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TYPING IN FULL CAPS MAKES IT LOOK LIKE YOU’RE SCREAMING WHEN IT’S ACTUALLY A WAY TO GET PEOPLE’S ATTENTION TO DISTRACT YOU FROM THE FACT THAT YOU’RE lonely

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Sparkling water tastes like when your legs fall asleep.

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So I’m in a new relationship with a boy who is very much not ace. It was important to me for him to know that I was ace, and it actually prevented me from getting together with him for a long time. Because it’s not fair of me to basically deny him the option to have sex, but I know for sure that I don’t want to have it. He’s said things about “maybe later”/“it’s not something we have to worry about now” but it’s obvious he’s worried about it and wants to at some point. It’s very terrifying to me

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no more ace discourse, only ace disco now. dance on them haters

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sexual attraction? in this economy?

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When you are having a great conversation with a group of people but suddenly they start talking about people they find hot and your ace ass is like 

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The fact that exclusionists/aphobes tend to have ‘good’ takes on a variety of topics is tainted by the fact that you just know they’re implicitly including asexuals in their post. It’s kinda fucked that I can immediately tell just by post topic and URL that someone is an aphobe, and searching “ace” on their blog is just a verification step. In this year 2019 we stop giving exclusionists a platform and remind ourselves that aro/ace folks have been, are, and always will be members of the LGBT community.

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This kid gets life!

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4/20 is 69 days away

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8 Ways to Destroy a Relationship

1. Be abusive: As well as physical abuse, this includes put-downs, sarcasm, negative comments, withholding affection, stonewalling, refusing to talk, and repeatedly threatening to leave the relationship.

2. Be defensive: Individuals who are always on the defensive are so wrapped up in protecting themselves that they rarely grow in their relationships. They won’t admit that they have faults and so end up committing the same mistakes again and again. This eventually destroys the relationship.

3. Be critical: While there’s a place for the occasional critical remark, if you’re always complaining and pointing out their flaws then you’ll soon undermine your partner’s self-esteem. In all areas of life, a critical person is an unattractive person.

4. Be always right: If you’re always right, the other person’s always wrong – and who wants to feel that they have nothing to contribute, or their point of view is stupid, unwanted and wrong.

5. Be narcissistic and selfish: The person who always has to have their own way, or who’s only interested in their own needs and desire has little to add to a relationship.

6. Be dishonest: Trust is at the heart of all good relationships. If you can’t be real and honest, or are not dependable, then there’s no foundation for a strong relationship. This includes being unfaithful or hiding the whole truth.

7. Be superior: If you’re quick to judge others or to put people down, or you think that you are better than everybody else (more intelligent, prettier, cooler etc) then you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache. For although we all have strengths, and we may excel at times, each person is unique and is worthy of respect.

8. Be controlling: A relationship’s a gift. That person’s not your property. They’re allowed to be themselves, with their own views and beliefs. They don’t answer to you; they don’t have to change themselves; they’re autonomous and free – they’re not there to be controlled.