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rEaLLY fucking interesting how biology is the field in science with the highest percentage of women but also the most “looked-down-upon” and disregarded field of science by people (men) in other STEM fields. it’s almost as if those two facts might ( c o r r e l a t e )

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“If you criticize makeup it’s because you’re bad at it AND ugly, haha” It’s depressing how much run-of-the-mill misogyny passes for feminist praxis these days.

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i know this has been said before, but yeah, all these fifteen year olds on here hate “terfs” (lesbians) for not including trans women in their dating pools because they have literally no concept of what intimacy is like! it’s completely hypothetical to them, so of course they can just say “well just don’t have sex” or “well just do xyz instead.”

every aspect of intimacy involves your partner’s body! you are aware of their body at all times! anyone who has ever actually been remotely intimate knows this, and it makes every one of their arguments laughably ludicrous, except to explain that you would have to have a fuckin sex talk with a fifteen year old, and meanwhile they’re alternating b/w harassment and threatening to kill themselves, and where the fuck are their parents, and that’s why tumblr is hell! thank you, i’ll be doing book signings in the lobby

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any space that allows males automatically becomes a male space.

that is why female-only spaces are necessary, thanks

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Not to be obvious but I want every billionaire to die

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every female entry into male space improves that space. every male entry into female space worsens that space.

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my most distinct memories from being a teenager: 

the overwhelming feeling of shame and discomfort when somebody said something along the lines of “look at her, she is a young woman now!” 

getting my period for the first time and trying to deny it happened because the prospect of having “become a woman” freaked me the fuck out

my male geography teacher telling me i should wear a bra when i was 11

flushing bright red whenever walking past a group of boys out of fear they would comment my appearance and the panic and shame when they actually did

noticing that suddenly more than half of the girls in my class were wearing make up, wondering if i had already embarrassed myself by not doing so

some years later the horror i felt one day when i realised i had forgotten to put on mascara, contemplating if i should just go back home

my strict evening routine of plucking out every eyebrow hair that seemed slightly unruly and doing 100 sit-ups

the contempt with which i looked at my now best friend, whose eyebrows weren’t plucked, thinking how embarrassing that was for her

that boy who followed me around for a full school year, shouting i was ugly and fat so that everybody would hear it, and how i would take detours to avoid meeting him, and the incredible shame i felt when my little brother told my mom about it

the old anti-acne medicine i found in a bathroom cabinet and that i secretly started to use even though the leaflet mentioned terrifying side effects

manically using my parents’ old exercise bike in my room while crying

going to the doctors for a check-up and her saying “you’re healthy, but your weight…”, so i was convinced she would tell me to go on a diet. she told me i was underweight

taking laxatives because i didn’t believe my doctor anyway

the time i had a diet pact with two of my friends and bought a chocolate bar after lunch; they ripped it from my hands and trampled on it, and i was thankful

are those the “girly milestones” middle-aged trans women so desire?

ps: looking back at photos of my teenage self and seeing an entirely normal girl on the slim side with unremarkable braces and some minor acne is the biggest mindfuck

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when i was 18 i was “in a relationship” with a 38 year old man and like……. who was she……. why didn’t she love herself more than to put herself thru that……. i rlly don’t know her

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RIP Aretha

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This Sundowner horse trailer with NJ plate TNP41W was seen transporting a Black man in the back on I-84.

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Cis women shut the fuck up challenge

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““When I was at art college in the late Seventies/early Eighties, one of the slogans the feminists used was: “Objectivity is Male Subjectivity.” This brilliantly encapsulates how male power nestles in our very language, exerting influence at the most fundamental level. Men, especially Default Men, have put forward their biased, highly emotional views as somehow “rational”, more considered, more “calm down, dear”. Women and “exotic” minorities are framed as “passionate” or “emotional” as if they, the Default Men, had this unique ability to somehow look round the side of that most interior lens, the lens that is always distorted by our feelings.””

— Grayson Perry http://www.newstatesman.com/culture/2014/10/grayson-perry-rise-and-fall-default-man

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RadFem culture is explaining that “radical” as it’s used in academia means “at the root.” Then explaining if you haven’t been blocked yet that when you use the word “liberal” it is not used as adjective meaning “open to new behavior or opinions and willing to discard traditional values,” but the political meaning of “favoring maximum individual liberty in political and social reform.” The conflict radfems have with liberals and neoliberals is a fundamental conflict that should be shared byanyone who claims to be a communist or socialist or some related subgroup. That is focus on the good of the individual instead of the class. Leftist thought prior to the infestation of post modernism was always predicated upon class analysis.

It has nothing with willingness to dismiss outdated ideas. Ideas like the concept of gender.

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tbh if you have a problem with female-only spaces…you’re the reason they exist ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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all you need to know about masculinity vs femininity is that what is masculine is manly and what is feminine is girly. Man vs Girl. Adult vs Child. You know who gets the short end of the stick here. 

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“i wish them cramps. i wish them a strange town and the last tampon. I wish them no 7-11. i wish them one week early and wearing a white skirt. i wish them one week late. later i wish them hot flashes and clots like you wouldn’t believe. let the flashes come when they meet someone special. let the clots come when they want to. let them think they have accepted arrogance in the universe, then bring them to gynecologists not unlike themselves.”

— lucille clifton, wishes for sons. (via black-poetry)

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“I commonly run into the misconception that men from some national or ethnic groups behave much more abusively toward women than those in the mainstream of the United States and Canada. Social workers sometimes say to me, for example, “The family I am working with right now comes from one of those cultures where domestic violence is considered normal and acceptable.” The reality, however, is that cultural approval for partner abuse is disturbingly high in our society, even among the privileged and educated, and our domestic-violence statistics, while not the worst in the world, are on the high end. The United States is the only industrialized nation that has failed to ratify the UN convention on eliminating discrimination against women, which specifically refers to violence against women as a form of discrimination. Pointing fingers at other countries can be a way to ignore the serious problems in our own. In reality, abuse of women—and societal approval of it—is a widespread problem in the great majority of modern cultures. […] Abusive men from some national backgrounds are very explicit and direct about their cultural or religious rules, which can make their attitudes appear to be unusually bad. A man might say, for example, “God ordained that the man chastise the woman,” or he might say threateningly to this partner, “Part of a wife’s job is to give the man sex when he wants it.” Do white American abusers think in these ways less than abusers of other cultures do? No. They do often hide their beliefs better and, by doing so, can create the impression of being more “enlightened.” But the directness of a cultural message is not the same thing as its strength. I have worked with hundreds of nonwhite abusers from a spectrum of cultures and religions, with more than twenty different countries of origin among them, and I can assure you that my white, middle-class clients feel every bit as justified as the others and have attitudes toward women that are just as superior and disrespectful.”

— Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via gothhabiba)