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And don't kid yourself into thinking that you're helping "real" disabled people by viciously attacking people you think might be faking their disabilities. The best thing you can do for disabled people is taking our words for who we are and what we need. Creating an environment where you constantly have to defend and explain yourself against accusations of faking will in fact harm the "real" disabled people you claim to support

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"don't let your disability stop you from reaching your goals!" i have no choice but to let my disability put obstacles between me and my goals, you think i just pick and choose when i can/can't do something? it's the literal definition of a disability, it disables you from doing things. how hard is that to understand?

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yes, there are that many really disabled people on the internet actually

When I was less sick I used to think, "It seems like such a large portion of people on the internet are disabled, it can't possibly be that large of a percentage of the population" and then let my ableism demons tell me it was because they were faking (the same ones that told me I was faking, until I made myself really ill.)

But now that I'm sicker and wiser I realize I was logically just wrong because

The internet is disabled people's lifeline. There are more disabled people on the internet because OF COURSE. People who aren't disabled can be less chronically online because they don't have to be. This is textbook selection bias!

But actually also I was almost right, because there are way more disabled people in society than you would think! They're just systematically hidden and excluded from public spaces for abled peoples' convenience! 🙃

Anyway maybe this will help you understand and/or explain to abled friends and family.

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fuck medical gaslighting all my homies hate medical gaslighting

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disabled people who are lifelong, permanent dependents, i love you. you are my friends and my lovers and my siblings and you are me and i am you and i love you.

i'm really despondent sometimes over the ways society sees us. how conservatives see us as burdens and drains on society, yes, and also how liberals mock our lives, how the idea of being an adult dependent is seen solely as the result of poor life choices, how everyone all across the political spectrum sees things like "getting an allowance from your spouse" and "relying on one person for housing" as cause for mockery, jokes to make, nothing but a conceptual stick with which to beat people into performing well in work and school. still others see us as childish, as pitiable, perhaps not as worthy of mockery but definitely not as worthy of being treated as a social equal, never someone you could invite into your social spheres and make an effort to include--they're just not independent, no offense to them, it just makes them so childish, i can't have an adult friendship with them.

but we persist anyway. we're here. i'm lucky to love the people i'm dependent on, i'm lucky that they respect me as a person and would never leverage their power over me, i'm lucky that they're willing to constantly self-check to make sure they're not accidentally using that power. i hope to g-d you're lucky in the same ways, because i love you. and if you're not, i love you. i'm holding your hand and i'm standing with you and i'm going to try to make a better world for both of us.

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the frustrating thing about discussions of kink for me is that it’s like the gom jabbar test for pulling reactionary sex politics out of people. you’ll see people bringing up (real and worth discussing!) issues of abusive people using the cover of being a dom or liking servant/master dynamics and then they’ll conclude this is why we have to treat kink like nuclear waste, rather than pointing to other issues of consent, power imbalances, lack of communication, respect, or negotiation. (not to mention how the existence of predatory/abusive subs is basically handwaved away because it’s inconvenient to their narrative..) like the problem of shitty guys pushing 50 shades wannabe stuff on their girlfriends lies with their misogyny and lack of respect for their partners wants, not with an idea of them being ontologically evil for enjoying sadism. further stigmatization and demonization just make discussing safe practices and safe communities for informed and healthy kink harder

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Saying that to TOUYA, the kid who got discarded because his quirk wasn't strong enough... The boy that very much died over it...

Yeah, a totally justified reaction:

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“face deformity” ≠ body horror. scars, burns, face differences, etc. are not body horror. sure the face the person in that drawing has might look “scary” to you but you really do have to get over it when it’s a face like the faces some actual people in real life have lmao. ugly laws were only fully repealed in 1974 and also the fact that they existed in the first place should really make you think about this. i thought we were all about weirdos and freaks on this website but people are just so so fucking bad about extending the love to people who look “weird” or “scary”. shut the fuck up and let disabled people exist without a trigger warning

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his horrible behavior towards quirkless izuku makes more sense when you realize that having a powerful quirk is bakugou's entire personality. it's all he's regarded as by adults - a kid with a powerful quirk, a future hero. nobody gives a fuck about how he feels, what he likes, or what his interests are. it doesn't make sense in his mind that Izuku isn't crashed by not having a quirk, that he still wants to be a hero and dares to protect the weak against bakugou himself. when izuku offered him a hand in the lake, bakugou didn't see it as "my friend izuku cares about me and wants to make sure i'm okay" but "this quirkless deku thinks I'm weak and dares to act like I hero". and this is what pisses him off because deep down bakugou thinks that he is worth nothing without a quirk.

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Tomura promising to protect his leagues ideals, that was all him. Tomura leading the league to rescue Giran, that was all him. Tomura making sure his league was just as valued as him by the Meta liberation army, that was all him. The talks with Spinner about his hobbies and videos games, that was all him. Tomura forming a league that eventually learned to all care for each other, like a family, that was all him.

There is a heart in there that AFO cannot breach that is all Tomura. Not altered by AFO whatsoever.

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I think that dabi getting car sick is such a funny detail. This man wants to burn society to the ground. He uses flames to fly around and commit crimes and yet he needs his getaway driver to drive smoothly lest it upset his tummy. He presents himself as so scary, but he has to worry about throwing up on the way home from kidnapping someone.

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I love how realistic the league of villains seem from the time we're first introduced to them. They act exactly how teens/young adults do, pathetic broke losers looking for a purpose together. Tomura is kind of a shut in gamer while Toga is a cheery highschool girl. Dabi is a runaway. These losers no one cares about believe they can take down society. Just a group full of no bodies with so much pain in their hearts it's almost unbearable. Without talking about it they know how hurt eachother is. Society's most vulnerable if you think about it.

Then they do prove that they can bring down an entire millionaire capitalist organisation and send the entire country into havoc. Here they are causing trouble to the most highly trained pro heroes with perfect track records. If you have conviction you can do anything. and pain is one such conviction. One person can change everything. They bring so much humour and color to the story, the villains are my favourite part of MHA.

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solidarity between people who want to take psychiatric meds to function and those who don’t.

What’s important is that we both have autonomy, informed consent and safe access to treatments we want, and to not be forced, coerced or pressured into those we don’t.

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i was talkin with some europeans about their healthcare and i realized like, even if i had the means to immigrate, i most likely would not be allowed to in most countries as a single person because I am disabled. This is another major aspect of ableism I don't see talked about often, the way immigration systems across the globe are designed to keep disabled people (who would be 'burdens' on the welfare system) out.

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I've seen a lot of theories going around about what Tenko's original quirk was, and I think him having a healing quirk might be my favorite.

Other people have said airwalk, or a float related quirk, or even quirkless (which I'm also a big fan of), but thinking about him being the healer of the League is SO important to me. He's spent his whole life destroying with his hands, imagine his realization when he learns he was meant to heal with them.

Also fuck All For One.

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a bottom-tier autistic experience is being told throughout your entire childhood that you are just an overthinker when it comes to social situations and later finding out that your friends did, in fact, hate being around you and tried to communicate that through weird little hints