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There is something about proudly proclaiming a show "tumblrista catnip" that makes me emotional.

Something about how for years tumblrinas were ridiculed by show creators.

Something about Supernatural having a meta episode set at a convention with all the weirdo fans that made the main characters uncomfortable. Something something about Becky and the message that fangirls are gross and obsessive.

Something about Sherlock and the way fans were portrayed as crazy obsessive nutjobs for trying to figure out how he faked his death.

Something about creators mocking fandoms, dismissing them as freaks. Something about queer people not being welcome to engage in their creations because "why do you have to make everything gay?"

Something about the malicious culture of queerbaiting throughout the 2000s/2010s, followed by Bury Your Gays tropes across the media landscape because hell, you should be grateful we even gave you queer characters to begin with - and everyone dies in our show! You ain't special!

Something about Destiel questions being banned from conventions...

And then...

Something instead about Good Omens, and letting the story adapt naturally, embracing the fanbase and leaning into the fanservice.

Something about Our Flag Means Death, and the genuine outpouring of love and affection between cast, crew, and fandom that culminated in an explosion of fanworks that were never once mocked or deemed gross or wrong.

Something about Sandman, and staunchly digging in their heels on the queerness of it all, refusing to give in to the homophobes and instead avidly mocking THEM on social media rather than us.

Something about the writers hearing about fandoms favourite ships and excitedly stating that YES! We DID lean into that because it happened naturally and made sense.

Something about a firefighter coming out as bisexual after 7 seasons...

So yeah, something about a new high quality show made FOR US. By creators that love US. Respect US, and WANT our love.

Something about US FINALLY being a target audience for the best shows being made on TV now.

Tumblrista catnip. Creators saying "we made this for you. You are important. Your voices have been heard."

It just... all got a bit overwhelming for a moment there.

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Our blessed "(m/w/d)", their barbarous "(gender neutral)"

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Napoli, Italia 🇮🇹

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there's this trick that racists/queerphobes/etc do, it's really slick. let's just do a little dialogue as an example, the names have been obscured but I've seen this exact exchange happen before.

Stephanie mc. Influencer: "And furthermore, body positivity intersects with black liberation, as black women are often held to unattainable eurocentric beauty standards"

Suave Replyboy Jr: "Lmao, you leftists always tell on yourselves, did you really just say black people are ugly??"

You see the trick here? it's kind of complicated, like, Stephanie is arguing from the perspective that beauty standards are arbitrary and subject to change, Suave understands beauty as an objective hierarchy, so he dunks on Stephanie safely from the inside of that standard. To him, and likely to many people who haven't thought about their own assumptions very much, the only reason black people would want their own body positivity movement is because they're ugly. Bonus points if Stephanie is white, and you can rile her community against her with claims of racism.

I've been getting some replies like this on my posts about sexual trauma, kink, and queerness. Like... I say that sexual deviance of all forms can intersect and correlate with queer identity, and dozens of Suave Replyboy Jrs come out and dunk on me from the other side of the glass, from inside the false universe I'm trying to discredit, the one where "sexual deviance" is immoral and associating queer sexuality with deviancy is an insult. I'm not saying queer people are dangerous perverts, that's you.

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Happy lesbian visibility week to aromantic lesbians! Y’all are cool as fuck.

Shoutout to allosexual aromantic lesbians! Your sexual attraction to women is beautiful and normal, and you aren’t bad or predatory for feeling that attraction, regardless of whether it’s accompanied by romantic attraction. Shoutout to aro lesbians who feel some romantic attraction! Your romantic attraction is just as lovely and as real as anyone else’s, even if you may experience yours differently or less often than an alloromantic person would. Shoutout to aroace lesbians. Whether your attraction to women is romantic, sexual, or something else that doesn’t fit neatly into either category, you are no less aroace for being a lesbian, and you are no less of a lesbian for being aroace.

Shoutout to aromantic lesbians who are relationship anarchists, aromantic lesbians who are nonpartnering or polyamorous, aromantic lesbians who are married, aromantic lesbians who have a zucchini/QPP or a foveo/FWB, and aromantic lesbians in soft romo relationships or waverships.

Y’all’re so wonderful, and I hope you have a splendid week!

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Hello my fellow dykes, we have officially become visible ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

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chameleon chameleon

a comic about being bigender, and bisexual, by me! happy pride everyone.

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Why is it so easy for people to understand that gay men may want to appropriate and play with femininity but so hard for them to understand gay women might want to do the same with masculinity

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i open the lesbian tag. i see 20 posts about gold star lesbians in a row. i close the lesbian tag

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[image description: image of an Aardvark with grey, yellow and white in the background. Text says “Parents say they just want you to be happy and get married” at the top and “Oxymoron” at the bottom.]

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it is my hope and dream that everyone on tumblr can go outside and visit a gay bar or go to a queer event and see that our community is very beautiful and very diverse and that half the internet discourse isn’t real

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I find it funny when exclusionists say things like "aros don't experience oppression" or "aros have nothing in common with queer people" when... Yes we do. The aromantic experience specifically is extremely similar to the gay/trans experience.

People call us predators, pedos, abusers, mentally ill, and unnatural. (Same as gay people)

When we come out to people, even therapists, conversion therapy is offered or encouraged. (Same as all queer people)

We have trouble figuring out we're aro, some don't even realize it until they're old, because being alloromantic is seen as the natural order. (Same as trans people)

I, as a bisexual and trans aromantic, actually find that my experiences with being aro mimic my experiences with being trans and bi. I became more comfortable with romance when I came out as aro, the same way I became more comfortable with femininity and masculinity when I came out as nonbinary. I experience the same kind of dysphoria when I'm assumed to be alloromantic as I do when I'm misgendered. I find that my internalized doubt at being queer is exactly the same for my aromanticism as it is with my bisexuality and nonbinary identity.

My aromanticism also affects and adds layers to my other queer identities and how people view them. "Love is love" doesn't apply to me and people can't make my attraction "acceptable" by only talking about the romantic aspects (as there is none). It makes the biphobic remarks worse because I'm held up as "proof" that bisexuals are just cheating, horny, players that don't care about anything other than sex. I'm held up as proof of the "chemical castration" of minors because I'm trans and aro. They point to me and go "see? this is what happens to people who transition!"

My experiences with being aro are, at times, nearly identical to my experiences with being bi and trans. But my being aro makes the biphobia and transphobia I experience significantly worse.

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Pride knives come get your pride knives!

I'll make more btw

If you have requests you can put it in the ask box!!

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Friendly reminder that "aroace" is NOT the umbrella term for the whole aromantic/asexual community

The correct umbrella term is Aspec

Aroace is its own specific identity and alloaros don't want to be placed in the "aroace" community