maybe its just the Service Top in me but i really adore the little ways you can be affectionate with your Bottom like. hear me out.
- nuzzling and kissing against their throat as you’re buried deep inside
- carefully holding their head/neck up for them when it dips off the bed
- cooing little praises into their ear when you start going harder with them
- just in general rewarding them for being so good and sweet for you
- pulling them into a shower afterwards and washing them yourself
- kissing their arms and tummy and thighs as you dress them up
- tucking them close and running your hand over the parts you were rough with
- making them breakfast the next morning because they’re too sleepy
- checking in with them often, “is this okay, angel?” and “does it feel good?”
- making them feel GOOD about themselves, reminding them how cute they are all dressed up or down beneath you, telling them how pretty their sounds are
Aw, aren't you just such a sweet toy? You look adorable when you're all whiney like this. Do you think you could still form a coherent sentence? No? Well, we better make you cum again just to be sure! You did ask for your brain to be turned off and I'd hate to disappoint, darling
Self-degradation kink: you Tell me what a pathetic little slut you are. Tell me how you much you love showing off. Tell me how you love being used like the fucktoy you are and desperately need cum dripping from all your holes. No matter where you are, you've always got cock on your dumb little mind. Gosh, you are a useful whore aren't you?
I know, sweetheart. Your head is so full, and you need a break.
Deep breath for me. I’m gonna buckle your collar on. There, does that feel better?
Not enough, huh?
Let’s wrap you up in your favorite soft harness. Doesn’t that pressure feel nice around your ribs?
Oh, your head is empty but so is…ah. I can fix that.
Just tell me where. You don’t even have to use your words. Just whine when I touch. There? Okay. That’s one of your favorites. You just keep that nice and warm while I tie it in place.
Does that help? Nice and full. I bet that’s better.
Let’s watch a movie. Lean back against me and I’ll run my fingers through your hair. You don’t have to think. You just have to feel. You’re so good at that, aren’t you?
it’s okay to have clumsy and awkward sex and it’s actually really common
the ability to laugh while you’re lying tangled and naked together bc you realize just how silly something is is really really intimate and trusting, and it’s the best feeling to be like that with someone and to be relaxed
it happens with long-term partners, it happens on hookups, and it’s rarely as bad as it’s always made out to be, except we usually think it’s bad we're told that’s not how sex is supposed to go. but that’s not true.
it can still be passionate and intimate while being messy and clumsy, absolutely. you don’t need to “perform well.” sex isn’t a show: it’s about feeling good. sometimes it takes experimenting to figure out what feels good, and fumbles and awkward moments and laughter is all just part of it. sometimes that’s a huge part of the fun.
Today I realized one of my favorite things to find in a sub is this very specific delight you can see them deriving from pain, usually, or sometimes just simple power play. Like when you tug his leash harder than usual, and instead of looking nervous or disoriented, he just smiles and purrs. Or when you’re spanking him and you tell him he looks so pretty with finger line bruises, so he turns around excited and asks to see because he’s so proud and content with what you’ve done to him. It’s tightening your grip around his throat and hearing him moan “fuck” while he starts rutting even harder against your cock, desperate for more more more.
Really want to trick a cutie into thinking that I just want to cuddle and watch a movie but really halfway through, I’ll have two fingers pressed into your pussy and one hand covering your mouth. Shhh I wanna know what happens next baby, you’re being too fucking loud