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SEX IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT

Okay can we, as fanfic-writers, just STOP normalizing pain during sexual intercourse? I’ve seen so many smut fics over the past few days where the reader is described to be in a lot of pain and sometimes even BLEEDING because it’s her first time, or just generally. 

Us uterine carriers literally have the ability to push a fullgrown fucking baby out of our vaginas. It can stretch immensively and it’ll still go back to it previous state eventually no matter the size of the penetrative object. 

Even if it’s your first time, sexual intercourse is not supposed to hurt and definitely not supposed to bleed. If it does, then you’re doing something wrong. 

Maybe you need more foreplay to ease up the muscles, maybe some lube if you’re not able to produce enough lubricant on your own, or maybe you’ve got some medical condition that will cause you pain. It can, for example, be a yeast infection, vulvodynia or vaginismus, among other things. 

Vulvodynia is a condition where your vaginal mucous membranes have become fragile and sensitive at the entrance of your vagina which can lead to less natural lubricants and, in turn, pain and sometimes bleeding. 

Vaginismus is the body’s automatic reaction to the fear of some or all types of vaginal penetration. In some cases there can be an explanation for it, for example some kind of trauma, but in most, there is no apparent reason. You can be completely ready for sex mentally, but your body might close off like this despite your readiness, in which case your vaginal muscles will respond to any attempt of penetration by tightening up and making it impossible. This can happen even if you’ve previously enjoyed painless, penetrative sex.

I think most people know what a yeast infection is but for those who don’t, it is a fungal infection that causes irritation, discharge and itchiness. Everyone don’t get all of the symptoms but because it in many cases causes irritation, it can also make penetration painful.

All these conditions can make it hard for people with vaginas to have penetrative intercourse, but there is help to get for all of them, whether it be medication, ointments or therapeutic exercises. 

This post got really out of hand but the point I’m trying to make is that if everything is working as it should in your body, penetrative sex is not supposed to hurt. 

Pain mixed with pleasure is a fetish a lot of people share, but that is a whole other thing. If the pain/pleasure-mix is what you’re trying to accomplish, please try to get that point across in another way. 

For example:

Rough thrusts that causes Person A and Person B’s pelvic bones to clash together in a painful way.

Irritated rashes being left behind from the continuous friction of skin on skin. 

Pulling each other’s hair. 

Grabbing and squeezing the other’s body with a lot of force and strength. 

The bottom scratching the top’s back, leaving scratches. 

Uncomfortable positions that causes muscle aches or cramps. 

Sucking and biting on the other’s skin until it turns raw and sensitive.

Soreness and irritation after a LONG penetrative session. To clarify, NOT in the beginning of the act because then you’re doing it wrong.

If you’re feeling extra kinky and frisky, some masochistic suggestions: 

Spanking

Whipping 

Consensual abuse

Genitorture

Choking

Body clamps

Abrasion

Edgeplay (Ex. fireplay, breathplay, waxplay, gunplay, knifeplay, blood play, electroplay, etc)

Let’s normalize NOT normalizing sex to be painful because like I’ve said several times now, that’s not how it’s supposed to be; sex is never supposed to be painful unless you’re purposely and consensually planning on inflicting pain, so please stop writing it like that because you’re all contributing to spreading false awareness and setting the wrong expectations for inexperienced people with vaginas. 

To my dear virgins or whoever it may concern: foreplay is key. If it hurts, you’re not ready, so don’t settle and suffer through it just because it’s been normalized to do so by fanfiction. That’s not the way it’s supposed to be. 

Thank you for reading my rant, feel free to reblog to spread the word. 

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Time for your inspection

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Knowledge is empowering

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𝓢𝓸𝓭𝓸’𝓼 𝓐𝓬𝓸𝓾𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓬 𝓖𝓾𝓲𝓽𝓪𝓻 𝓢𝓸𝓵𝓸 (𝓟𝓻𝓮𝓺𝓾𝓮𝓵𝓵𝓮 𝓔𝓻𝓪)

It’s so impressive how he is capable of doing things like this. The man has so much potential and talent.

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THERE MUST BE A PARAGRAPH BREAK EVERY TIME A NEW CHARACTER SPEAKS

THIS IS NOT OPTIONAL

NO ONE WANTS TO READ ONE BIG BLOCK OF TEXT JESUS CHRIST

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yeah uh... don't do this :)

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Shout out to all the Black ppl that can no longer participate directly in the fandom they love because of the stresses of racism 👍🏾 you contain multitudes of value and I'm sorry that the color of your skin and the power of your voice makes people not want to acknowledge that.

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Today Aziraphale stole Crowley’s glasses and paraded around the cottage pretending to be his demon. Crowley grumbled and pouted, and certainly didn’t think it was the most ridiculously adorable thing he’d ever seen.

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My dear….I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR YOU. I would gladly become your moot if you’d accept me :>

HOW DOSE ONE ACQUIRE MOOTS?

I need Percy Jackson friends because, y'all, I need to talk about these books with someone who gets it!

I want to do the trend where your friends theorise which cabin you would be in and exchange memes or edits! and I need people to call me out if I am not from the cabin I think I'm from.

I mean even if it isn't in person, like looking through each other's account and guessing. I think it would be so much fun!

I wish I had people to tag in the comments of good posts!

I want to talk to people about my opinion on Apollo and how the flip Incitatus (the horse) managed to slap Piper when his joint don't work like-

you get the picture! if you want to do this stuff leave a comment because I think it would be fun...

Gets 0 is sad*

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Imagine Aziraphale coming home to Snake!Crowley just:

Aziraphale: My dear Crowley….what are you doing??

Crowley: Nom nom nom :)

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i love trans people so much

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Annabeth: Thalia we need to tell you something

Thalia: ok what is it

Percy: we're dating

Thalia: and this is News? I've known for the last 2 years

Annabeth: we got together a week ago?!??

Thalia: than what the fuck were you doing before???

Artemis, in the distance: language Thalia

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it is that time of the year when I explicitly explain why we need to join Artemis and her hunts:

Positive vibes of Girlies and Girlhood

Teaches cool self-defense with daggers and bows and arrows (even for girlies like me with no upper body strength!!)

NO MEN + protection from them

occasional bloodthirst satiated by killing monsters and shit

cottagecore dreams fulfillment: run in the forest wearing a pretty white dress

literally no work: you can read, or dance, or sing (imagine all of you singing Taylor Swift together)

additionally, you get to see Apollo (I imagine he's hot (cuz Artemis is yk twins) so you can see, not touch or get involved, like imagine harry styles!! cuz he also sings...or any other celebrity)

Again NO MEN OR RELATIONSHIP PRESSURE