’re serious about being attracted to women” maybe ask yourself why don’t bi women feel like they can talk about that around you? We absolutely talk about it to each other, so you may just be part of the problem beloved </3 Think about how you perceive and talk about bi women and maybe you’ll realize why bi women don’t trust you. 

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Friendly reminder that tomorrow is the first day of pride month and if I see any biphobia, I will throw hands

This includes, but is not limited to:

saying that bisexuality excludes trans/nonbinary people (it doesn't)

saying that bisexuality is too binary (it isn't)

saying that bisexuality is outdated (again, it isn't)

saying/implying that bisexuals only care about gender rather than personality (which is gross and untrue)

derailing conversations on biphobia and its effects

excluding bisexuals from mlm and wlw spaces/discussions

speaking over bisexuals in conversations on the issues we face

refusing to listen to bisexuals if we say something is biphobic

ignoring bisexual history and activism

ignoring the present contributions of bisexuals to LGBTQ culture

making demeaning jokes about bisexuals or jokes that rely on negative stereotypes

stereotyping bisexuals in general

viewing bisexuals as 'half-straight'/'lesser' members of the LGBTQ community

and finally, speaking over bisexuals about the very definition of bisexuality

yes this includes saying things like 'that sounds more like [other sexuality]' or 'if you define your attraction that way you're [other sexuality] instead' in response to a bisexual person describing how they define their orientation for themself

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I found a 12 year old article about how biphobes are always changing the definition of bisexuality to make it seem as unrealistic, unappealing and limiting as possible:

“People are quick to tinker with the definition of bisexual until it’s not something anyone would willingly pick for themselves. Bisexuals are supposed to be equally attracted to men and women – always androgyny, but never to trans people – and always at the same time. They supposedly need to have identical amounts of sex with both, and don’t notice the differences between them. We’re all told bisexuality is a phase that everyone goes through and grows out of, and no one’s a “proper” bisexual, even though “everyone’s bisexual really”. Bisexuals are depicted as the monsters spreading Aids, and breaking the hearts of partners inevitably cast aside for a different gender. Who’d want to be bi!“ - Marcus Morgan: Bisexuals: putting the B back in LGBT (The Guardian)

Literally nothing has changed except we’ve added even more limiting definitions of bisexuality. One of the reasons why bisexual activism is so frustrating is because people refuse to listen to how bisexuals describe bisexuality so we’re stuck debating definitions instead of talking about the problems our community faces.

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The thing about people who get intensely worked up about how other people define their gender and sexuality is that it's almost never just the one label: it's part of a whole constellation of bad takes on identity, and the parts lurking in the background are typically much weirder than the thing they're mad about. Like, you'll see somebody getting volcanically angry that people are Wrong On The Internet™ about the precise demarcation between "lesbian" and "bisexual", and then they'll mention – completely in passing, as an incidental point to the thrust of their main argument which they clearly don't expect to be challenged on – that they think gay men don't exist. It's like, yes, your central point is also very bad, but let's back up and unpack that little addendum!

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September being bisexual awareness month and suicide prevention month is actually really fitting because bisexuals (especially bisexual women) are at the highest risk of suicide.

45% of bisexual women and 35% of bisexual men have considered or attempted suicide. those are horrifying numbers. now consider that more than 54% of the community is bisexual, and take into account that 40% of LGBT POC and about half of all transgender people are bisexual, and among those communities the risk of suicide is even higher.

suicide prevention is a bisexual issue. this is undeniable. you cannot claim to care about suicide prevention, especially among LGBT people, while denying the existence of biphobia and its impact both outside the LGBT community AND inside it.

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Damn. Brutal.