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Why is pop culture still afraid of letting strong women be loved?

These days, many fans argue that Buffy doesn’t need a partner, that she’s better off alone because she’s strong and independent. And sure, she is. But I don’t agree with the idea that a strong woman shouldn’t have a love interest. It’s starting to feel like a tired cliché in modern pop culture. As if strength only comes through solitude, heartbreak, and loneliness. Why? Who decided that?

Sure, we’ve moved past the “damsel in distress” trope, but why does that mean a woman can’t have emotional support from a loving partner?

To me, Spike passed that test. He stood by Buffy not as someone who saw her as a schoolgirl, but as a warrior. Her strength was never too much for him, unlike her other partners, who couldn’t handle the weight of her power (Riley literally admitted it). Buffy deserves someone loyal beside her, at her best and at her worst… not a moral compass or a parent figure like Angel, just… support.

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Here are a bunch of B. Dylan Hollis's recipes typed up in google docs for those who want to make these recipes.

I've only got a few so far, but I'll continue to type up the ones he likes and add them here. Shoot me an ask if you have any requests for recipes to type up, but please check the original version of the post first. When I add new recipes, I edit the original post and then srb it for others to see.

DISCLAIMER: A lot of his videos he goes pretty fast or does not include exact measurements, so they may not be 100% accurate, but I'm typing them up to the best of my abilities.

Boiled Cookies

Almond Milk

Pinto Bean Cake

Pumpkin Quickies

Ice Cream Bread

Magic Cookie Bars

Velveeta Fudge

Scotcheroos

Chow Mein Cookies

Ice Cream Cone Cupcakes

Deep Fried Oreos

Corn Starch Cookies

Copycat Almond Joys

Magic Peanut Butter Cookies

Cowboy Cookies

Leftover Bread Pancakes

Avocado Ice Cream

Avocado Bread

Magic Cinnamon Sticks

Peanut Butter Bread

Peppermint Patties

Christmas Crack

Eggnog

Apple Cider Cookies

Baked Apples

Deep Fried Cookie Dough

Potato Chip Cookies

Chocolate Zucchini Bread

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By LabradoriteKing on Pinterest

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Je soutiens l'Ukraine 🇺🇦

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I stand with Ukraine and condemn the Russian invasion. Putin lapdogs have forever disgraced themselves.

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That!!

The begining of the 6th season was packed with beautiful moments for them, showing the trust and the ease they have with eachother!

Buffy wanting some time alone then telling Spike "That's okay. I can be alone with you here" is one of the most romantic lines ever, but then they followed it up with Spike telling her "Buffy, if you're in … if you're in pain … or if you need anything… or if I can do anything for you.." and they really expected us to think they were bad together and shouldn't be a couple

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Please return us to a world where Notp and squick are used for a ship you don’t like instead of just making up a load of bullshit about how immoral it is or w/e lol 

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This!!

The flip side of this post about the movies contributing to the perception of Katniss being this super stoic emotionless individual is that they also caused the perception of Peeta being this super soft puppy dog with an open heart. Yes, Peeta really loves Katniss and is unconditionally devout to her while being affectionate and respectful, but he’s not really as straightforward and open about emotions as the movies try to make him seem. To the point where neither Katniss or Peeta ever directly say the words “I love you”to each other during the books. And taking away those rougher details about him in the movies are what caused this image of Peeta.

Peeta’s main reason for revealing the feelings he kept to himself for 11 years has nothing to do with wanting a relationship with Katniss. It’s a manipulative tool to help her survive and seem more attractive to sponsors. Peeta even plays it off as a bluff right after Katniss pushes him into the urn.

Peeta has some self-worth issues that cause him to get defensive when he’s talked about. He gets irritated when Katniss suggests he won’t understand certain things but he also gets irritated in cases where she suggests that he has a genuine chance in the games (how snippy he gets when she tells Haymitch about the wrestling, and him mockingly calling her sweetheart when she says giving up isn’t a way to think and to focus on staying alive).

In the books Peeta is also responsible for the distance between him and Katniss after the games. He’s the one who acts icy and tells Katniss to let him know when she figures everything out. The movies have him saying he’ll act less wounded if she stops treating him like he’s wounded, but the books have him apologizing for acting wounded and wanting to stop so they can be friends.

Peeta is great at talking but not great at communicating. When Katniss tells him to wake her up when he has nightmares he says they’re mainly about losing her and seeing her alive helps. Now I don’t think Peeta is lying and Katniss definitely does help him and she is in all his nightmares. But based on the paintings he shows Katniss, there are other scary things in his nightmares that he’s sidestepping discussing.

Peeta really doesn’t ask anyone and just makes his own plan for Haymitch, Katniss, and him training like Careers. All while having the warmer side of his personality take a backseat in favor of a perfectionist coach.

And just like with Katniss, taking away these small details from Peeta erases all the nuance of his character. Being kind and super loving is always valuable, but to be kind when you’re great at lying and manipulating? When you’re from a very angry household and are shown to bottle up emotions? It shows the effort Peeta puts in to choosing to be a good person and partner. It’s also why Katniss and Peeta’s relationship seems so equal in the books, they’re both so good at taking care of each other but so bad at talking about the more wounded parts of themselves that were there before the games even started. Unlike the movies which makes them seem like an emotionless girl and a puppy dog boy waiting in the wings happily because he doesn’t have anything else to him.

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As Kinktober begins, your friendly older tumblr aunt is here to remind you that not all sex you read about online is accurate or even possible! :)

Here are some fun reminders!

Always, always, check for consent before you begin anything with someone else! Check ins during are also good and hot!!!

Use lube - not just spit. Lube is designed to last on your body while spit is soaked into your skin and therefore, not useful. (By all means, if you wanna spit after you’ve applied lube and your partner is into it? Go for it. But lube up first!)

Most people with female anatomy cannot squirt and before you say “it’s in porn!!” Please know that it’s an actual skill that you have to train your body to do. Some people can naturally relax the right muscles - most can’t.

For most people, a 10+ inch dick is ridiculously large and would hurt. Size doesn’t matter half as much as fics make it out to matter -there are so many other factors that matter significantly more. (Angle!! Friction, LUBE, speed, position, etc.)

It’s totally fine (and normal!) to not have an orgasm during sex. Especially if it’s your first time. Yes, even those with male anatomy. Sometimes, sex is about the closeness and the experience, not the orgasm.

USE PROTECTION! Never ever assume your partner is using some form of protection. YOU MUST DISCUSS THIS WITH YOUR PARTNER. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.

Also, condoms are supposed to be tight on a penis. You can wear the wrong size and it will not work the right way. They can fall off if they’re too big or break from being too tight. However, unless someone has a literal allergy, it being “uncomfortable” is not a valid excuse to not wear a condom. And hey! You/they DO have an allergy?? Guess what - they probably make a condom that you’re not allergic to!! Isn’t science neat? :)

When you put on a condom you need to leave room at the tip. You need to pinch that left over space and verify there are no air bubbles. If there are air bubbles - it’s going to break. If you don’t leave that extra space? It’s going to break. Quite a few condom brands have a built in “ reservoir tip”. If the brand you prefer doesn’t, make sure to physically check that there is room.

NEVER HAVE ANAL SEX WITHOUT LUBE. Yep, back to lube! Guess what happens when you don’t use it? PAIN. The anus does NOT stretch naturally. You have to work it open - PREP WORK. It will tear, it will hurt, and your fun time will be over before it ever began.

Choking someone can be incredibly dangerous if not done properly. Do your research. Your goal isn’t to crush someone’s trachea - that can cause actual permanent damage.

CONSENT! IS! HOT!

Most sex isn’t a BDSM situation. Most people will never enter that type of partnership. BDSM is much, much more than “dominant/submissive”.

On that note, being submissive does not mean always whining, whimpering, or crying. It can mean this - but being submissive is about giving up control and trusting someone else to give you what you need. Submissive does not equal infantilization.

Other hand! Being a dominant does not mean being hard, rough, and emotionally closed off. A dominant understands they are being handed trust from someone and they take that role very, very seriously. Being dominant does not equal being a dick.

“Vanilla” sex is not boring. The term actually was created in the ‘70s but the definition varies depending on the subset of people talking. (Monogamous vs. polyamorous, sexual preference, etc.)

Finally!!

It is completely and totally okay and normal to read about something and like it but not ever want to do it in real life. It’s okay to not like reading about something but enjoy it in real life. It’s okay to try something and never want to do it again or stop halfway through.

It is not okay to shame anyone else for their preferences, even if they differ from your own. :)

Please remember as you’re reading through all the fun fics that they are just that - fiction. Real life is never quite like it’s written and that’s okay! Be safe, do research from real experts, and remember to be nice to your authors!

Enjoy Kinktober!

Signed,

A concerned older tumblr aunt

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Haters: If you support GO, you’re supporting Gaiman.

Me: Hush, this ain’t about him. It’s about them.

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Buffy & Spike Looking After Dawn — Season 6, Episode 10: 'Wrecked'

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I'm curious. Reblog this if you know how to cook

I don’t even care if it’s macaroni, ramen or those little bowls you stick in the microwave. Please, I need reassurance that most of the population on tumblr WOULDN’T STARVE TO DEATH if their parents couldn’t fix them food or they couldn’t go out to eat.